Public, Private, or Home Schooling?

TestifyToLove

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We homeschool all of our children and have since they started schooling. We currently have 5 officially homeschooled. M is on homebound until we get his adoption finalized and then he will be officially homeschooled as well.

CF was not the deciding factor in homeschooling for us, so perhaps I come at this from a different angle. We actually started homeschooling because we had a child with unique educational needs (highly Gifted but ADHD) and lived in a state with a TERRIBLE school system. We knew she would wither and die in that system, and we couldn't afford private school. The more we considered homeschooling, the more private didn't make sense for us.

Then, our second to join the homeschooling had only known English for 2 years at homecoming. He had also been taught under a Colonial English system, lots of ote memorization but little real learning. We had to take him back to pre-K academically. We had the option of either putting him in 2nd grade, where he was by age and making him feel stupid because he couldn't possible keep up. Or, put him in Kindergarten where he would be able to catch up academically but tower above the other children, again feeling stupid. OR...keep him home, let him start where he was academically and work at his pace to catch up but able to interact socially with his age peers. Guess which one we went with.

Anyway, M has several issues. He has mild to moderate MR. In fact, he was placed in a self contained special ed classroom by his last school system and most definitely was NOT learning how to socialize and interact with normal people. Additionally, I have since learned that the worthless schoolwork he was doing, whereby he was being presented with grade appropriate academics ad naseum despite his inablity to learn them yet was because its required under No Child Left Behind.

The local school system, M's IEP cordinator and his Homebound teacher have been 1000% supportive of the fact that we will be homeschooling him. I've had a wonderful opportunity this fall to use a 30 year special ed teacher as a resource and sounding board as I have developed a program and thought process on how to educate a child who is MR versus Developmentally Delayed (did that one with ds#3 and he's caught up at this point). I'm grateful for the experience and the support they have given me. But, I know I can provide M with a better education than what any school environment can provide him with.

While I haven't tackled *this* unique educational challenge before, I've tackled every others. And, I've learned that the one thing homeschooling gives me is absolutely flexibility to address the specific needs of the child in question and not require they confirm to a box academically. Socialization is SOO easy to provide a child. It just takes stepping outside your home (or having a family so large you get socialized at home). But, meeting my kids where they are and working with them there is invaluable to me.

I don't homeschool my Hemophiliac becuase of his hemophilia. But, it has meant that when he has a signficant bleed, he doesn't miss school in the same manner that his peers would. It just means he does his academics from the couch, possibly with an elevated limb and an ice pack. I didn't choose to homeschool our CFer because of his CF. But, it does mean his exposure to outside illness is reduced. It also means that if he is able to function behavioral, then he's able to do school. Although right now he's in preschool academics, mostly in a Waldorf style unschooling program, in the future it will mean school won't stop for sickness for him, except when he needs to sleep but will also mean we can accomodate his need for more sleep while still maintaining school.

Adjusting for the medical needs of medical needs children is a nice side benefit of homeschooling children who happen to have medical needs. I don't think I would consider it a good primary reason to homeschool them though, unless I found with time that they were unable medically to tolerate a school environment first.
 

TestifyToLove

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We homeschool all of our children and have since they started schooling. We currently have 5 officially homeschooled. M is on homebound until we get his adoption finalized and then he will be officially homeschooled as well.

CF was not the deciding factor in homeschooling for us, so perhaps I come at this from a different angle. We actually started homeschooling because we had a child with unique educational needs (highly Gifted but ADHD) and lived in a state with a TERRIBLE school system. We knew she would wither and die in that system, and we couldn't afford private school. The more we considered homeschooling, the more private didn't make sense for us.

Then, our second to join the homeschooling had only known English for 2 years at homecoming. He had also been taught under a Colonial English system, lots of ote memorization but little real learning. We had to take him back to pre-K academically. We had the option of either putting him in 2nd grade, where he was by age and making him feel stupid because he couldn't possible keep up. Or, put him in Kindergarten where he would be able to catch up academically but tower above the other children, again feeling stupid. OR...keep him home, let him start where he was academically and work at his pace to catch up but able to interact socially with his age peers. Guess which one we went with.

