Frustrated with husband

B

BabyBeauty

New member
So at dinner tonight my husband said, "Oh, my old college buddy has a connection with CF. He was going to marry this girl with CF, but she died before they could get married." I just dropped my head and was apphauled at how brutal he was in saying this.

We have a 2 1/2 year old with CF and I am not saying I won't be honest with her when she asks questions. I am not going to sugar coat things. But on the other hand we don't need our 2 1/2 year old having nightmares or stress when she doesn't need it.

What are your thoughts?
 
B

BabyBeauty

New member
So at dinner tonight my husband said, "Oh, my old college buddy has a connection with CF. He was going to marry this girl with CF, but she died before they could get married." I just dropped my head and was apphauled at how brutal he was in saying this.

We have a 2 1/2 year old with CF and I am not saying I won't be honest with her when she asks questions. I am not going to sugar coat things. But on the other hand we don't need our 2 1/2 year old having nightmares or stress when she doesn't need it.

What are your thoughts?
 
B

BabyBeauty

New member
So at dinner tonight my husband said, "Oh, my old college buddy has a connection with CF. He was going to marry this girl with CF, but she died before they could get married." I just dropped my head and was apphauled at how brutal he was in saying this.
<br />
<br />We have a 2 1/2 year old with CF and I am not saying I won't be honest with her when she asks questions. I am not going to sugar coat things. But on the other hand we don't need our 2 1/2 year old having nightmares or stress when she doesn't need it.
<br />
<br />What are your thoughts?
 
E

elliesmom

New member
a 2 1/2 year old will forget that comment, if she even was paying attention, when the next thing catches her attention. Did she make a comment to that or not? If she didn't say anything-don't worry about it. At that age they can't make a connection between cf and dying. My now 17 y/o daughter never made a connection until she was 14 and writing something for church and I told her to look up the stats on line-that's when she realized that she MIGHT die of cf-so far she is living fully with it!! Don't let it stress you out! She will be fine.
 
E

elliesmom

New member
a 2 1/2 year old will forget that comment, if she even was paying attention, when the next thing catches her attention. Did she make a comment to that or not? If she didn't say anything-don't worry about it. At that age they can't make a connection between cf and dying. My now 17 y/o daughter never made a connection until she was 14 and writing something for church and I told her to look up the stats on line-that's when she realized that she MIGHT die of cf-so far she is living fully with it!! Don't let it stress you out! She will be fine.
 
E

elliesmom

New member
a 2 1/2 year old will forget that comment, if she even was paying attention, when the next thing catches her attention. Did she make a comment to that or not? If she didn't say anything-don't worry about it. At that age they can't make a connection between cf and dying. My now 17 y/o daughter never made a connection until she was 14 and writing something for church and I told her to look up the stats on line-that's when she realized that she MIGHT die of cf-so far she is living fully with it!! Don't let it stress you out! She will be fine.
 
N

NancyLKF

New member
I agree with elliesmom. Husbands are annoying like that but it probably won't stick with her. It is probably hurting you a lot more, as I know it hurts me to hear something like that. If my husband had said it, I know I would be frustrated with him.
My friend's two girls are older than that - 8ish and 11ish. They were very open with them about having CF and that it is life-threatening and the girls even did Make a Wish. And then one of them saw a Make a Wish commercial and screamed, "we have a life-threatening condition?". It was as if she remembered nothing of what she had been told.
That's kids for ya, I guess.
 
N

NancyLKF

New member
I agree with elliesmom. Husbands are annoying like that but it probably won't stick with her. It is probably hurting you a lot more, as I know it hurts me to hear something like that. If my husband had said it, I know I would be frustrated with him.
My friend's two girls are older than that - 8ish and 11ish. They were very open with them about having CF and that it is life-threatening and the girls even did Make a Wish. And then one of them saw a Make a Wish commercial and screamed, "we have a life-threatening condition?". It was as if she remembered nothing of what she had been told.
That's kids for ya, I guess.
 
N

NancyLKF

New member
I agree with elliesmom. Husbands are annoying like that but it probably won't stick with her. It is probably hurting you a lot more, as I know it hurts me to hear something like that. If my husband had said it, I know I would be frustrated with him.
<br />My friend's two girls are older than that - 8ish and 11ish. They were very open with them about having CF and that it is life-threatening and the girls even did Make a Wish. And then one of them saw a Make a Wish commercial and screamed, "we have a life-threatening condition?". It was as if she remembered nothing of what she had been told.
<br />That's kids for ya, I guess.
 
Z

zaj1139

New member
My two and half year old grandson would not have understood the conversation. I think you are fine, Men can't live with em can't live without them (they kill bugs) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
Z

zaj1139

New member
My two and half year old grandson would not have understood the conversation. I think you are fine, Men can't live with em can't live without them (they kill bugs) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
Z

zaj1139

New member
My two and half year old grandson would not have understood the conversation. I think you are fine, Men can't live with em can't live without them (they kill bugs) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
 
B

BabyBeauty

New member
You guys made me feel better! My mil said the same thing, but I just chalked that one up to her being on his side!! Haha! When it comes from you, it sounds better!!!

I do agree it just hurt me more in his bluntness. I need to buck up and not be so sensitive!

Thanks!
 
B

BabyBeauty

New member
You guys made me feel better! My mil said the same thing, but I just chalked that one up to her being on his side!! Haha! When it comes from you, it sounds better!!!

I do agree it just hurt me more in his bluntness. I need to buck up and not be so sensitive!

Thanks!
 
B

BabyBeauty

New member
You guys made me feel better! My mil said the same thing, but I just chalked that one up to her being on his side!! Haha! When it comes from you, it sounds better!!!
<br />
<br />I do agree it just hurt me more in his bluntness. I need to buck up and not be so sensitive!
<br />
<br />Thanks!
 
R

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I think we all have those moments. Where you hear the words coming out of your mouth and wish you could pull them back in. Imagine he was just making conversation and just didn't think. Husbands! Sigh...
 
R

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I think we all have those moments. Where you hear the words coming out of your mouth and wish you could pull them back in. Imagine he was just making conversation and just didn't think. Husbands! Sigh...
 
R

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I think we all have those moments. Where you hear the words coming out of your mouth and wish you could pull them back in. Imagine he was just making conversation and just didn't think. Husbands! Sigh...
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top