I have encountered people like that. Some are that way by nature. I knew an elderly woman who was widowed with no kids (she despised kids) and had to be the center of attention. I gave her no respect because she certainly didnt give it out.
I also encounter people like my Mom who just get crabbier with age. I understand how my Mom feels physically. The limitations that are placed upon her that she hates so much & after living like that for so long you are bound to get grouchy. My Mom also is one that should I discuss similiar instances between her & I that she turns it into a competition of sorts and it ends up being ALL about her.
Then there are the "normal" elderly ones that I like. They have the aches & pains that come with age, but try not to harp on it. They have compassion & believe me when I say I relate. They listen to me & like to be listened to. Sadly this group has the fewest members.
I try to remember that chances are good most seniors have lived with aches, pains & other problems for many years, but at the same time.....in a way....isnt that what getting old is about. Unlike CF where we feel the same very, very early on.
Vent away my new forum buddy, vent away!
I also encounter people like my Mom who just get crabbier with age. I understand how my Mom feels physically. The limitations that are placed upon her that she hates so much & after living like that for so long you are bound to get grouchy. My Mom also is one that should I discuss similiar instances between her & I that she turns it into a competition of sorts and it ends up being ALL about her.
Then there are the "normal" elderly ones that I like. They have the aches & pains that come with age, but try not to harp on it. They have compassion & believe me when I say I relate. They listen to me & like to be listened to. Sadly this group has the fewest members.
I try to remember that chances are good most seniors have lived with aches, pains & other problems for many years, but at the same time.....in a way....isnt that what getting old is about. Unlike CF where we feel the same very, very early on.
Vent away my new forum buddy, vent away!