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AbbysMama

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Our 3 year old likes to say that she doesn't feel well while we are giving Abby her CPT or breathing treatments. We've had "discussions" with her to let her know that if she wants us to do something for her that she doesn't have to tell us that she feels bad. Balancing everything (related to attention) was one of my major concerns when we found out Abby was on the way. I have an 8 year old step daughter and we have angst around here sometimes because she feels that we give the little two more attention than she gets, however, I think that is more related to sibling rivalry and not illness.

Just my random thoughts for today.

Em
 
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AbbysMama

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Our 3 year old likes to say that she doesn't feel well while we are giving Abby her CPT or breathing treatments. We've had "discussions" with her to let her know that if she wants us to do something for her that she doesn't have to tell us that she feels bad. Balancing everything (related to attention) was one of my major concerns when we found out Abby was on the way. I have an 8 year old step daughter and we have angst around here sometimes because she feels that we give the little two more attention than she gets, however, I think that is more related to sibling rivalry and not illness.

Just my random thoughts for today.

Em
 
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AbbysMama

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Our 3 year old likes to say that she doesn't feel well while we are giving Abby her CPT or breathing treatments. We've had "discussions" with her to let her know that if she wants us to do something for her that she doesn't have to tell us that she feels bad. Balancing everything (related to attention) was one of my major concerns when we found out Abby was on the way. I have an 8 year old step daughter and we have angst around here sometimes because she feels that we give the little two more attention than she gets, however, I think that is more related to sibling rivalry and not illness.

Just my random thoughts for today.

Em
 
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AbbysMama

New member
Our 3 year old likes to say that she doesn't feel well while we are giving Abby her CPT or breathing treatments. We've had "discussions" with her to let her know that if she wants us to do something for her that she doesn't have to tell us that she feels bad. Balancing everything (related to attention) was one of my major concerns when we found out Abby was on the way. I have an 8 year old step daughter and we have angst around here sometimes because she feels that we give the little two more attention than she gets, however, I think that is more related to sibling rivalry and not illness.

Just my random thoughts for today.

Em
 
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AbbysMama

New member
Our 3 year old likes to say that she doesn't feel well while we are giving Abby her CPT or breathing treatments. We've had "discussions" with her to let her know that if she wants us to do something for her that she doesn't have to tell us that she feels bad. Balancing everything (related to attention) was one of my major concerns when we found out Abby was on the way. I have an 8 year old step daughter and we have angst around here sometimes because she feels that we give the little two more attention than she gets, however, I think that is more related to sibling rivalry and not illness.

Just my random thoughts for today.

Em
 
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Rebjane

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Craig,

It is likely that a 14 year old will find any reason to resent the parents. We all just have a unique situation. I worry about my son as well, feeling left out, less attention, even if the attention is for treatments/VEST etc. I guess grab little moments when it's just the 2 of you; without Craig, take her out shopping, for a sweet treat like icecream(not sure what 14 year old girls will just roll their eyes at) I need to do the same for my son. It's hard work to fit it in. Lately my husband is deprived of attention.(oh well) Your daughter is old enough to talk with her that she may understand that you do not choose to put so much time into Craig but tHAT it's vital for his well being and survival. I'm hoping our family situation will make my son an empathic and caring adult. That's my hope.
 
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Rebjane

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Craig,

It is likely that a 14 year old will find any reason to resent the parents. We all just have a unique situation. I worry about my son as well, feeling left out, less attention, even if the attention is for treatments/VEST etc. I guess grab little moments when it's just the 2 of you; without Craig, take her out shopping, for a sweet treat like icecream(not sure what 14 year old girls will just roll their eyes at) I need to do the same for my son. It's hard work to fit it in. Lately my husband is deprived of attention.(oh well) Your daughter is old enough to talk with her that she may understand that you do not choose to put so much time into Craig but tHAT it's vital for his well being and survival. I'm hoping our family situation will make my son an empathic and caring adult. That's my hope.
 
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Rebjane

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Craig,

It is likely that a 14 year old will find any reason to resent the parents. We all just have a unique situation. I worry about my son as well, feeling left out, less attention, even if the attention is for treatments/VEST etc. I guess grab little moments when it's just the 2 of you; without Craig, take her out shopping, for a sweet treat like icecream(not sure what 14 year old girls will just roll their eyes at) I need to do the same for my son. It's hard work to fit it in. Lately my husband is deprived of attention.(oh well) Your daughter is old enough to talk with her that she may understand that you do not choose to put so much time into Craig but tHAT it's vital for his well being and survival. I'm hoping our family situation will make my son an empathic and caring adult. That's my hope.
 
