Hate to say this but she her self may be better off not actually signing the papers. 1 It wouldn't change her medical care, and god forbid. But should something happen to him she is in a much better state to be able to take care of her self with out running back to mom and dad. I would also advise this to anybody thinking of getting married not just a CFer; Spend a year in an apartment on your own, Find out just how hard it is to get by on your own, all the little things around the house that need to be done that is vary likely overlooked when living at home. As for kids... I'm a CF male and don't want any biological kids simply because the CF risks.
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Marriage & CF In California
- Thread starter SanDiegoNice
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Is it just me, or would she not be better off on disability? I admit I'm fairly ignorant of the requirements and benefits of SSDI and such, but never having worked at age 27 and having a high burden of treatment (tune-ups every 3 mos, vest, presumably Tobi and HTS or Pulmozyme) it seems she would be a good candidate. Also, aren't you protected from losing disability if you get married?
Is it just me, or would she not be better off on disability? I admit I'm fairly ignorant of the requirements and benefits of SSDI and such, but never having worked at age 27 and having a high burden of treatment (tune-ups every 3 mos, vest, presumably Tobi and HTS or Pulmozyme) it seems she would be a good candidate. Also, aren't you protected from losing disability if you get married?
Is it just me, or would she not be better off on disability? I admit I'm fairly ignorant of the requirements and benefits of SSDI and such, but never having worked at age 27 and having a high burden of treatment (tune-ups every 3 mos, vest, presumably Tobi and HTS or Pulmozyme) it seems she would be a good candidate. Also, aren't you protected from losing disability if you get married?
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lizlas
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<P>hey musclemania.... I dont work anymore and i contribute lots.....I take care of the house ...I pay bills(with hubies income of course),actually its my money too... I make dinners, I make hubbies lunches, I do the laundry, take care of our yorkie poo, do groceries, lol and yes I provide luv....the kind of luv you just cant find anywhere....lolol and my motto is whats yours is ours and whats mine is mine.....llolol </P>
<P>kidding aside ...yes very serious considerations to make..I lost my goverment disability when we got married 6 yrs ago....(husbands work insurance has very good coverage for drugs and dental) and if he didnt have this coverage we couldnt have gotten married.....</P>
<P>I lost the govermnt disability because my husbands income was too high....yea ok!!! (anything over 30,000+ and you loose disability)</P>
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<P>kidding aside ...yes very serious considerations to make..I lost my goverment disability when we got married 6 yrs ago....(husbands work insurance has very good coverage for drugs and dental) and if he didnt have this coverage we couldnt have gotten married.....</P>
<P>I lost the govermnt disability because my husbands income was too high....yea ok!!! (anything over 30,000+ and you loose disability)</P>
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lizlas
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<P>hey musclemania.... I dont work anymore and i contribute lots.....I take care of the house ...I pay bills(with hubies income of course),actually its my money too...I make dinners, I make hubbies lunches, I do the laundry, take care of our yorkie poo, do groceries, lol and yes I provide luv....the kind of luv you just cant find anywhere....lolol and my motto is whats yours is ours and whats mine is mine.....llolol </P>
<P>kidding aside ...yes very serious considerations to make..I lost my goverment disability when we got married 6 yrs ago....(husbands workinsurancehas very good coverage for drugs and dental) and if he didnt have this coveragewe couldnt have gotten married.....</P>
<P>I lost the govermnt disability because my husbands income was too high....yea ok!!! (anything over 30,000+ and you loose disability)</P>
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<P>kidding aside ...yes very serious considerations to make..I lost my goverment disability when we got married 6 yrs ago....(husbands workinsurancehas very good coverage for drugs and dental) and if he didnt have this coveragewe couldnt have gotten married.....</P>
<P>I lost the govermnt disability because my husbands income was too high....yea ok!!! (anything over 30,000+ and you loose disability)</P>
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lizlas
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<P>hey musclemania.... <BR><BR>I dont work anymore and i contribute lots.....I take care of the house ...I pay bills(with hubies income of course),actually its my money too...I make dinners, I make hubbies lunches, I do the laundry, take care of our yorkie poo, do groceries, lol and yes I provide luv....the kind of luv you just cant find anywhere....lolol <BR><BR>and my motto is whats yours is ours and whats mine is mine.....llolol <BR></P>
<P>kidding aside ...yes very serious considerations to make..I lost my goverment disability when we got married 6 yrs ago....(husbands workinsurancehas very good coverage for drugs and dental) and if he didnt have this coveragewe couldnt have gotten married.....</P>
<P>I lost the govermnt disability because my husbands income was too high....yea ok!!! (anything over 30,000+ and you loose disability)</P>
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<P>kidding aside ...yes very serious considerations to make..I lost my goverment disability when we got married 6 yrs ago....(husbands workinsurancehas very good coverage for drugs and dental) and if he didnt have this coveragewe couldnt have gotten married.....</P>
<P>I lost the govermnt disability because my husbands income was too high....yea ok!!! (anything over 30,000+ and you loose disability)</P>
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musclemania70
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I don't work either (I did work FT, live on my own and get an education before marrying). But coming across to a man as someone so NEEDY is risky. unfortunately, people with CF have lots of needs but the point is to try and ACCENTUATE the positive. Going back on your word, and being so wish-washy and insecure is NOT THE WAY to show maturity and level-headedness. He is better off with someone else who doesn't have all the insecurities. She should find a way to better herself first, be on her own, apply for all the benefits she can, and then try again with someone else. Too bad though cause he sounded like someone who would have really helped her in the long run.....
musclemania70
New member
I don't work either (I did work FT, live on my ownand get an education before marrying). But coming across to a man as someone so NEEDY is risky. unfortunately, people with CF have lots of needs but the point is to try and ACCENTUATE the positive. Going back on your word, and being so wish-washy and insecure is NOT THE WAY to show maturity and level-headedness. He is better off with someone else who doesn't have all the insecurities. She should find a way to better herself first, be on her own, apply for all the benefits she can, and then try again with someone else. Too bad though cause he sounded like someone who would have really helped her in the long run.....
musclemania70
New member
I don't work either (I did work FT, live on my ownand get an education before marrying). But coming across to a man as someone so NEEDY is risky. <BR>unfortunately, people with CF have lots of needs but the point is to try and ACCENTUATE the positive. <BR>Going back on your word, and being so wish-washy and insecure is NOT THE WAY to show maturity and level-headedness. <BR>He is better off with someone else who doesn't have all the insecurities. <BR><BR>She should find a way to better herself first, be on her own, apply for all the benefits she can, and then try again with someone else. Too bad though cause he sounded like someone who would have really helped her in the long run.....