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FEELING JEALOUS
- Thread starter MOME2RT
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I understand, Asher was diagnosed at two weeks. All I could think was that we are supposed to be enjoying this precious little baby and now all I could do was cry and worry about his future. I still feel jealous of all the new mothers out there who are watching their new babies hit growth milestones and we have to give this sweet little baby pills every feeding and special formula to hope to acheive the same growth milestones.
I guess I had a rough day.
Sorry
Amanda
Mother of a 4 month old Cfer
I guess I had a rough day.
Sorry
Amanda
Mother of a 4 month old Cfer
I understand, Asher was diagnosed at two weeks. All I could think was that we are supposed to be enjoying this precious little baby and now all I could do was cry and worry about his future. I still feel jealous of all the new mothers out there who are watching their new babies hit growth milestones and we have to give this sweet little baby pills every feeding and special formula to hope to acheive the same growth milestones.
I guess I had a rough day.
Sorry
Amanda
Mother of a 4 month old Cfer
I guess I had a rough day.
Sorry
Amanda
Mother of a 4 month old Cfer
I understand, Asher was diagnosed at two weeks. All I could think was that we are supposed to be enjoying this precious little baby and now all I could do was cry and worry about his future. I still feel jealous of all the new mothers out there who are watching their new babies hit growth milestones and we have to give this sweet little baby pills every feeding and special formula to hope to acheive the same growth milestones.
I guess I had a rough day.
Sorry
Amanda
Mother of a 4 month old Cfer
I guess I had a rough day.
Sorry
Amanda
Mother of a 4 month old Cfer
M
mneville
Guest
I think we all have those days. When Aidan is sick, I tend to blame it all on CF even if it is not CF related.
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
M
mneville
Guest
I think we all have those days. When Aidan is sick, I tend to blame it all on CF even if it is not CF related.
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
M
mneville
Guest
I think we all have those days. When Aidan is sick, I tend to blame it all on CF even if it is not CF related.
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
M
mneville
Guest
I think we all have those days. When Aidan is sick, I tend to blame it all on CF even if it is not CF related.
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
M
mneville
Guest
I think we all have those days. When Aidan is sick, I tend to blame it all on CF even if it is not CF related.
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
M
mneville
Guest
I think we all have those days. When Aidan is sick, I tend to blame it all on CF even if it is not CF related.
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
I think of all the parents today who are faced with raising children with autism- that is a tough calling. 1 out of 166 births or something outrageous like that. So although I have crappy CF days, I know it could be worse. I try to take one day at a time and truly believe he will healthy and happy.
Megan
mistylavon
New member
I can completely relate to this. I went to a baby shower with baby there about 1 1/2 months after Morgan was diagnosed. It was so hard, I felt so jealous and was teary eyed the majority of the time and people were asking me all about CF, it was difficult. We moved last year to be closer to our CF clinic and when we moved I had 3 good friends that were all pregnant, I was honestly glad I wasn't there when they had them or I had to do the shower thing, it just would have been too hard. One of the friends had asked me to be at the birth but we ended up moving. I would use to love to hold any new baby that I saw and it really made me want another baby or miss being pregnant. Not anymore, it's really weird now, I have absolutely no desire to hold a new baby or ew and ah over it. I just can't do it.
You are not alone!
Misty
You are not alone!
Misty
mistylavon
New member
I can completely relate to this. I went to a baby shower with baby there about 1 1/2 months after Morgan was diagnosed. It was so hard, I felt so jealous and was teary eyed the majority of the time and people were asking me all about CF, it was difficult. We moved last year to be closer to our CF clinic and when we moved I had 3 good friends that were all pregnant, I was honestly glad I wasn't there when they had them or I had to do the shower thing, it just would have been too hard. One of the friends had asked me to be at the birth but we ended up moving. I would use to love to hold any new baby that I saw and it really made me want another baby or miss being pregnant. Not anymore, it's really weird now, I have absolutely no desire to hold a new baby or ew and ah over it. I just can't do it.
