Pregnancy... I wanna baby!

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jbrandonAW

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I am 19 and my husband is 25. He is in the army and will be deploying in late fall. We would really like to get preggo BEFORE he leaves.

I have had a miscarriage before at 12 weeks. He has two kids from a previous marriage and no CF gene.

My lung function was 56% at the last visit but I'm really working on bringing it up.

I have been charting this is my 3rd Cycle. My first cycle I O'd on cycle day 24. I had a dip in temp, and EWCM. My 2nd cycle was only 16 days with No ovulation. I am now on my 3rd cycle day 20. I started getting EWCM this morning and a decent line on my OPK but Not a POS yet. I am not temping alot b/c I sleep with my mouth open so my temps are Off.

I would tell you the meds I am taking... but I'm not very consistant...However I do my Vest 2 x's a day, and I take my vitamins.

I thought about taking SOY ISOFLAVENES on the start of my next cyle, Has anyone ever done this?

I am really anxious to get preggo and I try not to stress.

Any tips or anything I WOULD LOVE THEM!
 
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jbrandonAW

New member
I am 19 and my husband is 25. He is in the army and will be deploying in late fall. We would really like to get preggo BEFORE he leaves.

I have had a miscarriage before at 12 weeks. He has two kids from a previous marriage and no CF gene.

My lung function was 56% at the last visit but I'm really working on bringing it up.

I have been charting this is my 3rd Cycle. My first cycle I O'd on cycle day 24. I had a dip in temp, and EWCM. My 2nd cycle was only 16 days with No ovulation. I am now on my 3rd cycle day 20. I started getting EWCM this morning and a decent line on my OPK but Not a POS yet. I am not temping alot b/c I sleep with my mouth open so my temps are Off.

I would tell you the meds I am taking... but I'm not very consistant...However I do my Vest 2 x's a day, and I take my vitamins.

I thought about taking SOY ISOFLAVENES on the start of my next cyle, Has anyone ever done this?

I am really anxious to get preggo and I try not to stress.

Any tips or anything I WOULD LOVE THEM!
 
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jbrandonAW

New member
I am 19 and my husband is 25. He is in the army and will be deploying in late fall. We would really like to get preggo BEFORE he leaves.

I have had a miscarriage before at 12 weeks. He has two kids from a previous marriage and no CF gene.

My lung function was 56% at the last visit but I'm really working on bringing it up.

I have been charting this is my 3rd Cycle. My first cycle I O'd on cycle day 24. I had a dip in temp, and EWCM. My 2nd cycle was only 16 days with No ovulation. I am now on my 3rd cycle day 20. I started getting EWCM this morning and a decent line on my OPK but Not a POS yet. I am not temping alot b/c I sleep with my mouth open so my temps are Off.

I would tell you the meds I am taking... but I'm not very consistant...However I do my Vest 2 x's a day, and I take my vitamins.

I thought about taking SOY ISOFLAVENES on the start of my next cyle, Has anyone ever done this?

I am really anxious to get preggo and I try not to stress.

Any tips or anything I WOULD LOVE THEM!
 
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NoExcuses

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please consider how difficult it would be for you to raise this child alone if your husband is killed in Iraq.

it may be wise to wait until he gets back safely....
 
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NoExcuses

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please consider how difficult it would be for you to raise this child alone if your husband is killed in Iraq.

it may be wise to wait until he gets back safely....
 
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NoExcuses

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please consider how difficult it would be for you to raise this child alone if your husband is killed in Iraq.

it may be wise to wait until he gets back safely....
 
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Uli

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What do your doctors say?
With all your health problems already at your age and as you said " not very consistant" with your meds, don´t you think about getting even bigger problems when pregnant and with a baby which would have to rely totally on you?!


Uli,44,Germany,cf/cfrd
 
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Uli

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What do your doctors say?
With all your health problems already at your age and as you said " not very consistant" with your meds, don´t you think about getting even bigger problems when pregnant and with a baby which would have to rely totally on you?!


Uli,44,Germany,cf/cfrd
 
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Uli

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What do your doctors say?
With all your health problems already at your age and as you said " not very consistant" with your meds, don´t you think about getting even bigger problems when pregnant and with a baby which would have to rely totally on you?!


