my son's future sex life

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Gonna go against the whole 7 is too young stuff. I mean by that age I had a very general idea about what sex is.. and sex and violence on TV/videogames/news/movies has only increased in those 14 years since, so there's a good chance that he already has some vague idea. I don't think it'd hurt to go over it generally in a prep for when he's older and you want to sit down and have the major more in depth 'talk'.

When I was in the 5th grade I had my first sex edu class; this was in Michigan. When I moved to Texas when I was 11 I had my second (and their first) sex edu class when I was about 13.. I'm gonna guesstimate and say that the teen birth rate is higher in my small town in Texas than it was in MI; but I'm sure there are different factors in play there besides just those. And the place where I learned the best info about safe sex? The internet. Not my grandparents. Their children came about by stork as far as I can tell. Anyway sex education in today's school is a joke. They teach abstinence as pretty much the first and only form of BC, and I really don't agree with that. When your child is curious they're going to want to know and try it out so they can either do it prepped by their parents regarding all forms of BC/safe sex that can be practiced or prepped by their school that pushes abstinence and nothing really about BC so when that point comes that they actually do have sex... Anyway I get rather rant-ish about this subject. I think your son is better off discussing sexual matters with you. If you approach it early and open up discussion about it saying that he can feel free to ask questions no matter what the question and have more than one 'talk' in his life stressing that sex isn't something that should be taken lightly whether infertile or not then I personally think he'll be better prepared then most kids out there. But that's just me, I don't have kids, etc. etc. etc. You should ultimately do what you feel is best for him though.
 
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Gonna go against the whole 7 is too young stuff. I mean by that age I had a very general idea about what sex is.. and sex and violence on TV/videogames/news/movies has only increased in those 14 years since, so there's a good chance that he already has some vague idea. I don't think it'd hurt to go over it generally in a prep for when he's older and you want to sit down and have the major more in depth 'talk'.

When I was in the 5th grade I had my first sex edu class; this was in Michigan. When I moved to Texas when I was 11 I had my second (and their first) sex edu class when I was about 13.. I'm gonna guesstimate and say that the teen birth rate is higher in my small town in Texas than it was in MI; but I'm sure there are different factors in play there besides just those. And the place where I learned the best info about safe sex? The internet. Not my grandparents. Their children came about by stork as far as I can tell. Anyway sex education in today's school is a joke. They teach abstinence as pretty much the first and only form of BC, and I really don't agree with that. When your child is curious they're going to want to know and try it out so they can either do it prepped by their parents regarding all forms of BC/safe sex that can be practiced or prepped by their school that pushes abstinence and nothing really about BC so when that point comes that they actually do have sex... Anyway I get rather rant-ish about this subject. I think your son is better off discussing sexual matters with you. If you approach it early and open up discussion about it saying that he can feel free to ask questions no matter what the question and have more than one 'talk' in his life stressing that sex isn't something that should be taken lightly whether infertile or not then I personally think he'll be better prepared then most kids out there. But that's just me, I don't have kids, etc. etc. etc. You should ultimately do what you feel is best for him though.
 
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Gonna go against the whole 7 is too young stuff. I mean by that age I had a very general idea about what sex is.. and sex and violence on TV/videogames/news/movies has only increased in those 14 years since, so there's a good chance that he already has some vague idea. I don't think it'd hurt to go over it generally in a prep for when he's older and you want to sit down and have the major more in depth 'talk'.

When I was in the 5th grade I had my first sex edu class; this was in Michigan. When I moved to Texas when I was 11 I had my second (and their first) sex edu class when I was about 13.. I'm gonna guesstimate and say that the teen birth rate is higher in my small town in Texas than it was in MI; but I'm sure there are different factors in play there besides just those. And the place where I learned the best info about safe sex? The internet. Not my grandparents. Their children came about by stork as far as I can tell. Anyway sex education in today's school is a joke. They teach abstinence as pretty much the first and only form of BC, and I really don't agree with that. When your child is curious they're going to want to know and try it out so they can either do it prepped by their parents regarding all forms of BC/safe sex that can be practiced or prepped by their school that pushes abstinence and nothing really about BC so when that point comes that they actually do have sex... Anyway I get rather rant-ish about this subject. I think your son is better off discussing sexual matters with you. If you approach it early and open up discussion about it saying that he can feel free to ask questions no matter what the question and have more than one 'talk' in his life stressing that sex isn't something that should be taken lightly whether infertile or not then I personally think he'll be better prepared then most kids out there. But that's just me, I don't have kids, etc. etc. etc. You should ultimately do what you feel is best for him though.
 
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Gonna go against the whole 7 is too young stuff. I mean by that age I had a very general idea about what sex is.. and sex and violence on TV/videogames/news/movies has only increased in those 14 years since, so there's a good chance that he already has some vague idea. I don't think it'd hurt to go over it generally in a prep for when he's older and you want to sit down and have the major more in depth 'talk'.

