Prego Questions

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countrygal9210

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When I was 16 I had a doctor say that having a child would not be the best thing for a CF patient. (which I wasn't gonna go out and jump in bed with my boyfreind at the age of 16 or even now and say I want a baby!!!) I realize that this needs to be very controlled for not only my sake but for my future child's also.
However my boyfreind did some researching after I talked with him about what the doc had said and he became very worried I think. It has been over a year or two now since the doc said this and we talked and did some researching.
I found this site and have been reading alot of forums and I finally decided that I am curious and want to ask what some of you can tell me about being pregnant with CF. (There ain't much that pops up on a search engine about this subject haha)

So what all can you tell me? Some of my big questions are..
-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?
-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?
-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)
-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?
-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.)
-any other questions you had that got answered for you?

I do understand every person is different, I just want to know some of what you were told so I can quit feeling horrible about this subject!!!
Again, I am curious to just about anything you can tell me (I am going to school to be a nurse because I just love learning about the body and I am absolutely fasinated with health when it doesn't involve me or family <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> so any thing is welcome!!!)
Please and MUCH thanks. Me & my boyfriend could sure use some advice to put our minds at ease and not be so worried anymore!!!
 
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countrygal9210

New member
When I was 16 I had a doctor say that having a child would not be the best thing for a CF patient. (which I wasn't gonna go out and jump in bed with my boyfreind at the age of 16 or even now and say I want a baby!!!) I realize that this needs to be very controlled for not only my sake but for my future child's also.
However my boyfreind did some researching after I talked with him about what the doc had said and he became very worried I think. It has been over a year or two now since the doc said this and we talked and did some researching.
I found this site and have been reading alot of forums and I finally decided that I am curious and want to ask what some of you can tell me about being pregnant with CF. (There ain't much that pops up on a search engine about this subject haha)

So what all can you tell me? Some of my big questions are..
-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?
-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?
-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)
-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?
-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.)
-any other questions you had that got answered for you?

I do understand every person is different, I just want to know some of what you were told so I can quit feeling horrible about this subject!!!
Again, I am curious to just about anything you can tell me (I am going to school to be a nurse because I just love learning about the body and I am absolutely fasinated with health when it doesn't involve me or family <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> so any thing is welcome!!!)
Please and MUCH thanks. Me & my boyfriend could sure use some advice to put our minds at ease and not be so worried anymore!!!
 
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countrygal9210

New member
When I was 16 I had a doctor say that having a child would not be the best thing for a CF patient. (which I wasn't gonna go out and jump in bed with my boyfreind at the age of 16 or even now and say I want a baby!!!) I realize that this needs to be very controlled for not only my sake but for my future child's also.
<br />However my boyfreind did some researching after I talked with him about what the doc had said and he became very worried I think. It has been over a year or two now since the doc said this and we talked and did some researching.
<br />I found this site and have been reading alot of forums and I finally decided that I am curious and want to ask what some of you can tell me about being pregnant with CF. (There ain't much that pops up on a search engine about this subject haha)
<br />
<br />So what all can you tell me? Some of my big questions are..
<br />-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?
<br />-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?
<br />-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)
<br />-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?
<br />-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.)
<br />-any other questions you had that got answered for you?
<br />
<br />I do understand every person is different, I just want to know some of what you were told so I can quit feeling horrible about this subject!!!
<br />Again, I am curious to just about anything you can tell me (I am going to school to be a nurse because I just love learning about the body and I am absolutely fasinated with health when it doesn't involve me or family <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> so any thing is welcome!!!)
<br />Please and MUCH thanks. Me & my boyfriend could sure use some advice to put our minds at ease and not be so worried anymore!!!
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>countrygal9210</b></i>

<b>-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?</b>
The recommended pft is an FEV1 of 70 or more. But every patient is different. Some women have had successful outomes with pfts under that, and some women with pfts much higher than 70 have done not too good.