Uli,44,Germany,cf/cfrd
 
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julie

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Amy, what a God awful thing for you to say. Don't you think the deploying families think and talk about this already. You have no place to say that. She didn't ask for your opinion regarding her husbands deployment, she asked for advice about HOW to get pregnant. Sometimes you just need to keep your mouth shut Amy.


How long have you been trying, or have you been actively trying already? Have you considered using the robitussin to thin the cervical mucus?
 
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julie

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Amy, what a God awful thing for you to say. Don't you think the deploying families think and talk about this already. You have no place to say that. She didn't ask for your opinion regarding her husbands deployment, she asked for advice about HOW to get pregnant. Sometimes you just need to keep your mouth shut Amy.


How long have you been trying, or have you been actively trying already? Have you considered using the robitussin to thin the cervical mucus?
 
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julie

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Amy, what a God awful thing for you to say. Don't you think the deploying families think and talk about this already. You have no place to say that. She didn't ask for your opinion regarding her husbands deployment, she asked for advice about HOW to get pregnant. Sometimes you just need to keep your mouth shut Amy.


How long have you been trying, or have you been actively trying already? Have you considered using the robitussin to thin the cervical mucus?
 
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tricki

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HI julie i was just reading your reply and i wondered if you have any advice for me. My partner and i have been actively trying for the past year and using robitussin now for 3 months with no results as of yet. But my doctors have just advised me not to become pregnant due to my lungs only being at 42%, i can understand their reasoning but my partner and i are desperate to start a family as i am already 24. ( not old i know but we would like a family now while my lungs arent to terrible)
Any advice from yourself or anyone else would be appreaciated as i am finding it really tough right now as all my other friends are pregnant etc.
Thanks
Tricki
 
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tricki

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HI julie i was just reading your reply and i wondered if you have any advice for me. My partner and i have been actively trying for the past year and using robitussin now for 3 months with no results as of yet. But my doctors have just advised me not to become pregnant due to my lungs only being at 42%, i can understand their reasoning but my partner and i are desperate to start a family as i am already 24. ( not old i know but we would like a family now while my lungs arent to terrible)
Any advice from yourself or anyone else would be appreaciated as i am finding it really tough right now as all my other friends are pregnant etc.
Thanks
Tricki
 
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tricki

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HI julie i was just reading your reply and i wondered if you have any advice for me. My partner and i have been actively trying for the past year and using robitussin now for 3 months with no results as of yet. But my doctors have just advised me not to become pregnant due to my lungs only being at 42%, i can understand their reasoning but my partner and i are desperate to start a family as i am already 24. ( not old i know but we would like a family now while my lungs arent to terrible)
Any advice from yourself or anyone else would be appreaciated as i am finding it really tough right now as all my other friends are pregnant etc.
Thanks
Tricki
 
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LouLou

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jb and tricki -
my biggest piece of advice to both of you is to get to know your body before trying to conceive. Listen to it and attend to it. This involves the following; eat well, "watch" your monthly cycle like a science project, do all of your lung clearance routines everyday and take all of your medicines. Learn about alternative therapies that you feel will be a good fit for you. Stay on the cutting edge of how best to treat your cf.

JB- the same goes for all your other health problems. Own them, make them yours and become an expert through research.

Within 3-6 months you will both see increases in your lung function which will directly benefit you in your endeavors and stamina to get pregnant and maintain good health during pregnancy.

tricki, how long have you been at 42?%? You need to work like a mad woman to get that up. I know sometimes it's not possible. The results of someone at this level getting pregnant haven't been very positive. This is why your doctor advices against it. Even if you can stay well during the pregnancy, the sleepless nights and care of a child could take a drastic toll on your health. At my lung function 67% FEV1 my DH and I discussed things like would he rather be a single parent when I die or not. Of course, this wasn't a natural conversation to have since I am doing wonderful health wise and maintain a normal life/work style. It was a necessary conversation though because in my mind it is ultimately the healthy person's choice in a relationship to pursue children or not. We can make no promises for how long we'll be here on this earth to care for our child. You have to be okay with this too.

