Donna, after reading your post, I would have to say that it would be unnatural if you weren't overly concerned about your little one's health. What you feel is very natural, and even harder to "push" to the back of your head when you little one has CF (or any other illness).
I can't imagine, as I am not a mom yet, but I hope to be someday-soon and know that I have an overprotective side to me anyways. I have had good practice with my husband though, wanting to protect him from anything that might make him ill, but realizing that when this life is over and done for him, all he will have is the memories we have together, the memories with his family and hopefully millions of memories of good and fun times. I NEVER want him to think, "i wish i did this, I wish I did that, I should have gone and not stayed home..." Therefore, as much as I want to say, "we really should't go to your brothers, the kids are sick" he isn't dumb, he knows the kids are sick, and if he expresses that he wants to go, well then by all means let's go. Now, I understand that it is differnt for a child who can't make their own educated decisions for quite a while, and as a parent it might be hard to make one, on one hand wanting them to have fun, on the other wanting to keep them healthy.... but it the end it's about quality [of life] and not necessairly quantitly [length] of life.
All in all, I believe that you will start to feel more comfortable with time, not that it won't be difficult though. It's good that you realize and are aware that it could be a potential issue for you and that you are willing to address it/work on it when the time comes. I wish your son the best, as well as your family!
Julie (wife to Mark 24 w/CF)
I can't imagine, as I am not a mom yet, but I hope to be someday-soon and know that I have an overprotective side to me anyways. I have had good practice with my husband though, wanting to protect him from anything that might make him ill, but realizing that when this life is over and done for him, all he will have is the memories we have together, the memories with his family and hopefully millions of memories of good and fun times. I NEVER want him to think, "i wish i did this, I wish I did that, I should have gone and not stayed home..." Therefore, as much as I want to say, "we really should't go to your brothers, the kids are sick" he isn't dumb, he knows the kids are sick, and if he expresses that he wants to go, well then by all means let's go. Now, I understand that it is differnt for a child who can't make their own educated decisions for quite a while, and as a parent it might be hard to make one, on one hand wanting them to have fun, on the other wanting to keep them healthy.... but it the end it's about quality [of life] and not necessairly quantitly [length] of life.
All in all, I believe that you will start to feel more comfortable with time, not that it won't be difficult though. It's good that you realize and are aware that it could be a potential issue for you and that you are willing to address it/work on it when the time comes. I wish your son the best, as well as your family!
Julie (wife to Mark 24 w/CF)