Just a question really

xmdlx · Jun 8, 2008

Hi, Ive just signed up to this site to ask this question really [:

Ive been with my girlfriend now for nearly two years, so I can say I know a lot about Cf and all that.

What it is, my girlfriend is very beautiful and I can honestly say I love her with all my heart..
But she seems to be so down all the time..
And its not because of the cf, its because she believes she is fat.
I have read alot about some medications that can bloat your stomach out and that, but she just gets so down about it.

She trys clothes on and says she looks fat in this.. or its too clingy.. its clinging to my stomach. She is a size 10 [uk size], and sometimes will try on size 10 dress and is unable to fit in them, so she automatically assumes its because she thinks she is fat.
I could give so many examples of this, but its really effecting our relationship now.

At the begining it was so great.. happy times and fun times.. where now we both seem misrable all the time. It feels like I cant win anymore.. I tell how gorgeous and beautiful she is but she will never believe me.

I feel like im setting my self up to fail all the time..
I just want her to be happy.

I guess what my question is [about time I no], is there anything she can do to help her stomach? or to make her feel more confident?
Exercises you could recommend? anything really..

Please reply [:

Thanks

xmdlx · Jun 8, 2008

Hi, Ive just signed up to this site to ask this question really [:

Ive been with my girlfriend now for nearly two years, so I can say I know a lot about Cf and all that.

What it is, my girlfriend is very beautiful and I can honestly say I love her with all my heart..
But she seems to be so down all the time..
And its not because of the cf, its because she believes she is fat.
I have read alot about some medications that can bloat your stomach out and that, but she just gets so down about it.

She trys clothes on and says she looks fat in this.. or its too clingy.. its clinging to my stomach. She is a size 10 [uk size], and sometimes will try on size 10 dress and is unable to fit in them, so she automatically assumes its because she thinks she is fat.
I could give so many examples of this, but its really effecting our relationship now.

At the begining it was so great.. happy times and fun times.. where now we both seem misrable all the time. It feels like I cant win anymore.. I tell how gorgeous and beautiful she is but she will never believe me.

I feel like im setting my self up to fail all the time..
I just want her to be happy.

I guess what my question is [about time I no], is there anything she can do to help her stomach? or to make her feel more confident?
Exercises you could recommend? anything really..

Please reply [:

Thanks

xmdlx · Jun 8, 2008

Hi, Ive just signed up to this site to ask this question really [:

Ive been with my girlfriend now for nearly two years, so I can say I know a lot about Cf and all that.

What it is, my girlfriend is very beautiful and I can honestly say I love her with all my heart..
But she seems to be so down all the time..
And its not because of the cf, its because she believes she is fat.
I have read alot about some medications that can bloat your stomach out and that, but she just gets so down about it.

She trys clothes on and says she looks fat in this.. or its too clingy.. its clinging to my stomach. She is a size 10 [uk size], and sometimes will try on size 10 dress and is unable to fit in them, so she automatically assumes its because she thinks she is fat.
I could give so many examples of this, but its really effecting our relationship now.

At the begining it was so great.. happy times and fun times.. where now we both seem misrable all the time. It feels like I cant win anymore.. I tell how gorgeous and beautiful she is but she will never believe me.

I feel like im setting my self up to fail all the time..
I just want her to be happy.

I guess what my question is [about time I no], is there anything she can do to help her stomach? or to make her feel more confident?
Exercises you could recommend? anything really..

Please reply [:

Thanks

xmdlx · Jun 8, 2008

Hi, Ive just signed up to this site to ask this question really [:

Ive been with my girlfriend now for nearly two years, so I can say I know a lot about Cf and all that.

What it is, my girlfriend is very beautiful and I can honestly say I love her with all my heart..
But she seems to be so down all the time..
And its not because of the cf, its because she believes she is fat.
I have read alot about some medications that can bloat your stomach out and that, but she just gets so down about it.

She trys clothes on and says she looks fat in this.. or its too clingy.. its clinging to my stomach. She is a size 10 [uk size], and sometimes will try on size 10 dress and is unable to fit in them, so she automatically assumes its because she thinks she is fat.
I could give so many examples of this, but its really effecting our relationship now.

