Help, need some advice...

lexisangels05 · May 1, 2009

I need an opinion again. So my sister in law who always smells really strong has done better. I finally made her a cute little basket with all fragrance free products. She used them and still smelled really strong. I was so confused. I finally realized after going to her house to drop off some things that it smells like a yankee candle shop in there. I have not been overthere in a while, so I did not realize that this was the cause of part of our problems. What do I do. I can not very well ask her to take her air fresheners out of her home, but Lexi gets so congested around her. She rarely comes to our house but helps my mother-in-law (who keeps my kids) almost everyday. Lexi is so congested during the week and sometimes will even run a fever. On the weekends she gets better, by Monday am her cough is minimal. Then she goes around SIL again and it starts all over.

I know this is not good for Lexi....she used to never cough and since SIL moved to town and has started helping with the kids...she is always congested. I know this inflammation is wrecking her lungs.

How do I handle this? Any suggestions. To put it mildly...SIL smells so strong of "Clean Linen" by Yankee you can smell her from feet away...no joke. If she gives the kids something that has been in her house I have to wash it first. The other day she printed some pictures off for me and 5-6 hours later you could smell the fragrance off of them and never put them even close to your nose.

Help please!

lexisangels05 · May 1, 2009

I need an opinion again. So my sister in law who always smells really strong has done better. I finally made her a cute little basket with all fragrance free products. She used them and still smelled really strong. I was so confused. I finally realized after going to her house to drop off some things that it smells like a yankee candle shop in there. I have not been overthere in a while, so I did not realize that this was the cause of part of our problems. What do I do. I can not very well ask her to take her air fresheners out of her home, but Lexi gets so congested around her. She rarely comes to our house but helps my mother-in-law (who keeps my kids) almost everyday. Lexi is so congested during the week and sometimes will even run a fever. On the weekends she gets better, by Monday am her cough is minimal. Then she goes around SIL again and it starts all over.

I know this is not good for Lexi....she used to never cough and since SIL moved to town and has started helping with the kids...she is always congested. I know this inflammation is wrecking her lungs.

How do I handle this? Any suggestions. To put it mildly...SIL smells so strong of "Clean Linen" by Yankee you can smell her from feet away...no joke. If she gives the kids something that has been in her house I have to wash it first. The other day she printed some pictures off for me and 5-6 hours later you could smell the fragrance off of them and never put them even close to your nose.

Help please!

lexisangels05 · May 1, 2009

I need an opinion again. So my sister in law who always smells really strong has done better. I finally made her a cute little basket with all fragrance free products. She used them and still smelled really strong. I was so confused. I finally realized after going to her house to drop off some things that it smells like a yankee candle shop in there. I have not been overthere in a while, so I did not realize that this was the cause of part of our problems. What do I do. I can not very well ask her to take her air fresheners out of her home, but Lexi gets so congested around her. She rarely comes to our house but helps my mother-in-law (who keeps my kids) almost everyday. Lexi is so congested during the week and sometimes will even run a fever. On the weekends she gets better, by Monday am her cough is minimal. Then she goes around SIL again and it starts all over.

I know this is not good for Lexi....she used to never cough and since SIL moved to town and has started helping with the kids...she is always congested. I know this inflammation is wrecking her lungs.

How do I handle this? Any suggestions. To put it mildly...SIL smells so strong of "Clean Linen" by Yankee you can smell her from feet away...no joke. If she gives the kids something that has been in her house I have to wash it first. The other day she printed some pictures off for me and 5-6 hours later you could smell the fragrance off of them and never put them even close to your nose.

Help please!

lexisangels05 · May 1, 2009

I need an opinion again. So my sister in law who always smells really strong has done better. I finally made her a cute little basket with all fragrance free products. She used them and still smelled really strong. I was so confused. I finally realized after going to her house to drop off some things that it smells like a yankee candle shop in there. I have not been overthere in a while, so I did not realize that this was the cause of part of our problems. What do I do. I can not very well ask her to take her air fresheners out of her home, but Lexi gets so congested around her. She rarely comes to our house but helps my mother-in-law (who keeps my kids) almost everyday. Lexi is so congested during the week and sometimes will even run a fever. On the weekends she gets better, by Monday am her cough is minimal. Then she goes around SIL again and it starts all over.

I know this is not good for Lexi....she used to never cough and since SIL moved to town and has started helping with the kids...she is always congested. I know this inflammation is wrecking her lungs.

