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charl72

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Our daughter cultured Pseudo again almost 4 weeks ago and she has been on Cipro for 3 weeks this Saturday. Anyways, my brother text me two weeks ago to say how 'sorry' he was and that he'd phone me. Three weeks have also passed and he still hasn't phoned me cos he's so 'busy'. He sent me a text a couple of days ago asking how we all were - I replied and asked how his little boy was doing and he told me he had had a chest infection and was on antibiotics. I just felt really angry that he had to go into so much detail under the circumstances - do any of you understand me feeling like this or am I just being insenstive. Be honest! X

PS I don't want anyone to be 'sorry', just to be more sensitive about things. That's all I ask.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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Our daughter cultured Pseudo again almost 4 weeks ago and she has been on Cipro for 3 weeks this Saturday. Anyways, my brother text me two weeks ago to say how 'sorry' he was and that he'd phone me. Three weeks have also passed and he still hasn't phoned me cos he's so 'busy'. He sent me a text a couple of days ago asking how we all were - I replied and asked how his little boy was doing and he told me he had had a chest infection and was on antibiotics. I just felt really angry that he had to go into so much detail under the circumstances - do any of you understand me feeling like this or am I just being insenstive. Be honest! X

PS I don't want anyone to be 'sorry', just to be more sensitive about things. That's all I ask.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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Our daughter cultured Pseudo again almost 4 weeks ago and she has been on Cipro for 3 weeks this Saturday. Anyways, my brother text me two weeks ago to say how 'sorry' he was and that he'd phone me. Three weeks have also passed and he still hasn't phoned me cos he's so 'busy'. He sent me a text a couple of days ago asking how we all were - I replied and asked how his little boy was doing and he told me he had had a chest infection and was on antibiotics. I just felt really angry that he had to go into so much detail under the circumstances - do any of you understand me feeling like this or am I just being insenstive. Be honest! X

PS I don't want anyone to be 'sorry', just to be more sensitive about things. That's all I ask.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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Our daughter cultured Pseudo again almost 4 weeks ago and she has been on Cipro for 3 weeks this Saturday. Anyways, my brother text me two weeks ago to say how 'sorry' he was and that he'd phone me. Three weeks have also passed and he still hasn't phoned me cos he's so 'busy'. He sent me a text a couple of days ago asking how we all were - I replied and asked how his little boy was doing and he told me he had had a chest infection and was on antibiotics. I just felt really angry that he had to go into so much detail under the circumstances - do any of you understand me feeling like this or am I just being insenstive. Be honest! X

PS I don't want anyone to be 'sorry', just to be more sensitive about things. That's all I ask.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

New member
Our daughter cultured Pseudo again almost 4 weeks ago and she has been on Cipro for 3 weeks this Saturday. Anyways, my brother text me two weeks ago to say how 'sorry' he was and that he'd phone me. Three weeks have also passed and he still hasn't phoned me cos he's so 'busy'. He sent me a text a couple of days ago asking how we all were - I replied and asked how his little boy was doing and he told me he had had a chest infection and was on antibiotics. I just felt really angry that he had to go into so much detail under the circumstances - do any of you understand me feeling like this or am I just being insenstive. Be honest! X

PS I don't want anyone to be 'sorry', just to be more sensitive about things. That's all I ask.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">
 
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Ratatosk

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Families. Sigh! I've been having a tough time lately because my darling sister is "just too busy working and raising a family" to answer emails, answer calls or call me. She has yet to meet DS and he was born over 4 years ago. My mom makes excuses for her -- "she's so busy with work and the kids". I even offered to send her a plane ticket. She's taken a vacation 2-3 times to fly and visit a friend of hers new daughter.

Sorry, I hijacked your post. As parents, we deal with CF every day. Are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop... I guess for other people, when their kids get an ear infection, strep, etc. they're not used to it, it's something unique to them, dealing with a child's illness. They just don't think. I feel your pain, some days I just want to scream.
 
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Ratatosk

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Families. Sigh! I've been having a tough time lately because my darling sister is "just too busy working and raising a family" to answer emails, answer calls or call me. She has yet to meet DS and he was born over 4 years ago. My mom makes excuses for her -- "she's so busy with work and the kids". I even offered to send her a plane ticket. She's taken a vacation 2-3 times to fly and visit a friend of hers new daughter.

Sorry, I hijacked your post. As parents, we deal with CF every day. Are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop... I guess for other people, when their kids get an ear infection, strep, etc. they're not used to it, it's something unique to them, dealing with a child's illness. They just don't think. I feel your pain, some days I just want to scream.
 
