denial... the longest river in egypt????

[yellowfrog]

my daughter has me demented i guess she is denial of her cf and
type 1 diabetes. today tidying her room i found all the enzymes i
had put in her lunch box for the week stashed in her drawer. her
blood sugars seem to be through the roof (she doesn't have
keytones) how do i get her to understand that her health now is her
investment for the future? i am torn between anger confusion and a
deep deep sadness    <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">

 

[yellowfrog]

my daughter has me demented i guess she is denial of her cf and
type 1 diabetes. today tidying her room i found all the enzymes i
had put in her lunch box for the week stashed in her drawer. her
blood sugars seem to be through the roof (she doesn't have
keytones) how do i get her to understand that her health now is her
investment for the future? i am torn between anger confusion and a
deep deep sadness    <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">

 

[yellowfrog]

my daughter has me demented i guess she is denial of her cf and
type 1 diabetes. today tidying her room i found all the enzymes i
had put in her lunch box for the week stashed in her drawer. her
blood sugars seem to be through the roof (she doesn't have
keytones) how do i get her to understand that her health now is her
investment for the future? i am torn between anger confusion and a
deep deep sadness    <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">

 

[anonymous]

Your approach to convincing her about the importance of health issues would depend on <i>her</i> alot. How old is she, is she sensitive when talking about cf, ect. Has she seen what ignoring diabetes care lead to.

 

[anonymous]

Your approach to convincing her about the importance of health issues would depend on <i>her</i> alot. How old is she, is she sensitive when talking about cf, ect. Has she seen what ignoring diabetes care lead to.

 

[anonymous]

Your approach to convincing her about the importance of health issues would depend on <i>her</i> alot. How old is she, is she sensitive when talking about cf, ect. Has she seen what ignoring diabetes care lead to.

 

[Landy]

I'm guessing that she is embarrassed to take her enzymes in front of everyone. What if she put them in her pocket before school & somehow tried to take them at the water fountain, in the restroom or something right before she ate lunch so that she doesn't have to take them in front of everyone at the lunch table? If she choses to do something like this, you may alert her teacher(s) so they don't see her taking pills at the water fountain & wonder exactly what she's taking.
I'm surprised they let you put them in her lunch box. At my daughter's school, all medications have to be administered through the office/school nurse.
As for the denial...I think a lot of us have went through that in our teenage years. We just want to be like everyone else.
Maybe if you could talk to her in a calm, understanding way and see if from her view but also try to make her see it from your view (that you're concerned for her health).
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

 

[Landy]

I'm guessing that she is embarrassed to take her enzymes in front of everyone. What if she put them in her pocket before school & somehow tried to take them at the water fountain, in the restroom or something right before she ate lunch so that she doesn't have to take them in front of everyone at the lunch table? If she choses to do something like this, you may alert her teacher(s) so they don't see her taking pills at the water fountain & wonder exactly what she's taking.
I'm surprised they let you put them in her lunch box. At my daughter's school, all medications have to be administered through the office/school nurse.
As for the denial...I think a lot of us have went through that in our teenage years. We just want to be like everyone else.
Maybe if you could talk to her in a calm, understanding way and see if from her view but also try to make her see it from your view (that you're concerned for her health).
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

 

[Landy]

I'm guessing that she is embarrassed to take her enzymes in front of everyone. What if she put them in her pocket before school & somehow tried to take them at the water fountain, in the restroom or something right before she ate lunch so that she doesn't have to take them in front of everyone at the lunch table? If she choses to do something like this, you may alert her teacher(s) so they don't see her taking pills at the water fountain & wonder exactly what she's taking.
I'm surprised they let you put them in her lunch box. At my daughter's school, all medications have to be administered through the office/school nurse.
As for the denial...I think a lot of us have went through that in our teenage years. We just want to be like everyone else.
Maybe if you could talk to her in a calm, understanding way and see if from her view but also try to make her see it from your view (that you're concerned for her health).
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

 

[Jane]

My son was/is the same way exactly! We'd find enzymes in his pockets, backpack, lego box. We knew he threw away the baggie of enzymes with his lunch at school- probably still does. It was a power struggle because HE wanted to be in control. Some kids just are difficult no matter how much they understand the health need.

We eventually backed down and left him in control. Now, if he doesn't choose to take them when he's not home, its his problem. When he was little though, he didn't have that choice and we had lots of discussions.

