Family Not Understanding!

charl72

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Basically my mum and dad are driving me crazy at the moment. Our daughter is 4 1/2 years old and has CF. Anyways, our nephew who is almost two years old came to visit with my brother and stayed at my mum and dad's house - we planned on going to visit them there as my mum and dad only live a 10 minute drive away. My mum phoned me up on the day we were going to visit to ask what time we were calling and I told her at about lunch time. She 'forgot' to mention that our nephew had a raging temperature and had diarrohea! Luckilly my brother spoke to me on the phone and told me. I was really annoyed that my mum didn't mention this. Have any of you got parents like this - honestly I could scream sometimes. Anyway, we decided not to call and visit and my mum saw her arse! I give up.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
 

charl72

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Basically my mum and dad are driving me crazy at the moment. Our daughter is 4 1/2 years old and has CF. Anyways, our nephew who is almost two years old came to visit with my brother and stayed at my mum and dad's house - we planned on going to visit them there as my mum and dad only live a 10 minute drive away. My mum phoned me up on the day we were going to visit to ask what time we were calling and I told her at about lunch time. She 'forgot' to mention that our nephew had a raging temperature and had diarrohea! Luckilly my brother spoke to me on the phone and told me. I was really annoyed that my mum didn't mention this. Have any of you got parents like this - honestly I could scream sometimes. Anyway, we decided not to call and visit and my mum saw her arse! I give up.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
 

charl72

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Basically my mum and dad are driving me crazy at the moment. Our daughter is 4 1/2 years old and has CF. Anyways, our nephew who is almost two years old came to visit with my brother and stayed at my mum and dad's house - we planned on going to visit them there as my mum and dad only live a 10 minute drive away. My mum phoned me up on the day we were going to visit to ask what time we were calling and I told her at about lunch time. She 'forgot' to mention that our nephew had a raging temperature and had diarrohea! Luckilly my brother spoke to me on the phone and told me. I was really annoyed that my mum didn't mention this. Have any of you got parents like this - honestly I could scream sometimes. Anyway, we decided not to call and visit and my mum saw her arse! I give up.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
 

charl72

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Basically my mum and dad are driving me crazy at the moment. Our daughter is 4 1/2 years old and has CF. Anyways, our nephew who is almost two years old came to visit with my brother and stayed at my mum and dad's house - we planned on going to visit them there as my mum and dad only live a 10 minute drive away. My mum phoned me up on the day we were going to visit to ask what time we were calling and I told her at about lunch time. She 'forgot' to mention that our nephew had a raging temperature and had diarrohea! Luckilly my brother spoke to me on the phone and told me. I was really annoyed that my mum didn't mention this. Have any of you got parents like this - honestly I could scream sometimes. Anyway, we decided not to call and visit and my mum saw her arse! I give up.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
 

charl72

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Basically my mum and dad are driving me crazy at the moment. Our daughter is 4 1/2 years old and has CF. Anyways, our nephew who is almost two years old came to visit with my brother and stayed at my mum and dad's house - we planned on going to visit them there as my mum and dad only live a 10 minute drive away. My mum phoned me up on the day we were going to visit to ask what time we were calling and I told her at about lunch time. She 'forgot' to mention that our nephew had a raging temperature and had diarrohea! Luckilly my brother spoke to me on the phone and told me. I was really annoyed that my mum didn't mention this. Have any of you got parents like this - honestly I could scream sometimes. Anyway, we decided not to call and visit and my mum saw her arse! I give up.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
 

JazzysMom

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I have found even with my family that the healthier a CFer is or the longer they are exacerbation free.....people forget. Its almost like they think the CF went away or something.

It will take diligence & strength on your part. Just remind them that in order to KEEP your child as healthy as she is now includes avoiding sicknesses when possible.

I will warn that there are those that just never learn!

HUGS.....maybe beat it into your brother so you have someone on your side in case your parents dont get it.
 

JazzysMom

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I have found even with my family that the healthier a CFer is or the longer they are exacerbation free.....people forget. Its almost like they think the CF went away or something.

It will take diligence & strength on your part. Just remind them that in order to KEEP your child as healthy as she is now includes avoiding sicknesses when possible.

I will warn that there are those that just never learn!

HUGS.....maybe beat it into your brother so you have someone on your side in case your parents dont get it.
 

JazzysMom

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I have found even with my family that the healthier a CFer is or the longer they are exacerbation free.....people forget. Its almost like they think the CF went away or something.

It will take diligence & strength on your part. Just remind them that in order to KEEP your child as healthy as she is now includes avoiding sicknesses when possible.

I will warn that there are those that just never learn!

