On Motherhood and Decisions

mamaScarlett

Active member
I'm gonna go for it!!!!!!!!!

BUT-that doesn't mean its going to happen!! I'm committing to work hard (which I always do anyway), but extra hard, and do some of the pre-pregnancy things I did with my first.

I have a checkup in a few weeks. If the answer is still no and my lungs aren't too great, we will proceed with adoption. That is not an easy road either, but none is. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy, right?

Either way, we are going for a second child!!!!! OMG, I said it!!!!
Whatever way it happens, I don't care. I am so happy that we have at least gone in one direction.

I had a long long talk with my mother in law (my rock and best friend-mother of 8 with lots of experience). She would not advise me on what to do, but the one thing she said is that when a woman has that strong desire for a child-try as you may, sometimes it just can not be suppressed. And, it can do more harm emotionally and physically (for some), when you try to suppress it. Thats what its doing to me.

Another thing I realized is, I have so much going for me. I have a measure of good health, I don't have to work outside the home, my mil is right next door and here for me at a moments notice. I've been thinking so negative lately, and not thinking about all the positives I have.

So, thats where I am. I don't know what will happen, but I know that within a few months, we will be deciding what direction to take, and within a year to two years hopefully I'll have another little one to love!! We have a direction now.
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
I'm gonna go for it!!!!!!!!!

BUT-that doesn't mean its going to happen!! I'm committing to work hard (which I always do anyway), but extra hard, and do some of the pre-pregnancy things I did with my first.

I have a checkup in a few weeks. If the answer is still no and my lungs aren't too great, we will proceed with adoption. That is not an easy road either, but none is. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy, right?

Either way, we are going for a second child!!!!! OMG, I said it!!!!
Whatever way it happens, I don't care. I am so happy that we have at least gone in one direction.

I had a long long talk with my mother in law (my rock and best friend-mother of 8 with lots of experience). She would not advise me on what to do, but the one thing she said is that when a woman has that strong desire for a child-try as you may, sometimes it just can not be suppressed. And, it can do more harm emotionally and physically (for some), when you try to suppress it. Thats what its doing to me.

Another thing I realized is, I have so much going for me. I have a measure of good health, I don't have to work outside the home, my mil is right next door and here for me at a moments notice. I've been thinking so negative lately, and not thinking about all the positives I have.

So, thats where I am. I don't know what will happen, but I know that within a few months, we will be deciding what direction to take, and within a year to two years hopefully I'll have another little one to love!! We have a direction now.
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
I'm gonna go for it!!!!!!!!!

BUT-that doesn't mean its going to happen!! I'm committing to work hard (which I always do anyway), but extra hard, and do some of the pre-pregnancy things I did with my first.

I have a checkup in a few weeks. If the answer is still no and my lungs aren't too great, we will proceed with adoption. That is not an easy road either, but none is. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy, right?

Either way, we are going for a second child!!!!! OMG, I said it!!!!
Whatever way it happens, I don't care. I am so happy that we have at least gone in one direction.

I had a long long talk with my mother in law (my rock and best friend-mother of 8 with lots of experience). She would not advise me on what to do, but the one thing she said is that when a woman has that strong desire for a child-try as you may, sometimes it just can not be suppressed. And, it can do more harm emotionally and physically (for some), when you try to suppress it. Thats what its doing to me.

Another thing I realized is, I have so much going for me. I have a measure of good health, I don't have to work outside the home, my mil is right next door and here for me at a moments notice. I've been thinking so negative lately, and not thinking about all the positives I have.

So, thats where I am. I don't know what will happen, but I know that within a few months, we will be deciding what direction to take, and within a year to two years hopefully I'll have another little one to love!! We have a direction now.
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
I'm gonna go for it!!!!!!!!!

BUT-that doesn't mean its going to happen!! I'm committing to work hard (which I always do anyway), but extra hard, and do some of the pre-pregnancy things I did with my first.

I have a checkup in a few weeks. If the answer is still no and my lungs aren't too great, we will proceed with adoption. That is not an easy road either, but none is. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy, right?

Either way, we are going for a second child!!!!! OMG, I said it!!!!
Whatever way it happens, I don't care. I am so happy that we have at least gone in one direction.

I had a long long talk with my mother in law (my rock and best friend-mother of 8 with lots of experience). She would not advise me on what to do, but the one thing she said is that when a woman has that strong desire for a child-try as you may, sometimes it just can not be suppressed. And, it can do more harm emotionally and physically (for some), when you try to suppress it. Thats what its doing to me.

Another thing I realized is, I have so much going for me. I have a measure of good health, I don't have to work outside the home, my mil is right next door and here for me at a moments notice. I've been thinking so negative lately, and not thinking about all the positives I have.