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Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
Families. Sigh! I've been having a tough time lately because my darling sister is "just too busy working and raising a family" to answer emails, answer calls or call me. She has yet to meet DS and he was born over 4 years ago. My mom makes excuses for her -- "she's so busy with work and the kids". I even offered to send her a plane ticket. She's taken a vacation 2-3 times to fly and visit a friend of hers new daughter.

Sorry, I hijacked your post. As parents, we deal with CF every day. Are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop... I guess for other people, when their kids get an ear infection, strep, etc. they're not used to it, it's something unique to them, dealing with a child's illness. They just don't think. I feel your pain, some days I just want to scream.
 
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Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
Families. Sigh! I've been having a tough time lately because my darling sister is "just too busy working and raising a family" to answer emails, answer calls or call me. She has yet to meet DS and he was born over 4 years ago. My mom makes excuses for her -- "she's so busy with work and the kids". I even offered to send her a plane ticket. She's taken a vacation 2-3 times to fly and visit a friend of hers new daughter.

Sorry, I hijacked your post. As parents, we deal with CF every day. Are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop... I guess for other people, when their kids get an ear infection, strep, etc. they're not used to it, it's something unique to them, dealing with a child's illness. They just don't think. I feel your pain, some days I just want to scream.
 
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Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
Families. Sigh! I've been having a tough time lately because my darling sister is "just too busy working and raising a family" to answer emails, answer calls or call me. She has yet to meet DS and he was born over 4 years ago. My mom makes excuses for her -- "she's so busy with work and the kids". I even offered to send her a plane ticket. She's taken a vacation 2-3 times to fly and visit a friend of hers new daughter.

Sorry, I hijacked your post. As parents, we deal with CF every day. Are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop... I guess for other people, when their kids get an ear infection, strep, etc. they're not used to it, it's something unique to them, dealing with a child's illness. They just don't think. I feel your pain, some days I just want to scream.
 
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lilismom

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I think it's hard for people to understand what we as parents go through on a daily basis. And although a chest infection in a non cf patient may not be such a big deal to us I'm sure it has been hard for them to deal with a sick child. And it can be serious, one of my friends healthy 4 year old almost died last year from a flu that turned into pneumonia, he'll have respiratory problems the rest of his life.
I try to remind myself of this when my sil is always complaining her kids are sick. We all have our own issues in our own families, so even though dealing with CF is more difficult than health issues in many families we can't discount what others are going through - it's their reality.

I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
 
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lilismom

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I think it's hard for people to understand what we as parents go through on a daily basis. And although a chest infection in a non cf patient may not be such a big deal to us I'm sure it has been hard for them to deal with a sick child. And it can be serious, one of my friends healthy 4 year old almost died last year from a flu that turned into pneumonia, he'll have respiratory problems the rest of his life.
I try to remind myself of this when my sil is always complaining her kids are sick. We all have our own issues in our own families, so even though dealing with CF is more difficult than health issues in many families we can't discount what others are going through - it's their reality.

I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
 
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lilismom

Active member
I think it's hard for people to understand what we as parents go through on a daily basis. And although a chest infection in a non cf patient may not be such a big deal to us I'm sure it has been hard for them to deal with a sick child. And it can be serious, one of my friends healthy 4 year old almost died last year from a flu that turned into pneumonia, he'll have respiratory problems the rest of his life.
I try to remind myself of this when my sil is always complaining her kids are sick. We all have our own issues in our own families, so even though dealing with CF is more difficult than health issues in many families we can't discount what others are going through - it's their reality.

I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
 
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lilismom

Active member
I think it's hard for people to understand what we as parents go through on a daily basis. And although a chest infection in a non cf patient may not be such a big deal to us I'm sure it has been hard for them to deal with a sick child. And it can be serious, one of my friends healthy 4 year old almost died last year from a flu that turned into pneumonia, he'll have respiratory problems the rest of his life.
I try to remind myself of this when my sil is always complaining her kids are sick. We all have our own issues in our own families, so even though dealing with CF is more difficult than health issues in many families we can't discount what others are going through - it's their reality.

I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
 
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lilismom

Active member
I think it's hard for people to understand what we as parents go through on a daily basis. And although a chest infection in a non cf patient may not be such a big deal to us I'm sure it has been hard for them to deal with a sick child. And it can be serious, one of my friends healthy 4 year old almost died last year from a flu that turned into pneumonia, he'll have respiratory problems the rest of his life.
I try to remind myself of this when my sil is always complaining her kids are sick. We all have our own issues in our own families, so even though dealing with CF is more difficult than health issues in many families we can't discount what others are going through - it's their reality.

