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thefrogprincess

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At about 8:20 this morning while he was at work, Brian took all of a small bottle of Aleve. I called him (just to say hi) at about 8:40. He sounded really down and I was worried, he had been late to work which is a no no in the military. But he said he was fine, just having a bad day. At about 10:30 I got a call from one of the guys he works with saying that he was in the hospital, but he wouldn't say why just that he hadn't been injured. I was really upset, with what he's been through I don't like him being in the ER especially since he wouldn't say why. He came and picked me up to take me to the hospital. On the way there he told me what had happened. Shortly after I talked to Brian he went up to Dan (the guy giving me the ride) and handed him the bottle and said that he had taken all of it. They called poison control who told them to call an ambulance, so they did. He got to the ER at about 9:30 and was given charcoal to absorb the Aleve. He was also given 2 liters of fluids to fluch his system. His labs were fine but we have to get them redone tomorrow. They said that much Aleve is not good on his ONE kidney.

I know that Brian has been depressed, but over the last month or so I thought things were getting better. Apparently I was WAY wrong. I had absolutely no clue that it was so bad. I have been trying to get him in to councelling or on meds for months and he always refuses. The only positive thing about this is that the military can now MAKE him get treatment. I am not to leave him for a minute until he his evaluated by the psychiatrist tomorrow morning. Right now I am totally drained. I lost it as soon as I saw him in the ER. I have never been so scared and pissed off all at the same time.

I am too tired right now to think straight about this. Any advice, sympathy, prayers, or whatever would be much appreciated.
 
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thefrogprincess

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At about 8:20 this morning while he was at work, Brian took all of a small bottle of Aleve. I called him (just to say hi) at about 8:40. He sounded really down and I was worried, he had been late to work which is a no no in the military. But he said he was fine, just having a bad day. At about 10:30 I got a call from one of the guys he works with saying that he was in the hospital, but he wouldn't say why just that he hadn't been injured. I was really upset, with what he's been through I don't like him being in the ER especially since he wouldn't say why. He came and picked me up to take me to the hospital. On the way there he told me what had happened. Shortly after I talked to Brian he went up to Dan (the guy giving me the ride) and handed him the bottle and said that he had taken all of it. They called poison control who told them to call an ambulance, so they did. He got to the ER at about 9:30 and was given charcoal to absorb the Aleve. He was also given 2 liters of fluids to fluch his system. His labs were fine but we have to get them redone tomorrow. They said that much Aleve is not good on his ONE kidney.

I know that Brian has been depressed, but over the last month or so I thought things were getting better. Apparently I was WAY wrong. I had absolutely no clue that it was so bad. I have been trying to get him in to councelling or on meds for months and he always refuses. The only positive thing about this is that the military can now MAKE him get treatment. I am not to leave him for a minute until he his evaluated by the psychiatrist tomorrow morning. Right now I am totally drained. I lost it as soon as I saw him in the ER. I have never been so scared and pissed off all at the same time.

I am too tired right now to think straight about this. Any advice, sympathy, prayers, or whatever would be much appreciated.
 
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thefrogprincess

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At about 8:20 this morning while he was at work, Brian took all of a small bottle of Aleve. I called him (just to say hi) at about 8:40. He sounded really down and I was worried, he had been late to work which is a no no in the military. But he said he was fine, just having a bad day. At about 10:30 I got a call from one of the guys he works with saying that he was in the hospital, but he wouldn't say why just that he hadn't been injured. I was really upset, with what he's been through I don't like him being in the ER especially since he wouldn't say why. He came and picked me up to take me to the hospital. On the way there he told me what had happened. Shortly after I talked to Brian he went up to Dan (the guy giving me the ride) and handed him the bottle and said that he had taken all of it. They called poison control who told them to call an ambulance, so they did. He got to the ER at about 9:30 and was given charcoal to absorb the Aleve. He was also given 2 liters of fluids to fluch his system. His labs were fine but we have to get them redone tomorrow. They said that much Aleve is not good on his ONE kidney.

I know that Brian has been depressed, but over the last month or so I thought things were getting better. Apparently I was WAY wrong. I had absolutely no clue that it was so bad. I have been trying to get him in to councelling or on meds for months and he always refuses. The only positive thing about this is that the military can now MAKE him get treatment. I am not to leave him for a minute until he his evaluated by the psychiatrist tomorrow morning. Right now I am totally drained. I lost it as soon as I saw him in the ER. I have never been so scared and pissed off all at the same time.

I am too tired right now to think straight about this. Any advice, sympathy, prayers, or whatever would be much appreciated.
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>thefrogprincess</b></i>

Any advice</end quote></div>



Call a spade a spade.

<b>Don't have kids with this man. </b>
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>thefrogprincess</b></i>

Any advice</end quote></div>



Call a spade a spade.

<b>Don't have kids with this man. </b>
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>thefrogprincess</b></i>

Any advice</end quote></div>



Call a spade a spade.

<b>Don't have kids with this man. </b>
 
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AnD

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Oh my! I am so sorry! How scary! I will say prayers for the both of you, and especially for his recovery, physically, mentally and spiritually. Hang in there!
 
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AnD

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Oh my! I am so sorry! How scary! I will say prayers for the both of you, and especially for his recovery, physically, mentally and spiritually. Hang in there!
 
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AnD

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Oh my! I am so sorry! How scary! I will say prayers for the both of you, and especially for his recovery, physically, mentally and spiritually. Hang in there!
 