<b>-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?</b>
Yes it is. But that depends on what you define as a big deal. Its not a decision to be taken lightly or too emotionally. of course making the choice to have a baby is very emotional but you have to consider the practical side and the 'risks' too.
With most cases, its not so much the pregnancy that is the risk, its afterwards. Being a mom is so demanding. But as cfers we do not have the luxury of slacking off on our care just bc we're moms. We really have to do it all.
Looking honestly at your lifestyle is a big factor. Obviously, you don't want to just be pregnant and give birth, you want to be a mom to your child and raise them for years to come. But we have to work really hard to be healthy enough to do that. Its certainly possible! Just be realistic about facing the fact that you have to be disciplined with your care, and with the babys care. My husband and I have devoted our lives to keeping our routine simple, and keeping somewhat of a schedule so that my care comes first-it can be challenging sometimes but its enabled us to have 2 children! Its worth all the work in the world.

<b>-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)</b>

I've heard of it. Its not for me, bc I want the peace of mind that if there was an emergency (not so much for me, but for the baby) I am in the hospital where there is emergency care. I had obgyns and cf docs that were very respectful of my desire to have a natural birth, and not be tied down or have an iv. Many many women chose births like this-in a hospital, but the type of birth that you want. Natural, and relaxed and not medicalized. Its more common that you think. I didn't allow any Cf docs in my birthing room before, during or after my babys birth. (if something had gone wrong of course I would have) but my birth was about my baby, and not my Cf.

<b>-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?</b>
Depends on the patient. I got pregnant both times with no intervention (naturally). The 1st time I got pregnant on the 2nd try, the 2nd time after 1 yr of trying.

<b>-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.)</b>
Depends on the woman. I felt amazing my first preg. No problems at all. Towards the end of the preg its a little harder to breathe, but thats for any preg woman. This pregnancy I am more tired and run down but thats probably bc I'm pregnant and caring for a toddler at the same time.

<b>-any other questions you had that got answered for you?

</b> I had lots of questions about medications while pregnant and breastfeeding. In order to have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby you will have to be on some medications. Most meds are completely safe. There's lots of threads about meds on here.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>countrygal9210</b></i>

<b>-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?</b>
The recommended pft is an FEV1 of 70 or more. But every patient is different. Some women have had successful outomes with pfts under that, and some women with pfts much higher than 70 have done not too good.

<b>-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?</b>
Yes it is. But that depends on what you define as a big deal. Its not a decision to be taken lightly or too emotionally. of course making the choice to have a baby is very emotional but you have to consider the practical side and the 'risks' too.
With most cases, its not so much the pregnancy that is the risk, its afterwards. Being a mom is so demanding. But as cfers we do not have the luxury of slacking off on our care just bc we're moms. We really have to do it all.
Looking honestly at your lifestyle is a big factor. Obviously, you don't want to just be pregnant and give birth, you want to be a mom to your child and raise them for years to come. But we have to work really hard to be healthy enough to do that. Its certainly possible! Just be realistic about facing the fact that you have to be disciplined with your care, and with the babys care. My husband and I have devoted our lives to keeping our routine simple, and keeping somewhat of a schedule so that my care comes first-it can be challenging sometimes but its enabled us to have 2 children! Its worth all the work in the world.

<b>-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)</b>

I've heard of it. Its not for me, bc I want the peace of mind that if there was an emergency (not so much for me, but for the baby) I am in the hospital where there is emergency care. I had obgyns and cf docs that were very respectful of my desire to have a natural birth, and not be tied down or have an iv. Many many women chose births like this-in a hospital, but the type of birth that you want. Natural, and relaxed and not medicalized. Its more common that you think. I didn't allow any Cf docs in my birthing room before, during or after my babys birth. (if something had gone wrong of course I would have) but my birth was about my baby, and not my Cf.

<b>-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?</b>
Depends on the patient. I got pregnant both times with no intervention (naturally). The 1st time I got pregnant on the 2nd try, the 2nd time after 1 yr of trying.

<b>-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.)</b>
Depends on the woman. I felt amazing my first preg. No problems at all. Towards the end of the preg its a little harder to breathe, but thats for any preg woman. This pregnancy I am more tired and run down but thats probably bc I'm pregnant and caring for a toddler at the same time.

<b>-any other questions you had that got answered for you?

