pregnant with 2nd child about testing during pregnancy

Mommy2Alysa · Jun 1, 2007

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>charjt</b></i>

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.</end quote>

My husband and I have always wanted two or three children. I grew up as an only child and hated it (even though I was healthy). We also didnt want to have our daugther, Alysa, find out that one, if not the only, of the reasons we didnt have another child after her was because she was sick with CF. This, we felt, might make her feel like an outcast almost as in "If I wasnt sick then my Mommy and Daddy may have had more kids" sort of thing. Hope that makes sense.

Sure CF is hard and we are going into it blind. I literally became pregnant with child number 2 the month after our daughter was diagnosed.. wwe werent planing on getting preg that quickly after but hey we figure we would let it happen when it was meant to happen.

We arent religious people but we figure that whoever is in charge "upstairs" wouldnt give us more than we could handle. Our second one is CF, same as our first, and yes it was very difficult to hear but like I said before we are looking at the silver lining in the sense that our girls will be able to support each other in a way that my husband and I cant.

Hopefully I have helped you out. Also, we didnt want CF to be the reason not to give Alysa a sibling... they could find a cure tomorrow or 5 yrs down the road. keep your head up and let us know what you decide to do. There are other moms on this site that have more than one child with CF on here too, I am sure they can help you as well.

Mommy2Alysa · Jun 1, 2007

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>charjt</b></i>

I have to ask, because I'm trying to decide myself, what helped you make your decision to have a second child after having a child with CF? I have a 2 year old son with CF, dx at 2 wks with newborn screening. My husband and I wanted several children, but it took us 7 years to have him. And then to find out he has CF; it was a huge blow causing many emotions. We questioned if that's why it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place, beat ourselves up for getting fertility help, blamed ourselves for giving such an innocent child something like CF and then finally just accepted CF as a part of our lives. Our son has been fairly healthy, very smart and active. I can't imagine a day without him. I would love for him to have a brother or sister. I would love to have another child. But then I question if I'm being selfish. I wonder if I could emotionally handle another child with CF and what if we aren't as lucky with their health as we have been with our sons. I guess I'm just looking to see if you all went through the same thoughts I'm having when you decided to have a second child.</end quote>

My husband and I have always wanted two or three children. I grew up as an only child and hated it (even though I was healthy). We also didnt want to have our daugther, Alysa, find out that one, if not the only, of the reasons we didnt have another child after her was because she was sick with CF. This, we felt, might make her feel like an outcast almost as in "If I wasnt sick then my Mommy and Daddy may have had more kids" sort of thing. Hope that makes sense.

Sure CF is hard and we are going into it blind. I literally became pregnant with child number 2 the month after our daughter was diagnosed.. wwe werent planing on getting preg that quickly after but hey we figure we would let it happen when it was meant to happen.

We arent religious people but we figure that whoever is in charge "upstairs" wouldnt give us more than we could handle. Our second one is CF, same as our first, and yes it was very difficult to hear but like I said before we are looking at the silver lining in the sense that our girls will be able to support each other in a way that my husband and I cant.

Hopefully I have helped you out. Also, we didnt want CF to be the reason not to give Alysa a sibling... they could find a cure tomorrow or 5 yrs down the road. keep your head up and let us know what you decide to do. There are other moms on this site that have more than one child with CF on here too, I am sure they can help you as well.

charjt · Jun 2, 2007

I know exactly what you mean about the first thinking they were the reason for no more, that is another worry of mine.

We also aren't too religious, but do believe as you do that no one receives more than they can handle. I guess that's why we beat ourselves up so much since we did involve science to get pregnant with the first. But our son is a blessing, he is just an awesome little person. I guess it's such a hard decision for us because most likely science would have to help out on the second.

Thank you for being so honest. It does make me feel better to hear others out there with similar thoughts.

I do hope for a cure every day. Me and a good friend organized a Great Strides Walk last year in our area practically alone and raised over $10,000. We have this years walk date already set. I can't contribute that much money alone, so I figure this is how I can serve my part to raise money for research. However, I don't want my son to be a poster child, but I do want him to know this is all bigger than him. That he's not alone.

Thank you again and I will keep you all updated on our decision.

charjt · Jun 2, 2007

I know exactly what you mean about the first thinking they were the reason for no more, that is another worry of mine.

We also aren't too religious, but do believe as you do that no one receives more than they can handle. I guess that's why we beat ourselves up so much since we did involve science to get pregnant with the first. But our son is a blessing, he is just an awesome little person. I guess it's such a hard decision for us because most likely science would have to help out on the second.

Thank you for being so honest. It does make me feel better to hear others out there with similar thoughts.

I do hope for a cure every day. Me and a good friend organized a Great Strides Walk last year in our area practically alone and raised over $10,000. We have this years walk date already set. I can't contribute that much money alone, so I figure this is how I can serve my part to raise money for research. However, I don't want my son to be a poster child, but I do want him to know this is all bigger than him. That he's not alone.

Thank you again and I will keep you all updated on our decision.

charjt · Jun 2, 2007

I know exactly what you mean about the first thinking they were the reason for no more, that is another worry of mine.

