Depression while pregnant??

alluneedislove · Aug 14, 2011

Hey Just wondering if anyone has had depression while pregnant and took something for it? If so what did you take? Is it safe? It makes me nervous!

alluneedislove · Aug 14, 2011

Hey Just wondering if anyone has had depression while pregnant and took something for it? If so what did you take? Is it safe? It makes me nervous!

alluneedislove · Aug 14, 2011

Hey Just wondering if anyone has had depression while pregnant and took something for it? If so what did you take? Is it safe? It makes me nervous!

mamaScarlett · Aug 17, 2011

Hi, first off you are SO not alone! With my first pregnancy (a girl) I was sky high happy every moment of the day. With my 2nd (a boy) I was extremely depressed the first trimester. I had heard that depression during the first (and 2nd) trimester is common, and that usually by the 3rd tri, it goes away. (It does however put you at a higher possibility of post partum depression.) I had no thoughts of suicide, or hurting my daughter, or anyone. It just felt like a constant dark cloud over my head. A foggy feeling always present with me. I had little to no interest in anything, and I was always tired. I decided to ride it out as long as I could. I spoke to my husband about it really openly. We both agreed that if I had any thoughts of harming myself or my daughter I'd begin meds without a doubt. And if it wasn't gone by the 3rd tri, I'd take something. In my case, by the middle of my 2nd trimester it completely went away, like overnight. I don't know why, but I've heard this is common. I am now 12 wks post partum and have no symptoms of depression, except for the occasional anxiety related to my Cf which I've always battled. But thats under control right now. I felt SO guilty for being depressed-and of course well meaning people just say I 'should' be so happy, I'm so lucky to be having a 2nd baby, I should just enjoy it, and this and that. Comments that really only make you feel worse. I knew I was lucky, I was happy to have a 2nd, thrilled-but depression is a chemical condition. You can't reason it away. You're not alone! Don't give up. I hope you find some answers, whether its meds, time, counseling, or whatever works.

mamaScarlett · Aug 17, 2011

Hi, first off you are SO not alone! With my first pregnancy (a girl) I was sky high happy every moment of the day. With my 2nd (a boy) I was extremely depressed the first trimester. I had heard that depression during the first (and 2nd) trimester is common, and that usually by the 3rd tri, it goes away. (It does however put you at a higher possibility of post partum depression.) I had no thoughts of suicide, or hurting my daughter, or anyone. It just felt like a constant dark cloud over my head. A foggy feeling always present with me. I had little to no interest in anything, and I was always tired. I decided to ride it out as long as I could. I spoke to my husband about it really openly. We both agreed that if I had any thoughts of harming myself or my daughter I'd begin meds without a doubt. And if it wasn't gone by the 3rd tri, I'd take something. In my case, by the middle of my 2nd trimester it completely went away, like overnight. I don't know why, but I've heard this is common. I am now 12 wks post partum and have no symptoms of depression, except for the occasional anxiety related to my Cf which I've always battled. But thats under control right now. I felt SO guilty for being depressed-and of course well meaning people just say I 'should' be so happy, I'm so lucky to be having a 2nd baby, I should just enjoy it, and this and that. Comments that really only make you feel worse. I knew I was lucky, I was happy to have a 2nd, thrilled-but depression is a chemical condition. You can't reason it away. You're not alone! Don't give up. I hope you find some answers, whether its meds, time, counseling, or whatever works.

mamaScarlett · Aug 17, 2011

Hi, first off you are SO not alone! With my first pregnancy (a girl) I was sky high happy every moment of the day. With my 2nd (a boy) I was extremely depressed the first trimester. I had heard that depression during the first (and 2nd) trimester is common, and that usually by the 3rd tri, it goes away. (It does however put you at a higher possibility of post partum depression.) I had no thoughts of suicide, or hurting my daughter, or anyone. It just felt like a constant dark cloud over my head. A foggy feeling always present with me. I had little to no interest in anything, and I was always tired. I decided to ride it out as long as I could. I spoke to my husband about it really openly. We both agreed that if I had any thoughts of harming myself or my daughter I'd begin meds without a doubt. And if it wasn't gone by the 3rd tri, I'd take something. In my case, by the middle of my 2nd trimester it completely went away, like overnight. I don't know why, but I've heard this is common. I am now 12 wks post partum and have no symptoms of depression, except for the occasional anxiety related to my Cf which I've always battled. But thats under control right now. I felt SO guilty for being depressed-and of course well meaning people just say I 'should' be so happy, I'm so lucky to be having a 2nd baby, I should just enjoy it, and this and that. Comments that really only make you feel worse. I knew I was lucky, I was happy to have a 2nd, thrilled-but depression is a chemical condition. You can't reason it away. You're not alone! Don't give up. I hope you find some answers, whether its meds, time, counseling, or whatever works.