Anyway, M has several issues. He has mild to moderate MR. In fact, he was placed in a self contained special ed classroom by his last school system and most definitely was NOT learning how to socialize and interact with normal people. Additionally, I have since learned that the worthless schoolwork he was doing, whereby he was being presented with grade appropriate academics ad naseum despite his inablity to learn them yet was because its required under No Child Left Behind.

The local school system, M's IEP cordinator and his Homebound teacher have been 1000% supportive of the fact that we will be homeschooling him. I've had a wonderful opportunity this fall to use a 30 year special ed teacher as a resource and sounding board as I have developed a program and thought process on how to educate a child who is MR versus Developmentally Delayed (did that one with ds#3 and he's caught up at this point). I'm grateful for the experience and the support they have given me. But, I know I can provide M with a better education than what any school environment can provide him with.

While I haven't tackled *this* unique educational challenge before, I've tackled every others. And, I've learned that the one thing homeschooling gives me is absolutely flexibility to address the specific needs of the child in question and not require they confirm to a box academically. Socialization is SOO easy to provide a child. It just takes stepping outside your home (or having a family so large you get socialized at home). But, meeting my kids where they are and working with them there is invaluable to me.

I don't homeschool my Hemophiliac becuase of his hemophilia. But, it has meant that when he has a signficant bleed, he doesn't miss school in the same manner that his peers would. It just means he does his academics from the couch, possibly with an elevated limb and an ice pack. I didn't choose to homeschool our CFer because of his CF. But, it does mean his exposure to outside illness is reduced. It also means that if he is able to function behavioral, then he's able to do school. Although right now he's in preschool academics, mostly in a Waldorf style unschooling program, in the future it will mean school won't stop for sickness for him, except when he needs to sleep but will also mean we can accomodate his need for more sleep while still maintaining school.

Adjusting for the medical needs of medical needs children is a nice side benefit of homeschooling children who happen to have medical needs. I don't think I would consider it a good primary reason to homeschool them though, unless I found with time that they were unable medically to tolerate a school environment first.
 

TestifyToLove

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We homeschool all of our children and have since they started schooling. We currently have 5 officially homeschooled. M is on homebound until we get his adoption finalized and then he will be officially homeschooled as well.
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<br />CF was not the deciding factor in homeschooling for us, so perhaps I come at this from a different angle. We actually started homeschooling because we had a child with unique educational needs (highly Gifted but ADHD) and lived in a state with a TERRIBLE school system. We knew she would wither and die in that system, and we couldn't afford private school. The more we considered homeschooling, the more private didn't make sense for us.
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<br />Then, our second to join the homeschooling had only known English for 2 years at homecoming. He had also been taught under a Colonial English system, lots of ote memorization but little real learning. We had to take him back to pre-K academically. We had the option of either putting him in 2nd grade, where he was by age and making him feel stupid because he couldn't possible keep up. Or, put him in Kindergarten where he would be able to catch up academically but tower above the other children, again feeling stupid. OR...keep him home, let him start where he was academically and work at his pace to catch up but able to interact socially with his age peers. Guess which one we went with.
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<br />Anyway, M has several issues. He has mild to moderate MR. In fact, he was placed in a self contained special ed classroom by his last school system and most definitely was NOT learning how to socialize and interact with normal people. Additionally, I have since learned that the worthless schoolwork he was doing, whereby he was being presented with grade appropriate academics ad naseum despite his inablity to learn them yet was because its required under No Child Left Behind.
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<br />The local school system, M's IEP cordinator and his Homebound teacher have been 1000% supportive of the fact that we will be homeschooling him. I've had a wonderful opportunity this fall to use a 30 year special ed teacher as a resource and sounding board as I have developed a program and thought process on how to educate a child who is MR versus Developmentally Delayed (did that one with ds#3 and he's caught up at this point). I'm grateful for the experience and the support they have given me. But, I know I can provide M with a better education than what any school environment can provide him with.
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<br />While I haven't tackled *this* unique educational challenge before, I've tackled every others. And, I've learned that the one thing homeschooling gives me is absolutely flexibility to address the specific needs of the child in question and not require they confirm to a box academically. Socialization is SOO easy to provide a child. It just takes stepping outside your home (or having a family so large you get socialized at home). But, meeting my kids where they are and working with them there is invaluable to me.
<br />
<br />I don't homeschool my Hemophiliac becuase of his hemophilia. But, it has meant that when he has a signficant bleed, he doesn't miss school in the same manner that his peers would. It just means he does his academics from the couch, possibly with an elevated limb and an ice pack. I didn't choose to homeschool our CFer because of his CF. But, it does mean his exposure to outside illness is reduced. It also means that if he is able to function behavioral, then he's able to do school. Although right now he's in preschool academics, mostly in a Waldorf style unschooling program, in the future it will mean school won't stop for sickness for him, except when he needs to sleep but will also mean we can accomodate his need for more sleep while still maintaining school.
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<br />Adjusting for the medical needs of medical needs children is a nice side benefit of homeschooling children who happen to have medical needs. I don't think I would consider it a good primary reason to homeschool them though, unless I found with time that they were unable medically to tolerate a school environment first.
 

