I am also not a mom but my niece does have CF and my sister was goping through the same thing. One of my friends moms has a in home daycare with about 4 kids which is great not around to many kids and a very close driving distance. She also recieves help through the state for paying for it....I think she has to pay like $14 a week which is a really big help because what is the point of working if you have tyo give it all up at the end of the week. I live in RI I am not sure what the program is called but I could find out for you if someone else on here doesn't know. Hope this helps!
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Daycare for my child as a mother with CF
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wanderlost
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My son went to daycare from 10 months on as I was a single mom and had to work. This baby will probably have to go to daycare as well, but not for at least a year. I didn't have any problems with that aside from the heartache of not being able to be home with my baby.
I am a teacher, so i am surrounded by germs all the time - and I don't worry about it too much. So healthwise, I can say from personal experience that I got no sicker than I'd been before having a child in daycare.
Emotionally of course it is a very hard decision, and its good you have time to think about it now, though I find the best laid plans go awry with the introducation of a baby to your life.
Financially, daycare is expensive, nannies probably even more so. My son first went to a home daycare. I thought that would be a better atmosphere for him, I later changed him to a daycare center. I found the center to be better. Both were licensed, but it seems the center was better managed as far as routine, santiation, accountability, etc. I also paid for that. I think that the home day care cost me 80.00 a week. When we switched to the center it was 130.00 - big difference. And that was 7 years ago - I know costs have only increased! Still, I doubt you can get a nanny for that much - but maybe. I always wished I had family that could have watched the baby - but no such luck for me.
Good luck!
I am a teacher, so i am surrounded by germs all the time - and I don't worry about it too much. So healthwise, I can say from personal experience that I got no sicker than I'd been before having a child in daycare.
Emotionally of course it is a very hard decision, and its good you have time to think about it now, though I find the best laid plans go awry with the introducation of a baby to your life.
Financially, daycare is expensive, nannies probably even more so. My son first went to a home daycare. I thought that would be a better atmosphere for him, I later changed him to a daycare center. I found the center to be better. Both were licensed, but it seems the center was better managed as far as routine, santiation, accountability, etc. I also paid for that. I think that the home day care cost me 80.00 a week. When we switched to the center it was 130.00 - big difference. And that was 7 years ago - I know costs have only increased! Still, I doubt you can get a nanny for that much - but maybe. I always wished I had family that could have watched the baby - but no such luck for me.
Good luck!
wanderlost
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My son went to daycare from 10 months on as I was a single mom and had to work. This baby will probably have to go to daycare as well, but not for at least a year. I didn't have any problems with that aside from the heartache of not being able to be home with my baby.
I am a teacher, so i am surrounded by germs all the time - and I don't worry about it too much. So healthwise, I can say from personal experience that I got no sicker than I'd been before having a child in daycare.
Emotionally of course it is a very hard decision, and its good you have time to think about it now, though I find the best laid plans go awry with the introducation of a baby to your life.
Financially, daycare is expensive, nannies probably even more so. My son first went to a home daycare. I thought that would be a better atmosphere for him, I later changed him to a daycare center. I found the center to be better. Both were licensed, but it seems the center was better managed as far as routine, santiation, accountability, etc. I also paid for that. I think that the home day care cost me 80.00 a week. When we switched to the center it was 130.00 - big difference. And that was 7 years ago - I know costs have only increased! Still, I doubt you can get a nanny for that much - but maybe. I always wished I had family that could have watched the baby - but no such luck for me.
Good luck!
I am a teacher, so i am surrounded by germs all the time - and I don't worry about it too much. So healthwise, I can say from personal experience that I got no sicker than I'd been before having a child in daycare.
Emotionally of course it is a very hard decision, and its good you have time to think about it now, though I find the best laid plans go awry with the introducation of a baby to your life.
Financially, daycare is expensive, nannies probably even more so. My son first went to a home daycare. I thought that would be a better atmosphere for him, I later changed him to a daycare center. I found the center to be better. Both were licensed, but it seems the center was better managed as far as routine, santiation, accountability, etc. I also paid for that. I think that the home day care cost me 80.00 a week. When we switched to the center it was 130.00 - big difference. And that was 7 years ago - I know costs have only increased! Still, I doubt you can get a nanny for that much - but maybe. I always wished I had family that could have watched the baby - but no such luck for me.
Good luck!
wanderlost
New member
My son went to daycare from 10 months on as I was a single mom and had to work. This baby will probably have to go to daycare as well, but not for at least a year. I didn't have any problems with that aside from the heartache of not being able to be home with my baby.
I am a teacher, so i am surrounded by germs all the time - and I don't worry about it too much. So healthwise, I can say from personal experience that I got no sicker than I'd been before having a child in daycare.
Emotionally of course it is a very hard decision, and its good you have time to think about it now, though I find the best laid plans go awry with the introducation of a baby to your life.