alluneedislove · Aug 17, 2011

AHHH Finally some one writes....Thank you so much Mammascarlett!! So Friday i will be 8 weeks! Exciting yes but I am so nervous! My lungs arnt as good as what they were with my first, and i too feel like most days there is a dark cloud over me. Yes very tired and no energy. I feel stressed about all that is to come and if i can do it. I feel bad for my daughter too, especially on days where i cant get off the couch and play with her. My husband is very supportive and helps with everything. He's a blessing! But i worry about after having the baby who can help me and how am i going to take care of 2 kids and myself during the day especially with treatments and stuff. How do you do it?? Does your family help? We have talked and know that we need to get people lined up to help, or hire someone but that isnt in the budget <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I am also nervous about miscarriage. ugh my head is going crazy! any advice would be great!

alluneedislove · Aug 17, 2011

AHHH Finally some one writes....Thank you so much Mammascarlett!! So Friday i will be 8 weeks! Exciting yes but I am so nervous! My lungs arnt as good as what they were with my first, and i too feel like most days there is a dark cloud over me. Yes very tired and no energy. I feel stressed about all that is to come and if i can do it. I feel bad for my daughter too, especially on days where i cant get off the couch and play with her. My husband is very supportive and helps with everything. He's a blessing! But i worry about after having the baby who can help me and how am i going to take care of 2 kids and myself during the day especially with treatments and stuff. How do you do it?? Does your family help? We have talked and know that we need to get people lined up to help, or hire someone but that isnt in the budget <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I am also nervous about miscarriage. ugh my head is going crazy! any advice would be great!

alluneedislove · Aug 17, 2011

AHHH Finally some one writes....Thank you so much Mammascarlett!! So Friday i will be 8 weeks! Exciting yes but I am so nervous! My lungs arnt as good as what they were with my first, and i too feel like most days there is a dark cloud over me. Yes very tired and no energy. I feel stressed about all that is to come and if i can do it. I feel bad for my daughter too, especially on days where i cant get off the couch and play with her. My husband is very supportive and helps with everything. He's a blessing! But i worry about after having the baby who can help me and how am i going to take care of 2 kids and myself during the day especially with treatments and stuff. How do you do it?? Does your family help? We have talked and know that we need to get people lined up to help, or hire someone but that isnt in the budget <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I am also nervous about miscarriage. ugh my head is going crazy! any advice would be great!

mamaScarlett · Aug 25, 2011

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: alluneedislove

AHHH Finally some one writes....Thank you so much Mammascarlett!! So Friday i will be 8 weeks! Exciting yes but I am so nervous! My lungs arnt as good as what they were with my first, and i too feel like most days there is a dark cloud over me. Yes very tired and no energy. I feel stressed about all that is to come and if i can do it. I feel bad for my daughter too, especially on days where i cant get off the couch and play with her. My husband is very supportive and helps with everything. He's a blessing! But i worry about after having the baby who can help me and how am i going to take care of 2 kids and myself during the day especially with treatments and stuff. How do you do it?? Does your family help? We have talked and know that we need to get people lined up to help, or hire someone but that isnt in the budget <img src=""> I am also nervous about miscarriage. ugh my head is going crazy! any advice would be great!</end quote></div> Everytime I try to sit and write to you I get halfway done and my computer deletes it or I lose power, haha! Anyway I had a few thoughts for you. I so feel where you are-I felt the same exact way. When I was preg with my first I got the flu and I thought 'how in the world will I take care of a child when I'm sick like this?' Then when I was preg with the 2nd I thought 'how will I take care of 2 kids if i get sick?' And it goes on and on...thats life, its our job to worry about those things I guess. The answer is that you will find a way. Being a mom is a pretty powerful thing. Think of mothers all over the world, with no resources, that find ways to care for all their children. They'd do anything to protect them and care for their needs. Its no different with us. And for the times that you do need to ask for help, you'll have to! Whether hubby has to take time off, or a relative has to stay with you for a bit, or a neighbor, or you hire a high school girl-whatever you can do. This may mean sacrifices for you in other areas, perhaps you'll have to give up something you treat yourself to that month to pay for a teen to help babysit or clean. Or you'll have to put up with mother in law in the house bc of all the help she's giving (just an example). When I was preg I really tried to simplify my lifestyle and home. Thats helped alot! We purged our house of any uneeded things which were really only sucking up my time since it was more to clean and take care of. I now cook 3-4 times a week, and make double portions for leftovers or freezing. And we always do pizza or chinese night. Hubby is real good about not needing a new hot meal every night! (btw, cheap paper plates and cups are a must in our house) I also limited going out as much as possible, especially large crowds and late nights. In the end its not worth it, and it was taking away from my quality of life, not adding to it. I'd spend the next 3 days after a party just waiting for a virus which I'd always get-esp while pregnant. Now we prioritize better what we want to do. You don't want to be a shut in, of course. And when you're depressed its good to be around people. Just try to pace yourself. Having people over worked better for me, or just taking our daughter out for special things together. Let go of feeling guilty about not doing as much as you used to with your daughter right now. Its a good time for her to become more of a daddys girl, and when you're at home together a little extra tv time won't hurt her!-esp if its educational tv. I'd put newspaper down on the kitchen table, and tons of play dough and let her go nuts, then go lay on the sofa for a while. And really let go of the miscarriage issue...if that happens it won't be due to anything wrong that you did. There is literally nothing you can control when it comes to that. So just assume that everything is fine and relax. All in all, I think motherhood is constantly readjusting and evaluating your situation to see where you can improve. Enjoy your children, enjoy this time while they're little. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

