How do you handle people's comments?

Ratatosk

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Staff member
After DS spent 4 weeks in the NICU, came home for a day and went back to the hospital for two more weeks, we had a rule if you wanted to hold the baby, you had to wash your hands or use sanitizer.

Yes, DS has eaten dirt, stuck rocks, leaves and sponges up his nose. He's found ABC gum on the playground and licked the counter at Kohls department store -- bleah! But I don't know where your hands have been...

DH's aunt once made a comments when we were doing nebs and CPT and DS (was a baby) was crying that "gee he was high maintenance" and laughed. Thought it was a huge joke and everyone should laugh with her. I've heard from others that I send DS to daycare, so I shouldn't care if they wash hands or not -- gee, I know of one great uncle who never washes his hands after going to the bathroom, my FIL has chronic sinus infections and a nasty hanky and another great uncle is prone to skin infections that never seem to go away. So when DS was a teeny tiny baby with a developing immune system AND spent the first 6 weeks plus of life in the hospital on IV ABX, darn right if we were a little extra vigilant.

The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
After DS spent 4 weeks in the NICU, came home for a day and went back to the hospital for two more weeks, we had a rule if you wanted to hold the baby, you had to wash your hands or use sanitizer.

Yes, DS has eaten dirt, stuck rocks, leaves and sponges up his nose. He's found ABC gum on the playground and licked the counter at Kohls department store -- bleah! But I don't know where your hands have been...

DH's aunt once made a comments when we were doing nebs and CPT and DS (was a baby) was crying that "gee he was high maintenance" and laughed. Thought it was a huge joke and everyone should laugh with her. I've heard from others that I send DS to daycare, so I shouldn't care if they wash hands or not -- gee, I know of one great uncle who never washes his hands after going to the bathroom, my FIL has chronic sinus infections and a nasty hanky and another great uncle is prone to skin infections that never seem to go away. So when DS was a teeny tiny baby with a developing immune system AND spent the first 6 weeks plus of life in the hospital on IV ABX, darn right if we were a little extra vigilant.

The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
After DS spent 4 weeks in the NICU, came home for a day and went back to the hospital for two more weeks, we had a rule if you wanted to hold the baby, you had to wash your hands or use sanitizer.

Yes, DS has eaten dirt, stuck rocks, leaves and sponges up his nose. He's found ABC gum on the playground and licked the counter at Kohls department store -- bleah! But I don't know where your hands have been...

DH's aunt once made a comments when we were doing nebs and CPT and DS (was a baby) was crying that "gee he was high maintenance" and laughed. Thought it was a huge joke and everyone should laugh with her. I've heard from others that I send DS to daycare, so I shouldn't care if they wash hands or not -- gee, I know of one great uncle who never washes his hands after going to the bathroom, my FIL has chronic sinus infections and a nasty hanky and another great uncle is prone to skin infections that never seem to go away. So when DS was a teeny tiny baby with a developing immune system AND spent the first 6 weeks plus of life in the hospital on IV ABX, darn right if we were a little extra vigilant.

The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
After DS spent 4 weeks in the NICU, came home for a day and went back to the hospital for two more weeks, we had a rule if you wanted to hold the baby, you had to wash your hands or use sanitizer.

Yes, DS has eaten dirt, stuck rocks, leaves and sponges up his nose. He's found ABC gum on the playground and licked the counter at Kohls department store -- bleah! But I don't know where your hands have been...

DH's aunt once made a comments when we were doing nebs and CPT and DS (was a baby) was crying that "gee he was high maintenance" and laughed. Thought it was a huge joke and everyone should laugh with her. I've heard from others that I send DS to daycare, so I shouldn't care if they wash hands or not -- gee, I know of one great uncle who never washes his hands after going to the bathroom, my FIL has chronic sinus infections and a nasty hanky and another great uncle is prone to skin infections that never seem to go away. So when DS was a teeny tiny baby with a developing immune system AND spent the first 6 weeks plus of life in the hospital on IV ABX, darn right if we were a little extra vigilant.

The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
After DS spent 4 weeks in the NICU, came home for a day and went back to the hospital for two more weeks, we had a rule if you wanted to hold the baby, you had to wash your hands or use sanitizer.
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<br />Yes, DS has eaten dirt, stuck rocks, leaves and sponges up his nose. He's found ABC gum on the playground and licked the counter at Kohls department store -- bleah! But I don't know where your hands have been...
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<br />DH's aunt once made a comments when we were doing nebs and CPT and DS (was a baby) was crying that "gee he was high maintenance" and laughed. Thought it was a huge joke and everyone should laugh with her. I've heard from others that I send DS to daycare, so I shouldn't care if they wash hands or not -- gee, I know of one great uncle who never washes his hands after going to the bathroom, my FIL has chronic sinus infections and a nasty hanky and another great uncle is prone to skin infections that never seem to go away. So when DS was a teeny tiny baby with a developing immune system AND spent the first 6 weeks plus of life in the hospital on IV ABX, darn right if we were a little extra vigilant.
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<br />The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?
 