You are not alone!
Misty
You are not alone!
Misty
mistylavon
New member
I can completely relate to this. I went to a baby shower with baby there about 1 1/2 months after Morgan was diagnosed. It was so hard, I felt so jealous and was teary eyed the majority of the time and people were asking me all about CF, it was difficult. We moved last year to be closer to our CF clinic and when we moved I had 3 good friends that were all pregnant, I was honestly glad I wasn't there when they had them or I had to do the shower thing, it just would have been too hard. One of the friends had asked me to be at the birth but we ended up moving. I would use to love to hold any new baby that I saw and it really made me want another baby or miss being pregnant. Not anymore, it's really weird now, I have absolutely no desire to hold a new baby or ew and ah over it. I just can't do it.
You are not alone!
Misty
You are not alone!
Misty
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>
For me it was shortly after DS was born and recovering in the NICU for 4 weeks from surgery due to mecoium illeus -- I'd feel pure rage at pregnant women. I can remember going to the cafeteria and seeing couples gathering for childbirth classes -- I just wanted to shove them. That and sarah jessica parker, who gave birth around the same time I did and every entertainment/women's magazine had articles about her perfect life and her perfect babies... Bleah!
I was feeling a little down this weekend 'cuz so many times DS is enjoying playing outdoors and I have to call him in to do his vest & nebs. It's especially difficult right now 'cuz he's got Tobi, so it takes a bit longer.</end quote></div>
Jealousy at times, may be normal, but I do not understand how someone can have rage towards pregnant women. Your child was born, they didn't die at birth, and who knows, maybe they are carrying a child with CF. At least your child can go outside and play and not permentaly strapped to a wheelchair and will never walk.
For me it was shortly after DS was born and recovering in the NICU for 4 weeks from surgery due to mecoium illeus -- I'd feel pure rage at pregnant women. I can remember going to the cafeteria and seeing couples gathering for childbirth classes -- I just wanted to shove them. That and sarah jessica parker, who gave birth around the same time I did and every entertainment/women's magazine had articles about her perfect life and her perfect babies... Bleah!
I was feeling a little down this weekend 'cuz so many times DS is enjoying playing outdoors and I have to call him in to do his vest & nebs. It's especially difficult right now 'cuz he's got Tobi, so it takes a bit longer.</end quote></div>
Jealousy at times, may be normal, but I do not understand how someone can have rage towards pregnant women. Your child was born, they didn't die at birth, and who knows, maybe they are carrying a child with CF. At least your child can go outside and play and not permentaly strapped to a wheelchair and will never walk.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>
For me it was shortly after DS was born and recovering in the NICU for 4 weeks from surgery due to mecoium illeus -- I'd feel pure rage at pregnant women. I can remember going to the cafeteria and seeing couples gathering for childbirth classes -- I just wanted to shove them. That and sarah jessica parker, who gave birth around the same time I did and every entertainment/women's magazine had articles about her perfect life and her perfect babies... Bleah!
I was feeling a little down this weekend 'cuz so many times DS is enjoying playing outdoors and I have to call him in to do his vest & nebs. It's especially difficult right now 'cuz he's got Tobi, so it takes a bit longer.</end quote></div>
Jealousy at times, may be normal, but I do not understand how someone can have rage towards pregnant women. Your child was born, they didn't die at birth, and who knows, maybe they are carrying a child with CF. At least your child can go outside and play and not permentaly strapped to a wheelchair and will never walk.
For me it was shortly after DS was born and recovering in the NICU for 4 weeks from surgery due to mecoium illeus -- I'd feel pure rage at pregnant women. I can remember going to the cafeteria and seeing couples gathering for childbirth classes -- I just wanted to shove them. That and sarah jessica parker, who gave birth around the same time I did and every entertainment/women's magazine had articles about her perfect life and her perfect babies... Bleah!
