Weird message title, but I couldn't resist! My son is only seven and we haven't had the "talk" yet. The other day my husband and I were talking about what and how to tell him that he will be infertile. My husband does not want to tell him because he thinks that will give him permission to be careless and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. I feel that he needs to know, that he has a right to know. I don't want my son to be angry or feel that we lied to him. Yes, I want him to be careful and I hope that he is, theres a million other reasons to play it safe even if you take the pregancy factor out. We both feel strongly about our opinions and I would like to know what others experienced about this issue. When were you told, how were you told and how has it influenced your sex life? I know I have plenty of time to worry about this but I am curious. I want to be as open with my boys as I can be. Thanks
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Weird message title, but I couldn't resist! My son is only seven and we haven't had the "talk" yet. The other day my husband and I were talking about what and how to tell him that he will be infertile. My husband does not want to tell him because he thinks that will give him permission to be careless and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. I feel that he needs to know, that he has a right to know. I don't want my son to be angry or feel that we lied to him. Yes, I want him to be careful and I hope that he is, theres a million other reasons to play it safe even if you take the pregancy factor out. We both feel strongly about our opinions and I would like to know what others experienced about this issue. When were you told, how were you told and how has it influenced your sex life? I know I have plenty of time to worry about this but I am curious. I want to be as open with my boys as I can be. Thanks
Weird message title, but I couldn't resist! My son is only seven and we haven't had the "talk" yet. The other day my husband and I were talking about what and how to tell him that he will be infertile. My husband does not want to tell him because he thinks that will give him permission to be careless and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. I feel that he needs to know, that he has a right to know. I don't want my son to be angry or feel that we lied to him. Yes, I want him to be careful and I hope that he is, theres a million other reasons to play it safe even if you take the pregancy factor out. We both feel strongly about our opinions and I would like to know what others experienced about this issue. When were you told, how were you told and how has it influenced your sex life? I know I have plenty of time to worry about this but I am curious. I want to be as open with my boys as I can be. Thanks
Weird message title, but I couldn't resist! My son is only seven and we haven't had the "talk" yet. The other day my husband and I were talking about what and how to tell him that he will be infertile. My husband does not want to tell him because he thinks that will give him permission to be careless and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. I feel that he needs to know, that he has a right to know. I don't want my son to be angry or feel that we lied to him. Yes, I want him to be careful and I hope that he is, theres a million other reasons to play it safe even if you take the pregancy factor out. We both feel strongly about our opinions and I would like to know what others experienced about this issue. When were you told, how were you told and how has it influenced your sex life? I know I have plenty of time to worry about this but I am curious. I want to be as open with my boys as I can be. Thanks
Weird message title, but I couldn't resist! My son is only seven and we haven't had the "talk" yet. The other day my husband and I were talking about what and how to tell him that he will be infertile. My husband does not want to tell him because he thinks that will give him permission to be careless and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. I feel that he needs to know, that he has a right to know. I don't want my son to be angry or feel that we lied to him. Yes, I want him to be careful and I hope that he is, theres a million other reasons to play it safe even if you take the pregancy factor out. We both feel strongly about our opinions and I would like to know what others experienced about this issue. When were you told, how were you told and how has it influenced your sex life? I know I have plenty of time to worry about this but I am curious. I want to be as open with my boys as I can be. Thanks
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65rosessamurai
Guest
Isn't seven a little too young an age for comprehending that? I didn't even take sex ed (I got sick and missed out on the whole thing, anyway) until I was about 12 years old (and of course infertility was never discussed with me).
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
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65rosessamurai
Guest
Isn't seven a little too young an age for comprehending that? I didn't even take sex ed (I got sick and missed out on the whole thing, anyway) until I was about 12 years old (and of course infertility was never discussed with me).
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
6
65rosessamurai
Guest
Isn't seven a little too young an age for comprehending that? I didn't even take sex ed (I got sick and missed out on the whole thing, anyway) until I was about 12 years old (and of course infertility was never discussed with me).
