Just looking for a little parenting advice. You all are so great at dealing with life's challenges so I am looking for help with a difficult subject. My FIL is very ill; he has cancer and will be going home soon with hospice care..My husband is at the hospital right now; the doctors say maybe he'll make it through the holidays. So, the ages of my children are almost 7(first grade) and 11 years old (6th grade). I'm not sure how to deal with the topic of death. We are not religious but feel we need to be open with our children. Both our kids have had a fabulous relationship with the grandparents and this will be a major loss. I just want to handle it with grace and give our children the skills to deal with how they are feeling. My older child is quiet in general about his emotions. My daughter much more vocal and expresses her feelings well..So, i guess I worry how to go about explaining this. I plan on going to my inlaws house this weekend to prepare their house for the hospice care etc. I will be bringing the kids with me to see their grandpa..He is looking very weak and frail in pain and sick. Just looking for some openers for some dialogue to help me and my kids with the eventual loss of a very special person.
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Just looking for a little parenting advice. You all are so great at dealing with life's challenges so I am looking for help with a difficult subject. My FIL is very ill; he has cancer and will be going home soon with hospice care..My husband is at the hospital right now; the doctors say maybe he'll make it through the holidays. So, the ages of my children are almost 7(first grade) and 11 years old (6th grade). I'm not sure how to deal with the topic of death. We are not religious but feel we need to be open with our children. Both our kids have had a fabulous relationship with the grandparents and this will be a major loss. I just want to handle it with grace and give our children the skills to deal with how they are feeling. My older child is quiet in general about his emotions. My daughter much more vocal and expresses her feelings well..So, i guess I worry how to go about explaining this. I plan on going to my inlaws house this weekend to prepare their house for the hospice care etc. I will be bringing the kids with me to see their grandpa..He is looking very weak and frail in pain and sick. Just looking for some openers for some dialogue to help me and my kids with the eventual loss of a very special person.
Just looking for a little parenting advice. You all are so great at dealing with life's challenges so I am looking for help with a difficult subject. My FIL is very ill; he has cancer and will be going home soon with hospice care..My husband is at the hospital right now; the doctors say maybe he'll make it through the holidays. So, the ages of my children are almost 7(first grade) and 11 years old (6th grade). I'm not sure how to deal with the topic of death. We are not religious but feel we need to be open with our children. Both our kids have had a fabulous relationship with the grandparents and this will be a major loss. I just want to handle it with grace and give our children the skills to deal with how they are feeling. My older child is quiet in general about his emotions. My daughter much more vocal and expresses her feelings well..So, i guess I worry how to go about explaining this. I plan on going to my inlaws house this weekend to prepare their house for the hospice care etc. I will be bringing the kids with me to see their grandpa..He is looking very weak and frail in pain and sick. Just looking for some openers for some dialogue to help me and my kids with the eventual loss of a very special person.
Just looking for a little parenting advice. You all are so great at dealing with life's challenges so I am looking for help with a difficult subject. My FIL is very ill; he has cancer and will be going home soon with hospice care..My husband is at the hospital right now; the doctors say maybe he'll make it through the holidays. So, the ages of my children are almost 7(first grade) and 11 years old (6th grade). I'm not sure how to deal with the topic of death. We are not religious but feel we need to be open with our children. Both our kids have had a fabulous relationship with the grandparents and this will be a major loss. I just want to handle it with grace and give our children the skills to deal with how they are feeling. My older child is quiet in general about his emotions. My daughter much more vocal and expresses her feelings well..So, i guess I worry how to go about explaining this. I plan on going to my inlaws house this weekend to prepare their house for the hospice care etc. I will be bringing the kids with me to see their grandpa..He is looking very weak and frail in pain and sick. Just looking for some openers for some dialogue to help me and my kids with the eventual loss of a very special person.
Just looking for a little parenting advice. You all are so great at dealing with life's challenges so I am looking for help with a difficult subject. My FIL is very ill; he has cancer and will be going home soon with hospice care..My husband is at the hospital right now; the doctors say maybe he'll make it through the holidays. So, the ages of my children are almost 7(first grade) and 11 years old (6th grade). I'm not sure how to deal with the topic of death. We are not religious but feel we need to be open with our children. Both our kids have had a fabulous relationship with the grandparents and this will be a major loss. I just want to handle it with grace and give our children the skills to deal with how they are feeling. My older child is quiet in general about his emotions. My daughter much more vocal and expresses her feelings well..So, i guess I worry how to go about explaining this. I plan on going to my inlaws house this weekend to prepare their house for the hospice care etc. I will be bringing the kids with me to see their grandpa..He is looking very weak and frail in pain and sick. Just looking for some openers for some dialogue to help me and my kids with the eventual loss of a very special person.
First I want to say that I am sorry about your fil. My sister lost both her fil and mil in about 1 months time due to cancer. I don't have any words of wisdom. But my sister was just honest in letting my niece (5) know what was going on.
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<br />Again I am so sorry....
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<br />Again I am so sorry....
I personally have told them the truth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
I personally have told them the truth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
I personally have told them the truth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
I personally have told them the truth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
I personally have told them the truth.
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<br />My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
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<br />When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
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<br />Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
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<br />My oldest daughter was 6 when her grandmother she was named after passed away. In the months leading up to it my daughter knew what was happening, and would sit and play (my grandmother had alhzeimers) with her for hours.
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<br />When the time came, she knew and she cried and grieved with the rest of us. It was not fun, but death is not. However, your daughter sounds much like my oldest and if you think she can handle it give her the truth. Not the nasty details of how people die, but the fact that grandpa is going to be leaving her life.
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<br />Not sure if this helps, but there is my $0.02 worth.
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let the kids be a part of it. Let them spend time with their grandfather. I've been through the whole scenario recently. Kids are resiliant and in the future they will remember being a part of their grandfathers final days. It's so much better than shielding them from the situation.Good luck
let the kids be a part of it. Let them spend time with their grandfather. I've been through the whole scenario recently. Kids are resiliant and in the future they will remember being a part of their grandfathers final days. It's so much better than shielding them from the situation.Good luck
let the kids be a part of it. Let them spend time with their grandfather. I've been through the whole scenario recently. Kids are resiliant and in the future they will remember being a part of their grandfathers final days. It's so much better than shielding them from the situation.Good luck
let the kids be a part of it. Let them spend time with their grandfather. I've been through the whole scenario recently. Kids are resiliant and in the future they will remember being a part of their grandfathers final days. It's so much better than shielding them from the situation.Good luck
let the kids be a part of it. Let them spend time with their grandfather. I've been through the whole scenario recently. Kids are resiliant and in the future they will remember being a part of their grandfathers final days. It's so much better than shielding them from the situation.Good luck