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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kilotron</b></i> <div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Swallowtail66</b></i> Love makes you very vulnerable, but without vulnerablity, love cannotbring the greatest joy. Talk to a pastor or a counselor if you are depressed, but you have to choose the depth you wish to love. If you do not risk the pain of your friend dying, you cannot gain the joy of your friend living. When you take control of the choice, you take control of the sadness.
</end quote> Thanks for your post... that's an interesting way to think about it. I'm not sure if I understand what you're suggesting though... controlling how much you love a person?</end quote>
I'm 36 and living with CF. I've had friends in the past like youwho had a difficult time dealing with the fact that I was likely to die before them. Ironically, one of those friends waskilled in a home invasion/robbery three years ago, and my best friend in the world (and also my personal trainer and workout partner) passed away suddenly in his sleep last summer. He was the healthiest guy I knew and also had the biggest heart. In fact, I was told he died of an arrythmia caused by an enlarged heart. Out of everyone I expected to outlive me, he was at the top of the list. Kind of ironic, huh?
Most people with CF came to terms with the fact that theirtime on Earth is finite a long time ago. This acceptance, for the most part, allows us to cherish each day and to live as positively as possible given our illness.
How does all this relate to the post I quoted? Nobody knows when they are going to die. Not your friend with CF, and not even you. There is no way to know which one of you is going to pass away first. Whichever one of you does is going to leave a big hole in the other person's heart. Isn't that what friendship is really all about?
Everyone will hurt you at some point. It's the ones that you don't mind hurting for that become your friends.
</end quote> Thanks for your post... that's an interesting way to think about it. I'm not sure if I understand what you're suggesting though... controlling how much you love a person?</end quote>
I'm 36 and living with CF. I've had friends in the past like youwho had a difficult time dealing with the fact that I was likely to die before them. Ironically, one of those friends waskilled in a home invasion/robbery three years ago, and my best friend in the world (and also my personal trainer and workout partner) passed away suddenly in his sleep last summer. He was the healthiest guy I knew and also had the biggest heart. In fact, I was told he died of an arrythmia caused by an enlarged heart. Out of everyone I expected to outlive me, he was at the top of the list. Kind of ironic, huh?
Most people with CF came to terms with the fact that theirtime on Earth is finite a long time ago. This acceptance, for the most part, allows us to cherish each day and to live as positively as possible given our illness.
How does all this relate to the post I quoted? Nobody knows when they are going to die. Not your friend with CF, and not even you. There is no way to know which one of you is going to pass away first. Whichever one of you does is going to leave a big hole in the other person's heart. Isn't that what friendship is really all about?
Everyone will hurt you at some point. It's the ones that you don't mind hurting for that become your friends.