</b> I had lots of questions about medications while pregnant and breastfeeding. In order to have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby you will have to be on some medications. Most meds are completely safe. There's lots of threads about meds on here.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>countrygal9210</b></i>
<br />
<br /><b>-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?</b>
<br />The recommended pft is an FEV1 of 70 or more. But every patient is different. Some women have had successful outomes with pfts under that, and some women with pfts much higher than 70 have done not too good.
<br />
<br /><b>-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?</b>
<br />Yes it is. But that depends on what you define as a big deal. Its not a decision to be taken lightly or too emotionally. of course making the choice to have a baby is very emotional but you have to consider the practical side and the 'risks' too.
<br />With most cases, its not so much the pregnancy that is the risk, its afterwards. Being a mom is so demanding. But as cfers we do not have the luxury of slacking off on our care just bc we're moms. We really have to do it all.
<br />Looking honestly at your lifestyle is a big factor. Obviously, you don't want to just be pregnant and give birth, you want to be a mom to your child and raise them for years to come. But we have to work really hard to be healthy enough to do that. Its certainly possible! Just be realistic about facing the fact that you have to be disciplined with your care, and with the babys care. My husband and I have devoted our lives to keeping our routine simple, and keeping somewhat of a schedule so that my care comes first-it can be challenging sometimes but its enabled us to have 2 children! Its worth all the work in the world.
<br />
<br /><b>-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)</b>
<br />
<br />I've heard of it. Its not for me, bc I want the peace of mind that if there was an emergency (not so much for me, but for the baby) I am in the hospital where there is emergency care. I had obgyns and cf docs that were very respectful of my desire to have a natural birth, and not be tied down or have an iv. Many many women chose births like this-in a hospital, but the type of birth that you want. Natural, and relaxed and not medicalized. Its more common that you think. I didn't allow any Cf docs in my birthing room before, during or after my babys birth. (if something had gone wrong of course I would have) but my birth was about my baby, and not my Cf.
<br />
<br /><b>-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?</b>
<br />Depends on the patient. I got pregnant both times with no intervention (naturally). The 1st time I got pregnant on the 2nd try, the 2nd time after 1 yr of trying.
<br />
<br /><b>-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.)</b>
<br />Depends on the woman. I felt amazing my first preg. No problems at all. Towards the end of the preg its a little harder to breathe, but thats for any preg woman. This pregnancy I am more tired and run down but thats probably bc I'm pregnant and caring for a toddler at the same time.
<br />
<br /><b>-any other questions you had that got answered for you?
<br />
<br /></b> I had lots of questions about medications while pregnant and breastfeeding. In order to have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby you will have to be on some medications. Most meds are completely safe. There's lots of threads about meds on here.
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?</b></end quote></div>

The official studies done suggest that you should have an FEV1 over 50%. The studies show that if you have that then pregnancy itself should not adversely affect the course of CF progression. Every doctor has their own opinion an of course you should be as healthy as possible and be able to maintain that health for a period of time.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?</b></end quote></div>

More and more CF women are having babies so it isn't as big of a deal as it once was. And adult CF doctors are much more familiar with pregnancy than pediatric CF doctors. I'm not too surprised that your (presumably) pediatric doctor told you it wasn't a good idea. When I was pregnant with my first and before I switched to an adult clinic, my pediatric CF team refused to touch me with a 10 foot pole! They were supportive but very very cautious and unsure.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)</b></end quote></div>

Well I am one of 2 people with CF I know of that had a home birth (so I am in a very very small minority). It was absolutely wonderful and light years beyond what my hospital birth was. But home birth isn't to be taken lightly. I did A LOT of research on it before making my decision. You also have to have a midwife agree to care for you. The reason you give (being in the hospital enough anyway) was one of my reasons for seeking home birth. It is possible to have a great hospital birth but it can be very hard to do. Watch "the business of being born" for more info. If you ever want to discuss home birth more with me I'd be more than happy to! If we were to ever have another baby (we are done though) I'd have another home birth in a heartbeat.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?</b></end quote></div>

CF women face all the challenges that "normal" women can have when trying to get pregnant. Some can get pregnant right away and others have problems. IT seems that the biggest problem that some women with CF have is that their cervical mucus is too thick. But many of us have no problem getting pregnant.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.) </b></end quote></div>

I don't think anything in particular changes. It is very individual. I have an asthma component to my CF that gets extremely out of control when I'm pregnant. But anyone with asthma can have that problem.


