dealing with the issue of child care

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sweetwhite30

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I get alot of looks when people ask me about if my 4 yr old goes to daycare and i reply no. They look weird and say why ,i kindly tell them that it would make my son more prone to infections.They then try to make me feel bad about my decision.I believe he is safe at home and not everyone makes good choices. People bring their kids sick to daycare and i can not afford my son to be sick due to their lack of good judgement so i keep my son home with me. Why do people not understand my position as a mother of a child with c.f. I want the best and daycare surely is not the best answer. I am able to stay home with my son and thats a blessing.Why should i feel pressured to put my kid into a situation that will lead to him being sick alot???
 
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sweetwhite30

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I get alot of looks when people ask me about if my 4 yr old goes to daycare and i reply no. They look weird and say why ,i kindly tell them that it would make my son more prone to infections.They then try to make me feel bad about my decision.I believe he is safe at home and not everyone makes good choices. People bring their kids sick to daycare and i can not afford my son to be sick due to their lack of good judgement so i keep my son home with me. Why do people not understand my position as a mother of a child with c.f. I want the best and daycare surely is not the best answer. I am able to stay home with my son and thats a blessing.Why should i feel pressured to put my kid into a situation that will lead to him being sick alot???
 
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sweetwhite30

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I get alot of looks when people ask me about if my 4 yr old goes to daycare and i reply no. They look weird and say why ,i kindly tell them that it would make my son more prone to infections.They then try to make me feel bad about my decision.I believe he is safe at home and not everyone makes good choices. People bring their kids sick to daycare and i can not afford my son to be sick due to their lack of good judgement so i keep my son home with me. Why do people not understand my position as a mother of a child with c.f. I want the best and daycare surely is not the best answer. I am able to stay home with my son and thats a blessing.Why should i feel pressured to put my kid into a situation that will lead to him being sick alot???
 
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tammykrumrey

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First, your children are adorable! Second, don't ever let someone pressure you into making decisions for your kids. You know them best. I have two girls with CF, and both did spend some time in daycare, but that was my choice, based on my girls having no lung involvement at that time. And the fact that I work for my parents which is very flexible. Had our CF doc one time said that he thought they should not be in day care, I would had pulled them out. It was only part time. And both my girls were constantly stuck to me like glue, and this truely helped them grow a bit. And trust me, I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I am judged by the fact that I let my girls go to daycare, just like you feel like you are because you don't<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> But my girls were extremely healthy, and sick less often than non-CF kids their age. The doctors, both their pediatrician and CF doctor, were always impressed at how healthy they were. But once again, that is what worked for me, and I don't regret the decision I made. But I think you need to do what you need to do, and know that you are making the right choices for you cute little guy! You are obviously a great mommy!
 
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tammykrumrey

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First, your children are adorable! Second, don't ever let someone pressure you into making decisions for your kids. You know them best. I have two girls with CF, and both did spend some time in daycare, but that was my choice, based on my girls having no lung involvement at that time. And the fact that I work for my parents which is very flexible. Had our CF doc one time said that he thought they should not be in day care, I would had pulled them out. It was only part time. And both my girls were constantly stuck to me like glue, and this truely helped them grow a bit. And trust me, I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I am judged by the fact that I let my girls go to daycare, just like you feel like you are because you don't<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> But my girls were extremely healthy, and sick less often than non-CF kids their age. The doctors, both their pediatrician and CF doctor, were always impressed at how healthy they were. But once again, that is what worked for me, and I don't regret the decision I made. But I think you need to do what you need to do, and know that you are making the right choices for you cute little guy! You are obviously a great mommy!
 
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tammykrumrey

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First, your children are adorable! Second, don't ever let someone pressure you into making decisions for your kids. You know them best. I have two girls with CF, and both did spend some time in daycare, but that was my choice, based on my girls having no lung involvement at that time. And the fact that I work for my parents which is very flexible. Had our CF doc one time said that he thought they should not be in day care, I would had pulled them out. It was only part time. And both my girls were constantly stuck to me like glue, and this truely helped them grow a bit. And trust me, I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I am judged by the fact that I let my girls go to daycare, just like you feel like you are because you don't<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> But my girls were extremely healthy, and sick less often than non-CF kids their age. The doctors, both their pediatrician and CF doctor, were always impressed at how healthy they were. But once again, that is what worked for me, and I don't regret the decision I made. But I think you need to do what you need to do, and know that you are making the right choices for you cute little guy! You are obviously a great mommy!
 