At the begining it was so great.. happy times and fun times.. where now we both seem misrable all the time. It feels like I cant win anymore.. I tell how gorgeous and beautiful she is but she will never believe me.

I feel like im setting my self up to fail all the time..
I just want her to be happy.

I guess what my question is [about time I no], is there anything she can do to help her stomach? or to make her feel more confident?
Exercises you could recommend? anything really..

Please reply [:

Thanks

xmdlx · Jun 8, 2008

Hi, Ive just signed up to this site to ask this question really [:
 
 Ive been with my girlfriend now for nearly two years, so I can say I know a lot about Cf and all that.
 
 What it is, my girlfriend is very beautiful and I can honestly say I love her with all my heart..
 But she seems to be so down all the time..
 And its not because of the cf, its because she believes she is fat.
 I have read alot about some medications that can bloat your stomach out and that, but she just gets so down about it.
 
 She trys clothes on and says she looks fat in this.. or its too clingy.. its clinging to my stomach. She is a size 10 [uk size], and sometimes will try on size 10 dress and is unable to fit in them, so she automatically assumes its because she thinks she is fat.
 I could give so many examples of this, but its really effecting our relationship now.
 
 At the begining it was so great.. happy times and fun times.. where now we both seem misrable all the time. It feels like I cant win anymore.. I tell how gorgeous and beautiful she is but she will never believe me.
 
 I feel like im setting my self up to fail all the time..
 I just want her to be happy.
 
 I guess what my question is [about time I no], is there anything she can do to help her stomach? or to make her feel more confident?
 Exercises you could recommend? anything really..
 
 Please reply [:
 
 Thanks

findingher · Jun 8, 2008

For me, it just goes with the territory. Your girlfriend has to learn to just accept this about herself, and realize she's beautiful in other ways. What I CAN recommend, are ways to camouflage that area, learning to dress so it isn't so prominent. Finding a good tailor is also a good idea. Here's what I learned that might help your girlfriend find clothing that hides it- but she's got to deal with the emotional part herself. I think it's awesome that you want to try to help her, and this post speaks volumes about how much you care about her!

Wearing clothes that don't cling, and have structure- a button down shirt with good seaming can hide a lot, creating a shape itself.

Clothing that has a defined waist, such as a tie, draws attention to the SLIMMEST part of the waist, especially if it flares out slightly under the tie. Empire waists can be good, but some only make it worse- you don't want to look pregnant instead.

Fitted jackets are very good at defining a shape.

A tailor is a godsend. If you buy something to fit the largest part of you- the stomach in this case - you can have everything else taken in.

findingher · Jun 8, 2008

For me, it just goes with the territory. Your girlfriend has to learn to just accept this about herself, and realize she's beautiful in other ways. What I CAN recommend, are ways to camouflage that area, learning to dress so it isn't so prominent. Finding a good tailor is also a good idea. Here's what I learned that might help your girlfriend find clothing that hides it- but she's got to deal with the emotional part herself. I think it's awesome that you want to try to help her, and this post speaks volumes about how much you care about her!

Wearing clothes that don't cling, and have structure- a button down shirt with good seaming can hide a lot, creating a shape itself.

Clothing that has a defined waist, such as a tie, draws attention to the SLIMMEST part of the waist, especially if it flares out slightly under the tie. Empire waists can be good, but some only make it worse- you don't want to look pregnant instead.

Fitted jackets are very good at defining a shape.

A tailor is a godsend. If you buy something to fit the largest part of you- the stomach in this case - you can have everything else taken in.

findingher · Jun 8, 2008

For me, it just goes with the territory. Your girlfriend has to learn to just accept this about herself, and realize she's beautiful in other ways. What I CAN recommend, are ways to camouflage that area, learning to dress so it isn't so prominent. Finding a good tailor is also a good idea. Here's what I learned that might help your girlfriend find clothing that hides it- but she's got to deal with the emotional part herself. I think it's awesome that you want to try to help her, and this post speaks volumes about how much you care about her!

Wearing clothes that don't cling, and have structure- a button down shirt with good seaming can hide a lot, creating a shape itself.

