husband scared for a second baby

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hi Kelly,
I've wanted to reply to this for days but haven't been able to! I can totally relate. My husband and I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and we want her to have a sibling.
My pregnancy and birth with her was soooo easy-textbook 'healthy' from day one. I felt better than I ever have body wise, lung wise and mentally-while preg, and had no complications. After I had her, I was ready to get pregnant again right away!
Unfortunately I had a severe lung complication a year after having my daughter. My husband and I made the decision to renovate our home, and we moved out and rented for 6 months. I went into the hospital 2 months into the rental period, and was seriously ill for a month. It took months to track it down, but it turned out there was black mold in our rental and I had a life threatening allergic reaction.
It took me almost a year to regain my lung function after that.

We had planned on having another baby by now already. During my lung episode, it was so severe and unexplained that my doctor actually told me to forget any more pregnancies possibly forever. It crushed me.
But eventually and with lots of hard work, I bounced back to my pre-preg health. My doctors gave us the go ahead to try again!
But, after being that sick, all the while having a baby to care for and worry about, it really scared me! I was too scared to go for anther child-it was my husband that tried to tell me to keep hope. It was sooo painful, but I had my mind made up that I could never do it again-bc of the 'what ifs'.
I regret that I almost threw away a whole year with worrying and giving up.
And here I am now-ttc.-6 months now and nothing yet.

You have to do it when the time is right for you. I waited until my gut told me it was the right time.

Some things are out of your control, but not everything. There's some simple rules that we follow for me to be able to be a healthy mom. Our lives run differently than non-cf families.
For the most part, the rule of thumb is to not go for a 2nd pregnancy till you have reached your pre-preg fev1 and held it for a period of time.

I'm glad that I didn't get preg when I had a 1.5-2 yr old. Its too much for me. I feel confident having kids that would be 3-5 yrs apart.
Taking care of my cf is first priority. Its part of taking care of my daughter. I have to be healthy for her. I don't let anything get in the way of my pt schedule.

Well, wish you the best in making your decision. I know I haven't been through having a 2nd yet, but I'm on the road so I thought I'd share my "mouthful" here!
Take Care and update us!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hi Kelly,
I've wanted to reply to this for days but haven't been able to! I can totally relate. My husband and I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and we want her to have a sibling.
My pregnancy and birth with her was soooo easy-textbook 'healthy' from day one. I felt better than I ever have body wise, lung wise and mentally-while preg, and had no complications. After I had her, I was ready to get pregnant again right away!
Unfortunately I had a severe lung complication a year after having my daughter. My husband and I made the decision to renovate our home, and we moved out and rented for 6 months. I went into the hospital 2 months into the rental period, and was seriously ill for a month. It took months to track it down, but it turned out there was black mold in our rental and I had a life threatening allergic reaction.
It took me almost a year to regain my lung function after that.

We had planned on having another baby by now already. During my lung episode, it was so severe and unexplained that my doctor actually told me to forget any more pregnancies possibly forever. It crushed me.
But eventually and with lots of hard work, I bounced back to my pre-preg health. My doctors gave us the go ahead to try again!
But, after being that sick, all the while having a baby to care for and worry about, it really scared me! I was too scared to go for anther child-it was my husband that tried to tell me to keep hope. It was sooo painful, but I had my mind made up that I could never do it again-bc of the 'what ifs'.
I regret that I almost threw away a whole year with worrying and giving up.
And here I am now-ttc.-6 months now and nothing yet.

You have to do it when the time is right for you. I waited until my gut told me it was the right time.

Some things are out of your control, but not everything. There's some simple rules that we follow for me to be able to be a healthy mom. Our lives run differently than non-cf families.
For the most part, the rule of thumb is to not go for a 2nd pregnancy till you have reached your pre-preg fev1 and held it for a period of time.

I'm glad that I didn't get preg when I had a 1.5-2 yr old. Its too much for me. I feel confident having kids that would be 3-5 yrs apart.
Taking care of my cf is first priority. Its part of taking care of my daughter. I have to be healthy for her. I don't let anything get in the way of my pt schedule.