Also, it's important to scenerio build and discuss...in great length. Such topics are;
if you work outside the home are you and DH ready for you to stay home financially?

How will home workload be divided up? Do you or he have certain expectations of eachother on this subject? Bottomline: your DH is going to have to do A LOT more if you have a child. In a cf relationship there is no room for a slack a_s_s husband or wife for that matter. I'm sure Julie could second this.

If your health takes a turn for the worse during the pregnancy and termination could save your life what is your and DH's feelings about this? This is actually something even none cfers should discuss. My birthing class urged us to have a plan because in labor you never know what could happen and then is not the time to be making weighty decisions to questions like, "Who will you save mommy or baby?"

What is your support network like?

Are you financially able to hire help if you CAN'T handle doing your part (what ever that might be) post pregnancy?

How do you feel about tx..does your DH have different views?

How does having a child effect yours/his expectations of your life expectancy?

How do you both feel about bringing a child into a situation where they will likely see severe suffering in childhood (age 0-18 years)?
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Believe it or not, I'm not a doom and gloom person. I am very upbeat and chipper. I just think these are real world scenerios (as well as others that you will think of) that need to be discussed.
Oh and one more thing I discussed with DH before conceiving was that I'm always going to be #1. Me meaning my health. For if we do not have my health, we will not have me. This became apparent once I started to do all my treatments and totally taking care of myself - - everything has to work around it. It is our #1 priority. I'm not saying all this has to be the way you deal with the course you are charting but hopefully it gives you something to ponder.

Good luck to both of you!
 
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LouLou

New member
jb and tricki -
my biggest piece of advice to both of you is to get to know your body before trying to conceive. Listen to it and attend to it. This involves the following; eat well, "watch" your monthly cycle like a science project, do all of your lung clearance routines everyday and take all of your medicines. Learn about alternative therapies that you feel will be a good fit for you. Stay on the cutting edge of how best to treat your cf.

JB- the same goes for all your other health problems. Own them, make them yours and become an expert through research.

Within 3-6 months you will both see increases in your lung function which will directly benefit you in your endeavors and stamina to get pregnant and maintain good health during pregnancy.

tricki, how long have you been at 42?%? You need to work like a mad woman to get that up. I know sometimes it's not possible. The results of someone at this level getting pregnant haven't been very positive. This is why your doctor advices against it. Even if you can stay well during the pregnancy, the sleepless nights and care of a child could take a drastic toll on your health. At my lung function 67% FEV1 my DH and I discussed things like would he rather be a single parent when I die or not. Of course, this wasn't a natural conversation to have since I am doing wonderful health wise and maintain a normal life/work style. It was a necessary conversation though because in my mind it is ultimately the healthy person's choice in a relationship to pursue children or not. We can make no promises for how long we'll be here on this earth to care for our child. You have to be okay with this too.

Also, it's important to scenerio build and discuss...in great length. Such topics are;
if you work outside the home are you and DH ready for you to stay home financially?

How will home workload be divided up? Do you or he have certain expectations of eachother on this subject? Bottomline: your DH is going to have to do A LOT more if you have a child. In a cf relationship there is no room for a slack a_s_s husband or wife for that matter. I'm sure Julie could second this.

If your health takes a turn for the worse during the pregnancy and termination could save your life what is your and DH's feelings about this? This is actually something even none cfers should discuss. My birthing class urged us to have a plan because in labor you never know what could happen and then is not the time to be making weighty decisions to questions like, "Who will you save mommy or baby?"

What is your support network like?

Are you financially able to hire help if you CAN'T handle doing your part (what ever that might be) post pregnancy?

How do you feel about tx..does your DH have different views?

How does having a child effect yours/his expectations of your life expectancy?

How do you both feel about bringing a child into a situation where they will likely see severe suffering in childhood (age 0-18 years)?
------

Believe it or not, I'm not a doom and gloom person. I am very upbeat and chipper. I just think these are real world scenerios (as well as others that you will think of) that need to be discussed.
Oh and one more thing I discussed with DH before conceiving was that I'm always going to be #1. Me meaning my health. For if we do not have my health, we will not have me. This became apparent once I started to do all my treatments and totally taking care of myself - - everything has to work around it. It is our #1 priority. I'm not saying all this has to be the way you deal with the course you are charting but hopefully it gives you something to ponder.