How do I handle this? Any suggestions. To put it mildly...SIL smells so strong of "Clean Linen" by Yankee you can smell her from feet away...no joke. If she gives the kids something that has been in her house I have to wash it first. The other day she printed some pictures off for me and 5-6 hours later you could smell the fragrance off of them and never put them even close to your nose.

Help please!

lexisangels05 · May 1, 2009

I need an opinion again. So my sister in law who always smells really strong has done better. I finally made her a cute little basket with all fragrance free products. She used them and still smelled really strong. I was so confused. I finally realized after going to her house to drop off some things that it smells like a yankee candle shop in there. I have not been overthere in a while, so I did not realize that this was the cause of part of our problems. What do I do. I can not very well ask her to take her air fresheners out of her home, but Lexi gets so congested around her. She rarely comes to our house but helps my mother-in-law (who keeps my kids) almost everyday. Lexi is so congested during the week and sometimes will even run a fever. On the weekends she gets better, by Monday am her cough is minimal. Then she goes around SIL again and it starts all over.
 
 I know this is not good for Lexi....she used to never cough and since SIL moved to town and has started helping with the kids...she is always congested. I know this inflammation is wrecking her lungs.
 
 How do I handle this? Any suggestions. To put it mildly...SIL smells so strong of "Clean Linen" by Yankee you can smell her from feet away...no joke. If she gives the kids something that has been in her house I have to wash it first. The other day she printed some pictures off for me and 5-6 hours later you could smell the fragrance off of them and never put them even close to your nose.
 
 Help please!

JazzysMom · May 1, 2009

WOW....

I will have to think about this. For it to be strong enough to leave a scent on the pictures she gave you makes me wonder how your SIL tolerates it herself.....

I hope others have answers in the meantime!

HUGS

JazzysMom · May 1, 2009

WOW....

I will have to think about this. For it to be strong enough to leave a scent on the pictures she gave you makes me wonder how your SIL tolerates it herself.....

I hope others have answers in the meantime!

HUGS

JazzysMom · May 1, 2009

WOW....

I will have to think about this. For it to be strong enough to leave a scent on the pictures she gave you makes me wonder how your SIL tolerates it herself.....

I hope others have answers in the meantime!

HUGS

JazzysMom · May 1, 2009

WOW....

I will have to think about this. For it to be strong enough to leave a scent on the pictures she gave you makes me wonder how your SIL tolerates it herself.....

I hope others have answers in the meantime!

HUGS

JazzysMom · May 1, 2009

WOW....
 
 I will have to think about this. For it to be strong enough to leave a scent on the pictures she gave you makes me wonder how your SIL tolerates it herself.....
 
 I hope others have answers in the meantime!
 
 HUGS

folione · May 1, 2009

Unless you think your SIL would abandon the smelly stuff if you asked, it seems you've got to find ways to mitigate the exposure inflicted upon your tot. If the arrangement with MIL and SIL and child care can't be altered, I wonder if you could get your SIL to do something that reduces how much fragrance she hauls over to MIL's house? (though I'm not sure what to suggest short of a shower and change of clothes) Or what about getting an air purifier into your MIL's house? Also, be sure to have a change of clothes (as least the shirt) for your child to swap into as soon as you pick her up and maybe wipe her hair/hands/face down with a damp washcloth. Also maybe she needs an extra puff of albuterol during the day while in the presence of the SIL.

AFter my boy w/CF was born, I had to tell my mother that her husband had to do something about his pipe-smoking or we would not be able to visit at all; he smokes outside when we're there and they use an air purifier as a result -but we still will not stay overnight there.

folione · May 1, 2009

Unless you think your SIL would abandon the smelly stuff if you asked, it seems you've got to find ways to mitigate the exposure inflicted upon your tot. If the arrangement with MIL and SIL and child care can't be altered, I wonder if you could get your SIL to do something that reduces how much fragrance she hauls over to MIL's house? (though I'm not sure what to suggest short of a shower and change of clothes) Or what about getting an air purifier into your MIL's house? Also, be sure to have a change of clothes (as least the shirt) for your child to swap into as soon as you pick her up and maybe wipe her hair/hands/face down with a damp washcloth. Also maybe she needs an extra puff of albuterol during the day while in the presence of the SIL.