I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
 
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2sickkids

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I think it's just how people are. Some people anyway. I get the avoid them thing all the time. My sons' paternal g-ma has not seen them in over three years. She lives maybe 1/2 hour away and comes to vist fam that live minutes away. My sons have started school and people keep telling me how sorry they are for me and how they could never do that.. That drives me batty. It's like people are saying my kids and my life aren't good enough. I have made the mistake of going off a few times. I end up feeling bad. But sometimes it needs to be done. I broke my parents of the habit of telling people my sons have asthma and they will get better. My brother doesn't call them dying babies anymore. True my 4yr old has cf and my 3 yr old has cf and autism. But that our life. You know the things we do daily that other peole don't is not an extra step. I have people call me to vent about silly things. That makes me feel better. Because those are the ones that still talk to me. They know even on a bad day I wake up and go to sleep glad that I had another day with my kids. The funny thing is of all the friends and family couldn't handle cf some of them were ppl that before my kids I spoke to every day. But the ones that I do talk to the first thing they ask is how are the kids.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
I think it's just how people are. Some people anyway. I get the avoid them thing all the time. My sons' paternal g-ma has not seen them in over three years. She lives maybe 1/2 hour away and comes to vist fam that live minutes away. My sons have started school and people keep telling me how sorry they are for me and how they could never do that.. That drives me batty. It's like people are saying my kids and my life aren't good enough. I have made the mistake of going off a few times. I end up feeling bad. But sometimes it needs to be done. I broke my parents of the habit of telling people my sons have asthma and they will get better. My brother doesn't call them dying babies anymore. True my 4yr old has cf and my 3 yr old has cf and autism. But that our life. You know the things we do daily that other peole don't is not an extra step. I have people call me to vent about silly things. That makes me feel better. Because those are the ones that still talk to me. They know even on a bad day I wake up and go to sleep glad that I had another day with my kids. The funny thing is of all the friends and family couldn't handle cf some of them were ppl that before my kids I spoke to every day. But the ones that I do talk to the first thing they ask is how are the kids.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
I think it's just how people are. Some people anyway. I get the avoid them thing all the time. My sons' paternal g-ma has not seen them in over three years. She lives maybe 1/2 hour away and comes to vist fam that live minutes away. My sons have started school and people keep telling me how sorry they are for me and how they could never do that.. That drives me batty. It's like people are saying my kids and my life aren't good enough. I have made the mistake of going off a few times. I end up feeling bad. But sometimes it needs to be done. I broke my parents of the habit of telling people my sons have asthma and they will get better. My brother doesn't call them dying babies anymore. True my 4yr old has cf and my 3 yr old has cf and autism. But that our life. You know the things we do daily that other peole don't is not an extra step. I have people call me to vent about silly things. That makes me feel better. Because those are the ones that still talk to me. They know even on a bad day I wake up and go to sleep glad that I had another day with my kids. The funny thing is of all the friends and family couldn't handle cf some of them were ppl that before my kids I spoke to every day. But the ones that I do talk to the first thing they ask is how are the kids.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
I think it's just how people are. Some people anyway. I get the avoid them thing all the time. My sons' paternal g-ma has not seen them in over three years. She lives maybe 1/2 hour away and comes to vist fam that live minutes away. My sons have started school and people keep telling me how sorry they are for me and how they could never do that.. That drives me batty. It's like people are saying my kids and my life aren't good enough. I have made the mistake of going off a few times. I end up feeling bad. But sometimes it needs to be done. I broke my parents of the habit of telling people my sons have asthma and they will get better. My brother doesn't call them dying babies anymore. True my 4yr old has cf and my 3 yr old has cf and autism. But that our life. You know the things we do daily that other peole don't is not an extra step. I have people call me to vent about silly things. That makes me feel better. Because those are the ones that still talk to me. They know even on a bad day I wake up and go to sleep glad that I had another day with my kids. The funny thing is of all the friends and family couldn't handle cf some of them were ppl that before my kids I spoke to every day. But the ones that I do talk to the first thing they ask is how are the kids.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
I think it's just how people are. Some people anyway. I get the avoid them thing all the time. My sons' paternal g-ma has not seen them in over three years. She lives maybe 1/2 hour away and comes to vist fam that live minutes away. My sons have started school and people keep telling me how sorry they are for me and how they could never do that.. That drives me batty. It's like people are saying my kids and my life aren't good enough. I have made the mistake of going off a few times. I end up feeling bad. But sometimes it needs to be done. I broke my parents of the habit of telling people my sons have asthma and they will get better. My brother doesn't call them dying babies anymore. True my 4yr old has cf and my 3 yr old has cf and autism. But that our life. You know the things we do daily that other peole don't is not an extra step. I have people call me to vent about silly things. That makes me feel better. Because those are the ones that still talk to me. They know even on a bad day I wake up and go to sleep glad that I had another day with my kids. The funny thing is of all the friends and family couldn't handle cf some of them were ppl that before my kids I spoke to every day. But the ones that I do talk to the first thing they ask is how are the kids.
 
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