pregnant with 2nd child about testing during pregnancy

[Mommy2Alysa]

Very good point also.

If you the outcome of test result isnt going to factor on if you carry on with this pregnancy then maybe holding off IS a good idea.

For my situation, personally, we did so I didnt have to go 9 months wondering if my baby was "sick" like my daugther. We wanted to prepare emotionally, mentally, and financially as best we could. Also, I wanted to have time to let it sink in if it was a positive result befor the baby was born. A newborn will pick up on the fact that you are upset and an emotional wreck and that can affect him/her and I didnt want that.

Hopefully you decide what is best for you but honestly, I am glad I found out when we did.

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Very good point also.

If you the outcome of test result isnt going to factor on if you carry on with this pregnancy then maybe holding off IS a good idea.

For my situation, personally, we did so I didnt have to go 9 months wondering if my baby was "sick" like my daugther. We wanted to prepare emotionally, mentally, and financially as best we could. Also, I wanted to have time to let it sink in if it was a positive result befor the baby was born. A newborn will pick up on the fact that you are upset and an emotional wreck and that can affect him/her and I didnt want that.

Hopefully you decide what is best for you but honestly, I am glad I found out when we did.

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Very good point also.

If you the outcome of test result isnt going to factor on if you carry on with this pregnancy then maybe holding off IS a good idea.

For my situation, personally, we did so I didnt have to go 9 months wondering if my baby was "sick" like my daugther. We wanted to prepare emotionally, mentally, and financially as best we could. Also, I wanted to have time to let it sink in if it was a positive result befor the baby was born. A newborn will pick up on the fact that you are upset and an emotional wreck and that can affect him/her and I didnt want that.

Hopefully you decide what is best for you but honestly, I am glad I found out when we did.

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Very good point also.

If you the outcome of test result isnt going to factor on if you carry on with this pregnancy then maybe holding off IS a good idea.

For my situation, personally, we did so I didnt have to go 9 months wondering if my baby was "sick" like my daugther. We wanted to prepare emotionally, mentally, and financially as best we could. Also, I wanted to have time to let it sink in if it was a positive result befor the baby was born. A newborn will pick up on the fact that you are upset and an emotional wreck and that can affect him/her and I didnt want that.

Hopefully you decide what is best for you but honestly, I am glad I found out when we did.

 

[charjt]

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.

 

[charjt]

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.

 

[charjt]

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.

 

[charjt]

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.

 

[charjt]

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.

 

[charjt]

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.

 

[joanne1983]

thanks for the support and i think i will have the test done because i dont want to go through my pregnancy worrying if the baby will have cf or not and if it does have cf i am still going to keep it cos otherwise i think it will b like getting rid of my daughter. thanks


mum of nicole 17months w/cf


from devon in uk

 

[joanne1983]

thanks for the support and i think i will have the test done because i dont want to go through my pregnancy worrying if the baby will have cf or not and if it does have cf i am still going to keep it cos otherwise i think it will b like getting rid of my daughter. thanks


mum of nicole 17months w/cf


from devon in uk

 

[joanne1983]

thanks for the support and i think i will have the test done because i dont want to go through my pregnancy worrying if the baby will have cf or not and if it does have cf i am still going to keep it cos otherwise i think it will b like getting rid of my daughter. thanks


mum of nicole 17months w/cf


from devon in uk

 

[joanne1983]

thanks for the support and i think i will have the test done because i dont want to go through my pregnancy worrying if the baby will have cf or not and if it does have cf i am still going to keep it cos otherwise i think it will b like getting rid of my daughter. thanks


mum of nicole 17months w/cf


from devon in uk

 

[joanne1983]

thanks for the support and i think i will have the test done because i dont want to go through my pregnancy worrying if the baby will have cf or not and if it does have cf i am still going to keep it cos otherwise i think it will b like getting rid of my daughter. thanks


mum of nicole 17months w/cf


from devon in uk

 

[joanne1983]

thanks for the support and i think i will have the test done because i dont want to go through my pregnancy worrying if the baby will have cf or not and if it does have cf i am still going to keep it cos otherwise i think it will b like getting rid of my daughter. thanks


mum of nicole 17months w/cf


from devon in uk

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>charjt</b></i>

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.</end quote></div>

My husband and I have always wanted two or three children. I grew up as an only child and hated it (even though I was healthy). We also didnt want to have our daugther, Alysa, find out that one, if not the only, of the reasons we didnt have another child after her was because she was sick with CF. This, we felt, might make her feel like an outcast almost as in "If I wasnt sick then my Mommy and Daddy may have had more kids" sort of thing. Hope that makes sense.