AFter my boy w/CF was born, I had to tell my mother that her husband had to do something about his pipe-smoking or we would not be able to visit at all; he smokes outside when we're there and they use an air purifier as a result -but we still will not stay overnight there.

folione · May 1, 2009

Unless you think your SIL would abandon the smelly stuff if you asked, it seems you've got to find ways to mitigate the exposure inflicted upon your tot. If the arrangement with MIL and SIL and child care can't be altered, I wonder if you could get your SIL to do something that reduces how much fragrance she hauls over to MIL's house? (though I'm not sure what to suggest short of a shower and change of clothes) Or what about getting an air purifier into your MIL's house? Also, be sure to have a change of clothes (as least the shirt) for your child to swap into as soon as you pick her up and maybe wipe her hair/hands/face down with a damp washcloth. Also maybe she needs an extra puff of albuterol during the day while in the presence of the SIL.

AFter my boy w/CF was born, I had to tell my mother that her husband had to do something about his pipe-smoking or we would not be able to visit at all; he smokes outside when we're there and they use an air purifier as a result -but we still will not stay overnight there.

folione · May 1, 2009

Unless you think your SIL would abandon the smelly stuff if you asked, it seems you've got to find ways to mitigate the exposure inflicted upon your tot. If the arrangement with MIL and SIL and child care can't be altered, I wonder if you could get your SIL to do something that reduces how much fragrance she hauls over to MIL's house? (though I'm not sure what to suggest short of a shower and change of clothes) Or what about getting an air purifier into your MIL's house? Also, be sure to have a change of clothes (as least the shirt) for your child to swap into as soon as you pick her up and maybe wipe her hair/hands/face down with a damp washcloth. Also maybe she needs an extra puff of albuterol during the day while in the presence of the SIL.

AFter my boy w/CF was born, I had to tell my mother that her husband had to do something about his pipe-smoking or we would not be able to visit at all; he smokes outside when we're there and they use an air purifier as a result -but we still will not stay overnight there.

folione · May 1, 2009

Unless you think your SIL would abandon the smelly stuff if you asked, it seems you've got to find ways to mitigate the exposure inflicted upon your tot. If the arrangement with MIL and SIL and child care can't be altered, I wonder if you could get your SIL to do something that reduces how much fragrance she hauls over to MIL's house? (though I'm not sure what to suggest short of a shower and change of clothes) Or what about getting an air purifier into your MIL's house? Also, be sure to have a change of clothes (as least the shirt) for your child to swap into as soon as you pick her up and maybe wipe her hair/hands/face down with a damp washcloth. Also maybe she needs an extra puff of albuterol during the day while in the presence of the SIL.
 
 AFter my boy w/CF was born, I had to tell my mother that her husband had to do something about his pipe-smoking or we would not be able to visit at all; he smokes outside when we're there and they use an air purifier as a result -but we still will not stay overnight there.

hmw · May 1, 2009

For the smell to be so bad, she probably even has one of those things in her CAR! I know that particular scent is available in those jar-shaped fresheners made for the car (I see them in the kids' fundraisers every yr!)

I am really glad that your SIL has finally taken seriously your request to use less of the smelly products on herself; itself that was a huge step and she might not realize how much the smelly stuff from her home is traveling with her when she leaves her home and car. I agree that a change of clothes for *your SIL* when she arrives at your MIL's home might help a great deal if you think she would be willing to do this (clothes she might be willing to keep at your MIL's, preferably where they can be laundered there and then kept covered, thus not exposed to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke). An air purifier might help too but can't physically remove the smell off your SIL's body, unfortunately; though it would help when it comes to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke issues.

I agree that Lexi's bath-time should happen as soon as possible after you pick her up, or at least changing clothes and a quick wipe down, as folione suggests.

I'm so sorry that this is continuing and that Lexi is reacting to it SO strongly. Obviously Lexi is reacting to this more strongly than all kids do and it's unfortunate that it's paired with a situation where she is exposed to so very much of it (actually, it's likely the constant exposure that's triggered such a severe reaction.)

'Clean linen', hah. More like toxic linen.....

hmw · May 1, 2009

For the smell to be so bad, she probably even has one of those things in her CAR! I know that particular scent is available in those jar-shaped fresheners made for the car (I see them in the kids' fundraisers every yr!)

I am really glad that your SIL has finally taken seriously your request to use less of the smelly products on herself; itself that was a huge step and she might not realize how much the smelly stuff from her home is traveling with her when she leaves her home and car. I agree that a change of clothes for *your SIL* when she arrives at your MIL's home might help a great deal if you think she would be willing to do this (clothes she might be willing to keep at your MIL's, preferably where they can be laundered there and then kept covered, thus not exposed to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke). An air purifier might help too but can't physically remove the smell off your SIL's body, unfortunately; though it would help when it comes to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke issues.

