BethanyAnne
New member
Hi everyone I am fairly new to this site...I have posted a couple times, but over the course of time so I wouldn't say I'm frequent member, but I have been lately and would like to continue to be so I thought I would tell a little about me first and then go ahead with my question...
*My name is Bethany
*I am 23 yrs. old
*I have CF & CFRD
*I'm from a very small town - LaGrange, OH
*I now live in Nashville, TN<img src="i/expressions/musicnote.gif" border="0">
*I was pursuing a music career in Nashille and because of health reasons (health insurance) have recently gone back to school to be a teacher.
*I used to dance for the NBA Cleveland Cavaliers in Ohio
*I have a younger sister, Kimberly, 18 who is a carrier of the gene and Mackenzie, who is 11 and has CF
Okay, sooo my boyfriend of almost 5 years now is really incredible - first of all, I think anyone who knows your situation and still wants to be with you forever is pretty remarkable! But, besides that point we do plan on getting married in the next couple of years when I finish school and we do want to have a family. We talk about our dreams of a family quite often actually. Well, he is a singer/songwriter and he went to LA this week on a writing trip...I actually got sick the day after he left..I think I contracted some sort of bug (it is that time ofyer and everyone seems to be getting sick) so I called my doc and started antibiotics right away. Well, this whole week fell flat for me (school wise, chore wise, eating wise)...Basically, I got nothing done. Yesterday (friday) rolled around and I just started to think about how when I (we as in those who have CF) get sick it takes our bodies a lot longer to recover than people w/out CF. My body got so weak I could barely take care of myself and the things that need to be done and I got to thinkin' how hard it would be if I had kids (and not to mention my boyfriend travels a lot so I would be by myself most of the time)...I dn't think I could do it and fairly for kids to have th kind of life they deserve. This broke me down. The thought of not being able to have a family ripped me apart and broke into major tears... Okay, so now that you know the background here are my questions to all women/men who have children, are thinking about children or really anyone who has a thought on this...
Do you feel this way too? Have you felt this way? Do you have help at home? If so, how much help do you have? What do you do when you get sick and you have kids??
I have been a babysitter since high school and am friends with a lot of mothers (not to mention watching my mom raise my little sister, Mackenzie) and I realize kids are so much time and energy that I just might not be able to give them...what are your thoughts on this?? Please share...<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
*My name is Bethany
*I am 23 yrs. old
*I have CF & CFRD
*I'm from a very small town - LaGrange, OH
*I now live in Nashville, TN<img src="i/expressions/musicnote.gif" border="0">
*I was pursuing a music career in Nashille and because of health reasons (health insurance) have recently gone back to school to be a teacher.
*I used to dance for the NBA Cleveland Cavaliers in Ohio
*I have a younger sister, Kimberly, 18 who is a carrier of the gene and Mackenzie, who is 11 and has CF
Okay, sooo my boyfriend of almost 5 years now is really incredible - first of all, I think anyone who knows your situation and still wants to be with you forever is pretty remarkable! But, besides that point we do plan on getting married in the next couple of years when I finish school and we do want to have a family. We talk about our dreams of a family quite often actually. Well, he is a singer/songwriter and he went to LA this week on a writing trip...I actually got sick the day after he left..I think I contracted some sort of bug (it is that time ofyer and everyone seems to be getting sick) so I called my doc and started antibiotics right away. Well, this whole week fell flat for me (school wise, chore wise, eating wise)...Basically, I got nothing done. Yesterday (friday) rolled around and I just started to think about how when I (we as in those who have CF) get sick it takes our bodies a lot longer to recover than people w/out CF. My body got so weak I could barely take care of myself and the things that need to be done and I got to thinkin' how hard it would be if I had kids (and not to mention my boyfriend travels a lot so I would be by myself most of the time)...I dn't think I could do it and fairly for kids to have th kind of life they deserve. This broke me down. The thought of not being able to have a family ripped me apart and broke into major tears... Okay, so now that you know the background here are my questions to all women/men who have children, are thinking about children or really anyone who has a thought on this...
Do you feel this way too? Have you felt this way? Do you have help at home? If so, how much help do you have? What do you do when you get sick and you have kids??
I have been a babysitter since high school and am friends with a lot of mothers (not to mention watching my mom raise my little sister, Mackenzie) and I realize kids are so much time and energy that I just might not be able to give them...what are your thoughts on this?? Please share...<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">