We also aren't too religious, but do believe as you do that no one receives more than they can handle. I guess that's why we beat ourselves up so much since we did involve science to get pregnant with the first. But our son is a blessing, he is just an awesome little person. I guess it's such a hard decision for us because most likely science would have to help out on the second.

Thank you for being so honest. It does make me feel better to hear others out there with similar thoughts.

I do hope for a cure every day. Me and a good friend organized a Great Strides Walk last year in our area practically alone and raised over $10,000. We have this years walk date already set. I can't contribute that much money alone, so I figure this is how I can serve my part to raise money for research. However, I don't want my son to be a poster child, but I do want him to know this is all bigger than him. That he's not alone.

Thank you again and I will keep you all updated on our decision.

charjt · Jun 2, 2007

I know exactly what you mean about the first thinking they were the reason for no more, that is another worry of mine.

We also aren't too religious, but do believe as you do that no one receives more than they can handle. I guess that's why we beat ourselves up so much since we did involve science to get pregnant with the first. But our son is a blessing, he is just an awesome little person. I guess it's such a hard decision for us because most likely science would have to help out on the second.

Thank you for being so honest. It does make me feel better to hear others out there with similar thoughts.

I do hope for a cure every day. Me and a good friend organized a Great Strides Walk last year in our area practically alone and raised over $10,000. We have this years walk date already set. I can't contribute that much money alone, so I figure this is how I can serve my part to raise money for research. However, I don't want my son to be a poster child, but I do want him to know this is all bigger than him. That he's not alone.

Thank you again and I will keep you all updated on our decision.

charjt · Jun 2, 2007

I know exactly what you mean about the first thinking they were the reason for no more, that is another worry of mine.

We also aren't too religious, but do believe as you do that no one receives more than they can handle. I guess that's why we beat ourselves up so much since we did involve science to get pregnant with the first. But our son is a blessing, he is just an awesome little person. I guess it's such a hard decision for us because most likely science would have to help out on the second.

Thank you for being so honest. It does make me feel better to hear others out there with similar thoughts.

I do hope for a cure every day. Me and a good friend organized a Great Strides Walk last year in our area practically alone and raised over $10,000. We have this years walk date already set. I can't contribute that much money alone, so I figure this is how I can serve my part to raise money for research. However, I don't want my son to be a poster child, but I do want him to know this is all bigger than him. That he's not alone.

Thank you again and I will keep you all updated on our decision.

charjt · Jun 2, 2007

I know exactly what you mean about the first thinking they were the reason for no more, that is another worry of mine.

We also aren't too religious, but do believe as you do that no one receives more than they can handle. I guess that's why we beat ourselves up so much since we did involve science to get pregnant with the first. But our son is a blessing, he is just an awesome little person. I guess it's such a hard decision for us because most likely science would have to help out on the second.

Thank you for being so honest. It does make me feel better to hear others out there with similar thoughts.

I do hope for a cure every day. Me and a good friend organized a Great Strides Walk last year in our area practically alone and raised over $10,000. We have this years walk date already set. I can't contribute that much money alone, so I figure this is how I can serve my part to raise money for research. However, I don't want my son to be a poster child, but I do want him to know this is all bigger than him. That he's not alone.

Thank you again and I will keep you all updated on our decision.

joanne1983 · Jun 3, 2007

just to let u all know that we didnt find out untill my daughter was 15months old that she had cf now she is 17months old and i am pregnant with 2nd child and the pregnancy now was unplanned and we r still goin 2 keep the child even if it has cf.

mum to nicole w/cf from devon in uk

joanne1983 · Jun 3, 2007

just to let u all know that we didnt find out untill my daughter was 15months old that she had cf now she is 17months old and i am pregnant with 2nd child and the pregnancy now was unplanned and we r still goin 2 keep the child even if it has cf.

mum to nicole w/cf from devon in uk

joanne1983 · Jun 3, 2007

just to let u all know that we didnt find out untill my daughter was 15months old that she had cf now she is 17months old and i am pregnant with 2nd child and the pregnancy now was unplanned and we r still goin 2 keep the child even if it has cf.

mum to nicole w/cf from devon in uk

joanne1983 · Jun 3, 2007

just to let u all know that we didnt find out untill my daughter was 15months old that she had cf now she is 17months old and i am pregnant with 2nd child and the pregnancy now was unplanned and we r still goin 2 keep the child even if it has cf.

mum to nicole w/cf from devon in uk

joanne1983 · Jun 3, 2007

just to let u all know that we didnt find out untill my daughter was 15months old that she had cf now she is 17months old and i am pregnant with 2nd child and the pregnancy now was unplanned and we r still goin 2 keep the child even if it has cf.

mum to nicole w/cf from devon in uk

joanne1983 · Jun 3, 2007

just to let u all know that we didnt find out untill my daughter was 15months old that she had cf now she is 17months old and i am pregnant with 2nd child and the pregnancy now was unplanned and we r still goin 2 keep the child even if it has cf.

mum to nicole w/cf from devon in uk

Mommy2Alysa · Jun 4, 2007