Honesty wanted

[Faust]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

This is for CFers that are married/dating/what have you. Do you ever feel like your spouse isn't doing enough for you? Like they fail to understand?



Do you ever resent your spouse? Do you feel like they resent you? What would you like them to do better? What do they do well? What do they do that is really hard on you or hurts you? Do they act like they really love you?



Thanks for any answers you can give...</end quote></div>



She does tons for me, and is very helpful. She is very empathic towards my special needs, and helps out accordingly. We are both kind of slobs, but I wish she was less of one. As for what I don't like: She snores very loud, and now that I need every wink of sleep I can get, I have to have her on those nose strips and me very uncomfortable ear plugs. Aside from that, she MUST watch something she has seen many many times movie wise on tv before she goes to bed, instead of letting me watch something like say the daily show, that i'd enjoy. THEN after she officially goes to sleep, I can watch what I want. Her explanation is "I have to watch/listen to something I don't care about to fall asleep. If it's something interesting i'll have to watch it and not sleep". I personally think it's retarded but whatever. Aside from that, just typical chick stuff like being drawn to romantic comedies when it's movie time.

 

[lovingBenandCambree]

Do you ever feel like your spouse isn't doing enough for you?
NO, I don't feel this way I do wish sometimes I didn't have to ask for things as much, but that is my issue as well. Because he does everything that i ask, I just have to let down my pride and ask for help. Unfortunately, I didn't marry a psychic. Do I feel that I am not doing enough? A lot of the time, but these again are my own issues.

Like they fail to understand? Ben understands as much as is humanly possible. Honestly, until you have the disease you can never fully understand. But I can never fully understand what it is like to be married to a CFer

Do you ever resent your spouse? No, I do not and I hope that the same applies for him. That is one thing I always say to him. I hope you never resent me. Especially since he is only in the career he is because of my health and it certainly isn't the one that he would have chose otherwise, we also wouldn't be living where we are if I wasn't sick. He comforts me to know that he never will but I still worry.

Do you feel like they resent you? answered above

What would you like them to do better? All I need from him, is love, support, a shoulder to cry on once in a while, oh and maybe a poopy diaper change from time to time. Does he do these things ABSOLUTELY! Do I have to coax him on the diaper change ABSOLUTELY! hehe

What do they do well? Ben never lets me wonder if he loves me. He tells me all of the time. He is so good with our beautiful daughter and is such a hard worker.

What do they do that is really hard on you or hurts you? Ben never purposely does anything to hurt me. Do I get hurt sometimes yes mostly due to ridiculous things that are do to my own insensitives. We recently had a discussion about how he doesnt always listen or respond to me when I am talking. We figured it out that since I am mostly on a two year olds level all day I really need that interaction and he was wondering what had changed because I wasnt always like this. Again the child.

Do they act like they really love you? It isn't an act with Ben. He really does love me.

I truly am so blessed to have him in my life. He is so selfless to put up with me and all the baggage that comes with me.

Emilee