friend trouble, please help!

[princessgiggles]

Hey guys,
just wanted to get your advice on this little predicament i'm in-A few weeks ago i was at a party with my best friend n the rest of our friends n my best friend, sara, got very drunk she was staying with me aswell as my other friend but my best friend, sara, so when we got home she was really sick and wasn't concious soi had to call my parents cos i didn't know what to do etc., so long story short i had to change her into her clothes and hand them out to my friend so she rinsed them, put them in a bag and left it down stairs but accidently my mum picked up the bag, along with another full of tissues etc and put them both in the bin. 2 wks past and we had all gotten over the horrible night sara apologised and it was forgotten about, but then sara rang me and asked for her top and flip-flops and i searched everywhere, my mum then discovered what she had done and told me, so i rang sara, aplogised, explained the situation, that i was so worried bout her that night i didn't even think bout her clothes and she told me she didn't know what to say and hung up on me. 2 wks has past and not a word. i txt her to say sorry again and called her phone but she didn't answer. the other day she sent her boyfriend in to the shop where we work to get her hours cos she knew i was working and today she passed me in the supermarket, i said hi she looked at me and nothing. Despite this stupidity of this situation, i really hate fighting with her it's not that i'm lonely without her because i'm lucky enough to have alot of friends, i just miss her and i'm so hurt considerin i did so much for her that night, i really wanna call her tell her off for treating me this way etc, and talk about it until we're friends again but my parents and friends don't i should what do you guys think?
Wb please, i'm really stuck here<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
Shauna xx

 

[julie]

Wow, sounds like your friend doesn't really care too much for you or your feelings. You went out of your way to make sure she was taken care of, and she is mad because her clothes accidentally got thrown out.. my good lord. How long have you two been friends, because if it hasn't been for about 5 years or more, I would recommend you find a new friend. Of course, I don't know the whole situation, but seriously, I would never treat one of my friends like that. You don't owe her an apology, she owes you a huge thank you, a card, and some flowers for making sure she was taken care of and didn't drown in her own vomit becuase she got so drunk that she passed out. Some people... I am sorry she is treating you so badly

 

[rose4cale]

She's not showing you any respect and she should be the one feeling sorry for getting out of control. (I feel like a real a$$ if I drink too much like that) I'm not one that likes confrontation, but I would have to say she deserves an earful. You did nothing but take care of her. She can replace a shirt and flip flops for like under $30 and she's willing to throw away a good friend for that????? I'd call her and let her know how you're feeling and if she can't apologize to you, I'd have to say your better off hanging out with your real friends.

Good Luck!

 

[anonymous]

WELL, THIS IS A DAMN SHAME!!!!I DON'T CARE IF THE CLOTHES WERE VERSACE, OR WHATEVER, THIS JUST SHOWS YOU IN THE END YOU CAN'T DEPEND ON NOONE BUT YOUR SELF............DON'T EVER FORGET THAT GIRL BECAUSE I SPEAK THE TRUTH AND THE TRUTH COMES FROM EXPERIENCE. FROM THIS DAY ON, CONSIDER IT A LOSS, BUT AS SAD AS THIS MAY SOUND, LOOSE HER NUMBER, AND DON'T EVEN ACCKNOWLEDGE HER PERIOD, NO NICE HELLOS' OR NOTHING, WHAT A SHAME.................................................................................................................................................................................................................!

 

[princessgiggles]

Hey guys,

Thanks so much for you're replies i'm definitely gonna just move on, it'll be tough cos we've been friends for 6yrs and she's in my class in school but guess it's just one of those life lessons, you're so right anon, really can't depend on anyone but yourself.
Appreciate you guys and your time you all took to reply to my message so much, thank you.
Lots of love, luck and laughter, Shauna xx

 

[julie]

Shauna,

anon is right to a point, but just don't go around in life thinking you can't trust anyone else every-because that can make you a very unhappy person. You have to have a few (or a lot) of "Bad" friends before you find one (or more if you are very lucky) good friend(s). The same is true with men, quite a few will screw you over and hurt you bad before you find one that is worht your time. But don't write everyone off as the type you can never depend on. I wish you the best

 

[Emily65Roses]

What Julie said. I went through quite a few bonehead loser guys and friends before I found the good ones. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Just have to keep looking.

 

[anonymous]

I think you should write her a letter, explaining exactly how you feel. Say that she could have been seriously sick and that you were only looking out for her but next time if she'd rather you left her in the cold for some stranger to pick her up then you will. The thing with letters is, at least she'll prob read it...

Shamrock, x

 

[yukylngs]

Shauna, I wouldn't suggest moving on until you talk to Sara about how you feel. Please don't go through life thinking that you can't trust anyone but yourself because that is so untrue. Back to Sara. Have a talk with her. Explain to her how scared you were that night and how you helped her the best you could. If it would make her feel better replace her clothes and shoes. Sure if she is your best friend she should understand and you shouldn't have to do that, but i say if it will make things better than go for it. Something so petty is not worth loosing your best friend over. I don't think you are being the petty one at all by the way. Just don't give up without having that chat first. It could save your friendship. If it doesn't work then she isn't a very good friend and that is when you move on. I am by no means an expert i just think this is the more mature way of handling things.

~JeRi<img src="i/expressions/moon.gif" border="0">

 

[Becstar]

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> I'm so sorry that happend to you but it sounds like to me that she is not a good friend any way but keep trying but if she is going to be like that then for get her oh can you help me please i have the same problem I've Been mates with this girl and she s not really a good mate so can you give me some tips tp call off the friendship Oh she is in my class