I agree that Lexi's bath-time should happen as soon as possible after you pick her up, or at least changing clothes and a quick wipe down, as folione suggests.

I'm so sorry that this is continuing and that Lexi is reacting to it SO strongly. Obviously Lexi is reacting to this more strongly than all kids do and it's unfortunate that it's paired with a situation where she is exposed to so very much of it (actually, it's likely the constant exposure that's triggered such a severe reaction.)

'Clean linen', hah. More like toxic linen.....

hmw · May 1, 2009

For the smell to be so bad, she probably even has one of those things in her CAR! I know that particular scent is available in those jar-shaped fresheners made for the car (I see them in the kids' fundraisers every yr!)

I am really glad that your SIL has finally taken seriously your request to use less of the smelly products on herself; itself that was a huge step and she might not realize how much the smelly stuff from her home is traveling with her when she leaves her home and car. I agree that a change of clothes for *your SIL* when she arrives at your MIL's home might help a great deal if you think she would be willing to do this (clothes she might be willing to keep at your MIL's, preferably where they can be laundered there and then kept covered, thus not exposed to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke). An air purifier might help too but can't physically remove the smell off your SIL's body, unfortunately; though it would help when it comes to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke issues.

I agree that Lexi's bath-time should happen as soon as possible after you pick her up, or at least changing clothes and a quick wipe down, as folione suggests.

I'm so sorry that this is continuing and that Lexi is reacting to it SO strongly. Obviously Lexi is reacting to this more strongly than all kids do and it's unfortunate that it's paired with a situation where she is exposed to so very much of it (actually, it's likely the constant exposure that's triggered such a severe reaction.)

'Clean linen', hah. More like toxic linen.....

hmw · May 1, 2009

For the smell to be so bad, she probably even has one of those things in her CAR! I know that particular scent is available in those jar-shaped fresheners made for the car (I see them in the kids' fundraisers every yr!)

I am really glad that your SIL has finally taken seriously your request to use less of the smelly products on herself; itself that was a huge step and she might not realize how much the smelly stuff from her home is traveling with her when she leaves her home and car. I agree that a change of clothes for *your SIL* when she arrives at your MIL's home might help a great deal if you think she would be willing to do this (clothes she might be willing to keep at your MIL's, preferably where they can be laundered there and then kept covered, thus not exposed to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke). An air purifier might help too but can't physically remove the smell off your SIL's body, unfortunately; though it would help when it comes to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke issues.

I agree that Lexi's bath-time should happen as soon as possible after you pick her up, or at least changing clothes and a quick wipe down, as folione suggests.

I'm so sorry that this is continuing and that Lexi is reacting to it SO strongly. Obviously Lexi is reacting to this more strongly than all kids do and it's unfortunate that it's paired with a situation where she is exposed to so very much of it (actually, it's likely the constant exposure that's triggered such a severe reaction.)

'Clean linen', hah. More like toxic linen.....

hmw · May 1, 2009

For the smell to be so bad, she probably even has one of those things in her CAR! I know that particular scent is available in those jar-shaped fresheners made for the car (I see them in the kids' fundraisers every yr!)
 
 I am really glad that your SIL has finally taken seriously your request to use less of the smelly products on herself; itself that was a huge step and she might not realize how much the smelly stuff from her home is traveling with her when she leaves her home and car. I agree that a change of clothes for *your SIL* when she arrives at your MIL's home might help a great deal if you think she would be willing to do this (clothes she might be willing to keep at your MIL's, preferably where they can be laundered there and then kept covered, thus not exposed to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke). An air purifier might help too but can't physically remove the smell off your SIL's body, unfortunately; though it would help when it comes to FIL's 3rd-hand smoke issues.
 
 I agree that Lexi's bath-time should happen as soon as possible after you pick her up, or at least changing clothes and a quick wipe down, as folione suggests.
 
 I'm so sorry that this is continuing and that Lexi is reacting to it SO strongly. Obviously Lexi is reacting to this more strongly than all kids do and it's unfortunate that it's paired with a situation where she is exposed to so very much of it (actually, it's likely the constant exposure that's triggered such a severe reaction.)
 
 'Clean linen', hah. More like toxic linen.....

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