I would give eveything... a lil help???

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Dha53213

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I fell in love with the most beautiful girl and she has CF. I can't stand the thought of the avg. life span being somewhere near 33.4 it tears me apart. I breakown everytime I think about it. I don't know what to do and don't exactly know what im asking. Any thoughts are much appriciated. God she is amazing and i wish i could spend my whole life with her...................... <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">



THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH

Smile because it just hit me life is too short to not be happy....


I WISH I COULD MAKE IT ALL BETTER FOR EVERYONE
 
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anonymous

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That's not the average lifespan for everyone, if you take a look at some of the posts on this site they come from CFers who are in their 40's, 50's and some even older. Although I know it is hard, you can't live your life constantaly thinking about that. I choose to look at it this way, at least my husband (who has CF) and I know that our lives together might not be as long as someone without CF, but it's a blessing for us to know that because we can cherish the time we have together now and enjoy every moment, not worrying about the future. and furthermore, those other people without CF might not have such long lives together either, they just don't know it. People die unexpectedly every day in accidents and such things. Those people had NO idea that their lives were to be shorter than they expected, and chances are they didn't take time to cherish things like someone who has CF does. I know that last part might be a little bit of a grim way to look at things, but when things get tough for us and I start to struggle I just remind myself of how lucky we are to KNOW that we don't have all the time in the world and we need to enjoy things everyday as they come.

Just out of curiosity, how old are you and how old is she? How long have you two been together?

Best of luck,

Julie (wife to Mark 24 w/CF)
 
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Dha53213

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I understand where you are comin from completly im just gonna do all i can. I am 19 and so is she and we have only know
n eachother for a little time but when i met her i knew she was amazing and then we started talking and i learned so much about her and weve only been together for like maybe umm a week or so i know its crazy and maybe lame but it think it was love at first sight for me....

I know i should "slow down" but even if we aren't GF BF it doesnt matter to me i still wanna help because i never took the time to stop and think how hard certain challenges can be. I have done things in the past for certain groups but i dont think enough. I wanna do more for everyone...
 
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anonymous

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i would love to have someone feel like that about me!! i hope everything works out for u both and at the end of the day as said before its quality time together not quantity.

emma 18 w cf
 
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anonymous

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Well thank you emma it is much needed hope if you ever wanna talk to neone there is always someone there. SMILE because you and everyone is worth it.
 
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anonymous

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I know how you are feeling and where you are coming from. My husband met when I was 16, and he was 19. He told me right away about his CF and thought I might be scared off like some other girls, but I wasn't. There are more important things in life than that. And when he is sick, and having a CF exaserbation, it is hard on me and I really do struggle. Those are the times, especially, that I turn to this website for people to talk to. But the good times are good because we make them good. I won't lie to you, when he is sick it is really hard on me- I wish it was me instead of him and I wish there was something that I could do about it. But really all we can do sometimes is just be there and take care of someone and that is enough.

I believe in love at first site, and in my opinion there is nothing wrong with knowing someone for such a short time and feeling the way you do. Some people will disagree, but it sounds the same for you two as for my husband and I. I knew within the first week that I was going to marry him someday (although he says it took him a bit <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) and even my mom said that the first time she met him, she knew we would be married someday.

I wish you two the best, and don't let anybody else change your mind about your feelings for her!

Julie (wife to mark 24 w/cf)
 
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Dha53213

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i hope thats how she feels... i didnt believe in love at first sight .................. UNTIL i saw her. but we will see where it takes us i just want her to smile and me be the reason. Well thank you all and i thank you for the support. and i just had a talk from someone i met who made me realize that it is you who makes you smile others just make it happen without choice sometimes and that when we lose a love to anything we can still be happy no matter if they break up with you or nething. It's ok to make yourself happy dont deny you of that. SMILE everyone... SMILE inside and out<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
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