Clothing that has a defined waist, such as a tie, draws attention to the SLIMMEST part of the waist, especially if it flares out slightly under the tie. Empire waists can be good, but some only make it worse- you don't want to look pregnant instead.

Fitted jackets are very good at defining a shape.

A tailor is a godsend. If you buy something to fit the largest part of you- the stomach in this case - you can have everything else taken in.

findingher · Jun 8, 2008

For me, it just goes with the territory. Your girlfriend has to learn to just accept this about herself, and realize she's beautiful in other ways. What I CAN recommend, are ways to camouflage that area, learning to dress so it isn't so prominent. Finding a good tailor is also a good idea. Here's what I learned that might help your girlfriend find clothing that hides it- but she's got to deal with the emotional part herself. I think it's awesome that you want to try to help her, and this post speaks volumes about how much you care about her!

Wearing clothes that don't cling, and have structure- a button down shirt with good seaming can hide a lot, creating a shape itself.

Clothing that has a defined waist, such as a tie, draws attention to the SLIMMEST part of the waist, especially if it flares out slightly under the tie. Empire waists can be good, but some only make it worse- you don't want to look pregnant instead.

Fitted jackets are very good at defining a shape.

A tailor is a godsend. If you buy something to fit the largest part of you- the stomach in this case - you can have everything else taken in.

findingher · Jun 8, 2008

For me, it just goes with the territory. Your girlfriend has to learn to just accept this about herself, and realize she's beautiful in other ways. What I CAN recommend, are ways to camouflage that area, learning to dress so it isn't so prominent. Finding a good tailor is also a good idea. Here's what I learned that might help your girlfriend find clothing that hides it- but she's got to deal with the emotional part herself. I think it's awesome that you want to try to help her, and this post speaks volumes about how much you care about her!
 
 Wearing clothes that don't cling, and have structure- a button down shirt with good seaming can hide a lot, creating a shape itself.
 
 Clothing that has a defined waist, such as a tie, draws attention to the SLIMMEST part of the waist, especially if it flares out slightly under the tie. Empire waists can be good, but some only make it worse- you don't want to look pregnant instead.
 
 Fitted jackets are very good at defining a shape.
 
 A tailor is a godsend. If you buy something to fit the largest part of you- the stomach in this case - you can have everything else taken in.

SeeEff · Jun 8, 2008

I have CF & the doctors were all over me to gain weight. I did & now my stomach makes me look like I'm pregnant (two people have asked me 'when I'm due')
I bought myself a sort-of corset to wear under dresses & SPANX body shaper for underneath regular clothes. they help alot but sometimes they make it hard to breath - so I don't wear them ALL the time.
Of course, I don't recommend you telling her to buy these things - then it'll seem like you do think she's fat.

you seem like a nice guy & it's good you tell her how you feel, but SHE has to feel good about herself because SHE believes it, not because you or someone else tells her so.
I don't know how to help you do that.

maybe the two of you could exercise together? crunches & things like that?
I always say I'm going to start doing them - but never do. if you motivate by making it a joint effort, perhaps?
I don't know - good luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

SeeEff · Jun 8, 2008

I have CF & the doctors were all over me to gain weight. I did & now my stomach makes me look like I'm pregnant (two people have asked me 'when I'm due')
I bought myself a sort-of corset to wear under dresses & SPANX body shaper for underneath regular clothes. they help alot but sometimes they make it hard to breath - so I don't wear them ALL the time.
Of course, I don't recommend you telling her to buy these things - then it'll seem like you do think she's fat.

you seem like a nice guy & it's good you tell her how you feel, but SHE has to feel good about herself because SHE believes it, not because you or someone else tells her so.
I don't know how to help you do that.

maybe the two of you could exercise together? crunches & things like that?
I always say I'm going to start doing them - but never do. if you motivate by making it a joint effort, perhaps?
I don't know - good luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

SeeEff · Jun 8, 2008

I have CF & the doctors were all over me to gain weight. I did & now my stomach makes me look like I'm pregnant (two people have asked me 'when I'm due')
I bought myself a sort-of corset to wear under dresses & SPANX body shaper for underneath regular clothes. they help alot but sometimes they make it hard to breath - so I don't wear them ALL the time.
Of course, I don't recommend you telling her to buy these things - then it'll seem like you do think she's fat.