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NoExcuses

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Sweetwhite30, your son is lucky to have you.

Mothers make excuses left and right for needing to work instead of doing what's best for your kid.

You should hold your head high and be proud that you have the courage to look beyong yourself and your needs and instead look to your kids needs.

I admire you!
 
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NoExcuses

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Sweetwhite30, your son is lucky to have you.

Mothers make excuses left and right for needing to work instead of doing what's best for your kid.

You should hold your head high and be proud that you have the courage to look beyong yourself and your needs and instead look to your kids needs.

I admire you!
 
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NoExcuses

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Sweetwhite30, your son is lucky to have you.

Mothers make excuses left and right for needing to work instead of doing what's best for your kid.

You should hold your head high and be proud that you have the courage to look beyong yourself and your needs and instead look to your kids needs.

I admire you!
 
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charl72

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetwhite30</b></i>

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I get alot of looks when people ask me about if my 4 yr old goes to daycare and i reply no. They look weird and say why ,i kindly tell them that it would make my son more prone to infections.They then try to make me feel bad about my decision.I believe he is safe at home and not everyone makes good choices. People bring their kids sick to daycare and i can not afford my son to be sick due to their lack of good judgement so i keep my son home with me. Why do people not understand my position as a mother of a child with c.f. I want the best and daycare surely is not the best answer. I am able to stay home with my son and thats a blessing.Why should i feel pressured to put my kid into a situation that will lead to him being sick alot???</end quote></div>

Your boys are beautiful.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> I agree, it is your choice in what you do for your kids and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. My youngest daughter is almost 3 and she started Playgroup this September. Touch wood, things seem to be working out ok. There's not 1 day goes by when I do not worry about my daughter's health, but she is really enjoying mixing with the other kids. I worried myself sick before she started about her picking up colds and other nasty kinda stuff, but my eldest daughter goes to full time school and is bringing loadsa stuff home anyway.

You do what you believe is right for your children.

Take care.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetwhite30</b></i>

</b>:sun



I get alot of looks when people ask me about if my 4 yr old goes to daycare and i reply no. They look weird and say why ,i kindly tell them that it would make my son more prone to infections.They then try to make me feel bad about my decision.I believe he is safe at home and not everyone makes good choices. People bring their kids sick to daycare and i can not afford my son to be sick due to their lack of good judgement so i keep my son home with me. Why do people not understand my position as a mother of a child with c.f. I want the best and daycare surely is not the best answer. I am able to stay home with my son and thats a blessing.Why should i feel pressured to put my kid into a situation that will lead to him being sick alot???</end quote></div>

Your boys are beautiful.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> I agree, it is your choice in what you do for your kids and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. My youngest daughter is almost 3 and she started Playgroup this September. Touch wood, things seem to be working out ok. There's not 1 day goes by when I do not worry about my daughter's health, but she is really enjoying mixing with the other kids. I worried myself sick before she started about her picking up colds and other nasty kinda stuff, but my eldest daughter goes to full time school and is bringing loadsa stuff home anyway.

You do what you believe is right for your children.

Take care.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetwhite30</b></i>

</b>:sun



I get alot of looks when people ask me about if my 4 yr old goes to daycare and i reply no. They look weird and say why ,i kindly tell them that it would make my son more prone to infections.They then try to make me feel bad about my decision.I believe he is safe at home and not everyone makes good choices. People bring their kids sick to daycare and i can not afford my son to be sick due to their lack of good judgement so i keep my son home with me. Why do people not understand my position as a mother of a child with c.f. I want the best and daycare surely is not the best answer. I am able to stay home with my son and thats a blessing.Why should i feel pressured to put my kid into a situation that will lead to him being sick alot???</end quote></div>

Your boys are beautiful.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> I agree, it is your choice in what you do for your kids and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. My youngest daughter is almost 3 and she started Playgroup this September. Touch wood, things seem to be working out ok. There's not 1 day goes by when I do not worry about my daughter's health, but she is really enjoying mixing with the other kids. I worried myself sick before she started about her picking up colds and other nasty kinda stuff, but my eldest daughter goes to full time school and is bringing loadsa stuff home anyway.

