Littledebbie

[CFHockeyMom]

Like so many here the news of Debbie's passing came as a complete shock to me. Of course, I went back and read her blog. I didn't know Debbie well but she was certainly one of those people I always read. If I saw her name attached to a post, I read it.

I thought it would be a nice tribute to her and for her family if we could all share a favorite Debbie memory/phrase/quote; sort of our own memorial. Debbie wanted her funeral to be a "smashing party" all about her so as hard as it might be let's try to keep this "fun".

Here goes...

At one time Debbie had, as part of her signature, a picture with the phrase, "Well behaved women rarely make history." It was the first time I'd heard that and it really hit home for me because it is so true. I thought about the phrase for quite some time and decided that "well behaved" is not how I want to be remembered. I know she didn't coin the phrase but forever it will remind me of her.

 

[CFHockeyMom]

Like so many here the news of Debbie's passing came as a complete shock to me. Of course, I went back and read her blog. I didn't know Debbie well but she was certainly one of those people I always read. If I saw her name attached to a post, I read it.

I thought it would be a nice tribute to her and for her family if we could all share a favorite Debbie memory/phrase/quote; sort of our own memorial. Debbie wanted her funeral to be a "smashing party" all about her so as hard as it might be let's try to keep this "fun".

Here goes...

At one time Debbie had, as part of her signature, a picture with the phrase, "Well behaved women rarely make history." It was the first time I'd heard that and it really hit home for me because it is so true. I thought about the phrase for quite some time and decided that "well behaved" is not how I want to be remembered. I know she didn't coin the phrase but forever it will remind me of her.

 

[CFHockeyMom]

Like so many here the news of Debbie's passing came as a complete shock to me. Of course, I went back and read her blog. I didn't know Debbie well but she was certainly one of those people I always read. If I saw her name attached to a post, I read it.

I thought it would be a nice tribute to her and for her family if we could all share a favorite Debbie memory/phrase/quote; sort of our own memorial. Debbie wanted her funeral to be a "smashing party" all about her so as hard as it might be let's try to keep this "fun".

Here goes...

At one time Debbie had, as part of her signature, a picture with the phrase, "Well behaved women rarely make history." It was the first time I'd heard that and it really hit home for me because it is so true. I thought about the phrase for quite some time and decided that "well behaved" is not how I want to be remembered. I know she didn't coin the phrase but forever it will remind me of her.

 

[CFHockeyMom]

Like so many here the news of Debbie's passing came as a complete shock to me. Of course, I went back and read her blog. I didn't know Debbie well but she was certainly one of those people I always read. If I saw her name attached to a post, I read it.

I thought it would be a nice tribute to her and for her family if we could all share a favorite Debbie memory/phrase/quote; sort of our own memorial. Debbie wanted her funeral to be a "smashing party" all about her so as hard as it might be let's try to keep this "fun".

Here goes...

At one time Debbie had, as part of her signature, a picture with the phrase, "Well behaved women rarely make history." It was the first time I'd heard that and it really hit home for me because it is so true. I thought about the phrase for quite some time and decided that "well behaved" is not how I want to be remembered. I know she didn't coin the phrase but forever it will remind me of her.

 

[CFHockeyMom]

Like so many here the news of Debbie's passing came as a complete shock to me. Of course, I went back and read her blog. I didn't know Debbie well but she was certainly one of those people I always read. If I saw her name attached to a post, I read it.

I thought it would be a nice tribute to her and for her family if we could all share a favorite Debbie memory/phrase/quote; sort of our own memorial. Debbie wanted her funeral to be a "smashing party" all about her so as hard as it might be let's try to keep this "fun".

Here goes...

At one time Debbie had, as part of her signature, a picture with the phrase, "Well behaved women rarely make history." It was the first time I'd heard that and it really hit home for me because it is so true. I thought about the phrase for quite some time and decided that "well behaved" is not how I want to be remembered. I know she didn't coin the phrase but forever it will remind me of her.

 

[CFHockeyMom]

Like so many here the news of Debbie's passing came as a complete shock to me. Of course, I went back and read her blog. I didn't know Debbie well but she was certainly one of those people I always read. If I saw her name attached to a post, I read it.

I thought it would be a nice tribute to her and for her family if we could all share a favorite Debbie memory/phrase/quote; sort of our own memorial. Debbie wanted her funeral to be a "smashing party" all about her so as hard as it might be let's try to keep this "fun".

Here goes...

At one time Debbie had, as part of her signature, a picture with the phrase, "Well behaved women rarely make history." It was the first time I'd heard that and it really hit home for me because it is so true. I thought about the phrase for quite some time and decided that "well behaved" is not how I want to be remembered. I know she didn't coin the phrase but forever it will remind me of her.