Well, wish you the best in making your decision. I know I haven't been through having a 2nd yet, but I'm on the road so I thought I'd share my "mouthful" here!
Take Care and update us!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hi Kelly,
I've wanted to reply to this for days but haven't been able to! I can totally relate. My husband and I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and we want her to have a sibling.
My pregnancy and birth with her was soooo easy-textbook 'healthy' from day one. I felt better than I ever have body wise, lung wise and mentally-while preg, and had no complications. After I had her, I was ready to get pregnant again right away!
Unfortunately I had a severe lung complication a year after having my daughter. My husband and I made the decision to renovate our home, and we moved out and rented for 6 months. I went into the hospital 2 months into the rental period, and was seriously ill for a month. It took months to track it down, but it turned out there was black mold in our rental and I had a life threatening allergic reaction.
It took me almost a year to regain my lung function after that.

We had planned on having another baby by now already. During my lung episode, it was so severe and unexplained that my doctor actually told me to forget any more pregnancies possibly forever. It crushed me.
But eventually and with lots of hard work, I bounced back to my pre-preg health. My doctors gave us the go ahead to try again!
But, after being that sick, all the while having a baby to care for and worry about, it really scared me! I was too scared to go for anther child-it was my husband that tried to tell me to keep hope. It was sooo painful, but I had my mind made up that I could never do it again-bc of the 'what ifs'.
I regret that I almost threw away a whole year with worrying and giving up.
And here I am now-ttc.-6 months now and nothing yet.

You have to do it when the time is right for you. I waited until my gut told me it was the right time.

Some things are out of your control, but not everything. There's some simple rules that we follow for me to be able to be a healthy mom. Our lives run differently than non-cf families.
For the most part, the rule of thumb is to not go for a 2nd pregnancy till you have reached your pre-preg fev1 and held it for a period of time.

I'm glad that I didn't get preg when I had a 1.5-2 yr old. Its too much for me. I feel confident having kids that would be 3-5 yrs apart.
Taking care of my cf is first priority. Its part of taking care of my daughter. I have to be healthy for her. I don't let anything get in the way of my pt schedule.

Well, wish you the best in making your decision. I know I haven't been through having a 2nd yet, but I'm on the road so I thought I'd share my "mouthful" here!
Take Care and update us!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hi Kelly,
I've wanted to reply to this for days but haven't been able to! I can totally relate. My husband and I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and we want her to have a sibling.
My pregnancy and birth with her was soooo easy-textbook 'healthy' from day one. I felt better than I ever have body wise, lung wise and mentally-while preg, and had no complications. After I had her, I was ready to get pregnant again right away!
Unfortunately I had a severe lung complication a year after having my daughter. My husband and I made the decision to renovate our home, and we moved out and rented for 6 months. I went into the hospital 2 months into the rental period, and was seriously ill for a month. It took months to track it down, but it turned out there was black mold in our rental and I had a life threatening allergic reaction.
It took me almost a year to regain my lung function after that.

We had planned on having another baby by now already. During my lung episode, it was so severe and unexplained that my doctor actually told me to forget any more pregnancies possibly forever. It crushed me.
But eventually and with lots of hard work, I bounced back to my pre-preg health. My doctors gave us the go ahead to try again!
But, after being that sick, all the while having a baby to care for and worry about, it really scared me! I was too scared to go for anther child-it was my husband that tried to tell me to keep hope. It was sooo painful, but I had my mind made up that I could never do it again-bc of the 'what ifs'.
I regret that I almost threw away a whole year with worrying and giving up.
And here I am now-ttc.-6 months now and nothing yet.

You have to do it when the time is right for you. I waited until my gut told me it was the right time.

Some things are out of your control, but not everything. There's some simple rules that we follow for me to be able to be a healthy mom. Our lives run differently than non-cf families.
For the most part, the rule of thumb is to not go for a 2nd pregnancy till you have reached your pre-preg fev1 and held it for a period of time.

I'm glad that I didn't get preg when I had a 1.5-2 yr old. Its too much for me. I feel confident having kids that would be 3-5 yrs apart.
Taking care of my cf is first priority. Its part of taking care of my daughter. I have to be healthy for her. I don't let anything get in the way of my pt schedule.

