I can't lie, it's been a thought of, "what would I do if something happened to Mark" but here's the truth about this situation. He could die tomorrow in a car crash, plane wreck, stray bullet... You never really know in life and there are NO guarantees of anything. I could die tomorrow, or next week, or in two years from any of those things. I live my life by this saying, "it is better to have loved then lost, to NEVER have loved at all" and although sometimes the comments and things people say can hurt, My husband and I have to make choices based on what we want in our future, not what anybody else thinks is right.
To whoever is making comments to you that they think you are selfish...and whatever else they might be saying. I really think they ought to look in the mirror, because you usually only see the flaws in others that you see in yourself. And nine times out of ten, they are just putting off on you what they see in themselves.
If you and your husband really want this, then do it.
Julie