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I need help with bulling
- Thread starter DeeChick
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Ok,here is the deal.I am a bit big but I only think I am big boned.These boys and girs for that matter cal me Shreck,Whale etc.I have no convidince in PE class or anything.If I get bullied I always cry about it because it really hurts.I cant handle it no more.It is mostly tennages.
by all means let people know what is going on so they can watch over you, but whatever you do, DONT get them directly involved, DONT fight back and DONT show any weakness. they are the 3 worst things you can do, especially if they are the violent kind of bullies. i dont know what goes through their heads, but doing the above pretty much switches their psycho buttons on. i use to get bullied alot at school. i told the school counsellor, thinking i could just get tips off of them and get stuff off my chest. so what did she do? she stuck her noses right in it and stirred the pot. things got 10 times worse from there on. i didnt know what to do so i ended up lashing out at them [sticking up for myself as some call it] and losing control and crying. the bullies threatened me with violence, and they werent bluffing either, they had already beaten several girls to a pulp and one had given my friend a hard slap in the face. the bullying then extended to outside of school. i went to the car asap after school. afterschool was always the time for fights so the faster i got out of there the better. if i saw them at shops they would bully me there. they told their friends from other schools to do the same as well. i always had to watch my back. the counsellor realised she had stuffed things up so she promised not to get involved anymore. she then gave me the best advice. ignore them and dont show your weakness's. so no looking away, no crying, no running, no talking back, no yelling, no dobbing. dont act like you are avoiding them, just act like they dont even exist. stand with friends when the bullies are near. they are far less likely to do something if you have backup. i wish she gave me that advice in the first place because they soon moved on.
hey every1 i'm deechicks best m8 and i have been standing up for her but now i have been getting the s*** for it but i can handle it becoz i have more confidence then deechick but we have been to the school management about it and it as been all good so far one of the girls have already said sorry and me and deechick have forgiven her but i swear that if this other chick does not stop this she may be sore for a while. thanks for all the advice you have been gaven my m8 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
hey deechick i understand aboutnot knowing what to do or how to handle it. through most of my schooling, i was bullied. I am an adult now and it still affects how i act and relate with others. like some of the other posters said--you having confidence through a hobby, weight lifting or self defense class will definately help! if that is to scary of a thought-bring a friend. i know it dont sound like it will but having confidence in YOU, in DeeChick <b>Text</b> will make a huge differance in how you carry yourself. It will change(maybe slowly-give it time) the way you see the world.
btw-do you see the glass as half full or half empty? I am a chronic half empty kind a girl. i know when i look and feel pretty, having a sunny good day, life is going as it should-it is so easy to fill that glass up and let 'er overflow. well, so easily can the glass be empty or have a hole in it, and the water is falling out faster than if falls down niargra falls.
i didnt want to hear this when i was in your spot but do either of your parents know how truly feel? talking to a TRUSTED adult (just like a be-friend) is great.
i didnt want to hear this either but seeing a counsler, outside of school helped me greatly. actually i put of seeing one, and now i enjoy seeing my counsler. its like she
"teaches" me how to feel and how to deal with lifel i mention seeing a counsler outside of school b/c sometimes the counslers in school can have pre-labeled that person. if $ is a problem ask the counslers secretary if they use a payment plan with a slide rule for people who havomg $money probs?
athnow good thing you have going for you is your friend becstar.
well its4:20a so i gotta go crash.
good luck and im praying for you & becstart.
btw-do you see the glass as half full or half empty? I am a chronic half empty kind a girl. i know when i look and feel pretty, having a sunny good day, life is going as it should-it is so easy to fill that glass up and let 'er overflow. well, so easily can the glass be empty or have a hole in it, and the water is falling out faster than if falls down niargra falls.
i didnt want to hear this when i was in your spot but do either of your parents know how truly feel? talking to a TRUSTED adult (just like a be-friend) is great.
i didnt want to hear this either but seeing a counsler, outside of school helped me greatly. actually i put of seeing one, and now i enjoy seeing my counsler. its like she
"teaches" me how to feel and how to deal with lifel i mention seeing a counsler outside of school b/c sometimes the counslers in school can have pre-labeled that person. if $ is a problem ask the counslers secretary if they use a payment plan with a slide rule for people who havomg $money probs?
athnow good thing you have going for you is your friend becstar.
well its4:20a so i gotta go crash.
good luck and im praying for you & becstart.