Have you gone to an infertility doctor yet? We also tried for 10 years (and nothing), and tried for 2 years with the help of an infertility specialist before our daughter came along (on what we were discussing being our last try). Feel free to pm me if you'd like. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
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Life without babies and i really want babies
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Have you gone to an infertility doctor yet? We also tried for 10 years (and nothing), and tried for 2 years with the help of an infertility specialist before our daughter came along (on what we were discussing being our last try). Feel free to pm me if you'd like. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
Have you gone to an infertility doctor yet? We also tried for 10 years (and nothing), and tried for 2 years with the help of an infertility specialist before our daughter came along (on what we were discussing being our last try). Feel free to pm me if you'd like. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
Have you gone to an infertility doctor yet? We also tried for 10 years (and nothing), and tried for 2 years with the help of an infertility specialist before our daughter came along (on what we were discussing being our last try). Feel free to pm me if you'd like. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
Have you gone to an infertility doctor yet? We also tried for 10 years (and nothing), and tried for 2 years with the help of an infertility specialist before our daughter came along (on what we were discussing being our last try). Feel free to pm me if you'd like. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
thefrogprincess
New member
I too wanted nothing more than a baby all my life. I had a two-fold wake up call. My marriage fell apart, and my health took a dive that I have never recovered from. I am not end stage or anything, but my lungs and my body are too sick and too tired to carry a child. Plus I barely have enough time in my day to take care of myself, throw a kid in there and I know my health would decline fast.
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
thefrogprincess
New member
I too wanted nothing more than a baby all my life. I had a two-fold wake up call. My marriage fell apart, and my health took a dive that I have never recovered from. I am not end stage or anything, but my lungs and my body are too sick and too tired to carry a child. Plus I barely have enough time in my day to take care of myself, throw a kid in there and I know my health would decline fast.
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
thefrogprincess
New member
I too wanted nothing more than a baby all my life. I had a two-fold wake up call. My marriage fell apart, and my health took a dive that I have never recovered from. I am not end stage or anything, but my lungs and my body are too sick and too tired to carry a child. Plus I barely have enough time in my day to take care of myself, throw a kid in there and I know my health would decline fast.
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
thefrogprincess
New member
I too wanted nothing more than a baby all my life. I had a two-fold wake up call. My marriage fell apart, and my health took a dive that I have never recovered from. I am not end stage or anything, but my lungs and my body are too sick and too tired to carry a child. Plus I barely have enough time in my day to take care of myself, throw a kid in there and I know my health would decline fast.
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
thefrogprincess
New member
I too wanted nothing more than a baby all my life. I had a two-fold wake up call. My marriage fell apart, and my health took a dive that I have never recovered from. I am not end stage or anything, but my lungs and my body are too sick and too tired to carry a child. Plus I barely have enough time in my day to take care of myself, throw a kid in there and I know my health would decline fast.
<br />
<br />I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
<br />
<br />I am sad knowing that I will never get to be pregnant, never hold my own baby, or be called mom. I also feel somewhat bad knowing that my parents will never be grandparents even though they have told me that its all right. But what kind of parent would I be bringing a child into this world knowing that I couldn't take care of it the way it deserved?
fondreflections
New member
Thank you, Ladies, for sharing your stories. I know that I only tried for 3 years, but it helps to hear the 'other side' of the story.
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
fondreflections
New member
Thank you, Ladies, for sharing your stories. I know that I only tried for 3 years, but it helps to hear the 'other side' of the story.
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
fondreflections
New member
Thank you, Ladies, for sharing your stories. I know that I only tried for 3 years, but it helps to hear the 'other side' of the story.
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
fondreflections
New member
Thank you, Ladies, for sharing your stories. I know that I only tried for 3 years, but it helps to hear the 'other side' of the story.
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
fondreflections
New member
Thank you, Ladies, for sharing your stories. I know that I only tried for 3 years, but it helps to hear the 'other side' of the story.
<br />
<br />I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
<br />
<br />I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
<br />
<br />In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
<br />
<br />Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
<br />
<br />As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
<br />
<br />There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
<br />
<br />Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
<br />
<br />I hope this comes out right...For me, hearing that CF will advance makes the decision to remain 'childless' a little easier to handle. I do believe that if CF wasn't a factor I would have tried IUI or something. However when I stepped into the ring, I agreed to no intervention whatsoever. "If it's meant to be, it will be." Well, nothing ever happened which completely threw me off guard with my very normal cycles. I never expected to be in this boat. Sure you hear about other woman with fertility issues, but think I won't be one of them...
<br />
<br />I'm truely at the crossroads. Each day the option of remanining childless is getting easier to swallow. I certainly have my moments, but I believe we all do. They just get fewer and less frequent over time.
<br />
<br />In all honesty, I always did have moderate concern about how I would take care of my child while sick with my husband working 12 hour days. I don't have much help from him as it is because of the long hours he puts in as a finance manager. My Mom would have to help at times which isn't fair to a child.
<br />
<br />Reading things from CFers like, Melissa, who is 10 years down the road has also opened my eyes to the possible future my family would go through. Other threads which contained posts from Solo often render reassurance.
