mother doesnt understand

[LouLou]

First of all, so sorry you are dealing with this. I'm sure it is very painful to witness your dd not giving the same care in return you (I assume) gave to her AT THE VERY LEAST!
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<br />That said, everyone else is correct in suggesting this is a neglect case. Are you listed as someone the child's cf center can report her condition to? If so, I would give them a call first. Was this pneumonia diagnosed by them? Why wasn't she admitted as I would imagine they can figure out too that the home care plan isn't being carried out. Perhaps they don't know she is no longer under your roof.
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<br />Hopefully a wake up call by the medical professionals or a judge will be enough to snap your dd's selfishness under control but if not where are the other two children?? Perhaps this one will need to be given up or removed as well :-(
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<br />Please keep the cf center aware of the situation. It is in their interest as well to keep this child healthy. Not only because she is their patient and compassionately I'm sure they care but statistically a major decline or worse would reflect very poorly on them.

 

[mamaScarlett]

I was dx at 1 yr of age. My parents were both in and out of jail, engaged in much illegal activity, smoked and did drugs in front of me. I never got care for my Cf. Finally the state took custody away from my parents and we lived permanently with my aunt who later adopted us.
If I had stayed with my parents I know I wouldn't be alive. All situations are different of course. But if you or someone in your family can love this child, thats the greatest gift that could be given. I would involve the authorities too perhaps, but I'd personally get involved and stay involved in the child's life as well.
These are sad sad situations, for you and everyone, but mostly for the children.

 

[mamaScarlett]

I was dx at 1 yr of age. My parents were both in and out of jail, engaged in much illegal activity, smoked and did drugs in front of me. I never got care for my Cf. Finally the state took custody away from my parents and we lived permanently with my aunt who later adopted us.
If I had stayed with my parents I know I wouldn't be alive. All situations are different of course. But if you or someone in your family can love this child, thats the greatest gift that could be given. I would involve the authorities too perhaps, but I'd personally get involved and stay involved in the child's life as well.
These are sad sad situations, for you and everyone, but mostly for the children.

 

[mamaScarlett]

I was dx at 1 yr of age. My parents were both in and out of jail, engaged in much illegal activity, smoked and did drugs in front of me. I never got care for my Cf. Finally the state took custody away from my parents and we lived permanently with my aunt who later adopted us.
<br />If I had stayed with my parents I know I wouldn't be alive. All situations are different of course. But if you or someone in your family can love this child, thats the greatest gift that could be given. I would involve the authorities too perhaps, but I'd personally get involved and stay involved in the child's life as well.
<br />These are sad sad situations, for you and everyone, but mostly for the children.

 

[Cherylwithone]

I would get a lawyer and get custody of your grandaughter.
My DD (darling daughter) has CF and I have never put my owen needs before her. Her health has always come first.

Sorry your having to deal with something like this. But, if your daughter lost custody of the first two and they are in good health how in the world could she care for a sick child.

This must be very hard for you.

 

[Cherylwithone]

I would get a lawyer and get custody of your grandaughter.
My DD (darling daughter) has CF and I have never put my owen needs before her. Her health has always come first.

Sorry your having to deal with something like this. But, if your daughter lost custody of the first two and they are in good health how in the world could she care for a sick child.

This must be very hard for you.

 

[Cherylwithone]

I would get a lawyer and get custody of your grandaughter.
<br />My DD (darling daughter) has CF and I have never put my owen needs before her. Her health has always come first.
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<br />Sorry your having to deal with something like this. But, if your daughter lost custody of the first two and they are in good health how in the world could she care for a sick child.
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<br />This must be very hard for you.

 

[CFmami]

I't breaks my heart to imagine that a child with CF is being neglected. Please involve social services, maybe a family member can adopt this child if you are unable to.
I'm sorry you are going through this. This is really a concern and you should keep trying to get this kid a better chance to trive. Maybe if you tell your dd to come to this board and read and learn more about CF she will start to take this seriously.

 

[CFmami]

I't breaks my heart to imagine that a child with CF is being neglected. Please involve social services, maybe a family member can adopt this child if you are unable to.
I'm sorry you are going through this. This is really a concern and you should keep trying to get this kid a better chance to trive. Maybe if you tell your dd to come to this board and read and learn more about CF she will start to take this seriously.

 

[CFmami]

I't breaks my heart to imagine that a child with CF is being neglected. Please involve social services, maybe a family member can adopt this child if you are unable to.
<br />I'm sorry you are going through this. This is really a concern and you should keep trying to get this kid a better chance to trive. Maybe if you tell your dd to come to this board and read and learn more about CF she will start to take this seriously.
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[palinsyaya]

i have tried to get my daughter to visit this web site but would rather go to facebook and play farmville instead. i talked to her this am about her son and cf so she has decieded to let a friend that is 22 and has a set of twins that are 1 yr old to babysit while she is at work [because i am driving her crazy]. her other 2 kids i have the oldest and the middle child she gave to her father but he lets her live with me also.the child with cf father is married and has never seen him or doesnt want to.my daughter is bi polar and lies and i belive she belives her lies are true. i told her that i can not go to cf center with her anymore because i will not sat there and listen to her lying about how great she does with him, i have kelp this child as healthy as i can and with 2 weeks she has undone everyting that i have done. for example wallgreens called thur about med beening ready for my grandson so i went and got then and ask how long were the there she said 2 weeks, it was his reflux meds so i ask my daughter if she had picked up his meds for reflux she said yes got then right after the refill was called in i handed her his meds and she stormed out of my house yelling at me to leave her alone. this is the things i go thur with her, she is 27 and acts like she is 16 so today i am calling the social worker at our health dept and ask her to keep a check on my grandson i will not be able to see my grandson until she lets me or needs me to babysit. thanks everyone for your help and support.