So, thats where I am. I don't know what will happen, but I know that within a few months, we will be deciding what direction to take, and within a year to two years hopefully I'll have another little one to love!! We have a direction now.
 

mamaScarlett

Active member
I'm gonna go for it!!!!!!!!!
<br />
<br />BUT-that doesn't mean its going to happen!! I'm committing to work hard (which I always do anyway), but extra hard, and do some of the pre-pregnancy things I did with my first.
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<br />I have a checkup in a few weeks. If the answer is still no and my lungs aren't too great, we will proceed with adoption. That is not an easy road either, but none is. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy, right?
<br />
<br />Either way, we are going for a second child!!!!! OMG, I said it!!!!
<br />Whatever way it happens, I don't care. I am so happy that we have at least gone in one direction.
<br />
<br />I had a long long talk with my mother in law (my rock and best friend-mother of 8 with lots of experience). She would not advise me on what to do, but the one thing she said is that when a woman has that strong desire for a child-try as you may, sometimes it just can not be suppressed. And, it can do more harm emotionally and physically (for some), when you try to suppress it. Thats what its doing to me.
<br />
<br />Another thing I realized is, I have so much going for me. I have a measure of good health, I don't have to work outside the home, my mil is right next door and here for me at a moments notice. I've been thinking so negative lately, and not thinking about all the positives I have.
<br />
<br />So, thats where I am. I don't know what will happen, but I know that within a few months, we will be deciding what direction to take, and within a year to two years hopefully I'll have another little one to love!! We have a direction now.
 

LouLou

New member
Yeah for direction!! I was so lost this time last year. Now I have found a direction and I'm glad you have found yours. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulder about this plan. You realize you've got a direction but you aren't sure exactly which way the map will take you. Best wishes to you, K and V.
 

LouLou

New member
Yeah for direction!! I was so lost this time last year. Now I have found a direction and I'm glad you have found yours. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulder about this plan. You realize you've got a direction but you aren't sure exactly which way the map will take you. Best wishes to you, K and V.
 

LouLou

New member
Yeah for direction!! I was so lost this time last year. Now I have found a direction and I'm glad you have found yours. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulder about this plan. You realize you've got a direction but you aren't sure exactly which way the map will take you. Best wishes to you, K and V.
 

LouLou

New member
Yeah for direction!! I was so lost this time last year. Now I have found a direction and I'm glad you have found yours. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulder about this plan. You realize you've got a direction but you aren't sure exactly which way the map will take you. Best wishes to you, K and V.
 

LouLou

New member
Yeah for direction!! I was so lost this time last year. Now I have found a direction and I'm glad you have found yours. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulder about this plan. You realize you've got a direction but you aren't sure exactly which way the map will take you. Best wishes to you, K and V.
 

Jeana

New member
I'm glad you have some peace with making a decision. It sounds like you have a great support system with your mil right next door. I wish I had that.
 

Jeana

New member
I'm glad you have some peace with making a decision. It sounds like you have a great support system with your mil right next door. I wish I had that.
 

Jeana

New member
I'm glad you have some peace with making a decision. It sounds like you have a great support system with your mil right next door. I wish I had that.
 

Jeana

New member
I'm glad you have some peace with making a decision. It sounds like you have a great support system with your mil right next door. I wish I had that.
 

Jeana

New member
I'm glad you have some peace with making a decision. It sounds like you have a great support system with your mil right next door. I wish I had that.
 

Asexyblond23

New member
I think that no matter what the outcome at the doctors is as long as you both are happy that is what counts. It's like you said emotions play a huge role in life and in my opinion they need to play a big part in life. I am so happy for you that you have a plan <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I also would say that with every person I think how they grew up makes a difference in their decision. I am an only child so to me our little guy being an only child is ok with me. But people who have siblings cant imagine having a child without siblings.
 

Asexyblond23

New member
I think that no matter what the outcome at the doctors is as long as you both are happy that is what counts. It's like you said emotions play a huge role in life and in my opinion they need to play a big part in life. I am so happy for you that you have a plan <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I also would say that with every person I think how they grew up makes a difference in their decision. I am an only child so to me our little guy being an only child is ok with me. But people who have siblings cant imagine having a child without siblings.
 

Asexyblond23

New member
I think that no matter what the outcome at the doctors is as long as you both are happy that is what counts. It's like you said emotions play a huge role in life and in my opinion they need to play a big part in life. I am so happy for you that you have a plan <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I also would say that with every person I think how they grew up makes a difference in their decision. I am an only child so to me our little guy being an only child is ok with me. But people who have siblings cant imagine having a child without siblings.
 

Asexyblond23

New member
I think that no matter what the outcome at the doctors is as long as you both are happy that is what counts. It's like you said emotions play a huge role in life and in my opinion they need to play a big part in life. I am so happy for you that you have a plan <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I also would say that with every person I think how they grew up makes a difference in their decision. I am an only child so to me our little guy being an only child is ok with me. But people who have siblings cant imagine having a child without siblings.
 

Asexyblond23

New member
I think that no matter what the outcome at the doctors is as long as you both are happy that is what counts. It's like you said emotions play a huge role in life and in my opinion they need to play a big part in life. I am so happy for you that you have a plan <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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<br />I also would say that with every person I think how they grew up makes a difference in their decision. I am an only child so to me our little guy being an only child is ok with me. But people who have siblings cant imagine having a child without siblings.
 
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