<br />
<br />As far as myself, I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I try and give 100%. As a parent with CF, I wouldn't be able to give 100%. That would surely break my heart and cause constant unsatisfaction.
<br />
<br />There also is the child's life to take into consideration. It isn't fair to subject the child to the life of a CFer. They didn't knowning sign up for it like a spouse does. I'm not the mildest of CFers either. I can understand how CF may not impact children to CF parents, if they have very high FEV1 values and are diagnosed so much later in life...
<br />
<br />Anyway, I'm sorry for rambling. I bottle up so much inside, and this is the place I let it all out. Sorry! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
bittyhorse23
New member
For as long as I can remember I have always wanted kids. I wanted to feel pregnant, be able to share the stories with my friends and talk about what parenting works and what doesn't. The end of last year I finally decided that I needed to have a new dream. Physically it is not healthy for me to have a baby. My lungs are not healthy enough and I know I would not be able to be the mother that I would want to be. It helps that alot of my friends are having babies (it also hurts too but not all the time). My best friend just had her son 2 weeks ago and since I am out of work right now I have been over there just about every day. I feel like a mom in a way since I am starting to know him and his cries and all. Plus seeing just how much work a newborn is makes me realize that I made the right choice for me. My health would decline even more if I were to take on having a baby right now. Its a hard choice but its one that you have to think through. There are days still were I cry wishing I could be a mom and know what its like to hold your own child in your arms but then I think about how I may never live to see them graduate from high school and it gives me a reality check.
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
bittyhorse23
New member
For as long as I can remember I have always wanted kids. I wanted to feel pregnant, be able to share the stories with my friends and talk about what parenting works and what doesn't. The end of last year I finally decided that I needed to have a new dream. Physically it is not healthy for me to have a baby. My lungs are not healthy enough and I know I would not be able to be the mother that I would want to be. It helps that alot of my friends are having babies (it also hurts too but not all the time). My best friend just had her son 2 weeks ago and since I am out of work right now I have been over there just about every day. I feel like a mom in a way since I am starting to know him and his cries and all. Plus seeing just how much work a newborn is makes me realize that I made the right choice for me. My health would decline even more if I were to take on having a baby right now. Its a hard choice but its one that you have to think through. There are days still were I cry wishing I could be a mom and know what its like to hold your own child in your arms but then I think about how I may never live to see them graduate from high school and it gives me a reality check.
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
bittyhorse23
New member
For as long as I can remember I have always wanted kids. I wanted to feel pregnant, be able to share the stories with my friends and talk about what parenting works and what doesn't. The end of last year I finally decided that I needed to have a new dream. Physically it is not healthy for me to have a baby. My lungs are not healthy enough and I know I would not be able to be the mother that I would want to be. It helps that alot of my friends are having babies (it also hurts too but not all the time). My best friend just had her son 2 weeks ago and since I am out of work right now I have been over there just about every day. I feel like a mom in a way since I am starting to know him and his cries and all. Plus seeing just how much work a newborn is makes me realize that I made the right choice for me. My health would decline even more if I were to take on having a baby right now. Its a hard choice but its one that you have to think through. There are days still were I cry wishing I could be a mom and know what its like to hold your own child in your arms but then I think about how I may never live to see them graduate from high school and it gives me a reality check.
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
bittyhorse23
New member
For as long as I can remember I have always wanted kids. I wanted to feel pregnant, be able to share the stories with my friends and talk about what parenting works and what doesn't. The end of last year I finally decided that I needed to have a new dream. Physically it is not healthy for me to have a baby. My lungs are not healthy enough and I know I would not be able to be the mother that I would want to be. It helps that alot of my friends are having babies (it also hurts too but not all the time). My best friend just had her son 2 weeks ago and since I am out of work right now I have been over there just about every day. I feel like a mom in a way since I am starting to know him and his cries and all. Plus seeing just how much work a newborn is makes me realize that I made the right choice for me. My health would decline even more if I were to take on having a baby right now. Its a hard choice but its one that you have to think through. There are days still were I cry wishing I could be a mom and know what its like to hold your own child in your arms but then I think about how I may never live to see them graduate from high school and it gives me a reality check.
You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
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You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
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bittyhorse23
New member
For as long as I can remember I have always wanted kids. I wanted to feel pregnant, be able to share the stories with my friends and talk about what parenting works and what doesn't. The end of last year I finally decided that I needed to have a new dream. Physically it is not healthy for me to have a baby. My lungs are not healthy enough and I know I would not be able to be the mother that I would want to be. It helps that alot of my friends are having babies (it also hurts too but not all the time). My best friend just had her son 2 weeks ago and since I am out of work right now I have been over there just about every day. I feel like a mom in a way since I am starting to know him and his cries and all. Plus seeing just how much work a newborn is makes me realize that I made the right choice for me. My health would decline even more if I were to take on having a baby right now. Its a hard choice but its one that you have to think through. There are days still were I cry wishing I could be a mom and know what its like to hold your own child in your arms but then I think about how I may never live to see them graduate from high school and it gives me a reality check.
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<br />You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
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<br />You are definitely NOT alone in your childless struggles. Many of us here have made that choice and though it hurts we know it is for the better for us <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
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