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nicolaj

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im so sorry to hear this Jessi, it must have been real scary for you. just remember to not stop looking after your self. just with you saying your to tired to think straight. i no when i worry i sometimes neglect my health. take care

nicola xx
 
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nicolaj

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im so sorry to hear this Jessi, it must have been real scary for you. just remember to not stop looking after your self. just with you saying your to tired to think straight. i no when i worry i sometimes neglect my health. take care

nicola xx
 
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nicolaj

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im so sorry to hear this Jessi, it must have been real scary for you. just remember to not stop looking after your self. just with you saying your to tired to think straight. i no when i worry i sometimes neglect my health. take care

nicola xx
 
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Emily65Roses

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Jessi, feel free to talk to me at any time. I'm not sure how much help I can be, but I tried to kill myself 6 years ago. Same way, I took a bunch of crap, and then chickened out. I told the friend I was with what I had done, and he took me to the ER. Puking, charcoal, mental ward for a week, the whole 9 yards.

So I know how it feels to be where he is. Everything sucks, you feel like it's not worth it, etc etc. I will say, though, that since I did that, I have learned from it greatly. Shortly after, I decided it was pretty much the stupidest sh*t I ever did. No matter how crappy I felt since then, it hasn't been an option (I have thought about it, I wouldn't tell you otherwise, but I never considered it seriously).

I know you're inclined to feel angry, and you have every right. But keep in mind, if he's anything like me, he probably feels like a grade A @ss. On top of that, try not to take it personally. I know, again, easier said than done. You're his *wife*, but as much as it feels like it, it's not a statement about you or how he feels about you.

I don't know what else to say, I feel like I'm rambling. But like I said, feel free to talk to me if you want. Even if you just want to talk with no real goal in mind, go ahead. I'd be happy to just talk to you if it helps you ease your mind a bit. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Emily65Roses

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Jessi, feel free to talk to me at any time. I'm not sure how much help I can be, but I tried to kill myself 6 years ago. Same way, I took a bunch of crap, and then chickened out. I told the friend I was with what I had done, and he took me to the ER. Puking, charcoal, mental ward for a week, the whole 9 yards.

So I know how it feels to be where he is. Everything sucks, you feel like it's not worth it, etc etc. I will say, though, that since I did that, I have learned from it greatly. Shortly after, I decided it was pretty much the stupidest sh*t I ever did. No matter how crappy I felt since then, it hasn't been an option (I have thought about it, I wouldn't tell you otherwise, but I never considered it seriously).

I know you're inclined to feel angry, and you have every right. But keep in mind, if he's anything like me, he probably feels like a grade A @ss. On top of that, try not to take it personally. I know, again, easier said than done. You're his *wife*, but as much as it feels like it, it's not a statement about you or how he feels about you.

I don't know what else to say, I feel like I'm rambling. But like I said, feel free to talk to me if you want. Even if you just want to talk with no real goal in mind, go ahead. I'd be happy to just talk to you if it helps you ease your mind a bit. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Emily65Roses

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Jessi, feel free to talk to me at any time. I'm not sure how much help I can be, but I tried to kill myself 6 years ago. Same way, I took a bunch of crap, and then chickened out. I told the friend I was with what I had done, and he took me to the ER. Puking, charcoal, mental ward for a week, the whole 9 yards.

So I know how it feels to be where he is. Everything sucks, you feel like it's not worth it, etc etc. I will say, though, that since I did that, I have learned from it greatly. Shortly after, I decided it was pretty much the stupidest sh*t I ever did. No matter how crappy I felt since then, it hasn't been an option (I have thought about it, I wouldn't tell you otherwise, but I never considered it seriously).

I know you're inclined to feel angry, and you have every right. But keep in mind, if he's anything like me, he probably feels like a grade A @ss. On top of that, try not to take it personally. I know, again, easier said than done. You're his *wife*, but as much as it feels like it, it's not a statement about you or how he feels about you.

I don't know what else to say, I feel like I'm rambling. But like I said, feel free to talk to me if you want. Even if you just want to talk with no real goal in mind, go ahead. I'd be happy to just talk to you if it helps you ease your mind a bit. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Emily65Roses

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Oh and... I agree with Amy, but only temporarily. Don't have kids for a while. Make sure he gets back on track, gets the help he needs, all that good crap. I wouldn't say he's a lost cause, though. I was okay within a year or two and I'm certainly better now, 6 years after the fact. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> He just needs time to get some help, and then, hopefully, he'll be as good as new.
 
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Emily65Roses

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Oh and... I agree with Amy, but only temporarily. Don't have kids for a while. Make sure he gets back on track, gets the help he needs, all that good crap. I wouldn't say he's a lost cause, though. I was okay within a year or two and I'm certainly better now, 6 years after the fact. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> He just needs time to get some help, and then, hopefully, he'll be as good as new.
 
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Emily65Roses

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Oh and... I agree with Amy, but only temporarily. Don't have kids for a while. Make sure he gets back on track, gets the help he needs, all that good crap. I wouldn't say he's a lost cause, though. I was okay within a year or two and I'm certainly better now, 6 years after the fact. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> He just needs time to get some help, and then, hopefully, he'll be as good as new.
 
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kayleesgrandma

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Jessi, Emily has a good point , try to get Brian to talk to her. She knows where he's coming from. Emily, that was so wonderful of you to say that to Jessie-you never cease to amaze me! I will keep you both in my prayers, Jessi.
 
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kayleesgrandma

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Jessi, Emily has a good point , try to get Brian to talk to her. She knows where he's coming from. Emily, that was so wonderful of you to say that to Jessie-you never cease to amaze me! I will keep you both in my prayers, Jessi.
 
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