I was feeling a little down this weekend 'cuz so many times DS is enjoying playing outdoors and I have to call him in to do his vest & nebs. It's especially difficult right now 'cuz he's got Tobi, so it takes a bit longer.</end quote></div>
Jealousy at times, may be normal, but I do not understand how someone can have rage towards pregnant women. Your child was born, they didn't die at birth, and who knows, maybe they are carrying a child with CF. At least your child can go outside and play and not permentaly strapped to a wheelchair and will never walk.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>
For me it was shortly after DS was born and recovering in the NICU for 4 weeks from surgery due to mecoium illeus -- I'd feel pure rage at pregnant women. I can remember going to the cafeteria and seeing couples gathering for childbirth classes -- I just wanted to shove them. That and sarah jessica parker, who gave birth around the same time I did and every entertainment/women's magazine had articles about her perfect life and her perfect babies... Bleah!
I was feeling a little down this weekend 'cuz so many times DS is enjoying playing outdoors and I have to call him in to do his vest & nebs. It's especially difficult right now 'cuz he's got Tobi, so it takes a bit longer.</end quote></div>
Jealousy at times, may be normal, but I do not understand how someone can have rage towards pregnant women. Your child was born, they didn't die at birth, and who knows, maybe they are carrying a child with CF. At least your child can go outside and play and not permentaly strapped to a wheelchair and will never walk.
For me it was shortly after DS was born and recovering in the NICU for 4 weeks from surgery due to mecoium illeus -- I'd feel pure rage at pregnant women. I can remember going to the cafeteria and seeing couples gathering for childbirth classes -- I just wanted to shove them. That and sarah jessica parker, who gave birth around the same time I did and every entertainment/women's magazine had articles about her perfect life and her perfect babies... Bleah!
I was feeling a little down this weekend 'cuz so many times DS is enjoying playing outdoors and I have to call him in to do his vest & nebs. It's especially difficult right now 'cuz he's got Tobi, so it takes a bit longer.</end quote></div>
Jealousy at times, may be normal, but I do not understand how someone can have rage towards pregnant women. Your child was born, they didn't die at birth, and who knows, maybe they are carrying a child with CF. At least your child can go outside and play and not permentaly strapped to a wheelchair and will never walk.
Emily65Roses
New member
It may not make sense, but everyone has an "adjustment" period that often is a lot of emotional garbage behind which there is no logic.
Emily65Roses
New member
It may not make sense, but everyone has an "adjustment" period that often is a lot of emotional garbage behind which there is no logic.
Emily65Roses
New member
It may not make sense, but everyone has an "adjustment" period that often is a lot of emotional garbage behind which there is no logic.
At the time we didn't know if DS was going to live or not. He had several infections while recovering in the NICU from surgery which repaired his bowel obstruction, removed dead tissue, cleaned out infection, repaired a section that burst. Even his nurse was shaken when she had to hold him during a spinal tap when the feared he might have meningitis at one point.
Finding out your newborn has cf is a big shock -- and a grieving process -- go thru all the stages of grief. And I went thru the whole gammut -- disbelief, anger, eventually acceptance. And yes, I did see children a lot worse off than DS.
And like a couple other people who've posted here -- I really don't have any desire anymore to attend baby showers or hold newborns who come to visit our office. I enjoy our son. He's a great little guy. And he pretty much leads a normal life. Still don't care to hear about Sara Jessica Parker or Brooke Shields and what wonderful mommies they are <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Finding out your newborn has cf is a big shock -- and a grieving process -- go thru all the stages of grief. And I went thru the whole gammut -- disbelief, anger, eventually acceptance. And yes, I did see children a lot worse off than DS.
And like a couple other people who've posted here -- I really don't have any desire anymore to attend baby showers or hold newborns who come to visit our office. I enjoy our son. He's a great little guy. And he pretty much leads a normal life. Still don't care to hear about Sara Jessica Parker or Brooke Shields and what wonderful mommies they are <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">