<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>JazzysMom</b></i>
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>lightNlife</b></i>
Unfortunately, people are going to do what they want to do. You cannot force another person to chance their attitudes. No matter how much convincing evidence people are presented with, they won't be persuaded. Let the woman stew in her own juices--it's her kid, and her responsibility to work with the doctors to get the kid the right treatments.</end quote></div>
Terri & I spoke about this a bit before she posted. It is so hard to sit back and just let it happen. It some ways she wants to leave alone so not "if", but "when" the child gets sick it will be obvious, but sadly the child is the one getting hurt and the parent may/may not learn. It is the womans kid and her responsibility, but that doesnt mean Terri shouldnt at least try. If for no other reason to say that someone tried~ We dont know if the doctor is saying dont do therapy, do therapy, do it once do it twice OR if no matter what the doctor recommends the parent is just does what they want. OH TO BE ON THE OUTSIDE......</end quote></div>
I didn't say that Terri shouldn't try. It's obvious she has. It seems to be one of those "pearls before swine" type situations. Terri's done what she can, and at this point, she's only going to upset herself further.
The definition of insanity is repeating the same behavior and expecting different results. This mother is unlikely to change her attitude or behavior just because she is told repeatedly that what's she's doing is a bad idea. It's probably just her wacked out way of coping and living in denial.
To continue to push push push against her and make her feel bad about her parenting style is only going to alienate her. When the time comes when she does realize she needs help and support, she might be afraid of hearing someone say "I told you so."
Personally, I think it's probably a better idea to keep the mouth shut and simply be supportive and available. That doesn't mean condoning the bad behavior. It just means being pleasant and courteous for the sake of the relationships and people involved.