Rebjane

Super Moderator
Just want to say, people can say some dumb insensitive things..CF or not. For some reason people want to extend their advice about parenting, or childcare. It is VERY annoying and when you work so hard to protect your baby with CF it tends to rub you the wrong way even more. The way i deal with it is either do a quick education about CF(if the peron seems to be truly interested) or ignore them and block it out.
 

Rebjane

Super Moderator
Just want to say, people can say some dumb insensitive things..CF or not. For some reason people want to extend their advice about parenting, or childcare. It is VERY annoying and when you work so hard to protect your baby with CF it tends to rub you the wrong way even more. The way i deal with it is either do a quick education about CF(if the peron seems to be truly interested) or ignore them and block it out.
 

Rebjane

Super Moderator
Just want to say, people can say some dumb insensitive things..CF or not. For some reason people want to extend their advice about parenting, or childcare. It is VERY annoying and when you work so hard to protect your baby with CF it tends to rub you the wrong way even more. The way i deal with it is either do a quick education about CF(if the peron seems to be truly interested) or ignore them and block it out.
 

Rebjane

Super Moderator
Just want to say, people can say some dumb insensitive things..CF or not. For some reason people want to extend their advice about parenting, or childcare. It is VERY annoying and when you work so hard to protect your baby with CF it tends to rub you the wrong way even more. The way i deal with it is either do a quick education about CF(if the peron seems to be truly interested) or ignore them and block it out.
 

Rebjane

Super Moderator
Just want to say, people can say some dumb insensitive things..CF or not. For some reason people want to extend their advice about parenting, or childcare. It is VERY annoying and when you work so hard to protect your baby with CF it tends to rub you the wrong way even more. The way i deal with it is either do a quick education about CF(if the peron seems to be truly interested) or ignore them and block it out.
 

JazzysMom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>




The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?</end quote></div>


How about leaving THEM behind LOL!
 

JazzysMom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>




The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?</end quote></div>


How about leaving THEM behind LOL!
 

JazzysMom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>




The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?</end quote></div>


How about leaving THEM behind LOL!
 

JazzysMom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>




The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?</end quote>


How about leaving THEM behind LOL!
 

JazzysMom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Ratatosk</b></i>
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<br />The comment that gets me is whenever we're traveling somewhere with my in-laws. My FIL comments about us having too much stuff. Gee, should we leave the vest behind, the cooler with meds, the nebulizer?</end quote>
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<br />How about leaving THEM behind LOL!
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ktsmom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MargaritaChic</b></i>


I said... "Emma is special." I left it at that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>

Sounds like you handled it just right! We try to control the knowns as best we can (like washing hands) and leave the rest alone. Do we keep our kid inside a bubble? No. Do we avoid relatives whom we know are sick? Yes.

It is hard, but try to ignore people's opinions and comments. Do what you think is best.
 

ktsmom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MargaritaChic</b></i>


I said... "Emma is special." I left it at that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>

Sounds like you handled it just right! We try to control the knowns as best we can (like washing hands) and leave the rest alone. Do we keep our kid inside a bubble? No. Do we avoid relatives whom we know are sick? Yes.

It is hard, but try to ignore people's opinions and comments. Do what you think is best.
 

ktsmom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MargaritaChic</b></i>


I said... "Emma is special." I left it at that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>

Sounds like you handled it just right! We try to control the knowns as best we can (like washing hands) and leave the rest alone. Do we keep our kid inside a bubble? No. Do we avoid relatives whom we know are sick? Yes.

It is hard, but try to ignore people's opinions and comments. Do what you think is best.
 

ktsmom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MargaritaChic</b></i>


I said... "Emma is special." I left it at that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></end quote>

Sounds like you handled it just right! We try to control the knowns as best we can (like washing hands) and leave the rest alone. Do we keep our kid inside a bubble? No. Do we avoid relatives whom we know are sick? Yes.

It is hard, but try to ignore people's opinions and comments. Do what you think is best.
 

ktsmom

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>MargaritaChic</b></i>
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<br />I said... "Emma is special." I left it at that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></end quote>
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<br />Sounds like you handled it just right! We try to control the knowns as best we can (like washing hands) and leave the rest alone. Do we keep our kid inside a bubble? No. Do we avoid relatives whom we know are sick? Yes.
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<br />It is hard, but try to ignore people's opinions and comments. Do what you think is best.
 
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