Dealing with others concerns

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littlemisskris16

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Thanks everyone, I take comfort in listening to your stories as well. Last night I talked it out with my husband, and I felt better. Now this morning, I feel that feeling again. I am not mad at anyones concerns, I am upset that at our families ignornace, thinking that I will be gone in 2-5 years after having a child.

I should be used it by now, my family is very opinionated and told me I can't go away to college, it will kill me, If I get married, I will leave my husband a widow... the inlaws worried about that too. I just want to yell at them, I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE! geeze a loo.

Kristy
31NY'er with CF/rD
 
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littlemisskris16

New member
Thanks everyone, I take comfort in listening to your stories as well. Last night I talked it out with my husband, and I felt better. Now this morning, I feel that feeling again. I am not mad at anyones concerns, I am upset that at our families ignornace, thinking that I will be gone in 2-5 years after having a child.

I should be used it by now, my family is very opinionated and told me I can't go away to college, it will kill me, If I get married, I will leave my husband a widow... the inlaws worried about that too. I just want to yell at them, I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE! geeze a loo.

Kristy
31NY'er with CF/rD
 
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littlemisskris16

New member
Thanks everyone, I take comfort in listening to your stories as well. Last night I talked it out with my husband, and I felt better. Now this morning, I feel that feeling again. I am not mad at anyones concerns, I am upset that at our families ignornace, thinking that I will be gone in 2-5 years after having a child.

I should be used it by now, my family is very opinionated and told me I can't go away to college, it will kill me, If I get married, I will leave my husband a widow... the inlaws worried about that too. I just want to yell at them, I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE! geeze a loo.

Kristy
31NY'er with CF/rD
 
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littlemisskris16

New member
Thanks everyone, I take comfort in listening to your stories as well. Last night I talked it out with my husband, and I felt better. Now this morning, I feel that feeling again. I am not mad at anyones concerns, I am upset that at our families ignornace, thinking that I will be gone in 2-5 years after having a child.

I should be used it by now, my family is very opinionated and told me I can't go away to college, it will kill me, If I get married, I will leave my husband a widow... the inlaws worried about that too. I just want to yell at them, I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE! geeze a loo.

Kristy
31NY'er with CF/rD
 
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littlemisskris16

New member
Thanks everyone, I take comfort in listening to your stories as well. Last night I talked it out with my husband, and I felt better. Now this morning, I feel that feeling again. I am not mad at anyones concerns, I am upset that at our families ignornace, thinking that I will be gone in 2-5 years after having a child.
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<br />I should be used it by now, my family is very opinionated and told me I can't go away to college, it will kill me, If I get married, I will leave my husband a widow... the inlaws worried about that too. I just want to yell at them, I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE! geeze a loo.
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<br />Kristy
<br />31NY'er with CF/rD
 
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Keepercjr

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Kris

Sorry about all that <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't going to listen to you then you might have to set some boundaries. If they persist in being negative you might have to say "this is what we have chosen to do and my doctor is supportive and if you can't be supportive too then I won't be discussing it with you anymore." We had nothing but support when we decided to have kids so I have no experiences to compare. But I will say that when I initially started planning a home birth I knew I would probably get some resistance from my mom and I was totally prepared to have to tell her the line above. But thankfully she came around pretty quickly. (I know it doesn't really compare but it was the only example I had)

Do you think it would help if you printed off some of the studies showing that pregnancy in a healthy CFer doesn't affect disease progression negatively?
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Kris

Sorry about all that <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't going to listen to you then you might have to set some boundaries. If they persist in being negative you might have to say "this is what we have chosen to do and my doctor is supportive and if you can't be supportive too then I won't be discussing it with you anymore." We had nothing but support when we decided to have kids so I have no experiences to compare. But I will say that when I initially started planning a home birth I knew I would probably get some resistance from my mom and I was totally prepared to have to tell her the line above. But thankfully she came around pretty quickly. (I know it doesn't really compare but it was the only example I had)

Do you think it would help if you printed off some of the studies showing that pregnancy in a healthy CFer doesn't affect disease progression negatively?
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Kris

Sorry about all that <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't going to listen to you then you might have to set some boundaries. If they persist in being negative you might have to say "this is what we have chosen to do and my doctor is supportive and if you can't be supportive too then I won't be discussing it with you anymore." We had nothing but support when we decided to have kids so I have no experiences to compare. But I will say that when I initially started planning a home birth I knew I would probably get some resistance from my mom and I was totally prepared to have to tell her the line above. But thankfully she came around pretty quickly. (I know it doesn't really compare but it was the only example I had)

Do you think it would help if you printed off some of the studies showing that pregnancy in a healthy CFer doesn't affect disease progression negatively?
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Kris

Sorry about all that <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't going to listen to you then you might have to set some boundaries. If they persist in being negative you might have to say "this is what we have chosen to do and my doctor is supportive and if you can't be supportive too then I won't be discussing it with you anymore." We had nothing but support when we decided to have kids so I have no experiences to compare. But I will say that when I initially started planning a home birth I knew I would probably get some resistance from my mom and I was totally prepared to have to tell her the line above. But thankfully she came around pretty quickly. (I know it doesn't really compare but it was the only example I had)

Do you think it would help if you printed off some of the studies showing that pregnancy in a healthy CFer doesn't affect disease progression negatively?
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
Kris
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<br />Sorry about all that <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't going to listen to you then you might have to set some boundaries. If they persist in being negative you might have to say "this is what we have chosen to do and my doctor is supportive and if you can't be supportive too then I won't be discussing it with you anymore." We had nothing but support when we decided to have kids so I have no experiences to compare. But I will say that when I initially started planning a home birth I knew I would probably get some resistance from my mom and I was totally prepared to have to tell her the line above. But thankfully she came around pretty quickly. (I know it doesn't really compare but it was the only example I had)
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<br />Do you think it would help if you printed off some of the studies showing that pregnancy in a healthy CFer doesn't affect disease progression negatively?
 