You do what you believe is right for your children.

Take care.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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angelsmom

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My 2.5 year old wcf goes to an in-home daycare where there are only 5 other kids. She has been going there since she was a baby and before we knew she had cf. She has not been as sick as one would think. She has had as many colds as a non-cf kid. I have a friend who is a stay at home mom with a daughter the same age as mine and her daughter has been sick much more than mine. So, daycare is not always the germ-fest many people believe it to be. It certainly depends on the daycare, whether it is a large center or a small in-home daycare and definitely depends on the provider. My provider happens to be very aware of the need to disinfect everything on a daily basis and her home is the most spotless I have ever stepped into.

As for the choice to put your kid in daycare, it is truly a personal one for which NONE of us should be judged. It is not that I put MY needs ahead of my daughter's. The fact is, for our family, it is very hard to get by on one income so my husband and I both work. If a time comes where our daughter's situation changes and one of us needs to be home with her, we would certainly make whatever sacrifices we had to. We are not bad parents because our child wcf is in daycare. I don't care if anyone here admires me or not.

Sweetwhite, will your child go to school or will you homeschool? I'm just wondering how that is any different since if he were to go to school, he will be around even more potentially sick kids. I'm hoping that having my daughter in daycare may actually be a good thing in terms of her immunity as she gets older and starts going to school. Her CF doc has not discouraged us from having her in daycare either nor have any other medical professionals we have encountered. In fact, one of my first questions at our first visit to the CF doc was whether we should pull her out of daycare . . . so it's not something we've never considered.

Sandra
mom to Sara, 2.5 wcf
 
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angelsmom

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My 2.5 year old wcf goes to an in-home daycare where there are only 5 other kids. She has been going there since she was a baby and before we knew she had cf. She has not been as sick as one would think. She has had as many colds as a non-cf kid. I have a friend who is a stay at home mom with a daughter the same age as mine and her daughter has been sick much more than mine. So, daycare is not always the germ-fest many people believe it to be. It certainly depends on the daycare, whether it is a large center or a small in-home daycare and definitely depends on the provider. My provider happens to be very aware of the need to disinfect everything on a daily basis and her home is the most spotless I have ever stepped into.

As for the choice to put your kid in daycare, it is truly a personal one for which NONE of us should be judged. It is not that I put MY needs ahead of my daughter's. The fact is, for our family, it is very hard to get by on one income so my husband and I both work. If a time comes where our daughter's situation changes and one of us needs to be home with her, we would certainly make whatever sacrifices we had to. We are not bad parents because our child wcf is in daycare. I don't care if anyone here admires me or not.

Sweetwhite, will your child go to school or will you homeschool? I'm just wondering how that is any different since if he were to go to school, he will be around even more potentially sick kids. I'm hoping that having my daughter in daycare may actually be a good thing in terms of her immunity as she gets older and starts going to school. Her CF doc has not discouraged us from having her in daycare either nor have any other medical professionals we have encountered. In fact, one of my first questions at our first visit to the CF doc was whether we should pull her out of daycare . . . so it's not something we've never considered.

Sandra
mom to Sara, 2.5 wcf
 
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angelsmom

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My 2.5 year old wcf goes to an in-home daycare where there are only 5 other kids. She has been going there since she was a baby and before we knew she had cf. She has not been as sick as one would think. She has had as many colds as a non-cf kid. I have a friend who is a stay at home mom with a daughter the same age as mine and her daughter has been sick much more than mine. So, daycare is not always the germ-fest many people believe it to be. It certainly depends on the daycare, whether it is a large center or a small in-home daycare and definitely depends on the provider. My provider happens to be very aware of the need to disinfect everything on a daily basis and her home is the most spotless I have ever stepped into.

As for the choice to put your kid in daycare, it is truly a personal one for which NONE of us should be judged. It is not that I put MY needs ahead of my daughter's. The fact is, for our family, it is very hard to get by on one income so my husband and I both work. If a time comes where our daughter's situation changes and one of us needs to be home with her, we would certainly make whatever sacrifices we had to. We are not bad parents because our child wcf is in daycare. I don't care if anyone here admires me or not.