MicheleGazelle

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<b>1. How do your/your child's absences affect your/their education?</b>
About 3 years before my son and I were diagnosed, he was missing 1 to 2 days of school per week without a real good explanation -- just under the weather but not sick enough to take to a doctor. I was at the school constantly, picking up his assignments, and I asked if his absences would be a problem. I was assured they wouldn't be. The day I informed the school that we had enrolled both of our sons in a charter school (to homeschool) I came home and found a letter from a truant officer in my mailbox. I assume it would have been easier if he had a diagnosis. But I didn't find the schools to be as cooperative as they claimed. Also, after spending 12 hours straight one day trying to get my son caught up on his school work, I asked on a homeschooling list for some feedback in the vein of "homeschooling can't possibly be more difficult than what I am currently suffering through, can it??" I was assured it would be easier than that and it was.

As a kid, I missed 18 or 19 days of school every single year and dragged myself to school sick much of the rest of the time so they wouldn't flunk me based on absences. I graduated STAR student and a national merit scholarship winner, with a list of other impressive academic awards. They wouldn't have hesitated to fail me based solely on absences, with no consideration for how much I clearly knew. I didn't have a diagnosis until I was 36, so, again, I assume it would have been easier if I had that to use in arguing my case. But my experience with public school systems has been pretty negative.

<b>2. Are there any cases where school takes longer?</b>
It seems to me that someone on some list I am on has said their child was held back due to too many absences from CF.

<b>3. What are some suggestions when exploring educational options for a child with CF?</b>
There are more options than just "public, private, or homeschooled". There are charter schools, distance learning programs, homeschool coops which may offer classes or other resources, and a child can also have a private tutor. I also know of cases where families have made arrangements for their child to attend public school part-time for some subjects and are homeschooled for other subjects. The availability of options varies some from one state to another due to differences in state laws, local attitudes, etc.

<b>4. What can we do up front to ensure our child isn't discriminated against (issues related to absences, activities, etc.)?</b>
I would be careful to not blame everything on CF. I don't know how to explain it but I think you first need to get it into your head that not every cold is "CF". Kids get colds, CF or no CF. If your mantra is to blame everything on CF, other people will also begin framing all of the child's problems as "due to CF". And I think that's where you start seeing discrimination. My mindset for my job is that "Everyone has good days and bad days. My bad days just happen to usually be due to CF. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't have bad days if I didn't have CF." I think I take less sick leave than a lot of my co-workers. And that helps get me the accommodation I need when I do need to go home because I have CF...or whatever.