Sure CF is hard and we are going into it blind. I literally became pregnant with child number 2 the month after our daughter was diagnosed.. wwe werent planing on getting preg that quickly after but hey we figure we would let it happen when it was meant to happen.

We arent religious people but we figure that whoever is in charge "upstairs" wouldnt give us more than we could handle. Our second one is CF, same as our first, and yes it was very difficult to hear but like I said before we are looking at the silver lining in the sense that our girls will be able to support each other in a way that my husband and I cant.

Hopefully I have helped you out. Also, we didnt want CF to be the reason not to give Alysa a sibling... they could find a cure tomorrow or 5 yrs down the road. keep your head up and let us know what you decide to do. There are other moms on this site that have more than one child with CF on here too, I am sure they can help you as well.

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>charjt</b></i>

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.</end quote></div>

My husband and I have always wanted two or three children. I grew up as an only child and hated it (even though I was healthy). We also didnt want to have our daugther, Alysa, find out that one, if not the only, of the reasons we didnt have another child after her was because she was sick with CF. This, we felt, might make her feel like an outcast almost as in "If I wasnt sick then my Mommy and Daddy may have had more kids" sort of thing. Hope that makes sense.

Sure CF is hard and we are going into it blind. I literally became pregnant with child number 2 the month after our daughter was diagnosed.. wwe werent planing on getting preg that quickly after but hey we figure we would let it happen when it was meant to happen.

We arent religious people but we figure that whoever is in charge "upstairs" wouldnt give us more than we could handle. Our second one is CF, same as our first, and yes it was very difficult to hear but like I said before we are looking at the silver lining in the sense that our girls will be able to support each other in a way that my husband and I cant.

Hopefully I have helped you out. Also, we didnt want CF to be the reason not to give Alysa a sibling... they could find a cure tomorrow or 5 yrs down the road. keep your head up and let us know what you decide to do. There are other moms on this site that have more than one child with CF on here too, I am sure they can help you as well.

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>charjt</b></i>

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.</end quote></div>

My husband and I have always wanted two or three children. I grew up as an only child and hated it (even though I was healthy). We also didnt want to have our daugther, Alysa, find out that one, if not the only, of the reasons we didnt have another child after her was because she was sick with CF. This, we felt, might make her feel like an outcast almost as in "If I wasnt sick then my Mommy and Daddy may have had more kids" sort of thing. Hope that makes sense.

Sure CF is hard and we are going into it blind. I literally became pregnant with child number 2 the month after our daughter was diagnosed.. wwe werent planing on getting preg that quickly after but hey we figure we would let it happen when it was meant to happen.

We arent religious people but we figure that whoever is in charge "upstairs" wouldnt give us more than we could handle. Our second one is CF, same as our first, and yes it was very difficult to hear but like I said before we are looking at the silver lining in the sense that our girls will be able to support each other in a way that my husband and I cant.

Hopefully I have helped you out. Also, we didnt want CF to be the reason not to give Alysa a sibling... they could find a cure tomorrow or 5 yrs down the road. keep your head up and let us know what you decide to do. There are other moms on this site that have more than one child with CF on here too, I am sure they can help you as well.

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>charjt</b></i>

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.</end quote></div>

My husband and I have always wanted two or three children. I grew up as an only child and hated it (even though I was healthy). We also didnt want to have our daugther, Alysa, find out that one, if not the only, of the reasons we didnt have another child after her was because she was sick with CF. This, we felt, might make her feel like an outcast almost as in "If I wasnt sick then my Mommy and Daddy may have had more kids" sort of thing. Hope that makes sense.

Sure CF is hard and we are going into it blind. I literally became pregnant with child number 2 the month after our daughter was diagnosed.. wwe werent planing on getting preg that quickly after but hey we figure we would let it happen when it was meant to happen.

We arent religious people but we figure that whoever is in charge "upstairs" wouldnt give us more than we could handle. Our second one is CF, same as our first, and yes it was very difficult to hear but like I said before we are looking at the silver lining in the sense that our girls will be able to support each other in a way that my husband and I cant.

Hopefully I have helped you out. Also, we didnt want CF to be the reason not to give Alysa a sibling... they could find a cure tomorrow or 5 yrs down the road. keep your head up and let us know what you decide to do. There are other moms on this site that have more than one child with CF on here too, I am sure they can help you as well.