you seem like a nice guy & it's good you tell her how you feel, but SHE has to feel good about herself because SHE believes it, not because you or someone else tells her so.
I don't know how to help you do that.

maybe the two of you could exercise together? crunches & things like that?
I always say I'm going to start doing them - but never do. if you motivate by making it a joint effort, perhaps?
I don't know - good luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

SeeEff · Jun 8, 2008

I have CF & the doctors were all over me to gain weight. I did & now my stomach makes me look like I'm pregnant (two people have asked me 'when I'm due')
I bought myself a sort-of corset to wear under dresses & SPANX body shaper for underneath regular clothes. they help alot but sometimes they make it hard to breath - so I don't wear them ALL the time.
Of course, I don't recommend you telling her to buy these things - then it'll seem like you do think she's fat.

you seem like a nice guy & it's good you tell her how you feel, but SHE has to feel good about herself because SHE believes it, not because you or someone else tells her so.
I don't know how to help you do that.

maybe the two of you could exercise together? crunches & things like that?
I always say I'm going to start doing them - but never do. if you motivate by making it a joint effort, perhaps?
I don't know - good luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

SeeEff · Jun 8, 2008

I have CF & the doctors were all over me to gain weight. I did & now my stomach makes me look like I'm pregnant (two people have asked me 'when I'm due')
 I bought myself a sort-of corset to wear under dresses & SPANX body shaper for underneath regular clothes. they help alot but sometimes they make it hard to breath - so I don't wear them ALL the time.
 Of course, I don't recommend you telling her to buy these things - then it'll seem like you do think she's fat.
 
 you seem like a nice guy & it's good you tell her how you feel, but SHE has to feel good about herself because SHE believes it, not because you or someone else tells her so.
 I don't know how to help you do that.
 
 maybe the two of you could exercise together? crunches & things like that?
 I always say I'm going to start doing them - but never do. if you motivate by making it a joint effort, perhaps?
 I don't know - good luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Sevenstars · Jun 8, 2008

I would have to say in all honesty, there probably is not a whole lot she can do to make her stomach smaller. For a lot of people with CF, if you have it, you have it. Some people have found certain diets or exercises to help, but the majority of us have just learned to deal with a mini pot-belly. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">

Check out this thread: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://forums.cysticfibrosis.com/messageview.cfm?catid=5&threadid=31444&STARTPAGE=1&FTVAR_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
">http://forums.cysticfibrosis.c...R_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
</a>
Long thread but it's worth the read. It just gives you some perspective on how common it is in CF patients. Sometimes its medicines, but sometimes its just our messed up GI tract too.

For advice for your GF? Very tough call. You might want to stress to her that it's just a part of CF, and you accept that, and you love her regardless of CF, of her tummy, or anything else she can throw at you. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> (kissing her tummy when you say that might be a good way to emphasize the point <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) Suggest that she buys a bigger size that fits better... it's not always about stuffing yourself into the smallest size just so you can say you wear a smaller size. I bet she'd feel a lot better about herself if she found something cut well, that was sexy, and fit her well - but it might have to be a size 12 or even 14.

Welcome to the site, and good luck with everything. You sound really caring. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Sevenstars · Jun 8, 2008

I would have to say in all honesty, there probably is not a whole lot she can do to make her stomach smaller. For a lot of people with CF, if you have it, you have it. Some people have found certain diets or exercises to help, but the majority of us have just learned to deal with a mini pot-belly. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">

Check out this thread: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://forums.cysticfibrosis.com/messageview.cfm?catid=5&threadid=31444&STARTPAGE=1&FTVAR_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
">http://forums.cysticfibrosis.c...R_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
</a>
Long thread but it's worth the read. It just gives you some perspective on how common it is in CF patients. Sometimes its medicines, but sometimes its just our messed up GI tract too.