Sweetwhite, will your child go to school or will you homeschool? I'm just wondering how that is any different since if he were to go to school, he will be around even more potentially sick kids. I'm hoping that having my daughter in daycare may actually be a good thing in terms of her immunity as she gets older and starts going to school. Her CF doc has not discouraged us from having her in daycare either nor have any other medical professionals we have encountered. In fact, one of my first questions at our first visit to the CF doc was whether we should pull her out of daycare . . . so it's not something we've never considered.

Sandra
mom to Sara, 2.5 wcf
 
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sue35

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If your child is 4 is he going to preschool next year? I feel mixed on daycare. I totally understand why people would need to have it and don't feel that it is a bad thing. Kids start going to preschool at 3 which is hugely important for their development. I know that I went when I was four and my mom did not work. I was better off for it because I was very shy and never talked to other kids until preschool.

For those opposed to daycare I always wondered at what point does "daycare" become acceptable for them and therefore they put their child in school? Because at a lot of places they can be the same thing. So is someone to be looked down upon if they put their child in preschool or kindergarten?

Anyway, don't feel bad about anything. In the end you do what is right you YOU and YOUR child, no one else
 
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sue35

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If your child is 4 is he going to preschool next year? I feel mixed on daycare. I totally understand why people would need to have it and don't feel that it is a bad thing. Kids start going to preschool at 3 which is hugely important for their development. I know that I went when I was four and my mom did not work. I was better off for it because I was very shy and never talked to other kids until preschool.

For those opposed to daycare I always wondered at what point does "daycare" become acceptable for them and therefore they put their child in school? Because at a lot of places they can be the same thing. So is someone to be looked down upon if they put their child in preschool or kindergarten?

Anyway, don't feel bad about anything. In the end you do what is right you YOU and YOUR child, no one else
 
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sue35

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If your child is 4 is he going to preschool next year? I feel mixed on daycare. I totally understand why people would need to have it and don't feel that it is a bad thing. Kids start going to preschool at 3 which is hugely important for their development. I know that I went when I was four and my mom did not work. I was better off for it because I was very shy and never talked to other kids until preschool.

For those opposed to daycare I always wondered at what point does "daycare" become acceptable for them and therefore they put their child in school? Because at a lot of places they can be the same thing. So is someone to be looked down upon if they put their child in preschool or kindergarten?

Anyway, don't feel bad about anything. In the end you do what is right you YOU and YOUR child, no one else
 
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Ratatosk

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DS goes to a daycare center, which has a preschool program. I think there are 7 kids in his age group/class. We thought long and hard about our decision to send ds and part of our decision stemmed from the fact that eventually he's going to go to school. And the place he goes to has very strict, stringent guidelines as far as sanitizing thing, handwashing, illness... At the time I would've preferred having someone with just a couple of kids care for him. But he has thrived and really enjoys "school".

Last week I got an email from a friend of mine whose grandaughter has CF and goes to a very small family daycare. They'd had her screened for preschool for next year, when she'll be 4 years old, but opted not to send her because the it exceeds their clinic's rule of 6 -- no more than 6 children in a playgroup, daycare environment. Which I thought was odd because they intend to send her to kindergarten the following year. But whatever you're comfortable with, whatever works for you.
 
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Ratatosk

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DS goes to a daycare center, which has a preschool program. I think there are 7 kids in his age group/class. We thought long and hard about our decision to send ds and part of our decision stemmed from the fact that eventually he's going to go to school. And the place he goes to has very strict, stringent guidelines as far as sanitizing thing, handwashing, illness... At the time I would've preferred having someone with just a couple of kids care for him. But he has thrived and really enjoys "school".

Last week I got an email from a friend of mine whose grandaughter has CF and goes to a very small family daycare. They'd had her screened for preschool for next year, when she'll be 4 years old, but opted not to send her because the it exceeds their clinic's rule of 6 -- no more than 6 children in a playgroup, daycare environment. Which I thought was odd because they intend to send her to kindergarten the following year. But whatever you're comfortable with, whatever works for you.
 
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