Well, wish you the best in making your decision. I know I haven't been through having a 2nd yet, but I'm on the road so I thought I'd share my "mouthful" here!
Take Care and update us!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hi Kelly,
<br />I've wanted to reply to this for days but haven't been able to! I can totally relate. My husband and I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and we want her to have a sibling.
<br />My pregnancy and birth with her was soooo easy-textbook 'healthy' from day one. I felt better than I ever have body wise, lung wise and mentally-while preg, and had no complications. After I had her, I was ready to get pregnant again right away!
<br />Unfortunately I had a severe lung complication a year after having my daughter. My husband and I made the decision to renovate our home, and we moved out and rented for 6 months. I went into the hospital 2 months into the rental period, and was seriously ill for a month. It took months to track it down, but it turned out there was black mold in our rental and I had a life threatening allergic reaction.
<br />It took me almost a year to regain my lung function after that.
<br />
<br />We had planned on having another baby by now already. During my lung episode, it was so severe and unexplained that my doctor actually told me to forget any more pregnancies possibly forever. It crushed me.
<br />But eventually and with lots of hard work, I bounced back to my pre-preg health. My doctors gave us the go ahead to try again!
<br />But, after being that sick, all the while having a baby to care for and worry about, it really scared me! I was too scared to go for anther child-it was my husband that tried to tell me to keep hope. It was sooo painful, but I had my mind made up that I could never do it again-bc of the 'what ifs'.
<br />I regret that I almost threw away a whole year with worrying and giving up.
<br />And here I am now-ttc.-6 months now and nothing yet.
<br />
<br />You have to do it when the time is right for you. I waited until my gut told me it was the right time.
<br />
<br />Some things are out of your control, but not everything. There's some simple rules that we follow for me to be able to be a healthy mom. Our lives run differently than non-cf families.
<br />For the most part, the rule of thumb is to not go for a 2nd pregnancy till you have reached your pre-preg fev1 and held it for a period of time.
<br />
<br />I'm glad that I didn't get preg when I had a 1.5-2 yr old. Its too much for me. I feel confident having kids that would be 3-5 yrs apart.
<br />Taking care of my cf is first priority. Its part of taking care of my daughter. I have to be healthy for her. I don't let anything get in the way of my pt schedule.
<br />
<br />Well, wish you the best in making your decision. I know I haven't been through having a 2nd yet, but I'm on the road so I thought I'd share my "mouthful" here!
<br />Take Care and update us!
 

crystalina0814

New member
Hi Kelly!

I was scared too.

I have two beautiful babies ( dec 05 and jun 08).
My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation. I was perfectly healthy before conceiving both (high 90's for FEV1, and healthy weight), and I stayed healthy throughout and after bith pregnancies.

Having two is a bit exhausting sometimes, but in return they give me such joy and they give me even more of a reason to stay very compliant and proactive with my health.

Two is it for me...unless God has other plans. I cannot see me having another and staying as healthy as I am now. Children are work after all! haha.

Good luck with your decision making.
 

crystalina0814

New member
Hi Kelly!

I was scared too.

I have two beautiful babies ( dec 05 and jun 08).
My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation. I was perfectly healthy before conceiving both (high 90's for FEV1, and healthy weight), and I stayed healthy throughout and after bith pregnancies.

Having two is a bit exhausting sometimes, but in return they give me such joy and they give me even more of a reason to stay very compliant and proactive with my health.

Two is it for me...unless God has other plans. I cannot see me having another and staying as healthy as I am now. Children are work after all! haha.

Good luck with your decision making.
 

crystalina0814

New member
Hi Kelly!

I was scared too.

I have two beautiful babies ( dec 05 and jun 08).
My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation. I was perfectly healthy before conceiving both (high 90's for FEV1, and healthy weight), and I stayed healthy throughout and after bith pregnancies.

Having two is a bit exhausting sometimes, but in return they give me such joy and they give me even more of a reason to stay very compliant and proactive with my health.

Two is it for me...unless God has other plans. I cannot see me having another and staying as healthy as I am now. Children are work after all! haha.

Good luck with your decision making.
 

crystalina0814

New member
Hi Kelly!

I was scared too.

