My stepson continually brings his 2 yr old to our house with a cold. Then lies to me and tells me she just has allergies. Or last time it was teething. When i can clearly see it is not. She is running a fever has a runny nose and cough. She is a healthy child just catches stuff because she is around school age kids a lot. She went to the doctor last night and was given antibiotics and cough syrup for allergies. That doesn't sound right to me . My daughter is watching her now she said she almost has bronchitis. He has a hard time finding a sitter , so he lies . He has her for 2 weeks at a time. He knows what i went thru the last time i got a cold. I just cant believe that someone could be so cold and manipulating. Just don't know how to handle this anymore.
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dealing with noncaring family members about bringing colds into my house
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My stepson continually brings his 2 yr old to our house with a cold. Then lies to me and tells me she just has allergies. Or last time it was teething. When i can clearly see it is not. She is running a fever has a runny nose and cough. She is a healthy child just catches stuff because she is around school age kids a lot. She went to the doctor last night and was given antibiotics and cough syrup for allergies. That doesn't sound right to me . My daughter is watching her now she said she almost has bronchitis. He has a hard time finding a sitter , so he lies . He has her for 2 weeks at a time. He knows what i went thru the last time i got a cold. I just cant believe that someone could be so cold and manipulating. Just don't know how to handle this anymore.
My stepson continually brings his 2 yr old to our house with a cold. Then lies to me and tells me she just has allergies. Or last time it was teething. When i can clearly see it is not. She is running a fever has a runny nose and cough. She is a healthy child just catches stuff because she is around school age kids a lot. She went to the doctor last night and was given antibiotics and cough syrup for allergies. That doesn't sound right to me . My daughter is watching her now she said she almost has bronchitis. He has a hard time finding a sitter , so he lies . He has her for 2 weeks at a time. He knows what i went thru the last time i got a cold. I just cant believe that someone could be so cold and manipulating. Just don't know how to handle this anymore.
AleksandraKaczynska
New member
I know how you feel. I have the same problem with my brother.
It's a difficult situation and you should consider not inviting him.
I tried explaining - i phoned, talked, made a fuss and so on... and still they would bring their daughter sick over to my moms when we went there. It finally ended up with my daughter catching staphylococcus aureus. It's not dangerous but unfortunately it causes Asia to be more tired and she has a cought all the time - she didn't so far. I'm fighting with this now. And hope that the warm weather will help end this also.
But now, I'm thinking of avoiding them at all costs...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
Hope you find a better solution
It's a difficult situation and you should consider not inviting him.
I tried explaining - i phoned, talked, made a fuss and so on... and still they would bring their daughter sick over to my moms when we went there. It finally ended up with my daughter catching staphylococcus aureus. It's not dangerous but unfortunately it causes Asia to be more tired and she has a cought all the time - she didn't so far. I'm fighting with this now. And hope that the warm weather will help end this also.
But now, I'm thinking of avoiding them at all costs...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
Hope you find a better solution
AleksandraKaczynska
New member
I know how you feel. I have the same problem with my brother.
It's a difficult situation and you should consider not inviting him.
I tried explaining - i phoned, talked, made a fuss and so on... and still they would bring their daughter sick over to my moms when we went there. It finally ended up with my daughter catching staphylococcus aureus. It's not dangerous but unfortunately it causes Asia to be more tired and she has a cought all the time - she didn't so far. I'm fighting with this now. And hope that the warm weather will help end this also.
But now, I'm thinking of avoiding them at all costs...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
Hope you find a better solution
It's a difficult situation and you should consider not inviting him.
I tried explaining - i phoned, talked, made a fuss and so on... and still they would bring their daughter sick over to my moms when we went there. It finally ended up with my daughter catching staphylococcus aureus. It's not dangerous but unfortunately it causes Asia to be more tired and she has a cought all the time - she didn't so far. I'm fighting with this now. And hope that the warm weather will help end this also.
But now, I'm thinking of avoiding them at all costs...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
Hope you find a better solution
AleksandraKaczynska
New member
I know how you feel. I have the same problem with my brother.
<br />It's a difficult situation and you should consider not inviting him.
<br />I tried explaining - i phoned, talked, made a fuss and so on... and still they would bring their daughter sick over to my moms when we went there. It finally ended up with my daughter catching staphylococcus aureus. It's not dangerous but unfortunately it causes Asia to be more tired and she has a cought all the time - she didn't so far. I'm fighting with this now. And hope that the warm weather will help end this also.
<br />But now, I'm thinking of avoiding them at all costs...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
<br />Hope you find a better solution
<br />It's a difficult situation and you should consider not inviting him.
<br />I tried explaining - i phoned, talked, made a fuss and so on... and still they would bring their daughter sick over to my moms when we went there. It finally ended up with my daughter catching staphylococcus aureus. It's not dangerous but unfortunately it causes Asia to be more tired and she has a cought all the time - she didn't so far. I'm fighting with this now. And hope that the warm weather will help end this also.