When I was in the 5th grade I had my first sex edu class; this was in Michigan. When I moved to Texas when I was 11 I had my second (and their first) sex edu class when I was about 13.. I'm gonna guesstimate and say that the teen birth rate is higher in my small town in Texas than it was in MI; but I'm sure there are different factors in play there besides just those. And the place where I learned the best info about safe sex? The internet. Not my grandparents. Their children came about by stork as far as I can tell. Anyway sex education in today's school is a joke. They teach abstinence as pretty much the first and only form of BC, and I really don't agree with that. When your child is curious they're going to want to know and try it out so they can either do it prepped by their parents regarding all forms of BC/safe sex that can be practiced or prepped by their school that pushes abstinence and nothing really about BC so when that point comes that they actually do have sex... Anyway I get rather rant-ish about this subject. I think your son is better off discussing sexual matters with you. If you approach it early and open up discussion about it saying that he can feel free to ask questions no matter what the question and have more than one 'talk' in his life stressing that sex isn't something that should be taken lightly whether infertile or not then I personally think he'll be better prepared then most kids out there. But that's just me, I don't have kids, etc. etc. etc. You should ultimately do what you feel is best for him though.
 
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Gonna go against the whole 7 is too young stuff. I mean by that age I had a very general idea about what sex is.. and sex and violence on TV/videogames/news/movies has only increased in those 14 years since, so there's a good chance that he already has some vague idea. I don't think it'd hurt to go over it generally in a prep for when he's older and you want to sit down and have the major more in depth 'talk'.

When I was in the 5th grade I had my first sex edu class; this was in Michigan. When I moved to Texas when I was 11 I had my second (and their first) sex edu class when I was about 13.. I'm gonna guesstimate and say that the teen birth rate is higher in my small town in Texas than it was in MI; but I'm sure there are different factors in play there besides just those. And the place where I learned the best info about safe sex? The internet. Not my grandparents. Their children came about by stork as far as I can tell. Anyway sex education in today's school is a joke. They teach abstinence as pretty much the first and only form of BC, and I really don't agree with that. When your child is curious they're going to want to know and try it out so they can either do it prepped by their parents regarding all forms of BC/safe sex that can be practiced or prepped by their school that pushes abstinence and nothing really about BC so when that point comes that they actually do have sex... Anyway I get rather rant-ish about this subject. I think your son is better off discussing sexual matters with you. If you approach it early and open up discussion about it saying that he can feel free to ask questions no matter what the question and have more than one 'talk' in his life stressing that sex isn't something that should be taken lightly whether infertile or not then I personally think he'll be better prepared then most kids out there. But that's just me, I don't have kids, etc. etc. etc. You should ultimately do what you feel is best for him though.
 
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Momtana

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Sexuality Educator chiming in ....... Children at all ages need accurate and positive information about sexuality from their parents. For a seven year old I can suggest these books for parents to read with their child: It's Absolutely Amazing (Robie Harris & Michael Emberley), Where did I Come From? (author?) and What's the Big Secret? (author?)........... My books are currently out for our congregation's Our Whole Lives program with 1st graders and I can't recall the authors this morning.
the fertility question might come when you talk about puberty with your son when he is 10-12. There are some good resources to help parents with those talks, too.
I second Tonya's caution - he won't know if he is infertile without definitive testing.
So, when would you do the testing? Seems that is a good question for the CF team.
CF men, is testing for infertility conducted the same as couples investigating infertility (go to clinic, private time in bathroom, provide sample) ??
 
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Momtana

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Sexuality Educator chiming in ....... Children at all ages need accurate and positive information about sexuality from their parents. For a seven year old I can suggest these books for parents to read with their child: It's Absolutely Amazing (Robie Harris & Michael Emberley), Where did I Come From? (author?) and What's the Big Secret? (author?)........... My books are currently out for our congregation's Our Whole Lives program with 1st graders and I can't recall the authors this morning.
the fertility question might come when you talk about puberty with your son when he is 10-12. There are some good resources to help parents with those talks, too.
I second Tonya's caution - he won't know if he is infertile without definitive testing.
So, when would you do the testing? Seems that is a good question for the CF team.
CF men, is testing for infertility conducted the same as couples investigating infertility (go to clinic, private time in bathroom, provide sample) ??
 
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Momtana

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Sexuality Educator chiming in ....... Children at all ages need accurate and positive information about sexuality from their parents. For a seven year old I can suggest these books for parents to read with their child: It's Absolutely Amazing (Robie Harris & Michael Emberley), Where did I Come From? (author?) and What's the Big Secret? (author?)........... My books are currently out for our congregation's Our Whole Lives program with 1st graders and I can't recall the authors this morning.
the fertility question might come when you talk about puberty with your son when he is 10-12. There are some good resources to help parents with those talks, too.
I second Tonya's caution - he won't know if he is infertile without definitive testing.
So, when would you do the testing? Seems that is a good question for the CF team.
CF men, is testing for infertility conducted the same as couples investigating infertility (go to clinic, private time in bathroom, provide sample) ??
 