We were also sad and angry. You spend every minute since they were diagnosed doing things to keep them healthy and then they sabbotage their own health. It doesn't make sense to me, but it happens.

 

[Jane]

My son was/is the same way exactly! We'd find enzymes in his pockets, backpack, lego box. We knew he threw away the baggie of enzymes with his lunch at school- probably still does. It was a power struggle because HE wanted to be in control. Some kids just are difficult no matter how much they understand the health need.

We eventually backed down and left him in control. Now, if he doesn't choose to take them when he's not home, its his problem. When he was little though, he didn't have that choice and we had lots of discussions.

We were also sad and angry. You spend every minute since they were diagnosed doing things to keep them healthy and then they sabbotage their own health. It doesn't make sense to me, but it happens.

 

[Jane]

My son was/is the same way exactly! We'd find enzymes in his pockets, backpack, lego box. We knew he threw away the baggie of enzymes with his lunch at school- probably still does. It was a power struggle because HE wanted to be in control. Some kids just are difficult no matter how much they understand the health need.

We eventually backed down and left him in control. Now, if he doesn't choose to take them when he's not home, its his problem. When he was little though, he didn't have that choice and we had lots of discussions.

We were also sad and angry. You spend every minute since they were diagnosed doing things to keep them healthy and then they sabbotage their own health. It doesn't make sense to me, but it happens.

 

[coltsfan715]

How old is your daughter?
I know I had similar issues when I was in middle school and high school about taking my enzymes. My school would not allow me to take them on my own - so if I took them I had to go to the clinic everyday and wait in line for the nurse to get them. I hated it. I always felt like I stuck out when I had to leave my friends on the way to lunch to go wait in line for meds. I will be honest there really wasn't anything that made me take my meds. I had a hard time buckling down and taking my enzymes all through high school.

As for the blood sugar. I really don't know how to get her to understand how important it is. I know what really made it sink in for me was when my doc told me that when my blood sugars are out of control it makes it more difficult to breathe. It can cause more inflammation in the lungs not to mention just make you feel tired, blurry vision, mood swings, weight loss and such.

I would try making a deal with her .. ask her to check her blood sugars and do what she needs to keep her sugars under control for a month. Then see how she feels. She SHOULD feel better if she is holding up her end of the deal. That may be enough motivation for her to take care of her sugars. I know it is for me ... and too I am in my 20s.

I am sorry if I was of really no help. If your daughter wants someone to talk to have her email me or message me through the site. I would be more than happy to talk to her about stuff. I know I had a REALLY hard time with the feeling "normal" and all the meds and stuff in school.

Take Care,
Lindsey
xiao07@hotmail.com

 

[coltsfan715]

How old is your daughter?
I know I had similar issues when I was in middle school and high school about taking my enzymes. My school would not allow me to take them on my own - so if I took them I had to go to the clinic everyday and wait in line for the nurse to get them. I hated it. I always felt like I stuck out when I had to leave my friends on the way to lunch to go wait in line for meds. I will be honest there really wasn't anything that made me take my meds. I had a hard time buckling down and taking my enzymes all through high school.

As for the blood sugar. I really don't know how to get her to understand how important it is. I know what really made it sink in for me was when my doc told me that when my blood sugars are out of control it makes it more difficult to breathe. It can cause more inflammation in the lungs not to mention just make you feel tired, blurry vision, mood swings, weight loss and such.

I would try making a deal with her .. ask her to check her blood sugars and do what she needs to keep her sugars under control for a month. Then see how she feels. She SHOULD feel better if she is holding up her end of the deal. That may be enough motivation for her to take care of her sugars. I know it is for me ... and too I am in my 20s.

I am sorry if I was of really no help. If your daughter wants someone to talk to have her email me or message me through the site. I would be more than happy to talk to her about stuff. I know I had a REALLY hard time with the feeling "normal" and all the meds and stuff in school.

Take Care,
Lindsey
xiao07@hotmail.com

 

[coltsfan715]

How old is your daughter?
I know I had similar issues when I was in middle school and high school about taking my enzymes. My school would not allow me to take them on my own - so if I took them I had to go to the clinic everyday and wait in line for the nurse to get them. I hated it. I always felt like I stuck out when I had to leave my friends on the way to lunch to go wait in line for meds. I will be honest there really wasn't anything that made me take my meds. I had a hard time buckling down and taking my enzymes all through high school.