Good luck to both of you!
 
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LouLou

New member
jb and tricki -
my biggest piece of advice to both of you is to get to know your body before trying to conceive. Listen to it and attend to it. This involves the following; eat well, "watch" your monthly cycle like a science project, do all of your lung clearance routines everyday and take all of your medicines. Learn about alternative therapies that you feel will be a good fit for you. Stay on the cutting edge of how best to treat your cf.

JB- the same goes for all your other health problems. Own them, make them yours and become an expert through research.

Within 3-6 months you will both see increases in your lung function which will directly benefit you in your endeavors and stamina to get pregnant and maintain good health during pregnancy.

tricki, how long have you been at 42?%? You need to work like a mad woman to get that up. I know sometimes it's not possible. The results of someone at this level getting pregnant haven't been very positive. This is why your doctor advices against it. Even if you can stay well during the pregnancy, the sleepless nights and care of a child could take a drastic toll on your health. At my lung function 67% FEV1 my DH and I discussed things like would he rather be a single parent when I die or not. Of course, this wasn't a natural conversation to have since I am doing wonderful health wise and maintain a normal life/work style. It was a necessary conversation though because in my mind it is ultimately the healthy person's choice in a relationship to pursue children or not. We can make no promises for how long we'll be here on this earth to care for our child. You have to be okay with this too.

Also, it's important to scenerio build and discuss...in great length. Such topics are;
if you work outside the home are you and DH ready for you to stay home financially?

How will home workload be divided up? Do you or he have certain expectations of eachother on this subject? Bottomline: your DH is going to have to do A LOT more if you have a child. In a cf relationship there is no room for a slack a_s_s husband or wife for that matter. I'm sure Julie could second this.

If your health takes a turn for the worse during the pregnancy and termination could save your life what is your and DH's feelings about this? This is actually something even none cfers should discuss. My birthing class urged us to have a plan because in labor you never know what could happen and then is not the time to be making weighty decisions to questions like, "Who will you save mommy or baby?"

What is your support network like?

Are you financially able to hire help if you CAN'T handle doing your part (what ever that might be) post pregnancy?

How do you feel about tx..does your DH have different views?

How does having a child effect yours/his expectations of your life expectancy?

How do you both feel about bringing a child into a situation where they will likely see severe suffering in childhood (age 0-18 years)?
------

Believe it or not, I'm not a doom and gloom person. I am very upbeat and chipper. I just think these are real world scenerios (as well as others that you will think of) that need to be discussed.
Oh and one more thing I discussed with DH before conceiving was that I'm always going to be #1. Me meaning my health. For if we do not have my health, we will not have me. This became apparent once I started to do all my treatments and totally taking care of myself - - everything has to work around it. It is our #1 priority. I'm not saying all this has to be the way you deal with the course you are charting but hopefully it gives you something to ponder.

Good luck to both of you!
 
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JazzysMom

New member
I would work really hard on getting your lung function up some. Compliance & dedication are essential. 42% isnt very high considering what affects a pregnancy can have on a CFers body. Even the best pregnancy like what I had still leaves you with the after care of the child and your health. It will take its toll even with the best of support system. As far as your husband being in the service.....it is something to consider. My best friend from high school (no CF) is pregnant & worried to death her hubby will be deployed before the baby is born. Its a risk they were willing to take. It also took her 18 months to get pregnant and she had no CF. Just older (38) & on birth control pills for years..........Do the best you can with your health and the rest you play by ear!
 
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JazzysMom

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I would work really hard on getting your lung function up some. Compliance & dedication are essential. 42% isnt very high considering what affects a pregnancy can have on a CFers body. Even the best pregnancy like what I had still leaves you with the after care of the child and your health. It will take its toll even with the best of support system. As far as your husband being in the service.....it is something to consider. My best friend from high school (no CF) is pregnant & worried to death her hubby will be deployed before the baby is born. Its a risk they were willing to take. It also took her 18 months to get pregnant and she had no CF. Just older (38) & on birth control pills for years..........Do the best you can with your health and the rest you play by ear!
 
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