Blessed4Times
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<P>This past weekend I made the mistake of picking the worst movie possible from the movie store. I grabbed the movie "P.S. I love you" from the "date night" section without even reading the info on the back. It's about a 30 year old woman whose 35 year old husband dies of a brain tumor right after they discuss having children and "starting" a life together. The woman becomes a widow at 30 and spends years honoring the memory of her husband and trying to figure out how to move on with her life. </P>
<P>My soon to be husband (30 y/o wth CF) looked at me and said "I will be surprised if I make it to 35." I am in my mid-twenties now and he said that he saw me in the movie as a widow at 30. This broke my heart. I don't think of life in a matter of how many days I have left with him. I think about our life together today, next week, next month, and sometimes next year, but nothing beyond that because things can change rather quickly with CF. </P>
<P>For those of you CFers over 30 with husbands, wives, and children to take care of, how do you discuss life expectancy when your loved ones are approaching the "median" age for CF? When we were discussing this on Saturday I got very emotional and couldn't discuss it any more. Is there any rational way you have found to discuss the topic? How do you move on with life and plan for things like vacation and buying/selling a house or a car without letting CF rule your life? I let my fear take over more than I should, but I want him to live the fullest life he can. </P>
<P>Any thoughts are appreciated! </P>
<P>My soon to be husband (30 y/o wth CF) looked at me and said "I will be surprised if I make it to 35." I am in my mid-twenties now and he said that he saw me in the movie as a widow at 30. This broke my heart. I don't think of life in a matter of how many days I have left with him. I think about our life together today, next week, next month, and sometimes next year, but nothing beyond that because things can change rather quickly with CF. </P>
<P>For those of you CFers over 30 with husbands, wives, and children to take care of, how do you discuss life expectancy when your loved ones are approaching the "median" age for CF? When we were discussing this on Saturday I got very emotional and couldn't discuss it any more. Is there any rational way you have found to discuss the topic? How do you move on with life and plan for things like vacation and buying/selling a house or a car without letting CF rule your life? I let my fear take over more than I should, but I want him to live the fullest life he can. </P>
<P>Any thoughts are appreciated! </P>