Financially, daycare is expensive, nannies probably even more so. My son first went to a home daycare. I thought that would be a better atmosphere for him, I later changed him to a daycare center. I found the center to be better. Both were licensed, but it seems the center was better managed as far as routine, santiation, accountability, etc. I also paid for that. I think that the home day care cost me 80.00 a week. When we switched to the center it was 130.00 - big difference. And that was 7 years ago - I know costs have only increased! Still, I doubt you can get a nanny for that much - but maybe. I always wished I had family that could have watched the baby - but no such luck for me.
Good luck!
I am a teacher, so i am surrounded by germs all the time - and I don't worry about it too much. So healthwise, I can say from personal experience that I got no sicker than I'd been before having a child in daycare.
Emotionally of course it is a very hard decision, and its good you have time to think about it now, though I find the best laid plans go awry with the introducation of a baby to your life.
Financially, daycare is expensive, nannies probably even more so. My son first went to a home daycare. I thought that would be a better atmosphere for him, I later changed him to a daycare center. I found the center to be better. Both were licensed, but it seems the center was better managed as far as routine, santiation, accountability, etc. I also paid for that. I think that the home day care cost me 80.00 a week. When we switched to the center it was 130.00 - big difference. And that was 7 years ago - I know costs have only increased! Still, I doubt you can get a nanny for that much - but maybe. I always wished I had family that could have watched the baby - but no such luck for me.
Good luck!
Hi Lauren,
I'm a virgo too and get the whole planning way in advance thing! I'm the same way.
Anyway, I have 2 small children (2 1/2 yrs old and 4 mos old). I was working full time before our first child came to us (through adoption as a newborn). When our son arrived, I quit work completely for a while. Most of his first year, I was at home full time. But I missed work A LOT! I was able to go back to work very part-time just 1 day per week. I did not want the baby in daycare the day I worked for a number of reasons but my getting sick as a result was a big concern.
We hired a babysitter/nanny who watched him at our house and that worked out very well overall. We did start to have some problems when she'd come watch him while she was sick (with a cold or stomach virus). I tried to explain CF to her but it was useless. We just had to say if you are at all sick, DON'T COME! I'd rather miss work cause she was sick than cause I was.
Now, with our 2nd child here, we have a babysitter 3 days per week. I added a day to my work schedule so I work 2 days/week and the 3rd day I ask her to come so I can get stuff done (errands, doc appnt's, etc.). We've recently moved so it is a different babysitter but she did come to work sick last week so will have to have the conversation with her now. She does generally seem to have a better understanding of CF though (from our explanation of it to her) and that helps me out a lot!
Good luck with your decision (and with becoming a mom in general). Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to help if I can. -Ellie
I'm a virgo too and get the whole planning way in advance thing! I'm the same way.
Anyway, I have 2 small children (2 1/2 yrs old and 4 mos old). I was working full time before our first child came to us (through adoption as a newborn). When our son arrived, I quit work completely for a while. Most of his first year, I was at home full time. But I missed work A LOT! I was able to go back to work very part-time just 1 day per week. I did not want the baby in daycare the day I worked for a number of reasons but my getting sick as a result was a big concern.
We hired a babysitter/nanny who watched him at our house and that worked out very well overall. We did start to have some problems when she'd come watch him while she was sick (with a cold or stomach virus). I tried to explain CF to her but it was useless. We just had to say if you are at all sick, DON'T COME! I'd rather miss work cause she was sick than cause I was.
Now, with our 2nd child here, we have a babysitter 3 days per week. I added a day to my work schedule so I work 2 days/week and the 3rd day I ask her to come so I can get stuff done (errands, doc appnt's, etc.). We've recently moved so it is a different babysitter but she did come to work sick last week so will have to have the conversation with her now. She does generally seem to have a better understanding of CF though (from our explanation of it to her) and that helps me out a lot!
Good luck with your decision (and with becoming a mom in general). Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to help if I can. -Ellie
Hi Lauren,
I'm a virgo too and get the whole planning way in advance thing! I'm the same way.
Anyway, I have 2 small children (2 1/2 yrs old and 4 mos old). I was working full time before our first child came to us (through adoption as a newborn). When our son arrived, I quit work completely for a while. Most of his first year, I was at home full time. But I missed work A LOT! I was able to go back to work very part-time just 1 day per week. I did not want the baby in daycare the day I worked for a number of reasons but my getting sick as a result was a big concern.
We hired a babysitter/nanny who watched him at our house and that worked out very well overall. We did start to have some problems when she'd come watch him while she was sick (with a cold or stomach virus). I tried to explain CF to her but it was useless. We just had to say if you are at all sick, DON'T COME! I'd rather miss work cause she was sick than cause I was.
