Nervous to wait

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hey,
Yes I am in the same boat right now. We ttc'd for 7 months without success. We've been on a break for several months though, to also avoid the hard winter months.
I was obsessing and obsessing about it, bc I didn't want to deliver in winter. But when I thought about it realistically, the sickest I've ever been was from June-July (2 yrs ago now). During the summer!
I hate winter. I thrive in hot/warm climates. But I got seriously ill back then, during that summer, so-My conclusion is that I have the potential to get seriously sick ANY time of the year. I have to be careful year round.
The 2nd 'most sick' time I went through was when I caught the flu during my 6th month of pregnancy (in Feb.). It was scary, but after 2 weeks of fighting, I bounced back.
I'm shooting for beginning ttc again soon if all goes well. That would mean the earliest I could possibly deliver a baby is late March. Still winter, but the tail end of it. The fact is, I'll be hibernating at home for 6-8 weeks anyway after birth, so by the time thats up it will be spring.
Another thing to consider is lifestyle with the seasons. My husband works alot in the winter months-70-80 hours a week, so not having him around much would be harder. Another reason for delaying ttc.
And I wanted to add, 2 years ago I thought I'd never be able to consider having a 2nd child. I decided I'd find a way to be happy with 1, and we were getting to be ok with that. Then, with the ups and downs of cf...circumstances changed. Lots of hard work later, and prayers, here we are. We still don't know what will happen, but 'letting it go' really does alot. I was very depressed after my sudden illness 2 yrs ago and about not being able to have more children. Once I really let it go, my attitude improved, my health improved..etc. So hold on knowing that things can change. And work hard in the meantime.
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
Hey,
<br />Yes I am in the same boat right now. We ttc'd for 7 months without success. We've been on a break for several months though, to also avoid the hard winter months.
<br />I was obsessing and obsessing about it, bc I didn't want to deliver in winter. But when I thought about it realistically, the sickest I've ever been was from June-July (2 yrs ago now). During the summer!
<br />I hate winter. I thrive in hot/warm climates. But I got seriously ill back then, during that summer, so-My conclusion is that I have the potential to get seriously sick ANY time of the year. I have to be careful year round.
<br />The 2nd 'most sick' time I went through was when I caught the flu during my 6th month of pregnancy (in Feb.). It was scary, but after 2 weeks of fighting, I bounced back.
<br />I'm shooting for beginning ttc again soon if all goes well. That would mean the earliest I could possibly deliver a baby is late March. Still winter, but the tail end of it. The fact is, I'll be hibernating at home for 6-8 weeks anyway after birth, so by the time thats up it will be spring.
<br />Another thing to consider is lifestyle with the seasons. My husband works alot in the winter months-70-80 hours a week, so not having him around much would be harder. Another reason for delaying ttc.
<br />And I wanted to add, 2 years ago I thought I'd never be able to consider having a 2nd child. I decided I'd find a way to be happy with 1, and we were getting to be ok with that. Then, with the ups and downs of cf...circumstances changed. Lots of hard work later, and prayers, here we are. We still don't know what will happen, but 'letting it go' really does alot. I was very depressed after my sudden illness 2 yrs ago and about not being able to have more children. Once I really let it go, my attitude improved, my health improved..etc. So hold on knowing that things can change. And work hard in the meantime.
 

point

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>LiveOutLoud</b></i>

Well, as some of you read my posts on other section regarding embolization, you are caught up. Summary- coughed up lots during night, drove 2 hours to clinic/hospital, had embolization, back home now on home iv's.



Hmmm, soul-searching going on over here. Even with strong pft's, I still had this scary experience of bleeding and an embolization performed. And as scary as it was, I cannot imagine the position my husband and I would have been in if we were expecting a child. Why did we wait so long to ttc? I know we are only in our late twenties but I sometimes think we should have approached this earlier in our marriage. I know i'm caught up in the emotion of it now, but will be praying about what God's will for our life is.....



Christina...I totally understand! After this experience though, I'm wondering if I am as strong as I think though. Amazing how 24 hours can change your life!</end quote></div>

I hope you have a speedy recovery LiveOutLoud! <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">

My health is exceptional which is such a blessing so I haven't had any real concerns in that regard. My husband & I have 'unexplained infertility' according to the dr. We are in the middle of our 5th iui and realizing that we may either need to go to IVF, take a break, consider adoption, or pray that God changes his mind for us.... or all of the above. TTC is such an emotional and potentially draining process. I am learning to let it go - Christian your comments were helpful to read.

Good luck in your decision making. I guess I wanted to communicate that you shouldn't hold up your life with 'what if's'. You aren't too old LiveOutLoud btw. Good luck & take care.
 

point

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>LiveOutLoud</b></i>

Well, as some of you read my posts on other section regarding embolization, you are caught up. Summary- coughed up lots during night, drove 2 hours to clinic/hospital, had embolization, back home now on home iv's.



Hmmm, soul-searching going on over here. Even with strong pft's, I still had this scary experience of bleeding and an embolization performed. And as scary as it was, I cannot imagine the position my husband and I would have been in if we were expecting a child. Why did we wait so long to ttc? I know we are only in our late twenties but I sometimes think we should have approached this earlier in our marriage. I know i'm caught up in the emotion of it now, but will be praying about what God's will for our life is.....



Christina...I totally understand! After this experience though, I'm wondering if I am as strong as I think though. Amazing how 24 hours can change your life!</end quote>

I hope you have a speedy recovery LiveOutLoud! <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">

My health is exceptional which is such a blessing so I haven't had any real concerns in that regard. My husband & I have 'unexplained infertility' according to the dr. We are in the middle of our 5th iui and realizing that we may either need to go to IVF, take a break, consider adoption, or pray that God changes his mind for us.... or all of the above. TTC is such an emotional and potentially draining process. I am learning to let it go - Christian your comments were helpful to read.

Good luck in your decision making. I guess I wanted to communicate that you shouldn't hold up your life with 'what if's'. You aren't too old LiveOutLoud btw. Good luck & take care.
 

point

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>LiveOutLoud</b></i>
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<br />Well, as some of you read my posts on other section regarding embolization, you are caught up. Summary- coughed up lots during night, drove 2 hours to clinic/hospital, had embolization, back home now on home iv's.
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<br />Hmmm, soul-searching going on over here. Even with strong pft's, I still had this scary experience of bleeding and an embolization performed. And as scary as it was, I cannot imagine the position my husband and I would have been in if we were expecting a child. Why did we wait so long to ttc? I know we are only in our late twenties but I sometimes think we should have approached this earlier in our marriage. I know i'm caught up in the emotion of it now, but will be praying about what God's will for our life is.....
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<br />Christina...I totally understand! After this experience though, I'm wondering if I am as strong as I think though. Amazing how 24 hours can change your life!</end quote>
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<br />I hope you have a speedy recovery LiveOutLoud! <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">
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<br />My health is exceptional which is such a blessing so I haven't had any real concerns in that regard. My husband & I have 'unexplained infertility' according to the dr. We are in the middle of our 5th iui and realizing that we may either need to go to IVF, take a break, consider adoption, or pray that God changes his mind for us.... or all of the above. TTC is such an emotional and potentially draining process. I am learning to let it go - Christian your comments were helpful to read.
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<br />Good luck in your decision making. I guess I wanted to communicate that you shouldn't hold up your life with 'what if's'. You aren't too old LiveOutLoud btw. Good luck & take care.
 
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