For advice for your GF? Very tough call. You might want to stress to her that it's just a part of CF, and you accept that, and you love her regardless of CF, of her tummy, or anything else she can throw at you. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> (kissing her tummy when you say that might be a good way to emphasize the point <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) Suggest that she buys a bigger size that fits better... it's not always about stuffing yourself into the smallest size just so you can say you wear a smaller size. I bet she'd feel a lot better about herself if she found something cut well, that was sexy, and fit her well - but it might have to be a size 12 or even 14.

Welcome to the site, and good luck with everything. You sound really caring. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Sevenstars · Jun 8, 2008

I would have to say in all honesty, there probably is not a whole lot she can do to make her stomach smaller. For a lot of people with CF, if you have it, you have it. Some people have found certain diets or exercises to help, but the majority of us have just learned to deal with a mini pot-belly. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">

Check out this thread: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://forums.cysticfibrosis.com/messageview.cfm?catid=5&threadid=31444&STARTPAGE=1&FTVAR_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
">http://forums.cysticfibrosis.c...R_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
</a>
Long thread but it's worth the read. It just gives you some perspective on how common it is in CF patients. Sometimes its medicines, but sometimes its just our messed up GI tract too.

For advice for your GF? Very tough call. You might want to stress to her that it's just a part of CF, and you accept that, and you love her regardless of CF, of her tummy, or anything else she can throw at you. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> (kissing her tummy when you say that might be a good way to emphasize the point <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) Suggest that she buys a bigger size that fits better... it's not always about stuffing yourself into the smallest size just so you can say you wear a smaller size. I bet she'd feel a lot better about herself if she found something cut well, that was sexy, and fit her well - but it might have to be a size 12 or even 14.

Welcome to the site, and good luck with everything. You sound really caring. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Sevenstars · Jun 8, 2008

I would have to say in all honesty, there probably is not a whole lot she can do to make her stomach smaller. For a lot of people with CF, if you have it, you have it. Some people have found certain diets or exercises to help, but the majority of us have just learned to deal with a mini pot-belly. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">

Check out this thread: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://forums.cysticfibrosis.com/messageview.cfm?catid=5&threadid=31444&STARTPAGE=1&FTVAR_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
">http://forums.cysticfibrosis.c...R_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
</a>
Long thread but it's worth the read. It just gives you some perspective on how common it is in CF patients. Sometimes its medicines, but sometimes its just our messed up GI tract too.

For advice for your GF? Very tough call. You might want to stress to her that it's just a part of CF, and you accept that, and you love her regardless of CF, of her tummy, or anything else she can throw at you. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> (kissing her tummy when you say that might be a good way to emphasize the point <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) Suggest that she buys a bigger size that fits better... it's not always about stuffing yourself into the smallest size just so you can say you wear a smaller size. I bet she'd feel a lot better about herself if she found something cut well, that was sexy, and fit her well - but it might have to be a size 12 or even 14.

Welcome to the site, and good luck with everything. You sound really caring. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Sevenstars · Jun 8, 2008

I would have to say in all honesty, there probably is not a whole lot she can do to make her stomach smaller. For a lot of people with CF, if you have it, you have it. Some people have found certain diets or exercises to help, but the majority of us have just learned to deal with a mini pot-belly. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
 
 Check out this thread: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://forums.cysticfibrosis.com/messageview.cfm?catid=5&threadid=31444&STARTPAGE=1&FTVAR_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
">http://forums.cysticfibrosis.c...R_FORUMVIEWTMP=Linear
</a> 
 Long thread but it's worth the read. It just gives you some perspective on how common it is in CF patients. Sometimes its medicines, but sometimes its just our messed up GI tract too.
 
 For advice for your GF? Very tough call. You might want to stress to her that it's just a part of CF, and you accept that, and you love her regardless of CF, of her tummy, or anything else she can throw at you. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> (kissing her tummy when you say that might be a good way to emphasize the point <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) Suggest that she buys a bigger size that fits better... it's not always about stuffing yourself into the smallest size just so you can say you wear a smaller size. I bet she'd feel a lot better about herself if she found something cut well, that was sexy, and fit her well - but it might have to be a size 12 or even 14.
 
 Welcome to the site, and good luck with everything. You sound really caring. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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