HUGS.....maybe beat it into your brother so you have someone on your side in case your parents dont get it.
 

JazzysMom

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I have found even with my family that the healthier a CFer is or the longer they are exacerbation free.....people forget. Its almost like they think the CF went away or something.

It will take diligence & strength on your part. Just remind them that in order to KEEP your child as healthy as she is now includes avoiding sicknesses when possible.

I will warn that there are those that just never learn!

HUGS.....maybe beat it into your brother so you have someone on your side in case your parents dont get it.
 

JazzysMom

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I have found even with my family that the healthier a CFer is or the longer they are exacerbation free.....people forget. Its almost like they think the CF went away or something.
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<br />It will take diligence & strength on your part. Just remind them that in order to KEEP your child as healthy as she is now includes avoiding sicknesses when possible.
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<br />I will warn that there are those that just never learn!
<br />
<br />HUGS.....maybe beat it into your brother so you have someone on your side in case your parents dont get it.
 

Ratatosk

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I feel your pain -- My MIL is forever "forgetting" to tell us that someone is sick, etc. I get so tired of hearing that someone just has a cold, only to show up and hear the cough and am later told it's bronchitis or pneumonia.

Basically every once in awhile, DH has a "come to jesus" meeting with his parents. Explains that if we show up and find out that someone is sick, that we very well may turn around and go home.

There are a couple of his uncles who've had frequent skin and lung infections. Basically DH has tried to explain that should one of them have something as severe as MRSA, then they're going to have to think long and hard about whether or not they'll want to see their grandson. This was his most recent conversation with them when it was determined that one of his aunts by marriage (who we never see) had MRSA pneumonia. My MIL got a "little" peeved by the whole conversation and said, how do you know that people in the grocery store don't have these things. I'm afraid she still doesn't get it and that it's going to take DS getting sick for the seriousness of it all to set in.

And I agree with Jazzysmom -- my inlaws only seem to see the healthy side. They forget about the number of hours we spend on treatments, meds etc and get annoyed when we just can't show up on a moments notice to attend a social event. My MIL got annoyed the other night because they had to wait for DS's tobi to finish and "when's he going to be done with that". Sigh!
 

Ratatosk

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Staff member
I feel your pain -- My MIL is forever "forgetting" to tell us that someone is sick, etc. I get so tired of hearing that someone just has a cold, only to show up and hear the cough and am later told it's bronchitis or pneumonia.

Basically every once in awhile, DH has a "come to jesus" meeting with his parents. Explains that if we show up and find out that someone is sick, that we very well may turn around and go home.

There are a couple of his uncles who've had frequent skin and lung infections. Basically DH has tried to explain that should one of them have something as severe as MRSA, then they're going to have to think long and hard about whether or not they'll want to see their grandson. This was his most recent conversation with them when it was determined that one of his aunts by marriage (who we never see) had MRSA pneumonia. My MIL got a "little" peeved by the whole conversation and said, how do you know that people in the grocery store don't have these things. I'm afraid she still doesn't get it and that it's going to take DS getting sick for the seriousness of it all to set in.

And I agree with Jazzysmom -- my inlaws only seem to see the healthy side. They forget about the number of hours we spend on treatments, meds etc and get annoyed when we just can't show up on a moments notice to attend a social event. My MIL got annoyed the other night because they had to wait for DS's tobi to finish and "when's he going to be done with that". Sigh!
 

Ratatosk

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Staff member
I feel your pain -- My MIL is forever "forgetting" to tell us that someone is sick, etc. I get so tired of hearing that someone just has a cold, only to show up and hear the cough and am later told it's bronchitis or pneumonia.

Basically every once in awhile, DH has a "come to jesus" meeting with his parents. Explains that if we show up and find out that someone is sick, that we very well may turn around and go home.

There are a couple of his uncles who've had frequent skin and lung infections. Basically DH has tried to explain that should one of them have something as severe as MRSA, then they're going to have to think long and hard about whether or not they'll want to see their grandson. This was his most recent conversation with them when it was determined that one of his aunts by marriage (who we never see) had MRSA pneumonia. My MIL got a "little" peeved by the whole conversation and said, how do you know that people in the grocery store don't have these things. I'm afraid she still doesn't get it and that it's going to take DS getting sick for the seriousness of it all to set in.

And I agree with Jazzysmom -- my inlaws only seem to see the healthy side. They forget about the number of hours we spend on treatments, meds etc and get annoyed when we just can't show up on a moments notice to attend a social event. My MIL got annoyed the other night because they had to wait for DS's tobi to finish and "when's he going to be done with that". Sigh!
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I feel your pain -- My MIL is forever "forgetting" to tell us that someone is sick, etc. I get so tired of hearing that someone just has a cold, only to show up and hear the cough and am later told it's bronchitis or pneumonia.

