Need Advice

[JORDYSMOM]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dswilson67</b></i>

For me, if Dan is dead set against the idea, I drop the subject for awhile. He is a stubborn guy, and the more you push it the more he's against it.</end quote></div>


Isn't that the truth! You know, Jordan went through an 8 hour spine surgery, and you can imagine how much blood they drew before that. Let alone, he dealt with drain tubes, central lines, and numerous other invasive things. He says this is different. He had to do that, and all of that was part of getting his body fixed so that he felt better about himself. (he was hunched over at the shoulders before the surgery) He doesn't feel the annual checks are necessary, because he feels fine, and his weight is good. It's as simple as that to him, and he isn't budging. *Sigh* It's so hard being the mother of "grown" children.

I guess I will pick my battles, and tell the doc that we have to take what we can get from him. Later when he is forced to do these things because his body demands them, he will understand why it would have been best to stay on top of it.

Thanks for the suggestions guys.

Stacey

 

[JORDYSMOM]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dswilson67</b></i>

For me, if Dan is dead set against the idea, I drop the subject for awhile. He is a stubborn guy, and the more you push it the more he's against it.</end quote></div>


Isn't that the truth! You know, Jordan went through an 8 hour spine surgery, and you can imagine how much blood they drew before that. Let alone, he dealt with drain tubes, central lines, and numerous other invasive things. He says this is different. He had to do that, and all of that was part of getting his body fixed so that he felt better about himself. (he was hunched over at the shoulders before the surgery) He doesn't feel the annual checks are necessary, because he feels fine, and his weight is good. It's as simple as that to him, and he isn't budging. *Sigh* It's so hard being the mother of "grown" children.

I guess I will pick my battles, and tell the doc that we have to take what we can get from him. Later when he is forced to do these things because his body demands them, he will understand why it would have been best to stay on top of it.

Thanks for the suggestions guys.

Stacey

 

[JORDYSMOM]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dswilson67</b></i>

For me, if Dan is dead set against the idea, I drop the subject for awhile. He is a stubborn guy, and the more you push it the more he's against it.</end quote></div>


Isn't that the truth! You know, Jordan went through an 8 hour spine surgery, and you can imagine how much blood they drew before that. Let alone, he dealt with drain tubes, central lines, and numerous other invasive things. He says this is different. He had to do that, and all of that was part of getting his body fixed so that he felt better about himself. (he was hunched over at the shoulders before the surgery) He doesn't feel the annual checks are necessary, because he feels fine, and his weight is good. It's as simple as that to him, and he isn't budging. *Sigh* It's so hard being the mother of "grown" children.

I guess I will pick my battles, and tell the doc that we have to take what we can get from him. Later when he is forced to do these things because his body demands them, he will understand why it would have been best to stay on top of it.

Thanks for the suggestions guys.

Stacey

 

[JORDYSMOM]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dswilson67</b></i>

For me, if Dan is dead set against the idea, I drop the subject for awhile. He is a stubborn guy, and the more you push it the more he's against it.</end quote>


Isn't that the truth! You know, Jordan went through an 8 hour spine surgery, and you can imagine how much blood they drew before that. Let alone, he dealt with drain tubes, central lines, and numerous other invasive things. He says this is different. He had to do that, and all of that was part of getting his body fixed so that he felt better about himself. (he was hunched over at the shoulders before the surgery) He doesn't feel the annual checks are necessary, because he feels fine, and his weight is good. It's as simple as that to him, and he isn't budging. *Sigh* It's so hard being the mother of "grown" children.

I guess I will pick my battles, and tell the doc that we have to take what we can get from him. Later when he is forced to do these things because his body demands them, he will understand why it would have been best to stay on top of it.

Thanks for the suggestions guys.

Stacey

 

[JORDYSMOM]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>dswilson67</b></i>
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<br />For me, if Dan is dead set against the idea, I drop the subject for awhile. He is a stubborn guy, and the more you push it the more he's against it.</end quote>
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<br />Isn't that the truth! You know, Jordan went through an 8 hour spine surgery, and you can imagine how much blood they drew before that. Let alone, he dealt with drain tubes, central lines, and numerous other invasive things. He says this is different. He had to do that, and all of that was part of getting his body fixed so that he felt better about himself. (he was hunched over at the shoulders before the surgery) He doesn't feel the annual checks are necessary, because he feels fine, and his weight is good. It's as simple as that to him, and he isn't budging. *Sigh* It's so hard being the mother of "grown" children.
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<br />I guess I will pick my battles, and tell the doc that we have to take what we can get from him. Later when he is forced to do these things because his body demands them, he will understand why it would have been best to stay on top of it.
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<br />Thanks for the suggestions guys.
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<br />Stacey

 

[kaylasdad]

Stacy I didn't respond sooner because I was trying to come up with a good idea for ya.
Can't think of nothing.(sorry) hope he comes around and does it. Let us know how it turns out.

 

[kaylasdad]

Stacy I didn't respond sooner because I was trying to come up with a good idea for ya.
Can't think of nothing.(sorry) hope he comes around and does it. Let us know how it turns out.

