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RiRi

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I am having a get together for New Years at my home for my Sunday School Class. Several of the people invited have small children (and a couple of them are always sick). I am wanting to make sure that everyone feels welcome. How do I nicely say don't bring your sick self or kid to the party?

Thanks in advance!
 
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RiRi

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I am having a get together for New Years at my home for my Sunday School Class. Several of the people invited have small children (and a couple of them are always sick). I am wanting to make sure that everyone feels welcome. How do I nicely say don't bring your sick self or kid to the party?

Thanks in advance!
 
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RiRi

Guest
I am having a get together for New Years at my home for my Sunday School Class. Several of the people invited have small children (and a couple of them are always sick). I am wanting to make sure that everyone feels welcome. How do I nicely say don't bring your sick self or kid to the party?

Thanks in advance!
 
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Landy

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This is a tough one. You would think that a little common sense would go into play here, if they know your son has CF. You would hope that they would not come if it meant exposing Nate to possible colds.
If you have all of their email addresses, maybe you could send an email to all of them & don't hide the addresses, so they know they're not the only one receiving the email. Just ask nicely if they will refrain from bringing sick kids to the party because Nate catches things so easily.
The other way to look at it is, Nate's bound to get colds, and many of them, throughout his childhood--whether it be at Church, play groups, at school, from a shopping cart, etc. I'm not helping here, am I? lol
I don't remember my parents ever shielding my sister & I from groups, colds, etc. Maybe they just weren't smart enough to think of it, or maybe there wasn't such an emphasis on germs back in the 60's-70's either??

Good luck & let us know what you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Landy

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This is a tough one. You would think that a little common sense would go into play here, if they know your son has CF. You would hope that they would not come if it meant exposing Nate to possible colds.
If you have all of their email addresses, maybe you could send an email to all of them & don't hide the addresses, so they know they're not the only one receiving the email. Just ask nicely if they will refrain from bringing sick kids to the party because Nate catches things so easily.
The other way to look at it is, Nate's bound to get colds, and many of them, throughout his childhood--whether it be at Church, play groups, at school, from a shopping cart, etc. I'm not helping here, am I? lol
I don't remember my parents ever shielding my sister & I from groups, colds, etc. Maybe they just weren't smart enough to think of it, or maybe there wasn't such an emphasis on germs back in the 60's-70's either??

Good luck & let us know what you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Landy

New member
This is a tough one. You would think that a little common sense would go into play here, if they know your son has CF. You would hope that they would not come if it meant exposing Nate to possible colds.
If you have all of their email addresses, maybe you could send an email to all of them & don't hide the addresses, so they know they're not the only one receiving the email. Just ask nicely if they will refrain from bringing sick kids to the party because Nate catches things so easily.
The other way to look at it is, Nate's bound to get colds, and many of them, throughout his childhood--whether it be at Church, play groups, at school, from a shopping cart, etc. I'm not helping here, am I? lol
I don't remember my parents ever shielding my sister & I from groups, colds, etc. Maybe they just weren't smart enough to think of it, or maybe there wasn't such an emphasis on germs back in the 60's-70's either??

Good luck & let us know what you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Scarlett81

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Oh these situations are so hard. Depending if I am having the party or going to one, I handle it differently. Most of my friends/aquaintences know to stay away from me if they are sick, so its not a huge problem-and they are really really nice about it. They care, they don't want me to end up in the hosp.
Of course there is always the mother that brings her sick kids out anyway, b/c kids are always sick and she's tired of being stuck home.

I was invited to a small lunch at my friends house, just me, one other and the hostess. When she gave me the invite, I said thanks and I'd love to attend, as long as no one is sick of course. It is cold and flu season, and the one woman there-her kids are always sick. I had to ask-I don't care. I was very nice about it, and the hostess understood. Its easier to ask an uncomfortable question once, than be put in an uncomfortable situation that you can't get out of.

If it was me having this party-I'd politely tell the mothers that all are welcome, and you are looking forward to seeing everyone-but please make sure that all that attend are healthy. You have to look out for yourself. They should understand.
 
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Scarlett81

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Oh these situations are so hard. Depending if I am having the party or going to one, I handle it differently. Most of my friends/aquaintences know to stay away from me if they are sick, so its not a huge problem-and they are really really nice about it. They care, they don't want me to end up in the hosp.
Of course there is always the mother that brings her sick kids out anyway, b/c kids are always sick and she's tired of being stuck home.

I was invited to a small lunch at my friends house, just me, one other and the hostess. When she gave me the invite, I said thanks and I'd love to attend, as long as no one is sick of course. It is cold and flu season, and the one woman there-her kids are always sick. I had to ask-I don't care. I was very nice about it, and the hostess understood. Its easier to ask an uncomfortable question once, than be put in an uncomfortable situation that you can't get out of.

If it was me having this party-I'd politely tell the mothers that all are welcome, and you are looking forward to seeing everyone-but please make sure that all that attend are healthy. You have to look out for yourself. They should understand.
 
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Scarlett81

New member
Oh these situations are so hard. Depending if I am having the party or going to one, I handle it differently. Most of my friends/aquaintences know to stay away from me if they are sick, so its not a huge problem-and they are really really nice about it. They care, they don't want me to end up in the hosp.
Of course there is always the mother that brings her sick kids out anyway, b/c kids are always sick and she's tired of being stuck home.