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-any other questions you had that got answered for you?</b>
</end quote></div>

I would say like mamaScarlett said, being a parent with CF is a job and it isn't a decision to take lightly. My husband and I have TONS of supportive care from our parents - my parents live around the corner! Even for a "regular" mom, there are no sick days. Compound that with having CF. When my husband gets a cold he wants to crawl in bed and sleep all day. Do you think I get to do that when I'm sick and he is away at work? No way!

I'm trying to think of a way to put this... we have all the responsibilities of "normal" moms but they are compounded by having CF.. so we have to be even more careful in planning our families. Who will care for the child if you are in the hospital? Who will help you if you get sick? Can you afford to hire some help once in a while to take some of the burden off (for example, we have a cleaning lady come every 2 weeks). Is the income stable enough to support all this?

There is a lot to think about huh! Oh one more thing... I just read your other thread. I think that since you already had 1 miscarriage and are having another pregnancy scare that you need to be more careful... maybe using a backup means of birth control. And maybe switching from the pill to something that isn't dependent on being absorbed in your digestion (like the nuva ring or the patch)
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?</b></end quote>

The official studies done suggest that you should have an FEV1 over 50%. The studies show that if you have that then pregnancy itself should not adversely affect the course of CF progression. Every doctor has their own opinion an of course you should be as healthy as possible and be able to maintain that health for a period of time.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?</b></end quote>

More and more CF women are having babies so it isn't as big of a deal as it once was. And adult CF doctors are much more familiar with pregnancy than pediatric CF doctors. I'm not too surprised that your (presumably) pediatric doctor told you it wasn't a good idea. When I was pregnant with my first and before I switched to an adult clinic, my pediatric CF team refused to touch me with a 10 foot pole! They were supportive but very very cautious and unsure.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)</b></end quote>

Well I am one of 2 people with CF I know of that had a home birth (so I am in a very very small minority). It was absolutely wonderful and light years beyond what my hospital birth was. But home birth isn't to be taken lightly. I did A LOT of research on it before making my decision. You also have to have a midwife agree to care for you. The reason you give (being in the hospital enough anyway) was one of my reasons for seeking home birth. It is possible to have a great hospital birth but it can be very hard to do. Watch "the business of being born" for more info. If you ever want to discuss home birth more with me I'd be more than happy to! If we were to ever have another baby (we are done though) I'd have another home birth in a heartbeat.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?</b></end quote>

CF women face all the challenges that "normal" women can have when trying to get pregnant. Some can get pregnant right away and others have problems. IT seems that the biggest problem that some women with CF have is that their cervical mucus is too thick. But many of us have no problem getting pregnant.

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.) </b></end quote>

I don't think anything in particular changes. It is very individual. I have an asthma component to my CF that gets extremely out of control when I'm pregnant. But anyone with asthma can have that problem.


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<b>-any other questions you had that got answered for you?</b>
</end quote>

I would say like mamaScarlett said, being a parent with CF is a job and it isn't a decision to take lightly. My husband and I have TONS of supportive care from our parents - my parents live around the corner! Even for a "regular" mom, there are no sick days. Compound that with having CF. When my husband gets a cold he wants to crawl in bed and sleep all day. Do you think I get to do that when I'm sick and he is away at work? No way!

I'm trying to think of a way to put this... we have all the responsibilities of "normal" moms but they are compounded by having CF.. so we have to be even more careful in planning our families. Who will care for the child if you are in the hospital? Who will help you if you get sick? Can you afford to hire some help once in a while to take some of the burden off (for example, we have a cleaning lady come every 2 weeks). Is the income stable enough to support all this?