 

[palinsyaya]

i have tried to get my daughter to visit this web site but would rather go to facebook and play farmville instead. i talked to her this am about her son and cf so she has decieded to let a friend that is 22 and has a set of twins that are 1 yr old to babysit while she is at work [because i am driving her crazy]. her other 2 kids i have the oldest and the middle child she gave to her father but he lets her live with me also.the child with cf father is married and has never seen him or doesnt want to.my daughter is bi polar and lies and i belive she belives her lies are true. i told her that i can not go to cf center with her anymore because i will not sat there and listen to her lying about how great she does with him, i have kelp this child as healthy as i can and with 2 weeks she has undone everyting that i have done. for example wallgreens called thur about med beening ready for my grandson so i went and got then and ask how long were the there she said 2 weeks, it was his reflux meds so i ask my daughter if she had picked up his meds for reflux she said yes got then right after the refill was called in i handed her his meds and she stormed out of my house yelling at me to leave her alone. this is the things i go thur with her, she is 27 and acts like she is 16 so today i am calling the social worker at our health dept and ask her to keep a check on my grandson i will not be able to see my grandson until she lets me or needs me to babysit. thanks everyone for your help and support.

 

[palinsyaya]

i have tried to get my daughter to visit this web site but would rather go to facebook and play farmville instead. i talked to her this am about her son and cf so she has decieded to let a friend that is 22 and has a set of twins that are 1 yr old to babysit while she is at work [because i am driving her crazy]. her other 2 kids i have the oldest and the middle child she gave to her father but he lets her live with me also.the child with cf father is married and has never seen him or doesnt want to.my daughter is bi polar and lies and i belive she belives her lies are true. i told her that i can not go to cf center with her anymore because i will not sat there and listen to her lying about how great she does with him, i have kelp this child as healthy as i can and with 2 weeks she has undone everyting that i have done. for example wallgreens called thur about med beening ready for my grandson so i went and got then and ask how long were the there she said 2 weeks, it was his reflux meds so i ask my daughter if she had picked up his meds for reflux she said yes got then right after the refill was called in i handed her his meds and she stormed out of my house yelling at me to leave her alone. this is the things i go thur with her, she is 27 and acts like she is 16 so today i am calling the social worker at our health dept and ask her to keep a check on my grandson i will not be able to see my grandson until she lets me or needs me to babysit. thanks everyone for your help and support.

 

[NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting]

i do have a grown daughter who takes very good care of my 2yr old granddaughter. If it was my child who was putting my grandchild in danger, healthwise or any other way I would definately step in. I would go for custody if I couldn't get her to understand the only reason I was butting into her life was concern for the baby. Contact CPS and let them know what is going on. Contact the CF clinic and see if they can intervene. She sounds very immature for her age and selfish. I would tell her that you are calling CPS if she doesn't allow you to help her keep him healthly and then DO IT. Get in touch with the Social worker who helped remove the other children. This is an awful scarey situation and something needs done now. Sorry that you have to go through this. You would think that after losing her other children she would be more aware of what can happen when she doesn't do the right thing for the children.

 

[NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting]

i do have a grown daughter who takes very good care of my 2yr old granddaughter. If it was my child who was putting my grandchild in danger, healthwise or any other way I would definately step in. I would go for custody if I couldn't get her to understand the only reason I was butting into her life was concern for the baby. Contact CPS and let them know what is going on. Contact the CF clinic and see if they can intervene. She sounds very immature for her age and selfish. I would tell her that you are calling CPS if she doesn't allow you to help her keep him healthly and then DO IT. Get in touch with the Social worker who helped remove the other children. This is an awful scarey situation and something needs done now. Sorry that you have to go through this. You would think that after losing her other children she would be more aware of what can happen when she doesn't do the right thing for the children.

 

[NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting]

i do have a grown daughter who takes very good care of my 2yr old granddaughter. If it was my child who was putting my grandchild in danger, healthwise or any other way I would definately step in. I would go for custody if I couldn't get her to understand the only reason I was butting into her life was concern for the baby. Contact CPS and let them know what is going on. Contact the CF clinic and see if they can intervene. She sounds very immature for her age and selfish. I would tell her that you are calling CPS if she doesn't allow you to help her keep him healthly and then DO IT. Get in touch with the Social worker who helped remove the other children. This is an awful scarey situation and something needs done now. Sorry that you have to go through this. You would think that after losing her other children she would be more aware of what can happen when she doesn't do the right thing for the children.

 

[Mommafirst]

palinsyaya -- I am so so sorry. This must tear you apart. You are doing what's best by getting the social worker involved. Its just so sad that your daughter needs help herself, and thus can't be a good mother. (((HUGS)))

 

[Mommafirst]

palinsyaya -- I am so so sorry. This must tear you apart. You are doing what's best by getting the social worker involved. Its just so sad that your daughter needs help herself, and thus can't be a good mother. (((HUGS)))

 

[Mommafirst]

palinsyaya -- I am so so sorry. This must tear you apart. You are doing what's best by getting the social worker involved. Its just so sad that your daughter needs help herself, and thus can't be a good mother. (((HUGS)))