Help, need some advice...

Nightwriter

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Hi Melissa,

The never-ending saga of the perfumey Sister-In-Law, lol. I have a few comments. If your mother-in-law moved away tomorrow, who would watch your kids? To me, your daughter's health is not worth it. You KNOW this is making her sick. Are you dependent on this situation?

Another question, what does your mother-in-law think? Doesn't she hate to see Lexi sick? Have you talked to her about this problem? And the question that I've wanted to ask from
Day 1, but didn't know if it is a hot button -- where is your husband in all this? It's his child too. It's his sister. Why isn't he involved in gently talking to his own sister. I say gently because is his family doing you BOTH a favor? Are they being paid to babysit? Which if they are, then you can hire someone who doesn't smell or use Yankie whatever it is.

Okay, now you know exactly what the odor is from -- at least that's progress. And SIL is using your fragrant free products. So it's not like talking to the wall. But Lexi should not be around people and places that are making her sick. Lungs get inflammation, inflammation can cause permanent damage. This is a dangerous situation that keeps going on. It's not a "maybe it's making her sick". It IS making her sick.

And I know about perfume on things that "odorous" people touch. For example, sometimes when I pick up my RESPIRATORY medications, the whole bag smells from obviously a strong perfume-wearing pharmacist. My boyfriend bought me some presents the other day and some of the clothes smelled of perfume. Obviously other customers try on the clothes and their perfume lingers. I thought he was going to say I was crazy, but he agreed that the clothes smelled. The fact that he thinks that I'm crazy is another topic, lol.
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Melissa,

The never-ending saga of the perfumey Sister-In-Law, lol. I have a few comments. If your mother-in-law moved away tomorrow, who would watch your kids? To me, your daughter's health is not worth it. You KNOW this is making her sick. Are you dependent on this situation?

Another question, what does your mother-in-law think? Doesn't she hate to see Lexi sick? Have you talked to her about this problem? And the question that I've wanted to ask from
Day 1, but didn't know if it is a hot button -- where is your husband in all this? It's his child too. It's his sister. Why isn't he involved in gently talking to his own sister. I say gently because is his family doing you BOTH a favor? Are they being paid to babysit? Which if they are, then you can hire someone who doesn't smell or use Yankie whatever it is.

Okay, now you know exactly what the odor is from -- at least that's progress. And SIL is using your fragrant free products. So it's not like talking to the wall. But Lexi should not be around people and places that are making her sick. Lungs get inflammation, inflammation can cause permanent damage. This is a dangerous situation that keeps going on. It's not a "maybe it's making her sick". It IS making her sick.

And I know about perfume on things that "odorous" people touch. For example, sometimes when I pick up my RESPIRATORY medications, the whole bag smells from obviously a strong perfume-wearing pharmacist. My boyfriend bought me some presents the other day and some of the clothes smelled of perfume. Obviously other customers try on the clothes and their perfume lingers. I thought he was going to say I was crazy, but he agreed that the clothes smelled. The fact that he thinks that I'm crazy is another topic, lol.
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Melissa,

The never-ending saga of the perfumey Sister-In-Law, lol. I have a few comments. If your mother-in-law moved away tomorrow, who would watch your kids? To me, your daughter's health is not worth it. You KNOW this is making her sick. Are you dependent on this situation?

Another question, what does your mother-in-law think? Doesn't she hate to see Lexi sick? Have you talked to her about this problem? And the question that I've wanted to ask from
Day 1, but didn't know if it is a hot button -- where is your husband in all this? It's his child too. It's his sister. Why isn't he involved in gently talking to his own sister. I say gently because is his family doing you BOTH a favor? Are they being paid to babysit? Which if they are, then you can hire someone who doesn't smell or use Yankie whatever it is.

Okay, now you know exactly what the odor is from -- at least that's progress. And SIL is using your fragrant free products. So it's not like talking to the wall. But Lexi should not be around people and places that are making her sick. Lungs get inflammation, inflammation can cause permanent damage. This is a dangerous situation that keeps going on. It's not a "maybe it's making her sick". It IS making her sick.

And I know about perfume on things that "odorous" people touch. For example, sometimes when I pick up my RESPIRATORY medications, the whole bag smells from obviously a strong perfume-wearing pharmacist. My boyfriend bought me some presents the other day and some of the clothes smelled of perfume. Obviously other customers try on the clothes and their perfume lingers. I thought he was going to say I was crazy, but he agreed that the clothes smelled. The fact that he thinks that I'm crazy is another topic, lol.
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Melissa,

The never-ending saga of the perfumey Sister-In-Law, lol. I have a few comments. If your mother-in-law moved away tomorrow, who would watch your kids? To me, your daughter's health is not worth it. You KNOW this is making her sick. Are you dependent on this situation?

Another question, what does your mother-in-law think? Doesn't she hate to see Lexi sick? Have you talked to her about this problem? And the question that I've wanted to ask from
Day 1, but didn't know if it is a hot button -- where is your husband in all this? It's his child too. It's his sister. Why isn't he involved in gently talking to his own sister. I say gently because is his family doing you BOTH a favor? Are they being paid to babysit? Which if they are, then you can hire someone who doesn't smell or use Yankie whatever it is.

