OK, well where I work (with my husband) we use a temp agency for our employees so we have basically 1 contact person there. She is new, the other lady left not long ago. Well she's knows I've been away from work due to being sick but that was all she knew. Today I e-mailed my husband (from home) and said I was short of breath and I'd be to work a little bit later.
Sooooooooo.............
I go to work and right away this lady calls and is like "Oh, so you ARE at work, (husband) Dave said you were sick this morning." Holy crap, I could have come unglued. (And no I was not sick, I was short of breath, big difference!)
1. I do not know this woman
2. what I do know about her, I don't like (non trustworthy)
3. I never told her of CF, my husband did (as in that was not his place to tell my life story!)
4. that makes me feel VERY vulnerable because that decision was taken away from me, I only tell people I am comfortable with & fully trust (as I've been hurt in the past).
5. she needs to know me and deal with me on a professional level NOT a personal one
6. husband should have never told her anything personal about me, I'm not friends with her, I'm not close to her, I don't trust her, and now she knows something SO personal about me and I didn't have the choice to be the one to tell her, that was taken away from me.
I guess the big thing is it's not like she was caring about me and checking to see if I was ok, it's more like she digs for info. And the worst part, she is SYMPATHETIC. I don't need sympathy!!! I don't want anyone telling me they feel sorry for me (and YES she DID say that).
So has this happened, where someone else told others you have CF without your permission or even knowledge? I was so fuming mad. Yes, I did confront him and told him NEVER to tell her anything personal about me. And yes, I did lose my cool with him and left (I apologized later when I cooled off).
But how do you deal with this? I hate that the decision (aka...power) was taken away from me. I don't know how to confront my husband (as he sees he's done nothing wrong) but my feelings are hurt. I am not open to everyone about CF, it's personal, it's my life, etc.
I feel like I'm going in circles here. I'd appreciate advice on how others deal with this. And I'd also like to (professionally/kindly) tell her that we need to be professional not personal with one another (doesn't help I don't know a thing about her!).
Ok, let me know how you feel.
Thanks!
KELLI
30 f CF
Sooooooooo.............
I go to work and right away this lady calls and is like "Oh, so you ARE at work, (husband) Dave said you were sick this morning." Holy crap, I could have come unglued. (And no I was not sick, I was short of breath, big difference!)
1. I do not know this woman
2. what I do know about her, I don't like (non trustworthy)
3. I never told her of CF, my husband did (as in that was not his place to tell my life story!)
4. that makes me feel VERY vulnerable because that decision was taken away from me, I only tell people I am comfortable with & fully trust (as I've been hurt in the past).
5. she needs to know me and deal with me on a professional level NOT a personal one
6. husband should have never told her anything personal about me, I'm not friends with her, I'm not close to her, I don't trust her, and now she knows something SO personal about me and I didn't have the choice to be the one to tell her, that was taken away from me.
I guess the big thing is it's not like she was caring about me and checking to see if I was ok, it's more like she digs for info. And the worst part, she is SYMPATHETIC. I don't need sympathy!!! I don't want anyone telling me they feel sorry for me (and YES she DID say that).
So has this happened, where someone else told others you have CF without your permission or even knowledge? I was so fuming mad. Yes, I did confront him and told him NEVER to tell her anything personal about me. And yes, I did lose my cool with him and left (I apologized later when I cooled off).
But how do you deal with this? I hate that the decision (aka...power) was taken away from me. I don't know how to confront my husband (as he sees he's done nothing wrong) but my feelings are hurt. I am not open to everyone about CF, it's personal, it's my life, etc.
I feel like I'm going in circles here. I'd appreciate advice on how others deal with this. And I'd also like to (professionally/kindly) tell her that we need to be professional not personal with one another (doesn't help I don't know a thing about her!).
Ok, let me know how you feel.
Thanks!
KELLI
30 f CF