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
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65rosessamurai
Guest
Isn't seven a little too young an age for comprehending that? I didn't even take sex ed (I got sick and missed out on the whole thing, anyway) until I was about 12 years old (and of course infertility was never discussed with me).
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
6
65rosessamurai
Guest
Isn't seven a little too young an age for comprehending that? I didn't even take sex ed (I got sick and missed out on the whole thing, anyway) until I was about 12 years old (and of course infertility was never discussed with me).
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
Though I was about 20ish when my mom was giving me only a brief explanation of what infertility was, I never grasped it until after I was married at 27.
I didn't comprehend the idea after the marriage and wished I would've at least had testing done to verify infertility...that would have been a worthwhile investment in my opinion.
I would also highly recommend julie's infertility home page for their information so whenever you do decide to tell your son, it is with accurate information.
Just my opinion as a CF Male. (I got additional info regarding how I handled it, but I'd rather PM that.)
Hope things go well.
i told joe about this when julie and mark had their babies ( thanks to the both of you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">) it seemed like as good a time as any !!!! i thought what a good example julie and mark were for joe. don't forget things may be better/easier in the future when our kids are contemplating parent-hood. i'm not certain but ivf and such like isn't possible for everyone at the moment . maybe julie can clarify things for us<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
i told joe about this when julie and mark had their babies ( thanks to the both of you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">) it seemed like as good a time as any !!!! i thought what a good example julie and mark were for joe. don't forget things may be better/easier in the future when our kids are contemplating parent-hood. i'm not certain but ivf and such like isn't possible for everyone at the moment . maybe julie can clarify things for us<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
i told joe about this when julie and mark had their babies ( thanks to the both of you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">) it seemed like as good a time as any !!!! i thought what a good example julie and mark were for joe. don't forget things may be better/easier in the future when our kids are contemplating parent-hood. i'm not certain but ivf and such like isn't possible for everyone at the moment . maybe julie can clarify things for us<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
i told joe about this when julie and mark had their babies ( thanks to the both of you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">) it seemed like as good a time as any !!!! i thought what a good example julie and mark were for joe. don't forget things may be better/easier in the future when our kids are contemplating parent-hood. i'm not certain but ivf and such like isn't possible for everyone at the moment . maybe julie can clarify things for us<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
i told joe about this when julie and mark had their babies ( thanks to the both of you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">) it seemed like as good a time as any !!!! i thought what a good example julie and mark were for joe. don't forget things may be better/easier in the future when our kids are contemplating parent-hood. i'm not certain but ivf and such like isn't possible for everyone at the moment . maybe julie can clarify things for us<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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TonyaH
Guest
First of all, not all male CFers are infertile. That being said, I don't plan to ever tell Andrew that is definitely the case. I will tell him, when the time is appropriate, that it may be an issue and he should have some testing done.
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
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TonyaH
Guest
First of all, not all male CFers are infertile. That being said, I don't plan to ever tell Andrew that is definitely the case. I will tell him, when the time is appropriate, that it may be an issue and he should have some testing done.
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
T
TonyaH
Guest
First of all, not all male CFers are infertile. That being said, I don't plan to ever tell Andrew that is definitely the case. I will tell him, when the time is appropriate, that it may be an issue and he should have some testing done.
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
T
TonyaH
Guest
First of all, not all male CFers are infertile. That being said, I don't plan to ever tell Andrew that is definitely the case. I will tell him, when the time is appropriate, that it may be an issue and he should have some testing done.
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
T
TonyaH
Guest
First of all, not all male CFers are infertile. That being said, I don't plan to ever tell Andrew that is definitely the case. I will tell him, when the time is appropriate, that it may be an issue and he should have some testing done.
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!
I feel that 7 is way too young to be discussing this subject with your son. He should be playing legos...not family planning. Besides, discussing this is going to open a whole can of worms about something that may not even be a problem for him.
Let us know what you decide and good luck!