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Rebjane

Super Moderator
Craig,

It is likely that a 14 year old will find any reason to resent the parents. We all just have a unique situation. I worry about my son as well, feeling left out, less attention, even if the attention is for treatments/VEST etc. I guess grab little moments when it's just the 2 of you; without Craig, take her out shopping, for a sweet treat like icecream(not sure what 14 year old girls will just roll their eyes at) I need to do the same for my son. It's hard work to fit it in. Lately my husband is deprived of attention.(oh well) Your daughter is old enough to talk with her that she may understand that you do not choose to put so much time into Craig but tHAT it's vital for his well being and survival. I'm hoping our family situation will make my son an empathic and caring adult. That's my hope.
 
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Rebjane

Super Moderator
Craig,

It is likely that a 14 year old will find any reason to resent the parents. We all just have a unique situation. I worry about my son as well, feeling left out, less attention, even if the attention is for treatments/VEST etc. I guess grab little moments when it's just the 2 of you; without Craig, take her out shopping, for a sweet treat like icecream(not sure what 14 year old girls will just roll their eyes at) I need to do the same for my son. It's hard work to fit it in. Lately my husband is deprived of attention.(oh well) Your daughter is old enough to talk with her that she may understand that you do not choose to put so much time into Craig but tHAT it's vital for his well being and survival. I'm hoping our family situation will make my son an empathic and caring adult. That's my hope.
 
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bittyhorse23

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dyza</b></i>

I sometimes wonder if my 14 year old daughter (no CF) resents us because of the time and commitment that we put into Craig's care. When I look at the situation, it does appear that we ignore her....or maybe its because she is that age, you know, stroppy teenager.



Do any of you have older kids that feel left out? Its such a fine balancing act regardless of any illness dont ya think.



Craig</end quote></div>


I often wondered this too growing up since I am the one with CF and my younger brother is healthy. But we fought the normal sibling rivalry stuff up until I moved out at 22 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Now we are very close. I think if anything now that he is older he understands why I had more attention. I can only assume though because I have never actually asked him about it. but maybe I will...he probably wouldn't give me an honest answer anyway LOL!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Hope that helped a little.
 
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bittyhorse23

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dyza</b></i>

I sometimes wonder if my 14 year old daughter (no CF) resents us because of the time and commitment that we put into Craig's care. When I look at the situation, it does appear that we ignore her....or maybe its because she is that age, you know, stroppy teenager.



Do any of you have older kids that feel left out? Its such a fine balancing act regardless of any illness dont ya think.



Craig</end quote></div>


I often wondered this too growing up since I am the one with CF and my younger brother is healthy. But we fought the normal sibling rivalry stuff up until I moved out at 22 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Now we are very close. I think if anything now that he is older he understands why I had more attention. I can only assume though because I have never actually asked him about it. but maybe I will...he probably wouldn't give me an honest answer anyway LOL!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Hope that helped a little.
 
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bittyhorse23

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dyza</b></i>

I sometimes wonder if my 14 year old daughter (no CF) resents us because of the time and commitment that we put into Craig's care. When I look at the situation, it does appear that we ignore her....or maybe its because she is that age, you know, stroppy teenager.



Do any of you have older kids that feel left out? Its such a fine balancing act regardless of any illness dont ya think.



Craig</end quote></div>


I often wondered this too growing up since I am the one with CF and my younger brother is healthy. But we fought the normal sibling rivalry stuff up until I moved out at 22 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Now we are very close. I think if anything now that he is older he understands why I had more attention. I can only assume though because I have never actually asked him about it. but maybe I will...he probably wouldn't give me an honest answer anyway LOL!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Hope that helped a little.
 
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bittyhorse23

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dyza</b></i>

I sometimes wonder if my 14 year old daughter (no CF) resents us because of the time and commitment that we put into Craig's care. When I look at the situation, it does appear that we ignore her....or maybe its because she is that age, you know, stroppy teenager.



Do any of you have older kids that feel left out? Its such a fine balancing act regardless of any illness dont ya think.



Craig</end quote>


I often wondered this too growing up since I am the one with CF and my younger brother is healthy. But we fought the normal sibling rivalry stuff up until I moved out at 22 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Now we are very close. I think if anything now that he is older he understands why I had more attention. I can only assume though because I have never actually asked him about it. but maybe I will...he probably wouldn't give me an honest answer anyway LOL!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Hope that helped a little.
 
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bittyhorse23

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dyza</b></i>

I sometimes wonder if my 14 year old daughter (no CF) resents us because of the time and commitment that we put into Craig's care. When I look at the situation, it does appear that we ignore her....or maybe its because she is that age, you know, stroppy teenager.



Do any of you have older kids that feel left out? Its such a fine balancing act regardless of any illness dont ya think.



Craig</end quote>


I often wondered this too growing up since I am the one with CF and my younger brother is healthy. But we fought the normal sibling rivalry stuff up until I moved out at 22 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Now we are very close. I think if anything now that he is older he understands why I had more attention. I can only assume though because I have never actually asked him about it. but maybe I will...he probably wouldn't give me an honest answer anyway LOL!!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Hope that helped a little.
 
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