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Momtana

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Sexuality Educator chiming in ....... Children at all ages need accurate and positive information about sexuality from their parents. For a seven year old I can suggest these books for parents to read with their child: It's Absolutely Amazing (Robie Harris & Michael Emberley), Where did I Come From? (author?) and What's the Big Secret? (author?)........... My books are currently out for our congregation's Our Whole Lives program with 1st graders and I can't recall the authors this morning.
the fertility question might come when you talk about puberty with your son when he is 10-12. There are some good resources to help parents with those talks, too.
I second Tonya's caution - he won't know if he is infertile without definitive testing.
So, when would you do the testing? Seems that is a good question for the CF team.
CF men, is testing for infertility conducted the same as couples investigating infertility (go to clinic, private time in bathroom, provide sample) ??
 
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Momtana

New member
Sexuality Educator chiming in ....... Children at all ages need accurate and positive information about sexuality from their parents. For a seven year old I can suggest these books for parents to read with their child: It's Absolutely Amazing (Robie Harris & Michael Emberley), Where did I Come From? (author?) and What's the Big Secret? (author?)........... My books are currently out for our congregation's Our Whole Lives program with 1st graders and I can't recall the authors this morning.
the fertility question might come when you talk about puberty with your son when he is 10-12. There are some good resources to help parents with those talks, too.
I second Tonya's caution - he won't know if he is infertile without definitive testing.
So, when would you do the testing? Seems that is a good question for the CF team.
CF men, is testing for infertility conducted the same as couples investigating infertility (go to clinic, private time in bathroom, provide sample) ??
 
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dyza

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Yes who is to say that he is infertile, and he wont be tested until he is 16 and it will be his decision to do this test. Saying that, he needs to be prepared for that time, you yourself will have a better understanding of his perception of things, I feel that 7 is still too young for this, wait a few years.
Craig
 
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dyza

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Yes who is to say that he is infertile, and he wont be tested until he is 16 and it will be his decision to do this test. Saying that, he needs to be prepared for that time, you yourself will have a better understanding of his perception of things, I feel that 7 is still too young for this, wait a few years.
Craig
 
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dyza

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Yes who is to say that he is infertile, and he wont be tested until he is 16 and it will be his decision to do this test. Saying that, he needs to be prepared for that time, you yourself will have a better understanding of his perception of things, I feel that 7 is still too young for this, wait a few years.
Craig
 
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dyza

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Yes who is to say that he is infertile, and he wont be tested until he is 16 and it will be his decision to do this test. Saying that, he needs to be prepared for that time, you yourself will have a better understanding of his perception of things, I feel that 7 is still too young for this, wait a few years.
Craig
 
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dyza

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Yes who is to say that he is infertile, and he wont be tested until he is 16 and it will be his decision to do this test. Saying that, he needs to be prepared for that time, you yourself will have a better understanding of his perception of things, I feel that 7 is still too young for this, wait a few years.
Craig
 
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cf4life

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I think we all know this, but just to be clear for those who may be new to CF. Most CF males are fertile and many of us have chosen to father children. We just need to go though a sperm extraction procedure and IVF to do so. Even though your son may not be able to get a girl pregnant on his own he is not infertile and can most likely choose to be a father some day.
 
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cf4life

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I think we all know this, but just to be clear for those who may be new to CF. Most CF males are fertile and many of us have chosen to father children. We just need to go though a sperm extraction procedure and IVF to do so. Even though your son may not be able to get a girl pregnant on his own he is not infertile and can most likely choose to be a father some day.
 
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cf4life

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I think we all know this, but just to be clear for those who may be new to CF. Most CF males are fertile and many of us have chosen to father children. We just need to go though a sperm extraction procedure and IVF to do so. Even though your son may not be able to get a girl pregnant on his own he is not infertile and can most likely choose to be a father some day.
 
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cf4life

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I think we all know this, but just to be clear for those who may be new to CF. Most CF males are fertile and many of us have chosen to father children. We just need to go though a sperm extraction procedure and IVF to do so. Even though your son may not be able to get a girl pregnant on his own he is not infertile and can most likely choose to be a father some day.
 
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cf4life

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I think we all know this, but just to be clear for those who may be new to CF. Most CF males are fertile and many of us have chosen to father children. We just need to go though a sperm extraction procedure and IVF to do so. Even though your son may not be able to get a girl pregnant on his own he is not infertile and can most likely choose to be a father some day.
 
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