 

[barbc888]

Debbie and I had been PM'ing the last 3-4 weeks because we found out she and I and someone else on this site lived in the same area. And we were all going to meet for lunch one day. So we were trying to figure out how we would know each other when we got to the restaurant. Debbie attached a picture of herself with this underneath, and it cracked me up:

<i>"I'll be skinny with a bad cough!!! haaaaa"</i> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[barbc888]

Debbie and I had been PM'ing the last 3-4 weeks because we found out she and I and someone else on this site lived in the same area. And we were all going to meet for lunch one day. So we were trying to figure out how we would know each other when we got to the restaurant. Debbie attached a picture of herself with this underneath, and it cracked me up:

<i>"I'll be skinny with a bad cough!!! haaaaa"</i> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[barbc888]

Debbie and I had been PM'ing the last 3-4 weeks because we found out she and I and someone else on this site lived in the same area. And we were all going to meet for lunch one day. So we were trying to figure out how we would know each other when we got to the restaurant. Debbie attached a picture of herself with this underneath, and it cracked me up:

<i>"I'll be skinny with a bad cough!!! haaaaa"</i> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[barbc888]

Debbie and I had been PM'ing the last 3-4 weeks because we found out she and I and someone else on this site lived in the same area. And we were all going to meet for lunch one day. So we were trying to figure out how we would know each other when we got to the restaurant. Debbie attached a picture of herself with this underneath, and it cracked me up:

<i>"I'll be skinny with a bad cough!!! haaaaa"</i> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[barbc888]

Debbie and I had been PM'ing the last 3-4 weeks because we found out she and I and someone else on this site lived in the same area. And we were all going to meet for lunch one day. So we were trying to figure out how we would know each other when we got to the restaurant. Debbie attached a picture of herself with this underneath, and it cracked me up:

<i>"I'll be skinny with a bad cough!!! haaaaa"</i> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[barbc888]

Debbie and I had been PM'ing the last 3-4 weeks because we found out she and I and someone else on this site lived in the same area. And we were all going to meet for lunch one day. So we were trying to figure out how we would know each other when we got to the restaurant. Debbie attached a picture of herself with this underneath, and it cracked me up:

<i>"I'll be skinny with a bad cough!!! haaaaa"</i> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[izemmom]

I will miss her humor of course, the stories of her string of "coffee dates" cracked me up. And, ONLY Debbie could make a trip to the medical center with inept lab tech to blow pft's AGAIN funny. Really funny.

But, as I said in the first thread, my favorite Debbie quote will always be:

<b>Tami, when i read what you have been through and your feelings and the way you handle it all I strangely smile to myself because I think...that Emily...she's going to be just fine...because she has Tami for a Mom, and how bad could life be with Tami on your side? </b>


Believe me, that comment has seen me through my hardest times, grapling with this damn disease. Long, lonely nights when I worried for Emily's future, when I wondered if I was doing enough, or doing it right, the nights I sat until 2:00, crying. All of them ended with a glance, one more time at Debbie's words, just to remind be that THE ONLY thing that matters is that I love my girl the best I can, becasue at the end of the day, that's really all you have.

Thank you for that, Debbie.


Oh, and I'll miss the gnomies.

 

[izemmom]

I will miss her humor of course, the stories of her string of "coffee dates" cracked me up. And, ONLY Debbie could make a trip to the medical center with inept lab tech to blow pft's AGAIN funny. Really funny.

But, as I said in the first thread, my favorite Debbie quote will always be:

<b>Tami, when i read what you have been through and your feelings and the way you handle it all I strangely smile to myself because I think...that Emily...she's going to be just fine...because she has Tami for a Mom, and how bad could life be with Tami on your side? </b>


Believe me, that comment has seen me through my hardest times, grapling with this damn disease. Long, lonely nights when I worried for Emily's future, when I wondered if I was doing enough, or doing it right, the nights I sat until 2:00, crying. All of them ended with a glance, one more time at Debbie's words, just to remind be that THE ONLY thing that matters is that I love my girl the best I can, becasue at the end of the day, that's really all you have.

Thank you for that, Debbie.


Oh, and I'll miss the gnomies.

 

[izemmom]

I will miss her humor of course, the stories of her string of "coffee dates" cracked me up. And, ONLY Debbie could make a trip to the medical center with inept lab tech to blow pft's AGAIN funny. Really funny.

But, as I said in the first thread, my favorite Debbie quote will always be:

<b>Tami, when i read what you have been through and your feelings and the way you handle it all I strangely smile to myself because I think...that Emily...she's going to be just fine...because she has Tami for a Mom, and how bad could life be with Tami on your side? </b>


Believe me, that comment has seen me through my hardest times, grapling with this damn disease. Long, lonely nights when I worried for Emily's future, when I wondered if I was doing enough, or doing it right, the nights I sat until 2:00, crying. All of them ended with a glance, one more time at Debbie's words, just to remind be that THE ONLY thing that matters is that I love my girl the best I can, becasue at the end of the day, that's really all you have.

Thank you for that, Debbie.


Oh, and I'll miss the gnomies.

 

[izemmom]

I will miss her humor of course, the stories of her string of "coffee dates" cracked me up. And, ONLY Debbie could make a trip to the medical center with inept lab tech to blow pft's AGAIN funny. Really funny.