<b>5. A long time ago, I learned that fair isn't always equal and equal isn't always fair...are there any instances out there where children in the same home do different schooling options (one public/one private or home schooled, etc.)?</b>
I have heard of families handling it that way. I initially thought we would but we pulled both sons from school. We were happy with the arrangement.



<b>Please feel free to add anything else you care to.</b>
My ex-husband was an army recruiter for a time. He found that homeschooled kids typically scored better on the entrance exam but then got inferior jobs because they were treated as "just a GED" by the army. So he was against homeschooling. We initially homeschooled through a charter school to have "official" papers and records. Other folks use umbrella schools, like Clonlara, for that reason. What I have always told my kids is that they will not have the king's stamp to make the gold good, therefore they actually have to be golden -- ie. they better have skills and be able to make their own path in life because there will be no sheepskin to open doors for them. Both my sons are gifted and also have a long list of handicaps. I don't believe they can fit in anyway. They will just have to make a place for themselves. They are okay with that. All three of us believe it is the only hope they have of being successful anyway.

Also, homeschooling allowed my son with CF to gradually get healthier. For that reason alone, it was well worth it.
 

MicheleGazelle

New member
<b>1. How do your/your child's absences affect your/their education?</b>
About 3 years before my son and I were diagnosed, he was missing 1 to 2 days of school per week without a real good explanation -- just under the weather but not sick enough to take to a doctor. I was at the school constantly, picking up his assignments, and I asked if his absences would be a problem. I was assured they wouldn't be. The day I informed the school that we had enrolled both of our sons in a charter school (to homeschool) I came home and found a letter from a truant officer in my mailbox. I assume it would have been easier if he had a diagnosis. But I didn't find the schools to be as cooperative as they claimed. Also, after spending 12 hours straight one day trying to get my son caught up on his school work, I asked on a homeschooling list for some feedback in the vein of "homeschooling can't possibly be more difficult than what I am currently suffering through, can it??" I was assured it would be easier than that and it was.

As a kid, I missed 18 or 19 days of school every single year and dragged myself to school sick much of the rest of the time so they wouldn't flunk me based on absences. I graduated STAR student and a national merit scholarship winner, with a list of other impressive academic awards. They wouldn't have hesitated to fail me based solely on absences, with no consideration for how much I clearly knew. I didn't have a diagnosis until I was 36, so, again, I assume it would have been easier if I had that to use in arguing my case. But my experience with public school systems has been pretty negative.

<b>2. Are there any cases where school takes longer?</b>
It seems to me that someone on some list I am on has said their child was held back due to too many absences from CF.

<b>3. What are some suggestions when exploring educational options for a child with CF?</b>
There are more options than just "public, private, or homeschooled". There are charter schools, distance learning programs, homeschool coops which may offer classes or other resources, and a child can also have a private tutor. I also know of cases where families have made arrangements for their child to attend public school part-time for some subjects and are homeschooled for other subjects. The availability of options varies some from one state to another due to differences in state laws, local attitudes, etc.

<b>4. What can we do up front to ensure our child isn't discriminated against (issues related to absences, activities, etc.)?</b>
I would be careful to not blame everything on CF. I don't know how to explain it but I think you first need to get it into your head that not every cold is "CF". Kids get colds, CF or no CF. If your mantra is to blame everything on CF, other people will also begin framing all of the child's problems as "due to CF". And I think that's where you start seeing discrimination. My mindset for my job is that "Everyone has good days and bad days. My bad days just happen to usually be due to CF. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't have bad days if I didn't have CF." I think I take less sick leave than a lot of my co-workers. And that helps get me the accommodation I need when I do need to go home because I have CF...or whatever.

<b>5. A long time ago, I learned that fair isn't always equal and equal isn't always fair...are there any instances out there where children in the same home do different schooling options (one public/one private or home schooled, etc.)?</b>
I have heard of families handling it that way. I initially thought we would but we pulled both sons from school. We were happy with the arrangement.