Now, with our 2nd child here, we have a babysitter 3 days per week. I added a day to my work schedule so I work 2 days/week and the 3rd day I ask her to come so I can get stuff done (errands, doc appnt's, etc.). We've recently moved so it is a different babysitter but she did come to work sick last week so will have to have the conversation with her now. She does generally seem to have a better understanding of CF though (from our explanation of it to her) and that helps me out a lot!
Good luck with your decision (and with becoming a mom in general). Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to help if I can. -Ellie
I'm a virgo too and get the whole planning way in advance thing! I'm the same way.
Anyway, I have 2 small children (2 1/2 yrs old and 4 mos old). I was working full time before our first child came to us (through adoption as a newborn). When our son arrived, I quit work completely for a while. Most of his first year, I was at home full time. But I missed work A LOT! I was able to go back to work very part-time just 1 day per week. I did not want the baby in daycare the day I worked for a number of reasons but my getting sick as a result was a big concern.
We hired a babysitter/nanny who watched him at our house and that worked out very well overall. We did start to have some problems when she'd come watch him while she was sick (with a cold or stomach virus). I tried to explain CF to her but it was useless. We just had to say if you are at all sick, DON'T COME! I'd rather miss work cause she was sick than cause I was.
Now, with our 2nd child here, we have a babysitter 3 days per week. I added a day to my work schedule so I work 2 days/week and the 3rd day I ask her to come so I can get stuff done (errands, doc appnt's, etc.). We've recently moved so it is a different babysitter but she did come to work sick last week so will have to have the conversation with her now. She does generally seem to have a better understanding of CF though (from our explanation of it to her) and that helps me out a lot!
Good luck with your decision (and with becoming a mom in general). Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to help if I can. -Ellie
Hi Lauren,
I'm a virgo too and get the whole planning way in advance thing! I'm the same way.
Anyway, I have 2 small children (2 1/2 yrs old and 4 mos old). I was working full time before our first child came to us (through adoption as a newborn). When our son arrived, I quit work completely for a while. Most of his first year, I was at home full time. But I missed work A LOT! I was able to go back to work very part-time just 1 day per week. I did not want the baby in daycare the day I worked for a number of reasons but my getting sick as a result was a big concern.
We hired a babysitter/nanny who watched him at our house and that worked out very well overall. We did start to have some problems when she'd come watch him while she was sick (with a cold or stomach virus). I tried to explain CF to her but it was useless. We just had to say if you are at all sick, DON'T COME! I'd rather miss work cause she was sick than cause I was.
Now, with our 2nd child here, we have a babysitter 3 days per week. I added a day to my work schedule so I work 2 days/week and the 3rd day I ask her to come so I can get stuff done (errands, doc appnt's, etc.). We've recently moved so it is a different babysitter but she did come to work sick last week so will have to have the conversation with her now. She does generally seem to have a better understanding of CF though (from our explanation of it to her) and that helps me out a lot!
Good luck with your decision (and with becoming a mom in general). Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to help if I can. -Ellie
I'm a virgo too and get the whole planning way in advance thing! I'm the same way.
Anyway, I have 2 small children (2 1/2 yrs old and 4 mos old). I was working full time before our first child came to us (through adoption as a newborn). When our son arrived, I quit work completely for a while. Most of his first year, I was at home full time. But I missed work A LOT! I was able to go back to work very part-time just 1 day per week. I did not want the baby in daycare the day I worked for a number of reasons but my getting sick as a result was a big concern.
We hired a babysitter/nanny who watched him at our house and that worked out very well overall. We did start to have some problems when she'd come watch him while she was sick (with a cold or stomach virus). I tried to explain CF to her but it was useless. We just had to say if you are at all sick, DON'T COME! I'd rather miss work cause she was sick than cause I was.
Now, with our 2nd child here, we have a babysitter 3 days per week. I added a day to my work schedule so I work 2 days/week and the 3rd day I ask her to come so I can get stuff done (errands, doc appnt's, etc.). We've recently moved so it is a different babysitter but she did come to work sick last week so will have to have the conversation with her now. She does generally seem to have a better understanding of CF though (from our explanation of it to her) and that helps me out a lot!
Good luck with your decision (and with becoming a mom in general). Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to help if I can. -Ellie
Scarlett81
New member
I don't have any advice for you. I'll probably be staying home and I have my MIL next door to help me. Just wanted to give you kudos for planning the details even so far ahead. I to am a planner in everything, -it drives my hubby nuts.
The only thought I had was, and I'm sure you realize this, but I'll post it anyway for anybody who faces the same situation. My doctor really tries to emphasize to me over and over-don't get your heart set on any one aspect of this process. And at first that kinda annoyed me. But its so true. She always says-plan on breastfeeding, but don't set your heart on it b/c if you get sick and need IVs-you have to have them and won't be able to breastfeed. And so many other things-even coming down to when we will conceive, having a "natural" birth vs a more modern approach....goes on.