Okay, now you know exactly what the odor is from -- at least that's progress. And SIL is using your fragrant free products. So it's not like talking to the wall. But Lexi should not be around people and places that are making her sick. Lungs get inflammation, inflammation can cause permanent damage. This is a dangerous situation that keeps going on. It's not a "maybe it's making her sick". It IS making her sick.

And I know about perfume on things that "odorous" people touch. For example, sometimes when I pick up my RESPIRATORY medications, the whole bag smells from obviously a strong perfume-wearing pharmacist. My boyfriend bought me some presents the other day and some of the clothes smelled of perfume. Obviously other customers try on the clothes and their perfume lingers. I thought he was going to say I was crazy, but he agreed that the clothes smelled. The fact that he thinks that I'm crazy is another topic, lol.
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Melissa,
<br />
<br />The never-ending saga of the perfumey Sister-In-Law, lol. I have a few comments. If your mother-in-law moved away tomorrow, who would watch your kids? To me, your daughter's health is not worth it. You KNOW this is making her sick. Are you dependent on this situation?
<br />
<br />Another question, what does your mother-in-law think? Doesn't she hate to see Lexi sick? Have you talked to her about this problem? And the question that I've wanted to ask from
<br />Day 1, but didn't know if it is a hot button -- where is your husband in all this? It's his child too. It's his sister. Why isn't he involved in gently talking to his own sister. I say gently because is his family doing you BOTH a favor? Are they being paid to babysit? Which if they are, then you can hire someone who doesn't smell or use Yankie whatever it is.
<br />
<br />Okay, now you know exactly what the odor is from -- at least that's progress. And SIL is using your fragrant free products. So it's not like talking to the wall. But Lexi should not be around people and places that are making her sick. Lungs get inflammation, inflammation can cause permanent damage. This is a dangerous situation that keeps going on. It's not a "maybe it's making her sick". It IS making her sick.
<br />
<br />And I know about perfume on things that "odorous" people touch. For example, sometimes when I pick up my RESPIRATORY medications, the whole bag smells from obviously a strong perfume-wearing pharmacist. My boyfriend bought me some presents the other day and some of the clothes smelled of perfume. Obviously other customers try on the clothes and their perfume lingers. I thought he was going to say I was crazy, but he agreed that the clothes smelled. The fact that he thinks that I'm crazy is another topic, lol.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
I can't help but feel that the nicotine in your in-law's home is having an impact on Lexi too. Even though FIL smokes outside, and you may not be able to smell it as you can the candles/air fresheners, it's there, and she's breathing it. It sounds like your best solution would be to hire someone to come into your home to watch Lexi.

You mentioned too, that Lexi will start school in the fall, and you won't need a sitter, but how in the world will she tolerate being in a classroom with 20+ other kids who've been exposed to who knows what?! Ugh what a situation you have before you.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
I can't help but feel that the nicotine in your in-law's home is having an impact on Lexi too. Even though FIL smokes outside, and you may not be able to smell it as you can the candles/air fresheners, it's there, and she's breathing it. It sounds like your best solution would be to hire someone to come into your home to watch Lexi.

You mentioned too, that Lexi will start school in the fall, and you won't need a sitter, but how in the world will she tolerate being in a classroom with 20+ other kids who've been exposed to who knows what?! Ugh what a situation you have before you.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
I can't help but feel that the nicotine in your in-law's home is having an impact on Lexi too. Even though FIL smokes outside, and you may not be able to smell it as you can the candles/air fresheners, it's there, and she's breathing it. It sounds like your best solution would be to hire someone to come into your home to watch Lexi.

You mentioned too, that Lexi will start school in the fall, and you won't need a sitter, but how in the world will she tolerate being in a classroom with 20+ other kids who've been exposed to who knows what?! Ugh what a situation you have before you.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
I can't help but feel that the nicotine in your in-law's home is having an impact on Lexi too. Even though FIL smokes outside, and you may not be able to smell it as you can the candles/air fresheners, it's there, and she's breathing it. It sounds like your best solution would be to hire someone to come into your home to watch Lexi.

You mentioned too, that Lexi will start school in the fall, and you won't need a sitter, but how in the world will she tolerate being in a classroom with 20+ other kids who've been exposed to who knows what?! Ugh what a situation you have before you.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
I can't help but feel that the nicotine in your in-law's home is having an impact on Lexi too. Even though FIL smokes outside, and you may not be able to smell it as you can the candles/air fresheners, it's there, and she's breathing it. It sounds like your best solution would be to hire someone to come into your home to watch Lexi.
<br />
<br />You mentioned too, that Lexi will start school in the fall, and you won't need a sitter, but how in the world will she tolerate being in a classroom with 20+ other kids who've been exposed to who knows what?! Ugh what a situation you have before you.
<br />
<br />Stacey
 
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