Honesty has got to start somewhere and if he isn't being "honest" with you and telling you, he is probably scared you will leave, embarassed, doesn't want the relationship to change...but if you care a lot about him, and think there is a future, ask him. He may be mad, hurt, shocked...initially, but it's got to be put out there at some point. I will never forget the day my now husband told me. But lucky for me I come from a medical back ground and also have a mom who is an RN and was able to assist myself, and him through difficult stuff. We have been together almost 5 years now, married 2.5 and although there are hard times, I wouldn't change anything we did. Sometimes when he coughs so much that he throws up, he gets embarrassed and wants me to leave. But I just get him a cool cloth to lower his body temp (it usually raises rapidly with coughing attacks), and if he vomitts, I clean it up-even if he opposes. My husband never thought a serious girlfirned was possible, and definetly not a wife and now he has me. Most males (99.5%) with CF are also infertile and that might be a big deal to your boyfriend as to why he hasn't told you yet, but my husband is "infertile" and we are in the process of undergoing infertility treatments and a procedure called ICSI (a newer version of In-vetro). The infertility aspect is that they have CBAVD, meaning they have no "tube" that carries the sperm from the testicles to ejaculation. But, there is sperm in the testicles and can be retrieved by a urologist for use in an in-vetro procedure. I think you should talk to him about it, because if you wait for him to tell you, it's going to eat you up-and you ovbiously care about him or you wouldnt have done your research and posted on this website
Julie