There is a lot to think about huh! Oh one more thing... I just read your other thread. I think that since you already had 1 miscarriage and are having another pregnancy scare that you need to be more careful... maybe using a backup means of birth control. And maybe switching from the pill to something that isn't dependent on being absorbed in your digestion (like the nuva ring or the patch)
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<br /><b>-What are a good PF range before getting pregnant?</b></end quote>
<br />
<br />The official studies done suggest that you should have an FEV1 over 50%. The studies show that if you have that then pregnancy itself should not adversely affect the course of CF progression. Every doctor has their own opinion an of course you should be as healthy as possible and be able to maintain that health for a period of time.
<br />
<br /><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<br /><b>-Is it really that big of a deal for a CF women to have a child?</b></end quote>
<br />
<br />More and more CF women are having babies so it isn't as big of a deal as it once was. And adult CF doctors are much more familiar with pregnancy than pediatric CF doctors. I'm not too surprised that your (presumably) pediatric doctor told you it wasn't a good idea. When I was pregnant with my first and before I switched to an adult clinic, my pediatric CF team refused to touch me with a 10 foot pole! They were supportive but very very cautious and unsure.
<br />
<br /><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<br /><b>-I have always wondered about home births and CF (I am in the hosp enough and I surely don't want to be iv'd and strapped down haha. if I don't have too if we have more than one child.)</b></end quote>
<br />
<br />Well I am one of 2 people with CF I know of that had a home birth (so I am in a very very small minority). It was absolutely wonderful and light years beyond what my hospital birth was. But home birth isn't to be taken lightly. I did A LOT of research on it before making my decision. You also have to have a midwife agree to care for you. The reason you give (being in the hospital enough anyway) was one of my reasons for seeking home birth. It is possible to have a great hospital birth but it can be very hard to do. Watch "the business of being born" for more info. If you ever want to discuss home birth more with me I'd be more than happy to! If we were to ever have another baby (we are done though) I'd have another home birth in a heartbeat.
<br />
<br /><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<br /><b>-Is it (truly) extremely hard for CF patients to become pregnant?</b></end quote>
<br />
<br />CF women face all the challenges that "normal" women can have when trying to get pregnant. Some can get pregnant right away and others have problems. IT seems that the biggest problem that some women with CF have is that their cervical mucus is too thick. But many of us have no problem getting pregnant.
<br />
<br /><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<br /><b>-What all changes with CF when your prego? (does mucous get thicker, thinner? do you get sick easier? etc.) </b></end quote>
<br />
<br />I don't think anything in particular changes. It is very individual. I have an asthma component to my CF that gets extremely out of control when I'm pregnant. But anyone with asthma can have that problem.
<br />
<br />
<br /><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>
<br /><b>-any other questions you had that got answered for you?</b>
<br /></end quote>
<br />
<br />I would say like mamaScarlett said, being a parent with CF is a job and it isn't a decision to take lightly. My husband and I have TONS of supportive care from our parents - my parents live around the corner! Even for a "regular" mom, there are no sick days. Compound that with having CF. When my husband gets a cold he wants to crawl in bed and sleep all day. Do you think I get to do that when I'm sick and he is away at work? No way!
<br />
<br />I'm trying to think of a way to put this... we have all the responsibilities of "normal" moms but they are compounded by having CF.. so we have to be even more careful in planning our families. Who will care for the child if you are in the hospital? Who will help you if you get sick? Can you afford to hire some help once in a while to take some of the burden off (for example, we have a cleaning lady come every 2 weeks). Is the income stable enough to support all this?
<br />
<br />There is a lot to think about huh! Oh one more thing... I just read your other thread. I think that since you already had 1 miscarriage and are having another pregnancy scare that you need to be more careful... maybe using a backup means of birth control. And maybe switching from the pill to something that isn't dependent on being absorbed in your digestion (like the nuva ring or the patch)
 
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countrygal9210

New member
Wow. I can't thank you ladies enough!!
You have put alot at mind to ease. We can't get over the fact we were told so many things wrong! We just don't understand why they would tell us what they did if we had a shot and now...Here we are!
My boyfreind and I were told that I would never be able to conceive on our own and I kept on my bith control (just in case) and we were still careful just maybe not AS careful as we needed to be.
We are really having a hard time dealing with the fact were told told so many wrong things.
I never had a problem with my birth control not working except in Jan I was on steroids and didn't even think about it. We were both disappointed that we lost the baby but we were also happy cuz he doesn't have the best insurance at that time. We were stunned because I had gotten prego and we couldn't believe it. It was a miracle to us. But now that we are having another scare..well were even worse off now then we were since he just graduated college and got a job again.
We were being very careful and I can't even imagine how this is happening. I would love to have a child but right now is not a good tiem at all and it worries me a little. i finally told him about me missing my period and he is very worried and scared himself.
We both know that things will work out if I dont miscarry this time but it's going to take alot to figure it out.
I don't even know how to tell my family right..I feel like a disappointment cuz I know they are all going to judge me bout it.
I guess the last question I would have is, if I went to the doc would they do a pelvic or blood test? & lastly, do you think I should ask my boyfriend to be there with me since no one but him knows?
 