But, as I said in the first thread, my favorite Debbie quote will always be:

<b>Tami, when i read what you have been through and your feelings and the way you handle it all I strangely smile to myself because I think...that Emily...she's going to be just fine...because she has Tami for a Mom, and how bad could life be with Tami on your side? </b>


Believe me, that comment has seen me through my hardest times, grapling with this damn disease. Long, lonely nights when I worried for Emily's future, when I wondered if I was doing enough, or doing it right, the nights I sat until 2:00, crying. All of them ended with a glance, one more time at Debbie's words, just to remind be that THE ONLY thing that matters is that I love my girl the best I can, becasue at the end of the day, that's really all you have.

Thank you for that, Debbie.


Oh, and I'll miss the gnomies.

 

[izemmom]

I will miss her humor of course, the stories of her string of "coffee dates" cracked me up. And, ONLY Debbie could make a trip to the medical center with inept lab tech to blow pft's AGAIN funny. Really funny.

But, as I said in the first thread, my favorite Debbie quote will always be:

<b>Tami, when i read what you have been through and your feelings and the way you handle it all I strangely smile to myself because I think...that Emily...she's going to be just fine...because she has Tami for a Mom, and how bad could life be with Tami on your side? </b>


Believe me, that comment has seen me through my hardest times, grapling with this damn disease. Long, lonely nights when I worried for Emily's future, when I wondered if I was doing enough, or doing it right, the nights I sat until 2:00, crying. All of them ended with a glance, one more time at Debbie's words, just to remind be that THE ONLY thing that matters is that I love my girl the best I can, becasue at the end of the day, that's really all you have.

Thank you for that, Debbie.


Oh, and I'll miss the gnomies.

 

[izemmom]

I will miss her humor of course, the stories of her string of "coffee dates" cracked me up. And, ONLY Debbie could make a trip to the medical center with inept lab tech to blow pft's AGAIN funny. Really funny.

But, as I said in the first thread, my favorite Debbie quote will always be:

<b>Tami, when i read what you have been through and your feelings and the way you handle it all I strangely smile to myself because I think...that Emily...she's going to be just fine...because she has Tami for a Mom, and how bad could life be with Tami on your side? </b>


Believe me, that comment has seen me through my hardest times, grapling with this damn disease. Long, lonely nights when I worried for Emily's future, when I wondered if I was doing enough, or doing it right, the nights I sat until 2:00, crying. All of them ended with a glance, one more time at Debbie's words, just to remind be that THE ONLY thing that matters is that I love my girl the best I can, becasue at the end of the day, that's really all you have.

Thank you for that, Debbie.


Oh, and I'll miss the gnomies.

 

[LisaV]

Carl Jung once wrote "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed". I think that happens all of the time up here. I think Debbie was her absolutely own person yet still open to being present enough to others to be impacted/transformed by them. I think she transformed many - I know she transformed me.

The quote I remember her using is the Gloria Steinem quote "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off". I'm old enough that I should have remembered that one myself, but didn't. When I saw it on Debbie's signature line I was really struck by how many times in my life that has been true (not just the need for womens' equality thing). How for everything that I've ever been in denial with or in "don't ask questions you don't want answers to" mode, I was finally a lot better off in reality (with the truth) rather than in fantasyland - even if it meant chasing reality or getting answers I didn't like. I really credit Debbie for "refreshing my memory" about that.

And when I was coming out of the doldrums of widowhood, her good natured self-ribbing about shoes got me laughing - and thinking about high heels for the first time in years (actually thinking about FU high heels!). So I credit Debbie with being an influence on my getting back to the business of living as a passionate woman rather than hanging on as a driedout old widow.

I looked forward to each new post of blog entry because I knew her intelligence and committment to living in reality would be a challenge for me to do the same and she had such a lust for life it was just contagious.

Damn! I really will miss her.

But I'm going to have a hell of night tonight in her honor.

 

[LisaV]

Carl Jung once wrote "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed". I think that happens all of the time up here. I think Debbie was her absolutely own person yet still open to being present enough to others to be impacted/transformed by them. I think she transformed many - I know she transformed me.

The quote I remember her using is the Gloria Steinem quote "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off". I'm old enough that I should have remembered that one myself, but didn't. When I saw it on Debbie's signature line I was really struck by how many times in my life that has been true (not just the need for womens' equality thing). How for everything that I've ever been in denial with or in "don't ask questions you don't want answers to" mode, I was finally a lot better off in reality (with the truth) rather than in fantasyland - even if it meant chasing reality or getting answers I didn't like. I really credit Debbie for "refreshing my memory" about that.

And when I was coming out of the doldrums of widowhood, her good natured self-ribbing about shoes got me laughing - and thinking about high heels for the first time in years (actually thinking about FU high heels!). So I credit Debbie with being an influence on my getting back to the business of living as a passionate woman rather than hanging on as a driedout old widow.

I looked forward to each new post of blog entry because I knew her intelligence and committment to living in reality would be a challenge for me to do the same and she had such a lust for life it was just contagious.

Damn! I really will miss her.

But I'm going to have a hell of night tonight in her honor.