So all I'd say is plan on going back to work if that's what right for you and your family. But don't set your heart on it-I know us planning/over acheiving types, sometimes we're our worst enemies. If you push that baby out and you need IVs or are told to stay in bed-do it girl!!! Or cepacia or no cepacia I'll come over and make you. Seriously though, be careful. xoxoxo
The only thought I had was, and I'm sure you realize this, but I'll post it anyway for anybody who faces the same situation. My doctor really tries to emphasize to me over and over-don't get your heart set on any one aspect of this process. And at first that kinda annoyed me. But its so true. She always says-plan on breastfeeding, but don't set your heart on it b/c if you get sick and need IVs-you have to have them and won't be able to breastfeed. And so many other things-even coming down to when we will conceive, having a "natural" birth vs a more modern approach....goes on.
So all I'd say is plan on going back to work if that's what right for you and your family. But don't set your heart on it-I know us planning/over acheiving types, sometimes we're our worst enemies. If you push that baby out and you need IVs or are told to stay in bed-do it girl!!! Or cepacia or no cepacia I'll come over and make you. Seriously though, be careful. xoxoxo
Scarlett81
New member
I don't have any advice for you. I'll probably be staying home and I have my MIL next door to help me. Just wanted to give you kudos for planning the details even so far ahead. I to am a planner in everything, -it drives my hubby nuts.
The only thought I had was, and I'm sure you realize this, but I'll post it anyway for anybody who faces the same situation. My doctor really tries to emphasize to me over and over-don't get your heart set on any one aspect of this process. And at first that kinda annoyed me. But its so true. She always says-plan on breastfeeding, but don't set your heart on it b/c if you get sick and need IVs-you have to have them and won't be able to breastfeed. And so many other things-even coming down to when we will conceive, having a "natural" birth vs a more modern approach....goes on.
So all I'd say is plan on going back to work if that's what right for you and your family. But don't set your heart on it-I know us planning/over acheiving types, sometimes we're our worst enemies. If you push that baby out and you need IVs or are told to stay in bed-do it girl!!! Or cepacia or no cepacia I'll come over and make you. Seriously though, be careful. xoxoxo
The only thought I had was, and I'm sure you realize this, but I'll post it anyway for anybody who faces the same situation. My doctor really tries to emphasize to me over and over-don't get your heart set on any one aspect of this process. And at first that kinda annoyed me. But its so true. She always says-plan on breastfeeding, but don't set your heart on it b/c if you get sick and need IVs-you have to have them and won't be able to breastfeed. And so many other things-even coming down to when we will conceive, having a "natural" birth vs a more modern approach....goes on.
So all I'd say is plan on going back to work if that's what right for you and your family. But don't set your heart on it-I know us planning/over acheiving types, sometimes we're our worst enemies. If you push that baby out and you need IVs or are told to stay in bed-do it girl!!! Or cepacia or no cepacia I'll come over and make you. Seriously though, be careful. xoxoxo
Scarlett81
New member
I don't have any advice for you. I'll probably be staying home and I have my MIL next door to help me. Just wanted to give you kudos for planning the details even so far ahead. I to am a planner in everything, -it drives my hubby nuts.
The only thought I had was, and I'm sure you realize this, but I'll post it anyway for anybody who faces the same situation. My doctor really tries to emphasize to me over and over-don't get your heart set on any one aspect of this process. And at first that kinda annoyed me. But its so true. She always says-plan on breastfeeding, but don't set your heart on it b/c if you get sick and need IVs-you have to have them and won't be able to breastfeed. And so many other things-even coming down to when we will conceive, having a "natural" birth vs a more modern approach....goes on.
So all I'd say is plan on going back to work if that's what right for you and your family. But don't set your heart on it-I know us planning/over acheiving types, sometimes we're our worst enemies. If you push that baby out and you need IVs or are told to stay in bed-do it girl!!! Or cepacia or no cepacia I'll come over and make you. Seriously though, be careful. xoxoxo
The only thought I had was, and I'm sure you realize this, but I'll post it anyway for anybody who faces the same situation. My doctor really tries to emphasize to me over and over-don't get your heart set on any one aspect of this process. And at first that kinda annoyed me. But its so true. She always says-plan on breastfeeding, but don't set your heart on it b/c if you get sick and need IVs-you have to have them and won't be able to breastfeed. And so many other things-even coming down to when we will conceive, having a "natural" birth vs a more modern approach....goes on.
So all I'd say is plan on going back to work if that's what right for you and your family. But don't set your heart on it-I know us planning/over acheiving types, sometimes we're our worst enemies. If you push that baby out and you need IVs or are told to stay in bed-do it girl!!! Or cepacia or no cepacia I'll come over and make you. Seriously though, be careful. xoxoxo