 

[kaylasdad]

Stacy I didn't respond sooner because I was trying to come up with a good idea for ya.
Can't think of nothing.(sorry) hope he comes around and does it. Let us know how it turns out.

 

[kaylasdad]

Stacy I didn't respond sooner because I was trying to come up with a good idea for ya.
Can't think of nothing.(sorry) hope he comes around and does it. Let us know how it turns out.

 

[kaylasdad]

Stacy I didn't respond sooner because I was trying to come up with a good idea for ya.
<br />Can't think of nothing.(sorry) hope he comes around and does it. Let us know how it turns out.

 

[bmombtoo]

Hmmmmmmm My now 26 year old use to hate blood draws and needles. He too had growth hormone shots. Once I sat with him and slowly counted backwards as I rubbed his back, he was about 16 than.

I think this might be an issue over power, a bit of a power struggle. You are already half at your solution....he is too old for you to hold down or force into getting blood work. I would even use the vest to bargain with. Leave getting blood up to the medical staff and the lab technicians. Make sure that the doctor and staff are on the same page as you about his ability to make choices. And that you are not going to plead or prod to get the lab work. If you decide to take this approach, calmly explain it to him. Once you have stepped out of the power struggle he is left to struggle with himself.

I know this approach sounds rough because we all love our kids and want them to stay well. However he has to start taking responsibility for his own health. In not getting his bllod work done the doctors may miss something and he may get sick; it may have been prevented if he had his lab work. He has to see how important it is for himself and not just for you.

 

[bmombtoo]

Hmmmmmmm My now 26 year old use to hate blood draws and needles. He too had growth hormone shots. Once I sat with him and slowly counted backwards as I rubbed his back, he was about 16 than.

I think this might be an issue over power, a bit of a power struggle. You are already half at your solution....he is too old for you to hold down or force into getting blood work. I would even use the vest to bargain with. Leave getting blood up to the medical staff and the lab technicians. Make sure that the doctor and staff are on the same page as you about his ability to make choices. And that you are not going to plead or prod to get the lab work. If you decide to take this approach, calmly explain it to him. Once you have stepped out of the power struggle he is left to struggle with himself.

I know this approach sounds rough because we all love our kids and want them to stay well. However he has to start taking responsibility for his own health. In not getting his bllod work done the doctors may miss something and he may get sick; it may have been prevented if he had his lab work. He has to see how important it is for himself and not just for you.

 

[bmombtoo]

Hmmmmmmm My now 26 year old use to hate blood draws and needles. He too had growth hormone shots. Once I sat with him and slowly counted backwards as I rubbed his back, he was about 16 than.

I think this might be an issue over power, a bit of a power struggle. You are already half at your solution....he is too old for you to hold down or force into getting blood work. I would even use the vest to bargain with. Leave getting blood up to the medical staff and the lab technicians. Make sure that the doctor and staff are on the same page as you about his ability to make choices. And that you are not going to plead or prod to get the lab work. If you decide to take this approach, calmly explain it to him. Once you have stepped out of the power struggle he is left to struggle with himself.

I know this approach sounds rough because we all love our kids and want them to stay well. However he has to start taking responsibility for his own health. In not getting his bllod work done the doctors may miss something and he may get sick; it may have been prevented if he had his lab work. He has to see how important it is for himself and not just for you.

 

[bmombtoo]

Hmmmmmmm My now 26 year old use to hate blood draws and needles. He too had growth hormone shots. Once I sat with him and slowly counted backwards as I rubbed his back, he was about 16 than.

I think this might be an issue over power, a bit of a power struggle. You are already half at your solution....he is too old for you to hold down or force into getting blood work. I would even use the vest to bargain with. Leave getting blood up to the medical staff and the lab technicians. Make sure that the doctor and staff are on the same page as you about his ability to make choices. And that you are not going to plead or prod to get the lab work. If you decide to take this approach, calmly explain it to him. Once you have stepped out of the power struggle he is left to struggle with himself.

I know this approach sounds rough because we all love our kids and want them to stay well. However he has to start taking responsibility for his own health. In not getting his bllod work done the doctors may miss something and he may get sick; it may have been prevented if he had his lab work. He has to see how important it is for himself and not just for you.

 

[bmombtoo]

Hmmmmmmm My now 26 year old use to hate blood draws and needles. He too had growth hormone shots. Once I sat with him and slowly counted backwards as I rubbed his back, he was about 16 than.

I think this might be an issue over power, a bit of a power struggle. You are already half at your solution....he is too old for you to hold down or force into getting blood work. I would even use the vest to bargain with. Leave getting blood up to the medical staff and the lab technicians. Make sure that the doctor and staff are on the same page as you about his ability to make choices. And that you are not going to plead or prod to get the lab work. If you decide to take this approach, calmly explain it to him. Once you have stepped out of the power struggle he is left to struggle with himself.

I know this approach sounds rough because we all love our kids and want them to stay well. However he has to start taking responsibility for his own health. In not getting his bllod work done the doctors may miss something and he may get sick; it may have been prevented if he had his lab work. He has to see how important it is for himself and not just for you.