<b>Please feel free to add anything else you care to.</b>
My ex-husband was an army recruiter for a time. He found that homeschooled kids typically scored better on the entrance exam but then got inferior jobs because they were treated as "just a GED" by the army. So he was against homeschooling. We initially homeschooled through a charter school to have "official" papers and records. Other folks use umbrella schools, like Clonlara, for that reason. What I have always told my kids is that they will not have the king's stamp to make the gold good, therefore they actually have to be golden -- ie. they better have skills and be able to make their own path in life because there will be no sheepskin to open doors for them. Both my sons are gifted and also have a long list of handicaps. I don't believe they can fit in anyway. They will just have to make a place for themselves. They are okay with that. All three of us believe it is the only hope they have of being successful anyway.

Also, homeschooling allowed my son with CF to gradually get healthier. For that reason alone, it was well worth it.
 

MicheleGazelle

New member
<b>1. How do your/your child's absences affect your/their education?</b>
About 3 years before my son and I were diagnosed, he was missing 1 to 2 days of school per week without a real good explanation -- just under the weather but not sick enough to take to a doctor. I was at the school constantly, picking up his assignments, and I asked if his absences would be a problem. I was assured they wouldn't be. The day I informed the school that we had enrolled both of our sons in a charter school (to homeschool) I came home and found a letter from a truant officer in my mailbox. I assume it would have been easier if he had a diagnosis. But I didn't find the schools to be as cooperative as they claimed. Also, after spending 12 hours straight one day trying to get my son caught up on his school work, I asked on a homeschooling list for some feedback in the vein of "homeschooling can't possibly be more difficult than what I am currently suffering through, can it??" I was assured it would be easier than that and it was.

As a kid, I missed 18 or 19 days of school every single year and dragged myself to school sick much of the rest of the time so they wouldn't flunk me based on absences. I graduated STAR student and a national merit scholarship winner, with a list of other impressive academic awards. They wouldn't have hesitated to fail me based solely on absences, with no consideration for how much I clearly knew. I didn't have a diagnosis until I was 36, so, again, I assume it would have been easier if I had that to use in arguing my case. But my experience with public school systems has been pretty negative.

<b>2. Are there any cases where school takes longer?</b>
It seems to me that someone on some list I am on has said their child was held back due to too many absences from CF.

<b>3. What are some suggestions when exploring educational options for a child with CF?</b>
There are more options than just "public, private, or homeschooled". There are charter schools, distance learning programs, homeschool coops which may offer classes or other resources, and a child can also have a private tutor. I also know of cases where families have made arrangements for their child to attend public school part-time for some subjects and are homeschooled for other subjects. The availability of options varies some from one state to another due to differences in state laws, local attitudes, etc.

<b>4. What can we do up front to ensure our child isn't discriminated against (issues related to absences, activities, etc.)?</b>
I would be careful to not blame everything on CF. I don't know how to explain it but I think you first need to get it into your head that not every cold is "CF". Kids get colds, CF or no CF. If your mantra is to blame everything on CF, other people will also begin framing all of the child's problems as "due to CF". And I think that's where you start seeing discrimination. My mindset for my job is that "Everyone has good days and bad days. My bad days just happen to usually be due to CF. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't have bad days if I didn't have CF." I think I take less sick leave than a lot of my co-workers. And that helps get me the accommodation I need when I do need to go home because I have CF...or whatever.

<b>5. A long time ago, I learned that fair isn't always equal and equal isn't always fair...are there any instances out there where children in the same home do different schooling options (one public/one private or home schooled, etc.)?</b>
I have heard of families handling it that way. I initially thought we would but we pulled both sons from school. We were happy with the arrangement.