mamaScarlett · Aug 25, 2011

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: alluneedislove

AHHH Finally some one writes....Thank you so much Mammascarlett!! So Friday i will be 8 weeks! Exciting yes but I am so nervous! My lungs arnt as good as what they were with my first, and i too feel like most days there is a dark cloud over me. Yes very tired and no energy. I feel stressed about all that is to come and if i can do it. I feel bad for my daughter too, especially on days where i cant get off the couch and play with her. My husband is very supportive and helps with everything. He's a blessing! But i worry about after having the baby who can help me and how am i going to take care of 2 kids and myself during the day especially with treatments and stuff. How do you do it?? Does your family help? We have talked and know that we need to get people lined up to help, or hire someone but that isnt in the budget <img src=""> I am also nervous about miscarriage. ugh my head is going crazy! any advice would be great!</end quote> Everytime I try to sit and write to you I get halfway done and my computer deletes it or I lose power, haha! Anyway I had a few thoughts for you. I so feel where you are-I felt the same exact way. When I was preg with my first I got the flu and I thought 'how in the world will I take care of a child when I'm sick like this?' Then when I was preg with the 2nd I thought 'how will I take care of 2 kids if i get sick?' And it goes on and on...thats life, its our job to worry about those things I guess. The answer is that you will find a way. Being a mom is a pretty powerful thing. Think of mothers all over the world, with no resources, that find ways to care for all their children. They'd do anything to protect them and care for their needs. Its no different with us. And for the times that you do need to ask for help, you'll have to! Whether hubby has to take time off, or a relative has to stay with you for a bit, or a neighbor, or you hire a high school girl-whatever you can do. This may mean sacrifices for you in other areas, perhaps you'll have to give up something you treat yourself to that month to pay for a teen to help babysit or clean. Or you'll have to put up with mother in law in the house bc of all the help she's giving (just an example). When I was preg I really tried to simplify my lifestyle and home. Thats helped alot! We purged our house of any uneeded things which were really only sucking up my time since it was more to clean and take care of. I now cook 3-4 times a week, and make double portions for leftovers or freezing. And we always do pizza or chinese night. Hubby is real good about not needing a new hot meal every night! (btw, cheap paper plates and cups are a must in our house) I also limited going out as much as possible, especially large crowds and late nights. In the end its not worth it, and it was taking away from my quality of life, not adding to it. I'd spend the next 3 days after a party just waiting for a virus which I'd always get-esp while pregnant. Now we prioritize better what we want to do. You don't want to be a shut in, of course. And when you're depressed its good to be around people. Just try to pace yourself. Having people over worked better for me, or just taking our daughter out for special things together. Let go of feeling guilty about not doing as much as you used to with your daughter right now. Its a good time for her to become more of a daddys girl, and when you're at home together a little extra tv time won't hurt her!-esp if its educational tv. I'd put newspaper down on the kitchen table, and tons of play dough and let her go nuts, then go lay on the sofa for a while. And really let go of the miscarriage issue...if that happens it won't be due to anything wrong that you did. There is literally nothing you can control when it comes to that. So just assume that everything is fine and relax. All in all, I think motherhood is constantly readjusting and evaluating your situation to see where you can improve. Enjoy your children, enjoy this time while they're little. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

