What a great letter!! Helen, I love how you made it from his point of view. Is it okay if I post it to my website, too? I like to make things like this available for others. See www.TipsForCFparents.com. Thanks.
The church nursery issue is tough - we struggled with that for years. We did talk with the nursery workers about good hand washing, etc, but didn't talk with the parents- our church is so big.
So, we didn't have them in there for awhile and just took turns watching kids and going to church at different services. And as they have gotten older (11 & 9), it is now much easier.
Good luck with this! Lisa