<b>Please feel free to add anything else you care to.</b>
My ex-husband was an army recruiter for a time. He found that homeschooled kids typically scored better on the entrance exam but then got inferior jobs because they were treated as "just a GED" by the army. So he was against homeschooling. We initially homeschooled through a charter school to have "official" papers and records. Other folks use umbrella schools, like Clonlara, for that reason. What I have always told my kids is that they will not have the king's stamp to make the gold good, therefore they actually have to be golden -- ie. they better have skills and be able to make their own path in life because there will be no sheepskin to open doors for them. Both my sons are gifted and also have a long list of handicaps. I don't believe they can fit in anyway. They will just have to make a place for themselves. They are okay with that. All three of us believe it is the only hope they have of being successful anyway.

Also, homeschooling allowed my son with CF to gradually get healthier. For that reason alone, it was well worth it.
 

MicheleGazelle

New member
<b>1. How do your/your child's absences affect your/their education?</b>
About 3 years before my son and I were diagnosed, he was missing 1 to 2 days of school per week without a real good explanation -- just under the weather but not sick enough to take to a doctor. I was at the school constantly, picking up his assignments, and I asked if his absences would be a problem. I was assured they wouldn't be. The day I informed the school that we had enrolled both of our sons in a charter school (to homeschool) I came home and found a letter from a truant officer in my mailbox. I assume it would have been easier if he had a diagnosis. But I didn't find the schools to be as cooperative as they claimed. Also, after spending 12 hours straight one day trying to get my son caught up on his school work, I asked on a homeschooling list for some feedback in the vein of "homeschooling can't possibly be more difficult than what I am currently suffering through, can it??" I was assured it would be easier than that and it was.

As a kid, I missed 18 or 19 days of school every single year and dragged myself to school sick much of the rest of the time so they wouldn't flunk me based on absences. I graduated STAR student and a national merit scholarship winner, with a list of other impressive academic awards. They wouldn't have hesitated to fail me based solely on absences, with no consideration for how much I clearly knew. I didn't have a diagnosis until I was 36, so, again, I assume it would have been easier if I had that to use in arguing my case. But my experience with public school systems has been pretty negative.

<b>2. Are there any cases where school takes longer?</b>
It seems to me that someone on some list I am on has said their child was held back due to too many absences from CF.

<b>3. What are some suggestions when exploring educational options for a child with CF?</b>
There are more options than just "public, private, or homeschooled". There are charter schools, distance learning programs, homeschool coops which may offer classes or other resources, and a child can also have a private tutor. I also know of cases where families have made arrangements for their child to attend public school part-time for some subjects and are homeschooled for other subjects. The availability of options varies some from one state to another due to differences in state laws, local attitudes, etc.

<b>4. What can we do up front to ensure our child isn't discriminated against (issues related to absences, activities, etc.)?</b>
I would be careful to not blame everything on CF. I don't know how to explain it but I think you first need to get it into your head that not every cold is "CF". Kids get colds, CF or no CF. If your mantra is to blame everything on CF, other people will also begin framing all of the child's problems as "due to CF". And I think that's where you start seeing discrimination. My mindset for my job is that "Everyone has good days and bad days. My bad days just happen to usually be due to CF. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't have bad days if I didn't have CF." I think I take less sick leave than a lot of my co-workers. And that helps get me the accommodation I need when I do need to go home because I have CF...or whatever.

<b>5. A long time ago, I learned that fair isn't always equal and equal isn't always fair...are there any instances out there where children in the same home do different schooling options (one public/one private or home schooled, etc.)?</b>
I have heard of families handling it that way. I initially thought we would but we pulled both sons from school. We were happy with the arrangement.



<b>Please feel free to add anything else you care to.</b>
My ex-husband was an army recruiter for a time. He found that homeschooled kids typically scored better on the entrance exam but then got inferior jobs because they were treated as "just a GED" by the army. So he was against homeschooling. We initially homeschooled through a charter school to have "official" papers and records. Other folks use umbrella schools, like Clonlara, for that reason. What I have always told my kids is that they will not have the king's stamp to make the gold good, therefore they actually have to be golden -- ie. they better have skills and be able to make their own path in life because there will be no sheepskin to open doors for them. Both my sons are gifted and also have a long list of handicaps. I don't believe they can fit in anyway. They will just have to make a place for themselves. They are okay with that. All three of us believe it is the only hope they have of being successful anyway.