As for the blood sugar. I really don't know how to get her to understand how important it is. I know what really made it sink in for me was when my doc told me that when my blood sugars are out of control it makes it more difficult to breathe. It can cause more inflammation in the lungs not to mention just make you feel tired, blurry vision, mood swings, weight loss and such.

I would try making a deal with her .. ask her to check her blood sugars and do what she needs to keep her sugars under control for a month. Then see how she feels. She SHOULD feel better if she is holding up her end of the deal. That may be enough motivation for her to take care of her sugars. I know it is for me ... and too I am in my 20s.

I am sorry if I was of really no help. If your daughter wants someone to talk to have her email me or message me through the site. I would be more than happy to talk to her about stuff. I know I had a REALLY hard time with the feeling "normal" and all the meds and stuff in school.

Take Care,
Lindsey
xiao07@hotmail.com

 

[anonymous]

ng teenagers then they (like adults) are thinking quality of life (in their here and now) rather than length of life.

I'd talk and brainstorm with them about how they might be able to take the enzymes and stuff without having a negative impact on their life (have to find out first why they think it is negative). The sneaking the enzymes into school might be one approach. The blood sugar thing is much harder.

It could be that you'll have to play the heavy and have her called down to the school nurse every lunch time with punishement if she doesn't go. You are still the grownup. and by "outing" her that way then the hiding it becomes useless (if that's what this is about).

Sooner or later tho, as Jane says, you have to let go and have her work the issue with her docs. when she's adult you won't even have a clue that she's not doing what is needed and won't be there to rescue if something goes wrong. Better it goes wrong now when you can meet the ambulance .

I am so sorry.

 

[anonymous]

ng teenagers then they (like adults) are thinking quality of life (in their here and now) rather than length of life.

I'd talk and brainstorm with them about how they might be able to take the enzymes and stuff without having a negative impact on their life (have to find out first why they think it is negative). The sneaking the enzymes into school might be one approach. The blood sugar thing is much harder.

It could be that you'll have to play the heavy and have her called down to the school nurse every lunch time with punishement if she doesn't go. You are still the grownup. and by "outing" her that way then the hiding it becomes useless (if that's what this is about).

Sooner or later tho, as Jane says, you have to let go and have her work the issue with her docs. when she's adult you won't even have a clue that she's not doing what is needed and won't be there to rescue if something goes wrong. Better it goes wrong now when you can meet the ambulance .

I am so sorry.

 

[anonymous]

ng teenagers then they (like adults) are thinking quality of life (in their here and now) rather than length of life.

I'd talk and brainstorm with them about how they might be able to take the enzymes and stuff without having a negative impact on their life (have to find out first why they think it is negative). The sneaking the enzymes into school might be one approach. The blood sugar thing is much harder.

It could be that you'll have to play the heavy and have her called down to the school nurse every lunch time with punishement if she doesn't go. You are still the grownup. and by "outing" her that way then the hiding it becomes useless (if that's what this is about).

Sooner or later tho, as Jane says, you have to let go and have her work the issue with her docs. when she's adult you won't even have a clue that she's not doing what is needed and won't be there to rescue if something goes wrong. Better it goes wrong now when you can meet the ambulance .

I am so sorry.

 

[Scarlett81]

I wish I could give you some valuable advice. But I just wanted to say that I used to do the exact same thing. If it was my kid, I'd be so worried too, and ready to pull their hair out as I'm sure you are. That doesn't help you, but I just thought you might like to know your kid's not the only one, and not a wacko. This is a pretty common problem.

What about giving them, or encouraging them to access this site? I had a hard dose of reality when I started coming here-it got me out of denial pretty quick.

This is definately a denial thing, but I thinks its also rebellion, and fear.

 

[Scarlett81]

I wish I could give you some valuable advice. But I just wanted to say that I used to do the exact same thing. If it was my kid, I'd be so worried too, and ready to pull their hair out as I'm sure you are. That doesn't help you, but I just thought you might like to know your kid's not the only one, and not a wacko. This is a pretty common problem.

What about giving them, or encouraging them to access this site? I had a hard dose of reality when I started coming here-it got me out of denial pretty quick.

This is definately a denial thing, but I thinks its also rebellion, and fear.