thefrogprincess,
I appreciate your concern, but I think you are approaching your goals in the wrong way. I am not a girl so I can't say I understand your pangs for marriage specifically. However, I am a man whose nature has always been toward the romantic, and felt when I was single that marriage was something special for me. I worked for a long time to locate the right girl for the deed, but never seemed to get close enough to the bulls-eye. Eventually I found what I was looking for, but in hindsight, when I found it I was focused on improving myself. I actually wasn't focused on finding a girl or even the hint of marriage at the time I found one. Sure, I'd ask the occasional pretty girl out, but I was more going out just to "meet and greet", rather than hunt for the girl that met my desired specifications for marriage. At one point earlier on in my bachelorhood, marriage was the goal, but at the point when I began to focus on me and my growth and joy (actually forgetting about the want to get married to someone), and not the goal of marriage, funny enough I met a great girl. Even when for a good while in the dating process, marriage wasn't on my to-do list.
I guess my point is, I am married now and the process came about naturally from my desires and efforts to invest, improve, and focus on myself, and by just simply enjoying the moment. This is maybe how you should approach your endeavor. Just look to yourself and focus on yourself and the things you need in life will come naturally. Besides, any single guy or girl finds more interesting the person who takes care of his or her own needs, and invests in himself or herself, not the person who is focused on the other person. The person who is focused on the other persons needs and the idea of marriage is not attractive, that's just needy and smarmy. And it is even worse if that person thinks marriage as an event or cathartic process will bring one happiness, fulfillment and contentment. I am not saying be selfish and self-centered. I am more saying -the strength and autonomy that come from investing in your growth and happiness is attractive to the opposite sex, not the attitude - "I need or want someone to make me happy and fulfill this goal I have."
I can say definitively as a guy, I would have ran hard and fast away from the girl who felt I was the source of her happiness, curing her loneliness and punching her marriage card. I wanted someone who had strength in her individuality, and could be happy and fulfilled in her autonomy. Once such a person gets to know you, assuming you are similarly aligned, that person will want you to join them in their pursuit for joy and happiness. Marriage isn't the destination but part, (a very small part) of the journey.
Good luck,
Grendel