mamaScarlett
Active member
i know this doesn't solely relate to pregnancy, but i've made so many friends in this category i feel like its my 'safe' place.
i am feeling inadequate, tired and don't know what direction to go in.
we're trying to set up a weekly schedule so i can fit in 3 workouts per week. i am trying to be a responsible parent, and responsible cf patient.
i'm religious with therapy and meds. this is the one other thing i could be dedicating myself to.
i don't know how to do it though-my hope was to do workouts at home, but i'm finding this tough.
when my 2 yr old naps, i want to sleep. and noon (her nap time) is when i get energy slumps.
today i tried getting up early and i was too tired to workout.
going to the gym would be great. i talked to hubby about it and he said he could take 1 workout per week, i could ask my MIL for the 2nd, and he suggested i call my mom.
i wanted to start looking for hired help 1 day per week-someone to watch lo for 6, 7 hours and do light cleaning. -plus a day for me to workout, do groceries, run errands free without clipping lo in and out of the car seat 20 times...and have a little peace.
he said its...ok....but he'd prefer to exhaust family (free) help first before doing that. i can see that.
the problem is, my mom and i have a very strained relationship. i love my mom, but she is very self centered.
i was raised in an abusive home, and it wasn't until the past couple years that we have mended ways.
but the feelings are deep with me.
i called her today to talk about the schedule stuff, and was turned down flat.
it was awful. she can still bring out those awful feelings from the past with me. make me feel like a tiny little idiot.
our relationship is getting worse and worse and i feel like i need a break.
i hope hubby understands, i don't think having her help us is a healthy answer for our family. i love her, but sometimes a respectful distance is better than a close tie.
when i talk to the cf center, i know they assume that i have all this help bc of my big family. my in laws are amazing-but how much can i ask of them?
i feel so guilty asking for help.
who do you ask for help? how much is too much and how does asking make you feel?
i am feeling inadequate, tired and don't know what direction to go in.
we're trying to set up a weekly schedule so i can fit in 3 workouts per week. i am trying to be a responsible parent, and responsible cf patient.
i'm religious with therapy and meds. this is the one other thing i could be dedicating myself to.
i don't know how to do it though-my hope was to do workouts at home, but i'm finding this tough.
when my 2 yr old naps, i want to sleep. and noon (her nap time) is when i get energy slumps.
today i tried getting up early and i was too tired to workout.
going to the gym would be great. i talked to hubby about it and he said he could take 1 workout per week, i could ask my MIL for the 2nd, and he suggested i call my mom.
i wanted to start looking for hired help 1 day per week-someone to watch lo for 6, 7 hours and do light cleaning. -plus a day for me to workout, do groceries, run errands free without clipping lo in and out of the car seat 20 times...and have a little peace.
he said its...ok....but he'd prefer to exhaust family (free) help first before doing that. i can see that.
the problem is, my mom and i have a very strained relationship. i love my mom, but she is very self centered.
i was raised in an abusive home, and it wasn't until the past couple years that we have mended ways.
but the feelings are deep with me.
i called her today to talk about the schedule stuff, and was turned down flat.
it was awful. she can still bring out those awful feelings from the past with me. make me feel like a tiny little idiot.
our relationship is getting worse and worse and i feel like i need a break.
i hope hubby understands, i don't think having her help us is a healthy answer for our family. i love her, but sometimes a respectful distance is better than a close tie.
when i talk to the cf center, i know they assume that i have all this help bc of my big family. my in laws are amazing-but how much can i ask of them?
i feel so guilty asking for help.
who do you ask for help? how much is too much and how does asking make you feel?