I was invited to a small lunch at my friends house, just me, one other and the hostess. When she gave me the invite, I said thanks and I'd love to attend, as long as no one is sick of course. It is cold and flu season, and the one woman there-her kids are always sick. I had to ask-I don't care. I was very nice about it, and the hostess understood. Its easier to ask an uncomfortable question once, than be put in an uncomfortable situation that you can't get out of.

If it was me having this party-I'd politely tell the mothers that all are welcome, and you are looking forward to seeing everyone-but please make sure that all that attend are healthy. You have to look out for yourself. They should understand.
 
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Diane

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Well, i usually have a Birthday party here and on each invitation, i write on the bottom........" Due to my lung problems, if you have a cold or are sick in any way, Please do not attend". So far no-one has been offended. Like Lynday said, you would think common sense would come into play, but not always. Sometimes you have to spell things out, and its in Nates best interests that no-one attend if they are sick or even have the sniffles.
 
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Diane

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Well, i usually have a Birthday party here and on each invitation, i write on the bottom........" Due to my lung problems, if you have a cold or are sick in any way, Please do not attend". So far no-one has been offended. Like Lynday said, you would think common sense would come into play, but not always. Sometimes you have to spell things out, and its in Nates best interests that no-one attend if they are sick or even have the sniffles.
 
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Diane

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Well, i usually have a Birthday party here and on each invitation, i write on the bottom........" Due to my lung problems, if you have a cold or are sick in any way, Please do not attend". So far no-one has been offended. Like Lynday said, you would think common sense would come into play, but not always. Sometimes you have to spell things out, and its in Nates best interests that no-one attend if they are sick or even have the sniffles.
 
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Mommafirst

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Funny you should post about this. My daughters first birthday is approaching and I want to throw a huge family and friends party to celebrate. I've always done parties for my kids first birthday and I really want to celebrate this year, since it was such a tough year for all of us. But I wondered, like you, how to approach the issue. MOST of my friends and family are well aware of the stay away if you are sick thing, but I was thinking of adding a tag at the end of the invite saying, "please remember that Alyssa's health will be best served if anyone with colds chooses not to come." Or something to that effect. Our pulmonologist suggested we purchase a big vat of purell and dip each kid in as they enter the house. Seeing that we can't do that, asking folks to be considerate by not coming if they are sick is not unreasonable.
 
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Mommafirst

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Funny you should post about this. My daughters first birthday is approaching and I want to throw a huge family and friends party to celebrate. I've always done parties for my kids first birthday and I really want to celebrate this year, since it was such a tough year for all of us. But I wondered, like you, how to approach the issue. MOST of my friends and family are well aware of the stay away if you are sick thing, but I was thinking of adding a tag at the end of the invite saying, "please remember that Alyssa's health will be best served if anyone with colds chooses not to come." Or something to that effect. Our pulmonologist suggested we purchase a big vat of purell and dip each kid in as they enter the house. Seeing that we can't do that, asking folks to be considerate by not coming if they are sick is not unreasonable.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
Funny you should post about this. My daughters first birthday is approaching and I want to throw a huge family and friends party to celebrate. I've always done parties for my kids first birthday and I really want to celebrate this year, since it was such a tough year for all of us. But I wondered, like you, how to approach the issue. MOST of my friends and family are well aware of the stay away if you are sick thing, but I was thinking of adding a tag at the end of the invite saying, "please remember that Alyssa's health will be best served if anyone with colds chooses not to come." Or something to that effect. Our pulmonologist suggested we purchase a big vat of purell and dip each kid in as they enter the house. Seeing that we can't do that, asking folks to be considerate by not coming if they are sick is not unreasonable.
 
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goingup

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I WOULDN'T SAY A THING BECAUSE THAT MAY LOOK REALLY SHALLOW ON YOUR PART, BUT IF THEY DO BRING THEIR SICK CHILD TO YOUR HOUSE THEN JUST KEEP A MENTAL NOTE FOR YOUR SELF AND IN THE FUTURE, ITS VERY SIMPLE, DON'T EVER INVITE THEM AGAIN!!! AND IT PROBABLY WOULDN'T HURT TO GIVE THEM A COUPLE DIRTY GLARES WHEN THERE CHILD SNEEZES ALL OVER EVERYONE....... HEY, U ASKED!
 
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goingup

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I WOULDN'T SAY A THING BECAUSE THAT MAY LOOK REALLY SHALLOW ON YOUR PART, BUT IF THEY DO BRING THEIR SICK CHILD TO YOUR HOUSE THEN JUST KEEP A MENTAL NOTE FOR YOUR SELF AND IN THE FUTURE, ITS VERY SIMPLE, DON'T EVER INVITE THEM AGAIN!!! AND IT PROBABLY WOULDN'T HURT TO GIVE THEM A COUPLE DIRTY GLARES WHEN THERE CHILD SNEEZES ALL OVER EVERYONE....... HEY, U ASKED!
 
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goingup

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I WOULDN'T SAY A THING BECAUSE THAT MAY LOOK REALLY SHALLOW ON YOUR PART, BUT IF THEY DO BRING THEIR SICK CHILD TO YOUR HOUSE THEN JUST KEEP A MENTAL NOTE FOR YOUR SELF AND IN THE FUTURE, ITS VERY SIMPLE, DON'T EVER INVITE THEM AGAIN!!! AND IT PROBABLY WOULDN'T HURT TO GIVE THEM A COUPLE DIRTY GLARES WHEN THERE CHILD SNEEZES ALL OVER EVERYONE....... HEY, U ASKED!
 
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