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tinamarie4685

New member
I absolutely HATE when people's opinions are that we can get sick & die and leave our partner's to raise a child alone. We can ALL die, any minute, any day. We can go out tomorrow to run an errand and be in a fatal car accident. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to ANYONE and I really get angry when people worry that we won't be here because of our CF.

My daughter is almost 3 weeks old - my pregnancy (as some of you know) was VERY difficult - with the CF diabetes, getting sick and being on IV antibiotics 3 times, and just not being able to breathe well. When I got pregnant, my lung function was at 68%. Now, almost 3 weeks after giving birth, my lung function is 89%. I think that is mostly in part because I see my daughter and I know I have to take the best care of myself to be here as LONG as possible. So, I think getting pregnant actually helped me "make my CF better" if you will.

Kris, you and Tommy deserve to have a child of your own if you want. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let other's opinions affect your decision. But no matter what you choose - you will be an amazing mother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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tinamarie4685

New member
I absolutely HATE when people's opinions are that we can get sick & die and leave our partner's to raise a child alone. We can ALL die, any minute, any day. We can go out tomorrow to run an errand and be in a fatal car accident. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to ANYONE and I really get angry when people worry that we won't be here because of our CF.

My daughter is almost 3 weeks old - my pregnancy (as some of you know) was VERY difficult - with the CF diabetes, getting sick and being on IV antibiotics 3 times, and just not being able to breathe well. When I got pregnant, my lung function was at 68%. Now, almost 3 weeks after giving birth, my lung function is 89%. I think that is mostly in part because I see my daughter and I know I have to take the best care of myself to be here as LONG as possible. So, I think getting pregnant actually helped me "make my CF better" if you will.

Kris, you and Tommy deserve to have a child of your own if you want. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let other's opinions affect your decision. But no matter what you choose - you will be an amazing mother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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tinamarie4685

New member
I absolutely HATE when people's opinions are that we can get sick & die and leave our partner's to raise a child alone. We can ALL die, any minute, any day. We can go out tomorrow to run an errand and be in a fatal car accident. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to ANYONE and I really get angry when people worry that we won't be here because of our CF.

My daughter is almost 3 weeks old - my pregnancy (as some of you know) was VERY difficult - with the CF diabetes, getting sick and being on IV antibiotics 3 times, and just not being able to breathe well. When I got pregnant, my lung function was at 68%. Now, almost 3 weeks after giving birth, my lung function is 89%. I think that is mostly in part because I see my daughter and I know I have to take the best care of myself to be here as LONG as possible. So, I think getting pregnant actually helped me "make my CF better" if you will.

Kris, you and Tommy deserve to have a child of your own if you want. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let other's opinions affect your decision. But no matter what you choose - you will be an amazing mother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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tinamarie4685

New member
I absolutely HATE when people's opinions are that we can get sick & die and leave our partner's to raise a child alone. We can ALL die, any minute, any day. We can go out tomorrow to run an errand and be in a fatal car accident. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to ANYONE and I really get angry when people worry that we won't be here because of our CF.

My daughter is almost 3 weeks old - my pregnancy (as some of you know) was VERY difficult - with the CF diabetes, getting sick and being on IV antibiotics 3 times, and just not being able to breathe well. When I got pregnant, my lung function was at 68%. Now, almost 3 weeks after giving birth, my lung function is 89%. I think that is mostly in part because I see my daughter and I know I have to take the best care of myself to be here as LONG as possible. So, I think getting pregnant actually helped me "make my CF better" if you will.

Kris, you and Tommy deserve to have a child of your own if you want. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let other's opinions affect your decision. But no matter what you choose - you will be an amazing mother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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tinamarie4685

New member
I absolutely HATE when people's opinions are that we can get sick & die and leave our partner's to raise a child alone. We can ALL die, any minute, any day. We can go out tomorrow to run an errand and be in a fatal car accident. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to ANYONE and I really get angry when people worry that we won't be here because of our CF.
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<br />My daughter is almost 3 weeks old - my pregnancy (as some of you know) was VERY difficult - with the CF diabetes, getting sick and being on IV antibiotics 3 times, and just not being able to breathe well. When I got pregnant, my lung function was at 68%. Now, almost 3 weeks after giving birth, my lung function is 89%. I think that is mostly in part because I see my daughter and I know I have to take the best care of myself to be here as LONG as possible. So, I think getting pregnant actually helped me "make my CF better" if you will.
<br />
<br />Kris, you and Tommy deserve to have a child of your own if you want. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let other's opinions affect your decision. But no matter what you choose - you will be an amazing mother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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