<br />But now, I'm thinking of avoiding them at all costs...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
<br />Hope you find a better solution
Some people just don't think. My MIL was so worried about what others might think -- that we might opt out of a family gathering, that she'd give us the "it's just a cold" excuse regarding other family members. DH finally had to have a "come to jesus" meeting and tell her that if we arrived at a family event and someone was coughing up a lung due to pneumonia or bronchitis, we would leave and then she'd REALLY be embarrassed.
I realize that DS is now in school and can be exposed to germs on a daily basis; however, when he was a baby and more susceptible having people wanting to hold him, share their food and drinks, be in close quarters... Just wasn't something we wanted to risk.
Could you have your spouse talk to your stepson and explain the situation? How detrimental it can be to your health?
I realize that DS is now in school and can be exposed to germs on a daily basis; however, when he was a baby and more susceptible having people wanting to hold him, share their food and drinks, be in close quarters... Just wasn't something we wanted to risk.
Could you have your spouse talk to your stepson and explain the situation? How detrimental it can be to your health?
Some people just don't think. My MIL was so worried about what others might think -- that we might opt out of a family gathering, that she'd give us the "it's just a cold" excuse regarding other family members. DH finally had to have a "come to jesus" meeting and tell her that if we arrived at a family event and someone was coughing up a lung due to pneumonia or bronchitis, we would leave and then she'd REALLY be embarrassed.
I realize that DS is now in school and can be exposed to germs on a daily basis; however, when he was a baby and more susceptible having people wanting to hold him, share their food and drinks, be in close quarters... Just wasn't something we wanted to risk.
Could you have your spouse talk to your stepson and explain the situation? How detrimental it can be to your health?
I realize that DS is now in school and can be exposed to germs on a daily basis; however, when he was a baby and more susceptible having people wanting to hold him, share their food and drinks, be in close quarters... Just wasn't something we wanted to risk.
Could you have your spouse talk to your stepson and explain the situation? How detrimental it can be to your health?
Some people just don't think. My MIL was so worried about what others might think -- that we might opt out of a family gathering, that she'd give us the "it's just a cold" excuse regarding other family members. DH finally had to have a "come to jesus" meeting and tell her that if we arrived at a family event and someone was coughing up a lung due to pneumonia or bronchitis, we would leave and then she'd REALLY be embarrassed.
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<br />I realize that DS is now in school and can be exposed to germs on a daily basis; however, when he was a baby and more susceptible having people wanting to hold him, share their food and drinks, be in close quarters... Just wasn't something we wanted to risk.
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<br />Could you have your spouse talk to your stepson and explain the situation? How detrimental it can be to your health?
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<br />I realize that DS is now in school and can be exposed to germs on a daily basis; however, when he was a baby and more susceptible having people wanting to hold him, share their food and drinks, be in close quarters... Just wasn't something we wanted to risk.
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<br />Could you have your spouse talk to your stepson and explain the situation? How detrimental it can be to your health?
He knows how bad it is for my health. But his son does no wrong. And he never lies! She is here this morning still has a runny nose and cough. He said she has no fever so she isn't contagious now . I informed him that having the fever isn't what makes it contagious its just the virus itself. My daughter has caught it from her now.
He knows how bad it is for my health. But his son does no wrong. And he never lies! She is here this morning still has a runny nose and cough. He said she has no fever so she isn't contagious now . I informed him that having the fever isn't what makes it contagious its just the virus itself. My daughter has caught it from her now.
He knows how bad it is for my health. But his son does no wrong. And he never lies! She is here this morning still has a runny nose and cough. He said she has no fever so she isn't contagious now . I informed him that having the fever isn't what makes it contagious its just the virus itself. My daughter has caught it from her now.
AleksandraKaczynska
New member
Then make him watch the most shocking lung transplant movie before you take care of his daughter again...
I really don't have any idea.
You can also try talking to the mother of the child...
I really don't have any idea.
You can also try talking to the mother of the child...
AleksandraKaczynska
New member
Then make him watch the most shocking lung transplant movie before you take care of his daughter again...
I really don't have any idea.
You can also try talking to the mother of the child...
I really don't have any idea.
You can also try talking to the mother of the child...
AleksandraKaczynska
New member
Then make him watch the most shocking lung transplant movie before you take care of his daughter again...
<br />I really don't have any idea.
<br />You can also try talking to the mother of the child...
<br />I really don't have any idea.
<br />You can also try talking to the mother of the child...
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Karenmichelle
Guest
Can he come to one of your doctor appt's and let the dr. tell your stepson? (Or ask him if he would want his daughter to sit in a waiting room full of sick people!?!?) Could you wear a mask when she is there and showing symptoms of an illness? This is a hard situation...I am sorry you have to deal with it.
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Karenmichelle
Guest
Can he come to one of your doctor appt's and let the dr. tell your stepson? (Or ask him if he would want his daughter to sit in a waiting room full of sick people!?!?) Could you wear a mask when she is there and showing symptoms of an illness? This is a hard situation...I am sorry you have to deal with it.