mamaScarlett · Aug 25, 2011

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: alluneedislove

AHHH Finally some one writes....Thank you so much Mammascarlett!! So Friday i will be 8 weeks! Exciting yes but I am so nervous! My lungs arnt as good as what they were with my first, and i too feel like most days there is a dark cloud over me. Yes very tired and no energy. I feel stressed about all that is to come and if i can do it. I feel bad for my daughter too, especially on days where i cant get off the couch and play with her. My husband is very supportive and helps with everything. He's a blessing! But i worry about after having the baby who can help me and how am i going to take care of 2 kids and myself during the day especially with treatments and stuff. How do you do it?? Does your family help? We have talked and know that we need to get people lined up to help, or hire someone but that isnt in the budget <img src=""> I am also nervous about miscarriage. ugh my head is going crazy! any advice would be great!</end quote> Everytime I try to sit and write to you I get halfway done and my computer deletes it or I lose power, haha! Anyway I had a few thoughts for you. I so feel where you are-I felt the same exact way. When I was preg with my first I got the flu and I thought 'how in the world will I take care of a child when I'm sick like this?' Then when I was preg with the 2nd I thought 'how will I take care of 2 kids if i get sick?' And it goes on and on...thats life, its our job to worry about those things I guess. The answer is that you will find a way. Being a mom is a pretty powerful thing. Think of mothers all over the world, with no resources, that find ways to care for all their children. They'd do anything to protect them and care for their needs. Its no different with us. And for the times that you do need to ask for help, you'll have to! Whether hubby has to take time off, or a relative has to stay with you for a bit, or a neighbor, or you hire a high school girl-whatever you can do. This may mean sacrifices for you in other areas, perhaps you'll have to give up something you treat yourself to that month to pay for a teen to help babysit or clean. Or you'll have to put up with mother in law in the house bc of all the help she's giving (just an example). When I was preg I really tried to simplify my lifestyle and home. Thats helped alot! We purged our house of any uneeded things which were really only sucking up my time since it was more to clean and take care of. I now cook 3-4 times a week, and make double portions for leftovers or freezing. And we always do pizza or chinese night. Hubby is real good about not needing a new hot meal every night! (btw, cheap paper plates and cups are a must in our house) I also limited going out as much as possible, especially large crowds and late nights. In the end its not worth it, and it was taking away from my quality of life, not adding to it. I'd spend the next 3 days after a party just waiting for a virus which I'd always get-esp while pregnant. Now we prioritize better what we want to do. You don't want to be a shut in, of course. And when you're depressed its good to be around people. Just try to pace yourself. Having people over worked better for me, or just taking our daughter out for special things together. Let go of feeling guilty about not doing as much as you used to with your daughter right now. Its a good time for her to become more of a daddys girl, and when you're at home together a little extra tv time won't hurt her!-esp if its educational tv. I'd put newspaper down on the kitchen table, and tons of play dough and let her go nuts, then go lay on the sofa for a while. And really let go of the miscarriage issue...if that happens it won't be due to anything wrong that you did. There is literally nothing you can control when it comes to that. So just assume that everything is fine and relax. All in all, I think motherhood is constantly readjusting and evaluating your situation to see where you can improve. Enjoy your children, enjoy this time while they're little. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Shine · Sep 14, 2011

Sorry I don't have anything helpful to add to this thread, since I'm not pregnant yet... <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Though I just wanted to say to mamaScarlett...YOU GO GIRL! Really good, sound, and BALANCED advice. I like where your heads at <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Also to alluneedislove: Hope you get the much needed help you need <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
I have friends who have all had babies...and the one thing they all say is...preparing pre-pregnancy lunch & dinner meals is a MUST and then freezing them. I going to try this ahead of time if poss...in the event I become pregnant <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

*BIG HUGS*

Shine · Sep 14, 2011

Sorry I don't have anything helpful to add to this thread, since I'm not pregnant yet... <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Though I just wanted to say to mamaScarlett...YOU GO GIRL! Really good, sound, and BALANCED advice. I like where your heads at <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Also to alluneedislove: Hope you get the much needed help you need <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
I have friends who have all had babies...and the one thing they all say is...preparing pre-pregnancy lunch & dinner meals is a MUST and then freezing them. I going to try this ahead of time if poss...in the event I become pregnant <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

*BIG HUGS*

Shine · Sep 14, 2011

Sorry I don't have anything helpful to add to this thread, since I'm not pregnant yet... <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
 Though I just wanted to say to mamaScarlett...YOU GO GIRL! Really good, sound, and BALANCED advice. I like where your heads at <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
 Also to alluneedislove: Hope you get the much needed help you need <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
 I have friends who have all had babies...and the one thing they all say is...preparing pre-pregnancy lunch & dinner meals is a MUST and then freezing them. I going to try this ahead of time if poss...in the event I become pregnant <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
 *BIG HUGS*

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