Also, homeschooling allowed my son with CF to gradually get healthier. For that reason alone, it was well worth it.
 

MicheleGazelle

New member
<b>1. How do your/your child's absences affect your/their education?</b>
<br />About 3 years before my son and I were diagnosed, he was missing 1 to 2 days of school per week without a real good explanation -- just under the weather but not sick enough to take to a doctor. I was at the school constantly, picking up his assignments, and I asked if his absences would be a problem. I was assured they wouldn't be. The day I informed the school that we had enrolled both of our sons in a charter school (to homeschool) I came home and found a letter from a truant officer in my mailbox. I assume it would have been easier if he had a diagnosis. But I didn't find the schools to be as cooperative as they claimed. Also, after spending 12 hours straight one day trying to get my son caught up on his school work, I asked on a homeschooling list for some feedback in the vein of "homeschooling can't possibly be more difficult than what I am currently suffering through, can it??" I was assured it would be easier than that and it was.
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<br />As a kid, I missed 18 or 19 days of school every single year and dragged myself to school sick much of the rest of the time so they wouldn't flunk me based on absences. I graduated STAR student and a national merit scholarship winner, with a list of other impressive academic awards. They wouldn't have hesitated to fail me based solely on absences, with no consideration for how much I clearly knew. I didn't have a diagnosis until I was 36, so, again, I assume it would have been easier if I had that to use in arguing my case. But my experience with public school systems has been pretty negative.
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<br /><b>2. Are there any cases where school takes longer?</b>
<br />It seems to me that someone on some list I am on has said their child was held back due to too many absences from CF.
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<br /><b>3. What are some suggestions when exploring educational options for a child with CF?</b>
<br />There are more options than just "public, private, or homeschooled". There are charter schools, distance learning programs, homeschool coops which may offer classes or other resources, and a child can also have a private tutor. I also know of cases where families have made arrangements for their child to attend public school part-time for some subjects and are homeschooled for other subjects. The availability of options varies some from one state to another due to differences in state laws, local attitudes, etc.
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<br /><b>4. What can we do up front to ensure our child isn't discriminated against (issues related to absences, activities, etc.)?</b>
<br />I would be careful to not blame everything on CF. I don't know how to explain it but I think you first need to get it into your head that not every cold is "CF". Kids get colds, CF or no CF. If your mantra is to blame everything on CF, other people will also begin framing all of the child's problems as "due to CF". And I think that's where you start seeing discrimination. My mindset for my job is that "Everyone has good days and bad days. My bad days just happen to usually be due to CF. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't have bad days if I didn't have CF." I think I take less sick leave than a lot of my co-workers. And that helps get me the accommodation I need when I do need to go home because I have CF...or whatever.
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<br /><b>5. A long time ago, I learned that fair isn't always equal and equal isn't always fair...are there any instances out there where children in the same home do different schooling options (one public/one private or home schooled, etc.)?</b>
<br />I have heard of families handling it that way. I initially thought we would but we pulled both sons from school. We were happy with the arrangement.
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<br /><b>Please feel free to add anything else you care to.</b>
<br />My ex-husband was an army recruiter for a time. He found that homeschooled kids typically scored better on the entrance exam but then got inferior jobs because they were treated as "just a GED" by the army. So he was against homeschooling. We initially homeschooled through a charter school to have "official" papers and records. Other folks use umbrella schools, like Clonlara, for that reason. What I have always told my kids is that they will not have the king's stamp to make the gold good, therefore they actually have to be golden -- ie. they better have skills and be able to make their own path in life because there will be no sheepskin to open doors for them. Both my sons are gifted and also have a long list of handicaps. I don't believe they can fit in anyway. They will just have to make a place for themselves. They are okay with that. All three of us believe it is the only hope they have of being successful anyway.
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<br />Also, homeschooling allowed my son with CF to gradually get healthier. For that reason alone, it was well worth it.
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