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countrygal9210

New member
Wow. I can't thank you ladies enough!!
You have put alot at mind to ease. We can't get over the fact we were told so many things wrong! We just don't understand why they would tell us what they did if we had a shot and now...Here we are!
My boyfreind and I were told that I would never be able to conceive on our own and I kept on my bith control (just in case) and we were still careful just maybe not AS careful as we needed to be.
We are really having a hard time dealing with the fact were told told so many wrong things.
I never had a problem with my birth control not working except in Jan I was on steroids and didn't even think about it. We were both disappointed that we lost the baby but we were also happy cuz he doesn't have the best insurance at that time. We were stunned because I had gotten prego and we couldn't believe it. It was a miracle to us. But now that we are having another scare..well were even worse off now then we were since he just graduated college and got a job again.
We were being very careful and I can't even imagine how this is happening. I would love to have a child but right now is not a good tiem at all and it worries me a little. i finally told him about me missing my period and he is very worried and scared himself.
We both know that things will work out if I dont miscarry this time but it's going to take alot to figure it out.
I don't even know how to tell my family right..I feel like a disappointment cuz I know they are all going to judge me bout it.
I guess the last question I would have is, if I went to the doc would they do a pelvic or blood test? & lastly, do you think I should ask my boyfriend to be there with me since no one but him knows?
 
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countrygal9210

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Wow. I can't thank you ladies enough!!
<br />You have put alot at mind to ease. We can't get over the fact we were told so many things wrong! We just don't understand why they would tell us what they did if we had a shot and now...Here we are!
<br />My boyfreind and I were told that I would never be able to conceive on our own and I kept on my bith control (just in case) and we were still careful just maybe not AS careful as we needed to be.
<br />We are really having a hard time dealing with the fact were told told so many wrong things.
<br />I never had a problem with my birth control not working except in Jan I was on steroids and didn't even think about it. We were both disappointed that we lost the baby but we were also happy cuz he doesn't have the best insurance at that time. We were stunned because I had gotten prego and we couldn't believe it. It was a miracle to us. But now that we are having another scare..well were even worse off now then we were since he just graduated college and got a job again.
<br />We were being very careful and I can't even imagine how this is happening. I would love to have a child but right now is not a good tiem at all and it worries me a little. i finally told him about me missing my period and he is very worried and scared himself.
<br />We both know that things will work out if I dont miscarry this time but it's going to take alot to figure it out.
<br />I don't even know how to tell my family right..I feel like a disappointment cuz I know they are all going to judge me bout it.
<br />I guess the last question I would have is, if I went to the doc would they do a pelvic or blood test? & lastly, do you think I should ask my boyfriend to be there with me since no one but him knows?
 
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mamaScarlett

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The first thing they'll probably do is a urine test in the office followed by a blood test to confirm if needed. They may do a pelvic exam, but nothing definite can be concluded from that.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
The first thing they'll probably do is a urine test in the office followed by a blood test to confirm if needed. They may do a pelvic exam, but nothing definite can be concluded from that.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
The first thing they'll probably do is a urine test in the office followed by a blood test to confirm if needed. They may do a pelvic exam, but nothing definite can be concluded from that.
 
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Keepercjr

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I think you need to find out if you are pregnant before getting too worried. Get another test at the store. If I were in your shoes I would probably want my boyfriend there for support when telling my parents. But that is me. I hope everything works out for you.
 
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Keepercjr

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I think you need to find out if you are pregnant before getting too worried. Get another test at the store. If I were in your shoes I would probably want my boyfriend there for support when telling my parents. But that is me. I hope everything works out for you.
 
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Keepercjr

Guest
I think you need to find out if you are pregnant before getting too worried. Get another test at the store. If I were in your shoes I would probably want my boyfriend there for support when telling my parents. But that is me. I hope everything works out for you.
 
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