Basically every once in awhile, DH has a "come to jesus" meeting with his parents. Explains that if we show up and find out that someone is sick, that we very well may turn around and go home.

There are a couple of his uncles who've had frequent skin and lung infections. Basically DH has tried to explain that should one of them have something as severe as MRSA, then they're going to have to think long and hard about whether or not they'll want to see their grandson. This was his most recent conversation with them when it was determined that one of his aunts by marriage (who we never see) had MRSA pneumonia. My MIL got a "little" peeved by the whole conversation and said, how do you know that people in the grocery store don't have these things. I'm afraid she still doesn't get it and that it's going to take DS getting sick for the seriousness of it all to set in.

And I agree with Jazzysmom -- my inlaws only seem to see the healthy side. They forget about the number of hours we spend on treatments, meds etc and get annoyed when we just can't show up on a moments notice to attend a social event. My MIL got annoyed the other night because they had to wait for DS's tobi to finish and "when's he going to be done with that". Sigh!
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I feel your pain -- My MIL is forever "forgetting" to tell us that someone is sick, etc. I get so tired of hearing that someone just has a cold, only to show up and hear the cough and am later told it's bronchitis or pneumonia.
<br />
<br />Basically every once in awhile, DH has a "come to jesus" meeting with his parents. Explains that if we show up and find out that someone is sick, that we very well may turn around and go home.
<br />
<br />There are a couple of his uncles who've had frequent skin and lung infections. Basically DH has tried to explain that should one of them have something as severe as MRSA, then they're going to have to think long and hard about whether or not they'll want to see their grandson. This was his most recent conversation with them when it was determined that one of his aunts by marriage (who we never see) had MRSA pneumonia. My MIL got a "little" peeved by the whole conversation and said, how do you know that people in the grocery store don't have these things. I'm afraid she still doesn't get it and that it's going to take DS getting sick for the seriousness of it all to set in.
<br />
<br />And I agree with Jazzysmom -- my inlaws only seem to see the healthy side. They forget about the number of hours we spend on treatments, meds etc and get annoyed when we just can't show up on a moments notice to attend a social event. My MIL got annoyed the other night because they had to wait for DS's tobi to finish and "when's he going to be done with that". Sigh!
 

JORDYSMOM

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Oh yeah, it's the same with my family. We went to Easter dinner at my in-laws to find my nephew throwing up and running a fever. AND, his mother is a nurse! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0"> She is also the one who used to complain endlessly when my other SIL would bring her child over with a runny nose, because she was tired of her kids getting things.

I went to visit my mother over last weekend. Two of my sisters showed up, and both of them had fevers and coughs/congestion.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

Sadly, you are not alone in this category.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

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Oh yeah, it's the same with my family. We went to Easter dinner at my in-laws to find my nephew throwing up and running a fever. AND, his mother is a nurse! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0"> She is also the one who used to complain endlessly when my other SIL would bring her child over with a runny nose, because she was tired of her kids getting things.

I went to visit my mother over last weekend. Two of my sisters showed up, and both of them had fevers and coughs/congestion.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

Sadly, you are not alone in this category.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

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Oh yeah, it's the same with my family. We went to Easter dinner at my in-laws to find my nephew throwing up and running a fever. AND, his mother is a nurse! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0"> She is also the one who used to complain endlessly when my other SIL would bring her child over with a runny nose, because she was tired of her kids getting things.

I went to visit my mother over last weekend. Two of my sisters showed up, and both of them had fevers and coughs/congestion.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

Sadly, you are not alone in this category.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

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Oh yeah, it's the same with my family. We went to Easter dinner at my in-laws to find my nephew throwing up and running a fever. AND, his mother is a nurse! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0"> She is also the one who used to complain endlessly when my other SIL would bring her child over with a runny nose, because she was tired of her kids getting things.

I went to visit my mother over last weekend. Two of my sisters showed up, and both of them had fevers and coughs/congestion.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

Sadly, you are not alone in this category.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
Oh yeah, it's the same with my family. We went to Easter dinner at my in-laws to find my nephew throwing up and running a fever. AND, his mother is a nurse! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0"> She is also the one who used to complain endlessly when my other SIL would bring her child over with a runny nose, because she was tired of her kids getting things.
<br />
<br />I went to visit my mother over last weekend. Two of my sisters showed up, and both of them had fevers and coughs/congestion.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
<br />
<br />Sadly, you are not alone in this category.
<br />
<br />Stacey
 
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