I have two beautiful babies ( dec 05 and jun 08).
My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation. I was perfectly healthy before conceiving both (high 90's for FEV1, and healthy weight), and I stayed healthy throughout and after bith pregnancies.

Having two is a bit exhausting sometimes, but in return they give me such joy and they give me even more of a reason to stay very compliant and proactive with my health.

Two is it for me...unless God has other plans. I cannot see me having another and staying as healthy as I am now. Children are work after all! haha.

Good luck with your decision making.
 

crystalina0814

New member
Hi Kelly!
<br />
<br />I was scared too.
<br />
<br />I have two beautiful babies ( dec 05 and jun 08).
<br />My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation. I was perfectly healthy before conceiving both (high 90's for FEV1, and healthy weight), and I stayed healthy throughout and after bith pregnancies.
<br />
<br />Having two is a bit exhausting sometimes, but in return they give me such joy and they give me even more of a reason to stay very compliant and proactive with my health.
<br />
<br />Two is it for me...unless God has other plans. I cannot see me having another and staying as healthy as I am now. Children are work after all! haha.
<br />
<br />Good luck with your decision making.
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>crystalina0814</b></i>


My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation.

.</end quote></div>

hi christina,
you sound very happy and like you 'got it together'. do you mind me asking-how many months did you try to conceive your 2nd child before deciding to use IUI...did your doc reccomend it or you decide on your own.
and how is your health now...thanks! good to hear a new perspective!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>crystalina0814</b></i>


My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation.

.</end quote></div>

hi christina,
you sound very happy and like you 'got it together'. do you mind me asking-how many months did you try to conceive your 2nd child before deciding to use IUI...did your doc reccomend it or you decide on your own.
and how is your health now...thanks! good to hear a new perspective!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>crystalina0814</b></i>


My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation.

.</end quote></div>

hi christina,
you sound very happy and like you 'got it together'. do you mind me asking-how many months did you try to conceive your 2nd child before deciding to use IUI...did your doc reccomend it or you decide on your own.
and how is your health now...thanks! good to hear a new perspective!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>crystalina0814</b></i>


My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation.

.</end quote>

hi christina,
you sound very happy and like you 'got it together'. do you mind me asking-how many months did you try to conceive your 2nd child before deciding to use IUI...did your doc reccomend it or you decide on your own.
and how is your health now...thanks! good to hear a new perspective!
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>crystalina0814</b></i>
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<br />
<br />My first one was a complete surprise (ready or not...!), with my second I had a little bit of help through insemintation.
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<br />.</end quote>
<br />
<br />hi christina,
<br />you sound very happy and like you 'got it together'. do you mind me asking-how many months did you try to conceive your 2nd child before deciding to use IUI...did your doc reccomend it or you decide on your own.
<br />and how is your health now...thanks! good to hear a new perspective!
 
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kelbuckeyesrn

Guest
thanks!

Thanks so much for your input! I totally agree with not letting fear rule your life. And you guys are right, you just have to make taking care of yourself a priority. I have been able to manage this so far, and am not planning on changing that! I will keep you updated on what we decide....
 
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kelbuckeyesrn

Guest
thanks!

Thanks so much for your input! I totally agree with not letting fear rule your life. And you guys are right, you just have to make taking care of yourself a priority. I have been able to manage this so far, and am not planning on changing that! I will keep you updated on what we decide....
 
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kelbuckeyesrn

Guest
thanks!

Thanks so much for your input! I totally agree with not letting fear rule your life. And you guys are right, you just have to make taking care of yourself a priority. I have been able to manage this so far, and am not planning on changing that! I will keep you updated on what we decide....
 
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kelbuckeyesrn

Guest
thanks!

Thanks so much for your input! I totally agree with not letting fear rule your life. And you guys are right, you just have to make taking care of yourself a priority. I have been able to manage this so far, and am not planning on changing that! I will keep you updated on what we decide....
 
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kelbuckeyesrn

Guest
thanks!

Thanks so much for your input! I totally agree with not letting fear rule your life. And you guys are right, you just have to make taking care of yourself a priority. I have been able to manage this so far, and am not planning on changing that! I will keep you updated on what we decide....
 
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