Like everyone says, you just have to hang in there julie. It's a crock that the military hasn't changed since time began. You are considered the property of the government--they are not taking good care of their property! More power to you for keeping up with the pumping. If you have be insubordinant--do it. The well-being of your children is more important. This looks like a strong case for sexual harrassment going on here. This was an extensive surgery what with it being triplets. . . .Anyway, hopefully it will all work out eventually. I wish you and Mark well and hope he can handle it all ok. By the way, this can go in adults if you want! I'm tired of all the controversy about what is right for a topic. How are you feeling physically, by the way--besides being tired? Take care, and try to de-stress at night (ha, with 3 kids !)